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Posted: 1/11/2008 7:55:14 AM | | hellofagal, i beg to differ aboput this site, i have no pic on here and a very easy going profile that says i just want to talk and i have plenty of men in my inbox every day. nice men who are funny and have been giving me gifts with thier letters. i think alot of men are after sex but if you are looking for it you can find it. you dont need to join a dating service to find it. alot of men like to talk big to feel a woman out first, actually theres alot of men who talk about sex all the time and they cant even perform, it just makes them feel good. so goodluck in your search. you look like a very attractive woman, i dont think you will have a problem. c | |
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Posted: 1/11/2008 12:56:40 PM | OP, it's the story of my life...women have bene diong that to me for years...
Things usually start off great, get semi-serious, then the brakes are hit -- HARD -- and NOT by me.
I don't know why it happens, I'll never profess to know, and frankly, I expect it now. The most recent told me the exact same things I've heard from all the others...I was "great", I treated her well, I'm such a nice guy...and yet somehow it translates into I'm not worthy of her time...maybe because I wasn't an a$$hole to her? Who the hell knows.... | |
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Posted: 1/11/2008 1:17:25 PM | I used to ignore my ex-girlfriend because she just started to become unruly and anoyingly self-centered. I believe my whole purpose behind my ignorance was
a response to a situation in which my input didn't matter. It was better to ignore
her picture of the relationship than remark it's inconsistency. If this is a relativly
early step on either persons behalf then it basically states that the conversation aspect of that relationship is faulty. The next step would be the dissolution of the relationship. I agree ignoring is childish, but it's a response, the reason why it happens to you often could deal with a deficiency on your side of the relationship. Because the
probability of it happening often to a person is fairly low. As well, to think it's man's
nature to ignore is in my opinion non-sense. So maybe have a look at when they started to ignore you, and look at what might have triggered that. Or maybe I'm wrong
and you should just continue picking numbers and hope your luck changes. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2008 8:43:40 PM | I am glad to know it is not just me, have been dating a guy for 3 months and he has dispersed on me 3 times I have been reading a book called dating without drama and it really helps me understand the mind of a man. In my case he came back but, he is scared of commitment. he does really like me and we have a great time together so I give him the space he needs and when he reappears we can usually talk about what the issue is. I am tiring to be patient with him but it is hard at times.  | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 2:21:05 PM | | I just had this problem myself. He didnt say he loved me, but he said we were in a committed relationship. We met on 12/17 had three great days together, everything was great!! He went away for the holidays and was texting me just about every other day, had about 20 texts on my phone from him. He came back and we saw eachother again on the 7th of january, Kept saying how beautiful I was etc etc. Said he was talking about me all weekend and showing my picture to his friends to absolutely nothing...nothing. When I asked him about it, never even acknowledged the question. Just started to ignore my calls and my texts, and havent heard from him since. Makes me think I did something terribly wrong. The tears have stopped, now I am angry as hell. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 3:03:03 PM |
They seem to like me okay for awhile but then they eventually just all of a sudden start ignoring me? Why do people do that? I was seeing this guy for almost a month and he told me he loved me...he really seemed to care about me...until yesterday. I don't know what happened. I was with him all weekend and everything seemed fine until yesterday morning. Sunday night he told me he loved me & missed me and that he would call me before I left for work Monday morning and I haven't heard from him since! And I know he's been signing online...I just don't get it. :( Why do people do this? How can anyone love someone one day and the next just completely ignore them? :( This is a horrible feeling.
Sorry about your situation.
I think people forget, that with relationships, the seducing NEVER ENDS. You must always be seducing. If you think your partner seems to be getting a little too comfy.............pull back a bit, be seen with other men or women, keep them on their toes.
You wanna know how to get your man back. CUT OFF ALL CONTACT WITH HIM. As much as it hurts, and start being seen with other men, and make sure it gets back to him.
You probably were too nice. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 3:33:26 PM | | I think just ignoring someone for any reason is wrong, step up and have the balls to say what is really going on. Are there any real men out there that can tell the truth? It seems they say one thing and really have another hidden agenda. It is their loss, if they were upfront and told us what they were really, really looking for we might just say "ok that suits me fine" and get it. I just think everyone loses when you aren't upfront about your intentions and do believe "what goes around comes around" right back at them or so we can only hope. (No anger or resentment here, lol) | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 3:54:47 PM | It's not about what people say, but what they do that's most important. Saying I love you is easy - acting in a loving way is hard. Making you sleep in a car can't be construed as any sort of loving person. And caring about yourself is even more important. Love isn't martyrdom - if you don't care about where you sleep who will? How do you tell what's important to someone? It's not what he says (and it's not in his kiss either :-) ) - whatever it is, you can tell if it's important if you spend two out of three of the following - time, energy and money.
Spend some time thinking about what's important to you in a relationship - how you're treated, how you feel and how someone demonstrates those things to you, then go looking for that.
Good luck and think about whether you really could love someone who could treat you like that, or are you just loving the person you THOUGHT he was. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 6:56:31 PM | It doesnt matter how long you have been with someone.. Men are just wired different- thats all. Women act on emotions. I have been with my soon to be ex husband for almost 3 yrs and come to find out he never really has had any feelings for me either-- hell he wont even take my calls.... | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 1/19/2008 7:07:47 PM | | listen i have read the book why men prefer ****es and every word of it is true look out for yourself get a copy honestly and another thing you should not blame yourself the fact he is still logging on to a dating site well says it all......... it is just a sweetie/candy store to some men /and women always something better on the next page its too tempting, dont get me wrong not all are like that but some need the ego boost both sexes not just men!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 1:02:08 AM | | yep happens 2 me all the time. and its always the guys who like start the things first so obviously ur not clingy.. i think alot of guys like playing head games, but u know wut? move on.. all the guys will get it back soon enough.. its called karma baby, and goes around. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 11:53:14 AM | Well I have had the same problem on the pof site. Have met men who say that they area all gung ho for a relationship and are ready for it and what comes with it. Then when you offer it to them, they run away scared, stop calling or send you an email saying that they are not ready for a relationship. Wtf is that? Why come on here and waste someone's time? Yes its a horrible feeling to be completely ignored. I know how it feels. Men would rather just ignore you tan talk or tell you to your face.  | |
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