| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 4/13/2008 1:59:16 PM | | Hun, he's just not that into you. A major red flag should have been him telling you he loved you at such an early point. No one knows if they're in love at such an early stage. It was either infatuation (which might lead to love down the road) or he was playing you with those words. In your case, the latter - otherwise, he'd still be there (properly) for you. Don't become his back burner babe. | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 7/13/2008 4:39:36 AM | | Sometimes the chase is over too quickly. In the beginning men love to pursue and chase. If you make it too easy, than the fun is gone. Never believe it is true love too soon, it just may be, but never believe it. Believe it's attraction, lust, and infatuation, but never believe it's love, like I said, even if it is. Love takes time. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 5:40:44 AM | | He must have a very warped sense of humor if he thinks thats funny. He told you what you wanted to hear , simple as to get whatever.He has blocked you off his phone, wont answer your e-mails and keeps his house phone busy. Those are pretty big hints.Please don't humiliate yourself by going to his house. He wont answer or will call the cops.No man is worth , this pain. You sound very young in your thinking.Accept he has gone and that he has treated you without respect or consideration.He is not worth one second of your time. People show us, who they are all the time, if we open our eyes and ears enough to take note.Obviously you are hurting now, but this will pass and you will look back and wonder what you saw in him.Good luck | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 5:57:02 AM | He made you sleep in the car, DUH! That was your first clue. Don't cry over something you thought you had but truely never had to begin with. s
Men who show interest and then disappear without a word are cowards. I would rather someone tell me up front this isn't working or I am not interested. I can deal with that, but it is difficult to handle the not knowing, but in our gut we do know and feel stupid because we bought into some line. I think many of us want to believe and then we fool ourselves into believing. | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 7/13/2008 6:27:45 AM | Or... "Do what you did, get what you got" (same thing)... Sound advice. An earlier post:
You have to read the book "Why Men Love ****es". It's empowering and you have to follow it to the tee. In short - live for yourself not for anyone else. You see woman are naturally unselfish so you have to work on being selfish and think only about yourself so to speak. I loved the book - it helped me enormously and I hope it helps you too.
More great advice here. Women do tend to give too much and get crumbs in return. Be more selfish. This tactic may not bring you a partner either, but at least it won't bring you down. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 6:37:56 AM | I totally understand... I think it's the fun in the chase & then when they realize you have feelings they run because they got what they wanted. This site is full of males & females like this and it makes the ones who are truly honest & open on here get played. It's sad that in our times people can't be just open & totally honest instead of just running like a child. Be more careful & weed through the players. People like that are not worth your time because if they done it once they will do it again.. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 7:00:56 AM | fightersbreath says: " Sometimes guys do really love you but they have relationship problems with serious commitments and they get scared... so they push away what they love. I think he is attracted to you... just afraid of what he loves. Lots of guys, I think, have this problem. It happened with my ex and I and we were together for 7 months."
Scary how some women seem to know men too well. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 7:05:59 AM | | i have experienced simular, "i love you, your beautifull, i want to be with you, i'm sorry i hurt you, i wont do it again, i want to be in your life, i want to be a family! the last 1, we had a child together, well not together, he left before i found out, woznt there for pregnancy nor birth, but flitted back and fo, wenever he was SINGLE, he got engaged to woman week after i told him i was pregnant, and left her to move in with someone else a month later, but every time he contacts me, i fall for him,i watch him bond with my son, and he messes uop after a few wekks, leaving me heartbroken e very time. these men NEVER change, they are the type of men who end up in the Thialand with a child bride, like his uncle befor him, tiz in his genes. move on, i know its hard believe me, good luck | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 7:07:51 AM | | Heck yeah happens to me(or I should use to happen to me) quite often. Except I never got as for as you did concerning the length of time involved. Usually they stop talking to me mid conversation or we have a nice chat that goes very well (or so I think) and then I try talking with them at another time, and they dont repsond or I never hear from them again. Anyway I totally could care less now, until I get around some guys actually worth talking to. In your situation I think hes just playing games, eliminate his stupid a**. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 7:49:54 AM | | i cant believe from the post i have read no one has mentioned maybe he is a player and something else has come along. smooth talkers /players will tell you just what you want to hear and the get what they want and put that notch on there belt and call you for a booty call next time there lonley. just a guess and its not just men who do that!! | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 8:11:46 AM |
You have to read the book "Why Men Love ****es". It's empowering and you have to follow it to the tee. In short - live for yourself not for anyone else. You see woman are naturally unselfish so you have to work on being selfish and think only about yourself so to speak. I loved the book - it helped me enormously and I hope it helps you too.
