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Posted: 4/16/2006 11:32:24 AM | I know just what you are tlking about. I met a man online and we began to date. We saw each other everyday and salked on the phone for hours everyday. We had been making plans to go camping and me meeting his family next month. He "got sick" so I did not see him but we talked on the phone every night for a couple of hours. The weekend came up for us to go camping abd he was still sick so i cancelled the trip and we stayed home. Again, not seeing him all weekend. On Saturday night we tlked for a couple of hours. (until after ten o'clock) the last things he said was that I made him happy and he would call me Sunday night. Sunday came and went with no call. Monday i called he two times and left messages. He did not return messages. This was almost two weeks ago. Still have no idea why he stopped calling.
At my age, you would think I would not have to put up with games from men. Why do men play games, I could not tell you. They are not the only ones who do, but we are all suppose to be adult. If people want to play games, go to the football field or baseball field and do it there. Lets leave the emotions out of play.  | |
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Posted: 4/16/2006 12:19:58 PM | As someone else has said..these games are not strictly for men.Women play the same ones.Unfortuanately people today seem to have no respect for others.I am honest to a fault,it isn't always easy being honest.But at least peopel know where they stand.
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Posted: 4/16/2006 1:25:00 PM | | That is horrible and I agree it feels awful. The way I look @ something like this though is its so unfortunate but feelings can change that fast but you want to meet someone that has the balls to be honest about it. Ignoring someone is childish behavior and if that is what he did then you dont want to be with him in the first place. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2006 3:38:12 PM | My son told me to go to Chuckee Cheese and get a dollars worth of tokens to mail to him. Let him know that he can play games there and not with me. The guy is almost 40 and you would think that he would be to old to play games.
Hey you live and learn, I learned not to trust so easily. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 6:57:33 PM | | I have the same situation as you but I met a guy on another website that is in the same city as me and we went out(he is the white guy).He said that he was looking for his souldmate.After dating for a little bit he told me that he was sure that I was the one.The second day for dating,He invited me to visit his house for dinner,long story short ended up sleeping with him.Whenever he'd like to meet me,phone me and pick me up,we hanged out with his friends and finally,he and I cam back his house for an intimate encouter.He got jealous whenever he saw me talking to the guys.He said he loved me a lot.Our relationship lasted for 1 month.Then I travelled to Thai land for business.He left a message on my answer phone and said that"he disappoited ,i ignore him and he wish me well.bye".I was so stupid that I came back Viet nam sooner than the trip should be just to explain with him that I love him,i don't ignore him.Then I flew back ,came directly to his house.His friend who shares the house with him said"my boyfriend moved to Campuchia(cambodia) for working as a English teacher as he did in Viet nam".I sent an email to his email address to explain to him that I really love him,miss him and I don't ignore him.Today I received his reply that"I'm sorry also ,we didnt have time to meet when I left.I think I will be here for at least a year.If you get some free time you should come over and visit me sometime soon.You can stay with me if I dont have a girlfriend at the time that you come : ) So you will only need to buy food and drink".Now I feel very hurt but I find out that I had this lesson just because I didn't respect and protect myself.MY LESSON IS THAT I SHOULD SPEND MORE TIME KNOWING WHO IS MR RIGHT AND WHO IS MR WRONG BEFORE JUMPING INTO THE SAME BED. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 7:32:33 PM | | Have not read all the posts here so maybe this is redundant. he dumped you after a month but he was still going online. He said he loved you, did he keep his profile active? If I loved someone you can sure as hell bet i would close my profile and be glad to do so! My guess is he was still on the make while he was seeing you and found someone he thought suited him better. People say they love you sometimes but it only means they want you. Love and want are different truths. Find someone who is willing to bare his soul and let you into every corner of his life. Love is a delicate flower that only blooms in the openess of warmth, light and common ground. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2006 3:31:34 AM | Sadly you have met a player, there arte plenty of those out there, both male and female.
You need to learn to look out for red flags. You can fancy someone and lust after someone very quickly, but true love takes much longer. You cannot really start to love someone until you know them, and that takes many months.
Look at the guys behaviour. If he cares about you he does not make you sleep in the car.
This guy will move on to another and another and you are better off without him
Look at your boundaries and value yourself. If any guy does or says anything that makes you uncomfortable, be very wary. Your instinct is you best friend. Listen to it, it will not let you down.
You have a lot going for you. Don't let some dumb jerk bring you down. You are worth so much more. Be with people who truly value you. Some people will pretend to value you to get what they want from you. Learn that as soon as you feel that is going on, either confront the guy and call him on his behaviour, or ship out quickly.
Never hurt the heart that loves, never love the heart that hurts.
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Posted: 4/20/2006 4:15:16 AM | Hi,
My immediate reaction was - 'hey, this is what women do all the time, see how it feels'.
However, no-one enjoys feeling this way, so I hope that time soon heals your wounds (it will) and you go on to find someone who really cares for you (you will).
