| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 6/23/2006 4:35:40 PM | | Yes i have the same feeling its awful, this bloke contacted me and was phoning me up everyday for an hour for weeks and he even said he loved and wanted to marry me, i believed it, now he does not phone much and he goes online and not to contact me. I just feel he is not interested in me. I even told him back i loved him and feel such a fool. I don,t know why hes gone off me but i know one thing it hurts, i had all these dreams and hopes and now i think he was lying all along. take care denise. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2006 4:50:32 PM | | don,t worry about him, he should of been honest with you and not lead you along like that, be around someone who makes you feel good, not hurt. your happiness is important, i have been through the same sort of thing so i understand, maybe we are too clingly and that always their and available. Maybe they see our need too much i want to change i know that so i do entertain these burks anymore. Denise. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2006 5:01:42 PM | | OP, don;t believe everything you hear. Words come easy to some people and they don;t always say what they mean. Often they will sy what you want to hear so they could get what they want. During this month were you intimate with him ? If you were, then you might have your answer. He probably does it to many other women. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2006 8:00:41 AM | | This has recently happened to me too.. Same thing one month very very intense, profiles deleted/ updated to show we were not looking..talking long term....daily intense conversations/emails blah blah blah... Was ready to accept the good and the bad. Then all of a sudden he's very busy no time to talk, call, email. Stopped taking my calls and always on the run....And of course no indication or confirmation that for whatever reason he decided that we were done. When I was finally able to speak to him I asked if our chapter was closed the answer was no.. I am just busy?????? Still have not heard from him and well its pretty obvious that some people are just too afraid to say what they feel and dont want to deal with it. The kicker is there was NO SEX!! So yes this situation also occurs when they are not necessary just looking to get the womans knickers off. Well lets just say CONFUSION is the word of the day... What sucks is that sometimes we just need to hear it from the horses mouth so that we can get our closure and go back to our everyday lives. Okay men so what is this REALLY about????? Why bother wasting time and intensity just to disappear and not admit what is going on or even give a girl a reason so that we can put closure to it all? | |
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Posted: 12/16/2006 6:39:41 AM | Oh dear ladies, keep a slight guard on that heart of yours, listen to it and allow it to give you the answers you need. If he's busy, maybe he truly is......if you feel its a push off, stand tall and move on why waste time dealing with all those emotions when you could be focusing more time to finding that ' one ' who will truly steal and protect your heart for you. Do the guys do it to you......or do you allow your own thoughts to do it to you, only you control your toughts.
Patience ladies.........patience. | |
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Posted: 12/16/2006 6:48:24 AM |
he said he loved you only after one month...and that didnt send up any signals... thats high school stuff
Exactly....anyone who tells me they love me before I have known and dated them at least six months would freak me out. They can't really love you before that, as they are still getting to know you, so it's too weird. Lust, yes, crush, yes but not love. | |
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Posted: 12/16/2006 8:10:18 AM | It's not your fault. For all you know he is in another relationship and you were a diversion.
I dated a guy for almost a year and than one day he said he had to go visit his family in Toronto. I drove him to the airport and than waited for a couple of weeks with no word from him. I called the number in TO and guess who answered the phone, HIS WIFE. Who also had a couple of kids. WOW, that blew me away. But there are just some guys out there that don't care about anyone but themself (and women). Live and learn and know that karma works in mysterious ways. | |
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Posted: 12/16/2006 10:38:45 AM | I think we spend too much time complicating love? If he's for you, he will be with you, if your for him then you will be with him, vice-versa. No person deserves to live in yesterday (rememering the heart break) thinking about tomorrow (worrying about the future of your relationship) on which we have NO CONTROL and neglecting 'the present' today! We only have this minute right now! And look it's just a memory! Chin up! Pamper yourself, make yourself feel beautiful, start on the outside..going in~!
Another possibility, REBOUND LOVE, (a hurt sole, trying to pretend to be in love, to make the hurt go away" but when they stop, they realize love is not pretended! And they run back to their mate or move on to the next... no so rebounded! Hope this helps hon.    | |
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Posted: 12/20/2006 3:33:45 AM | | Stop looking at why he's doing that, and start looking at what are you doing to attract these kind of guys. If he's an a****le, then he's going to be that anyway. But before you hook up with anybody else, you need to take a moment and figure out what you need to adjust about yourself. | |
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Posted: 12/21/2006 4:22:23 PM | Healthy relationship involves trust; each individual feeling they truly know their partner and are truly respected by their partner.
Feeling confidant that your partner will be there for you in times of need as well as joy.
Trust is established through honesty and respect and is built over time. On the other hand, it may take only one broken promise to completely shatter it.
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Posted: 11/28/2007 10:09:51 AM | A guy says he loves you one day and disappears the next? In order to understand behavior like this, I urge you to get a copy of "Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship" by John Gray.
I picked up this book about a week ago and I've since been slapping my forehead at regular intervals, saying things like, "so THAT'S why they don't call!!!" (In fact, there's a whole chapter on why men don't call!)