Don't know where you bought into that horseshit but a selfish **** is NOT what men want... if you believe that, I have a bridge I want to sell you real cheap! The only thing men want to do to selfish ****es is bang them and treat them like shit. That's just honesty.
My guess on the original post is that he got what he wanted by lying to you about "loving you" and wasn't going to commit any more effort. Not trying to be an arse, but try holding out a little longer next time...if he doesn't wait, next!
Good luck. | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 7/13/2008 8:24:50 AM | Hiya im really sorry to here that, in fact it pisses me off!!!
That one of the reasons i prefer the company of woman to men, as there far more honest and sincere. I met a girl on here and when we met up it was clear she didnt like me in a dating way, but she has stayed in touch and we chat quite regular which is great. Most blokes just woudnt do that!!!
Its worth finding out now after a month rather than a years or so down the line.
Threre are decent lads out there. Just keep busy with your fishing. And if you meet someone else which you will, really check him out and take your time, if he likes you he will stick around. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 9:05:52 AM | Here we go again, you've been seeing him for almost a month, so maybe 3 weeks, spent the weekend, so this means you're already sleeping with him, so he had a one month stand instead of one night! It's simple, guys like this look for fast and easy chicks, so you can either be one, or keep your pants zipped. If you don't put out so fast, the ones like this will move on soon reguardless if they got some or not, you just won't end up feeling used when they do. This ain't Rocket Science Ladies!!! He never loved anything about you except that your pants came off easy | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 9:22:23 AM | Good afternoon sweetie,
I don't know how old you are, so am assuming that you are relatively young. Personally, I would be wary of anyone professing love within only a month of dating. Take is slow and get to know the individual, give space, less chance of being hurt or lost in the passion of initial chemistry.
Peace | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 7/13/2008 9:40:40 AM | | Shauna, you played the role of a "Victim" by either allowing him to use you as a doormat, tolerating his bad behaviour and by not using your intuitive skills and seeing the "red flSomehowags" he was waving. You may have even relayed some of your past experiences to him of being hurt by men before which he sees as an opportunity to do it to you again. When there is a Victim, there has to be a "Villain"....so naturally, he took on the role as the Villain. When there is no Victim, there can be no Villain. Always remember that a REAL MAN will celebrate you, respect you, make you feel good about yourself, never berate you, and will be truthful and dependable.....a man who is a "baby" will find things wrong with you or the relationship and will always feel that something is missing and usually blame you for it and lie to you to get what he wants. Listen to your gut and follow it and learn to trust it at all times. You are not alone so hang in there and practice putting yourself and your feelings first from now on. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 9:51:19 AM | I was thinking the same thing. Who makes someone sleep in a car?
As far as the *disappearing act*, I wish I had an actual count as to how many times this has happened to me. It's especially astouding after those actions contradict their words.... in a big way!
That has definitely changed how I feel about men, how much I trust, if at all....and to what degree I let them get close to me. It makes you very jaded about dating at all....and it's very sad that we have to feel like we have to protect ourselves that way. Caused solely by virtue of the fact that some men are so incredibly cowardly that they feel as if they cannot man-up and just say that their feelings hae changed and why.....to give closure to the situation.
I am sorry that it has happned to you as well. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 9:53:25 AM | | it happens to us all at some point and lots of jerks out there who just don't care about disappearing on us suddenly and guys wonder why some women are so jaded when it comes to dating now...humm i wonder...maybe if there was more real men...ignore that idiot karma will come for him | |
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