I'd be concerned about anyone who claimed to love you within a month, sounds a bit unstable to me...
Best wishes to you, Mikk x | |
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Posted: 4/20/2006 4:25:10 AM | | First, there is a difference in loving someone and being in love. I am not sure of this guys age, however if he is older he may have had some bead experiences with relationships or marriage. I, for example, would never marry a man that has been married more than two times. Maybe live in sin but not a marriage. At a certain point in your life you realize you are a worthy person, you can financially afford yourself and there is no reason to latch on to someone that is not sure of there self. Also, love is something you have to work on every day for years and just saying those words after a four day weekend really means nothing. Use this experience as a learning tool and become wiser the next time. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2006 5:03:07 AM | Will I been there myself many times I had 4 men who did it to me. I was heatbroken  untill one day last year when my 26 yr old son said mom look I will tell you something what many man do . He said a man will date a woman for a month or two he will love her and give her the stars and moon then he will blow her off and sit back waiting to see her reaction.
Now if she starts to panic and runs after him to ask why? he will mostly tell her he will call her later, or he is no longer interested, or he been working to much, etc. Crying and begging him will let him no he has her real good. So now he can treat her good or like shit and she will put up with what ever he does like not comming home after work ,or any other place he goes, seeing other women, hitting her, doing drugs, not respecting her at all you no what I mean. Only because he now has her, were he needs her under his balls  that was out of my son’s mouth.
But if she does not call and holds out then in a few weeks if not sooner he will see that she is not to be played with and she will dump him in a heartbeat if he plays around with her feelings so now he will respect her from that time on if he really had any intentions on staying with her in the first place. It is a man game get with it mother don't run after them hold out and see if he really loved you in the first place. so now I will give the same advice to you women don't let them have you under the balls.
One more thing, have you ever heard the saying: Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free. Don’t give in to sex to fast ,hold out for a few months if he likes you he will wait to marry you if he is not ready to marry or live with you then he will look for an easier target.
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Posted: 4/20/2006 5:19:22 AM | To all the ladies out there: If you never pick up and read another book again read this one
HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. By Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo.
A great read and it give tons of inside to men's behavior. It is a quick read and worth the money and the time spent on it.
Good luck all men and women, I hope you all find what you need and want!!!
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Posted: 5/7/2006 1:32:53 AM | An interesting combination of all men are the same, marred with bad advice to "use sex to be manipulative, and use sex as a weapon" ........
Very sad really. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2006 4:55:52 PM | Sorry to hear your heart was broken ShaunaDanielle.....
....you spent the whole weekend with him.....so something happened during this time....you probably have an idea....
....the person is not much of a man if he spends the weekend with a lady then leaves her without a word......
....why do people do this....? some are cruel......some are players.....very open ended question.....sad....
Heal up young lady.....walk....as much as you can....it will help you......clear your head of this person.....and never second guess yourself.....
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Posted: 6/14/2006 12:50:53 PM | I understand what your going through totally, I've felt the same way before. Try to change your way of thinking. You should be thinking, well if he doesn't want to put in effort to still want to get to know you, then he's the one that's missing out girl! You need to have more self confidence, your a great girl, know that, i can tell you have a big heart, don't allow people that you hardly even know to stomp on it a billion times! The truth is, that true love takes a long time to develop, and i think it's very unlikely that he loved you.
This is my outlook on things now. Pay attention to the guys actions, not his words because actions prove alot more in my opinion. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2006 1:09:24 PM | | If woman don't understand this or get it then go by the book he'e just not that into to you you may think oh this is it but what can you really tell about a person in one month your still in the honeymoon period.Trust me read the book it really does help and it will open your eyes and it probally won't happen again .but if it does read the book again you must have missed something | |
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Posted: 6/14/2006 1:22:31 PM | | Gee maybe we have dated the same guy... I had a guy drop out on me after 2 months and he did say he loved me......well after 3more months went by he called and said he really did care so we got back together on new years eve.....well after a month I told him that it's not working out....after his true self came out....I saw him as someone else...not the guy I thought he was...(that can happen after you know him for a while)....well hun just maybe you should send him a Thank you card for leaving......you will be better off with a REAL man...not a baby that runs away....so hang in there I hope their are some real men left out there for the loving women we are...........Hugs to you..... | |
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Posted: 6/14/2006 1:34:43 PM | | Next time a guy tells you he's loves you so fast....let that be a warning sign...I've loved and lost..and let me tell ya it takes time to say it and mean it. I'm thinkin he was really into you...until he realize ur not the right one for him..so he feels stupid fessin up about it..so he's ignoring you instead...see we dont ignore the ones we truely love....so forget him and find a real man! | |
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Posted: 6/14/2006 10:52:18 PM | HI,
I understand what you are going through i had it happen to me from a woman she said that she loved me but all she wanted was to get money from me and she started taking about another guy that she liked all the time and i got tired of her bs and cut her off and never spoke to her again. | |
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