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Posted: 8/14/2008 8:33:14 PM | This buds for you!
Kiki Anniston Reveals: “The "Secret Reason" Why Women Are Attracted To Jerks, Players and Just Plain Dangerously Wrong Guys.”
An open letter to single women frustrated with dating the wrong guys...
Tuesday, August 05, 2008
Hey Girlfriend,
Can I ask you something personal?
Be honest...
Have you ever dated the type of guy that left you constantly waiting by the phone with an uneasy sick feeling in the pit of your stomach?
Or a guy who made you feel bad about yourself, but for some reason you couldn’t leave him? (Of course, that same guy, at times, also made you feel like you were the only person on this planet - you know, that “hot-cold” type).
And have you ever walked into a club and found yourself so attracted to one particular guy, you felt like you were in a trance and literally couldn't stop making eyes with him?
If you answered yes to any of the above, it may be a sign that you’re susceptible to a certain “dangerous personality type” that psychiatrists have a SCARY sounding name for, which I'll tell you about in a sec...
...But first, I want you to quickly read through the following list of personality traits and jot down the ones that apply to either the guy you’re dating now or guys you’ve typically dated in the past:
Sociopathic PERSONALITY TRAITS:
1. SUPERFICIAL CHARM -- the tendency to be smooth, engaging, charming, and slick. Not in the least shy, self-conscious, or afraid to say anything. He never gets tongue-tied and has freed himself from the social conventions about taking turns in talking, for example.
2. GRANDIOSE SELF-WORTH -- a grossly inflated view of one's abilities and self-worth, self-assured, opinionated,****, a braggart. An arrogant guy who believes he is a superior human being.
3. NEED FOR STIMULATION (PRONENESS TO BOREDOM) -- an excessive need for novel, thrilling, and exciting stimulation; taking chances and doing things that are risky. Often has low self-discipline in carrying tasks through to completion because he gets bored easily.
4. PATHOLOGICAL LYING -- can be moderate or high; in moderate form, and will be shrewd, crafty, cunning, sly, and clever (in extreme form, he will be deceptive, deceitful, underhanded, unscrupulous, manipulative, and dishonest).
5. CUNNING AND MANIPULATIVENESS -- the use of deceit and deception to cheat, con, or defraud others for personal gain; distinguished from Item #4 in the degree to which exploitation and callous ruthlessness is present, as reflected in a lack of concern for the feelings and suffering of one's victims.
6. LACK OF REMORSE OR GUILT -- a lack of feelings or concern for the losses, pain, and suffering of victims; a tendency to be unconcerned, dispassionate, coldhearted, and unempathic. This item is usually demonstrated by a disdain for one's victims.
7. SHALLOW AFFECT -- emotional poverty or a limited range or depth of feelings; interpersonal coldness in spite of signs of open gregariousness.
8. CALLOUSNESS and LACK OF EMPATHY -- a lack of feelings toward people in general; cold, contemptuous, inconsiderate, and tactless.
9. PARASITIC LIFESTYLE -- an intentional, manipulative, selfish, and exploitative financial dependence on others as reflected in a lack of motivation, low self-discipline, and inability to begin or complete responsibilities.
10. POOR BEHAVIORAL CONTROLS -- expressions of irritability, annoyance, impatience, threats, aggression, and verbal abuse; inadequate control of anger and temper; acting hastily.
11. PROMISCUOUS SEXUAL BEHAVIOR -- a variety of brief, superficial relations, numerous affairs, and an indiscriminate selection of sexual partners; the maintenance of several relationships at the same time; a history of attempts to sexually coerce others into sexual activity or taking great pride at discussing sexual exploits or conquests.
12. LACK OF REALISTIC, LONG-TERM GOALS -- an inability or persistent failure to develop and execute long-term plans and goals; a nomadic existence, aimless, lacking direction in life.
13. IMPULSIVITY -- the occurrence of behaviors that are unpremeditated and lack reflection or planning; inability to resist temptation, frustrations, and urges; a lack of deliberation without considering the consequences; foolhardy, rash, unpredictable, erratic, and reckless.
14. IRRESPONSIBILITY -- repeated failure to fulfill or honor obligations and commitments; such as not paying bills, defaulting on loans, performing sloppy work, being absent or late to work, failing to honor contractual agreements.
15. FAILURE TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR OWN ACTIONS -- a failure to accept responsibility for one's actions reflected in low conscientiousness, an absence of dutifulness, antagonistic manipulation, denial of responsibility, and an effort to manipulate others through this denial.
16. MANY SHORT-TERM RELATIONSHIPS -- a lack of commitment to a long-term relationship reflected in inconsistent, undependable, and unreliable commitments in life, including marital.
17. JUVENILE DELINQUENCY -- behavior problems between the ages of 13-18; mostly behaviors that are crimes or clearly involve aspects of antagonism, exploitation, aggression, manipulation, or a callous, ruthless tough-mindedness.
