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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 6/14/2006 11:40:45 PM | | You know everyone is different but my experience over the years tells me that men can be just as fickle as women. I had a 17 year relationship with a man and he just choose a different path and like through me away, He said he loved me too. Well I love everyone in my own way, and I told him that for months after I was with him. He insisted that I say I love you. But he still left me and played games. Love is hard, sometimes too hard. I rather a guy say I like you, it's so fresh and it makes you feel good. When someone says I love you, I think, there goes those four letters again that can hurt you, control you or pillow talk you. Maybe you should just stick with the word like and play a little hard to get. Sometimes a challenge for a man makes life interesting for him. | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 6/15/2006 12:01:48 PM | Guys are doing it to you because you let them.
And semi-stalking someone after you notice he's avoiding you definitely makes him think he made the right choice.
You knew him for a month and your crying? *Sigh*....Next time please be weary of guys who tell you they love you right away.
Your not in a good place for the right guy yet, the right guy for you will run as well if he met you at tis point in your life.
YOU need to change. | |
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stj40
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Joined: 6/14/2006
Msg: 304 | |
| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 6/15/2006 12:22:53 PM | | women do it too. My best friend of 25 years and i fell in love after our divorces and then her ex refused to let her kids come home so after 25 years she stops talking to me cold turkey with no explanations. It hurts like hell but hopefully you get over it and are able to move on. | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 6/15/2006 2:14:19 PM | | whoa whoa you shouldnt feel horrible with this fool!!! He been playing with you like players games !!!! does he say he love you all the time?? if yes, you been used and he might have had more with other women. so dont be feeling like you been used.. get that fool beat up!!!! so next time learn your lesson.. yeah i know it hurt but learn from it... | |
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jayfly
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Joined: 7/7/2005
Msg: 306 | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 6/15/2006 2:27:33 PM | I have had this problem, but not with anyone that says I love after a month! Last time that happened to me I got engaged to him eventually and prior to that I was not even in my 20's, so I don't count that.
Unfortunately, perhaps he said I love you just to get in your pants. | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 6/15/2006 2:49:47 PM | | i have the same problem all the time i been seeing ths guy for a few days and he really seem that he likes me actually told me that and i like him also. i been heartbroken so many times and i dont think i could take it anymore. At times i dont know what to do . So i know what u are feeling and where u r coming from | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 6/15/2006 3:05:12 PM | | Did you sleep with him? One month unfortunately is not long enough to find out their true intentions. I may be wrong but two or three months go by, and he will get bored if he is only after sex. That might be a good test for all women. Holding off a little longer or not giving "all" of yourself until 3 months. | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 6/15/2006 3:16:27 PM | Hi Shauna I have just been in a relationship the guy was full on for 5mths...then he got secretive and started being distant and the the mind games began....I found out he was putting his profile on other dating sites and said he did it just because he knew I would look!!!! Even then he said he loved me..! He tried to turn it around to make it all my fault....I was stupid. He has now joined this site using the photographs I took of him on a weekend away together...I mean what a cold **stard! I was told the same even yesterday he missed me and did love me what a crock of shit! I found out he nwas on this site and dating direct !!!Check his profile and look at it... Jeffo59 Norwich England.to any other woman he might seem really nice!! But I know different!!
Men like to keep their options open and sometimes are just affraid of hurting you but then there are men who are just plain **stards!!!
I think the way forward is to be very cautious don't let yourself fall easily and keep cool and distant make them work their ass off to win you and then don't give them your all.....if they truely love you they will wait!