I wish I had read this book years ago. I realize I've been interpreting male (Martian) behavior from my own Venusian perspective all this time. On THEIR planet, what they do makes perfect sense (just like on OUR planet, what we do makes perfect sense.) Because we don't realize the other person's from another planet with an entirely different set of rules, you get a lot of this action: 
Seriously, before you go on another date or chat up another guy online, get a copy of this book. It's one "aha!" moment after another. It will completely change your perspective on dating and help you get out of the cycle you're in. And it will give you incredible insight into what drives male dating and mating behavior. (Same goes for you, fellas!) | |
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Posted: 11/28/2007 10:35:42 AM | "I was seeing this guy for almost a month and he told me he loved me." Okay first of all HOW can sombody tell you they love you after a month???? "..he really seemed to care about me" Some can keep it up for as many months as it takes to get what they want...." I was with him all weekend and everything seemed fine until yesterday morning" So what does that mean? Did you sleep with him? What does all weekend mean?? maybe you are smothering him or maybe he got what he wanted. . "Sunday night he told me he loved me & missed me " How could he miss you if you spent ALL weekend with him?? "And I know he's been signing online..." Ok well it's only wednesday first of all-secondly--He is obviously still fishing or even scarier spying on youor maybe just maybe he has a life and can't spend every minute in constant contact with you. I am not trying to be mean but relationships don't usually boil into "LOVE"(shudder) in one month. I met sombody on here who claimed to be in love with me in less than a month- He was trying to obtain papers to stay here. Joke was on him because i have no inytention of staying here . Yes if it's too good to be true-it is! lust,adoration maybe-love, Not likely. be patient ,don't get intimate too soon as some guys are too cheap to go to the massage parlor. Take your time
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Posted: 11/28/2007 10:52:07 AM | | It sucks we all know it as a guy that makes me feel sick people shouldn't do that but just think of it this way it wasn't meant to be and there will be a better guy out there for you. I saw that you said he loved after a month which is usually a flag right there, most people don't fall for each other that quick well at least from my opinion. I was also reading in one of the comments here that there could be two reasons on why he would do this but in all honesty there is only one he doesn't want you which is harsh and brutal but maybe if there was two he cheated on you and now feels guilty but either way this guy is a prick and you deserve better so just keep your chin up and your hopes high. | |
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Posted: 11/28/2007 11:05:28 AM | This guy sounds really screwed up.Making you sleep in a car?!?!?That shows he thought alot of you.Were did his dog sleep?
Your only 21 girl get over it.Iknow it hurts I`ve been there too and it still hurts.Your just begining life and theres going to be a whole lot of let downs before you finally get it right.One day you`ll find a man that appreciates a good woman and he`ll treat you great.Just watch and pay attention to the ones you meet and remember that "I LOVE YOU "is used as a ploy to get you in bed by alot of people.Maybe you smothered him and didn`t know it,maybe not.Ask yourself.Do you deseve to be treated like he`s treating you?Having you sleep in a car tell you that he doesn`t care.
Think of it this way..........His lost.......
Good luck and go pamper yourself
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Posted: 11/28/2007 1:32:45 PM | Wow. I read these forms periodically and have never felt a need to reply, until now. ShaunaDanielle you sound like a very sensitive and caring person, but naive. I would recommend you reevaluate and reframe your beliefs and values as to what constitutes a "relationship". Jokes, as mentioned are not funny, they are cruel and demeaning, and should never be considered acceptable behavior. Relationships are based upon trust---this would not be a trusting behavior.
The guy has already related his intentions by blocking you and shutting off all communications. I'm sorry for your hurt but you have been used, if not abused. Find someone you can talk to, a minister, counselor, family, someone you trust with your life, so you can move on and not continue to subject yourself to this agony, but understand why it occurs so you can prevent and avoid it in the future.
I wish you well, and you should know there will be many better days and relationships in your future. | |
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Posted: 11/28/2007 1:43:36 PM | It's not just you there's a guy on here who was kicked off of yahoo, who now has picked this website up. He fed me the same lines of garbage, seemed to care about me, it hurt so badly, after the break-up. He kept feeding me this one line, which I didn't understand. Then caring one-day, and gone the next. We remained as friends, now he's onto his next victim. His game goes like this, he pretends to be looking for Long-Term, but he's not. Once the woman really cares, and he's had sex with her, he goes on to his next victim. He really likes for the woman to come-up on the weekend to see him, then he drops her and he's on to the next. This game has been going on for five years. My best advice be more careful, heartbreak is exactly that Heart Break. We, as women also need to remember there are alot of liars out there, who will say anything to go to bed with a woman. You have to particularly watch for Long Distance relationships as a liar/user will use this to his advantage. A dating expert said the best thing to do is to wait six (6) months before sleeping with someone, or going up to see them this can avoid alot of hurt/heartbreak.
Best Wishes, Heartbroken | |
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Posted: 11/28/2007 2:07:51 PM | Yes MissMayflower, the "Mars and Venus on a Date" book is a good read and has some helpful insight.
And JMO on the ignore issue, this is largely an issue of an emotionally immature individual who runs from conflict instead of stepping up to the plate and facing reality. Between relationships I have dated a lot following my divorce and find this common behavior amongst men. It's their way of saying, "It's over." When they ignore, that's their way of ending something (whatever that something is) ...gracefully. When I am ignored, I don't question it, I just pack my bags and move forward. Yes, they are just not into you. Any man into you will pursue and call, bottom line. Men are not that difficult to figure out. And geez come to think of it I had bf's in middle school who could handle the ending of relationships more tactfully than grown men. | |
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Posted: 11/28/2007 3:22:05 PM | You r probly long gone. But, it is useful to me , having read your thread, to make my comments. I thought about this a little and seen myself. I have been there too.
The behaviours i visualized... you in this mans house and doing what woman are good at... "nesting." Maybe, it was instinct for you to begin this ritual of making yourself comfortable. Without even knowing you were getting on the guys nerves in his cave.
I find myself backing up from the most gorgeous and friendly woman i could imagine
because somehow she cross ed my boundries. Maybe, it was washing a dish, or picking up a sock, folding a towel... you name it. It's a fact ... this is genuine for real stuff. I think there is hope for me and you too. I find it in awareness of self and environment. sometimes I hear the lyrics... of an old song. "please don't bother trying to find her, she's not there" Will no one tell me about her?
I will try to stop if you do ... smiles... | |
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