I am now trying to mend my broken heart but still be optimistc about relationships...there are good men out there......somewhere! Take it easy | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 6/16/2006 12:56:28 AM | let's see maybe cause some man now not all man the only thing they are after is sex.once they get what they want they leave,they stay as long as it takes for them to get what they want
here is the thing here in true love the person does not care about the outside,nor do they care about sex,for that is not what they are after
they are after the honor of winning the heart and the love the heart holds,they will prove to you their love is true,they will prove to you that you can trust them with your heart
see what some people do not understand a relationship is not something you can rush into,for when you rush into a relationship you get your heart broken
it takes time to get to know someone and to know if you can trust them with your heart.take the time to get to know the person they are on the inside and not the outside
take the time to know the real person and not the person you think they are or the person they want you to think they are
if it is true love they will wait on you to take the next step and they will not rush you into doing something you do not want to do
for you see a true heart holds true love and you will know that love is true for your soul will tell you
see if a man really love you he will take his time to get to know the person you are on the inside,he has gotten past the outside and he will not care about what is between your legs,for that is not what he is after
he is only after 1 thing and that is 1 of the most precious thing in life,he is after the honor of winning you heart and the love your heart holds | |
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dwomen
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Joined: 6/4/2006
Msg: 313 | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 6/19/2006 5:02:07 PM | | i think he got what he wanted a few times ; and i think he made u sleep in the car just to see how much control he had on you ; your young age let this happen ; now your a beautiful young lady learn from this ;and move on i mean your young not dumb right ya its to bad there is guys out there like that nothing you can do to stop them all ; just understand what goes around comes around ;he will get his payback good luck to you | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 6/19/2006 5:14:46 PM | I'm sorry, I don't usually give advise, but you slept in a car???? You didn't have much in common??? Why did you even want this guy, just 'cause he told you you were beautiful and he was hot? Obviously I am no expert, but if a guy made me sleep in a car and we didn't have anything in common - hey, that happened to me, not the car thing but the common ground thing - I would wonder just why I wanted him around. I don't think a month is too soon to say I love you if it's right, but the guy sounds like a nut, honey and I feel the best thing to do is to find someone worthy of your tears. Just my opinion. And if he calls you, hang up! Tell him to contact me, I'll straighten him out for you. Take care and good luck! | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 6/19/2006 7:26:34 PM | I was seeing this guy for almost a month and he told me he loved me...he really seemed to care about me...until yesterday. I don't know what happened. I was with him all weekend and everything seemed fine until yesterday morning. Sunday night he told me he loved me & missed me and that he would call me before I left for work Monday morning and I haven't heard from him since! And I know he's been signing online...I just don't get it. :( Why do people do this? How can anyone love someone one day and the next just completely ignore them? :(
^^^^oh I hear that one...been there done that....
This was my confusing guy....
Tuesday...
its good to hear your quiting smoking,,,i miss you emensley,im still waiting to go back to worki have been sitting at the parents house doing nothing but playing guitar and occasionally working out.i think maybe we are meant for eachother,,,another thing,,,i didnt think you really liked me that much,,,and i knew the feelings would have to be equal, for us to have a wonderful relationship,,,id say i love you,,,but i just dont know where you stand,,,but to be with you would make me complete as well,,,what are you doing this weekend?i am free, if you wanted to spend it together,,,,Shayne
Wednesday...
good morning to ya.its 10 am,ive been up since 7. so how is your day going,,,you want me to call you?or are you calling me?,,it would be nice to talk after lunch, and what is the plan?ok, talk soon , Shayne
Thursday...
just when i think it's over you write me again.i have been doing alot of thinking,,and i still cannot do this. your better off letting me go,,,i know i said i want to be with you,,,but i am just messed up, not trying to take you for a ride,,,i just need to be alone,this has been just as confusing for me.sorry for missleading you but i thought we were through...i wish you the best in all that you do, i would like to be friends, but that'll be up to you,,,
Confused? Yeah me too… WTF????? Some people have issues…
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 6/19/2006 8:06:35 PM | I don't agree my last GF I knew within 24 hours that I loved her. I tried hard to hide it cause I didn't want to scare her away, but she knew and she used it and me. Thats the story of my life I'm into her, she's not into me or I'm not into them and there like glue stuck to me. But life goes on and you will too. Keep your fingers crossed like I do that someday you will find someone that is in to you as much as you are into them. | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 6/19/2006 9:28:03 PM | | Same thing happened to me with a guy on here today, that I met back in March. Friday he was in love with me and asking me to marry him, then no calls, no emails all weekend, never even told me to take a hike. Then today when I cursed him out in a email he told me he was out of minutes and I was wasting his cell phone time. He said he was different from the others, and would never hurt me or leave me. I am a fool and no exactly what your going thru, it hurts. Even more to know I was stupid enough to believe him. | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 6/19/2006 9:30:47 PM | Dear ShaunaDanielle,
He's not doing anything to you that you don't allow him to. It sounds like he enjoyed the thrill of the hunt but once he caught his prize, he released it. If he is still signing online, I suspect he's found new fish to bait. Don't you remember the rush you felt chatting up someone new and getting to know them? It is hard to believe that he really loved you in such a short period of time. Fact is, you two do not know each other at all. Studies have shown that the "honeymoon phase" and being "drunk in love" can last up to a year or more. Then reality hits and the shine has worn off the new toy.
Please don't think that I am trivializing your situation for I am not. I can sympathize with what you are going through but in this day and age, everything including relationships are disposable. Out with the old and in with the new. I would not waste too much time on any relationship of this nature (friend or romantic) Fairweather friends come in all shapes and sizes.
You just have to know your self worth and know that you deserve better. It's hard not to want to blame yourself. But you can only be you and if that's not good enough for him, then he's not the one.
I have a motto that I live by and I'd like to pass it on to you. It's so simple yet so powerful. It can be the difference of absolute happiness in all facets of your life. "To live a better life, make better decisions." Adopt the philosophy and you'll be surprised how things can seem to come to you.
Bottom line girlfriend, scrape the shit off your shoes and move on. There's better fish out there. Chin up and good luck to you. | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 6/19/2006 9:50:10 PM | | Oh yes my ex did this to me...He found someone else on myspace(thats how i caught them) that he iked better. Oh well 35, no job, no car, lives w/ parents, smakes, alcoholic, not too bright...so im so better off. It lasted 7 months long and now he ignores me cuz he owes me money. It is strange how he said he loved me but he was with someone else. This is horrible and it will take awhile it has been 2 weeks for me but i feel better now. oh and im taking him to small claims court cuz the idiot signed a "IOU" | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 6/19/2006 9:50:18 PM | | I've had women write to me that they love my profile and we'd be great together, send me photos, passionate poems, sign the emails "your future wife" or "Hugs and kisses" and then I never hear from them again. This has happened about 6 times in the last 2 months. You feel like you finally found your soulmate and they drop you after they show lots of interest. The best thing to do is to move on and don't email them asking what happened. Show them you don't care and the'll be the one's who look like the fool, not you. Hang in there, time always heals the hurt. Take it from someone who feels like a pin cushion! | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 6/19/2006 10:00:50 PM | | ok to tell you all the truth maybe its you. if you keep getting the same results then its not the people u find, its you finding them. change the atmosphere. oh and also saying u love someone under a year or longer sucks. love takes time and hardship. not a overnight thing. | |
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lira
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Joined: 6/8/2006
Msg: 325 | |
| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 6/23/2006 3:40:17 PM | | What I dont understand in my experiences is if I really care for someone, they seem to have no interest in me. If I am not interested in someone, I cant get rid of them.One guy got mad at my daughter and called her a "B".That was a bad thing to do, especially since we were 100 miles from home and I was driving. Yes, I left him there. The next day, he called me like nothing had happened. I told him never to call me again, in a very mean,unlady-like way.It has been 2 years now.He still calls about once a month to ask me to forgive him. I hang up on him when he calls fron someones house, and if it is his number, i dont answer at all. He really should have the hint by now.Another guy was talking marriage after a week of dating. I told him I was not ready to discuss that. He continued with the subject. I got a little firm with him. He then goes to my 22 year old nephew and my X-husband to get advice on how to make me fall inlove with him. This was too much, so he had to go. This was a little over a year ago. The other day,he called and on my ansering machine, dumped me for not speaking to him in over a year.I seem to attract weird people. | |
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