18. CRIMINAL VERSATILITY -- A diversity of types of criminal offenses (regardless if the person has been arrested or convicted for them); taking great pride at getting away with crimes. | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 10/27/2008 7:08:14 PM | ShaunaDanielle,
I think i can shed some light on this issue, being that I am a guy. The simple thing is he's just not that into you. Sorry, there is no other explanation. The proof is the fact that he is still signing into his online account. If he was totally into you he would have no need or DESIRE to do so. Guys are very simple creatures, again I am one. We only want a few things. They are:
Food or beer
Sex (or the thought it could happen soon.)
Companionship
A pretty face and attractive figure
For me no 2 and 4 are the most important when it comes to dating. I'll go forever if those two are not met. I can have a great conversation with an un attractive woman, but she will NEVER be girlfriend material. This is for general use and not to be definitive or any actual person.
I would be very suspicious of anyone who used the 'L" word after one month.
Does this help you? I truly hope so. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2008 7:23:56 PM | If a man is telling you he loves you that quickly, then YOU REALLY need to step back and take a GOOD STRONG look at him. My sugestion is let him know that this is nice BUT.... you need both need more time together and no not moving in together. If you really don't know him have a way to get his SS# and some back ground info so you can run a credit and info "like google" on him. Too quike too many fast get aways.
Thode | |
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Posted: 10/28/2008 9:54:06 AM | | Believe me hon,I am a male who has had this happen several times before,and i know how it feels...I do not understand why anyone would play with someones emotions like that.This scenario just happened to me recently as a matter of fact...You just seem to want someone who is honest with you...I am slowy learning that people in general don't seem to know exactly what they want or why...You do deserve better though(i think most people do)... | |
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Posted: 10/28/2008 12:57:56 PM | Trust me hun I know exactly how you feel. I was dating this guy and after one and a half weeks he told me how much he liked me and how he was for sure that I was his soul mate. What a bunch of bullshit!! He was out of town when he said this and it was thru a text. If you really feel this way about someone be man enough to call or say it in person. Anyways he got back and treated me like shit then a week later broke up with me. What a piece of shit! Every guy does something like this to me and I don't get it either. But I feel for you because it happens to me all the time! | |
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Posted: 10/28/2008 7:13:08 PM | i just had this happen online!!!!! OMG! he like totaly like made me like him said the right things phoned me said it all now he quit talkin to me totally???????? LIKE WTF!! lmaO!!! anyway well i say ur not ugly ur beatiful! so dont worry:) more fish out there n hes not worth ur time if hes like that:) !!!!!!! u deserve much more:)  | |
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Posted: 10/29/2008 1:04:32 AM | Heres a thought for all of you... ...... Im 53 , been married once, even had myself a few relationships too through the years....Not once, not even the father of my own 2 sons, had ANY man ever told me that he actually 'loved me'!
...then again, I AM attracted to intelligent men .....  | |
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Posted: 10/29/2008 10:38:05 AM | | There's lots of reasons people do things, but why waste time analyzing anyone who told you he loved you, missed you, would call you, and then didn't-and you saw him online? What more do you need to get out of Dodge? Sometimes it's best to wave bye bye in your rear view mirror, than to keep on investing in someone who you know is lying to you and evidently trying to find his next, "love". A little hurt now is better than a big hurt after he's done this again. And again. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2008 2:42:15 PM | | I know how you feel...my bf of 6 months did that to me 5 days ago...one minute it was "baby I love you and I'll talk to you in the morning" then he logs on the game we play two hours later and says "I love someone else and I don't love you anymore like I used to and I just love you as a friend and not like you love me." I was like "Wut?" I couldn't believe it. We were going to get married and we had even gotten married in the game and our friends were all excited and this happens and I'm sitting here going "What the hell?" | |
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Posted: 10/31/2008 5:47:38 PM | | He didn't love you. You can't love someone after a month. You can be infactuated but not love. You don't know a person well enough. Something scared him off and unfortunatly we men run. He only said I love you and miss you to make you happy. He knows how to play the word game of bullshit. The words get him everything he wants and you fell for it. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2008 5:55:31 PM | | Katails is right, men just want to get laid. But if there is chemestry , there will be more dating and will lead into a relationship. Communication is important, you must have this or it is over as fast as it started. There is nothing wrong with a roll in the hay if is what you both want. If he trys and you say no and he comes back there is more than the roll in the hay. If after the 3rd date you don't end up in the hay , then it is time to move on to a better pasture, cuz neither has it for the other. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2008 6:41:23 PM | | He has lost attraction for you. He has no reason to pursue you. You have given him everything, so he doesn't have any need to "try" anymore, so his desire has been extinguished, by you acting as if you are married to him. He has no desire to go after you, because you are already there. He doesn't want to feel as if he has lost his freedom. Get a life outside of him. This will make you both happier. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2008 7:36:30 PM | Well thank-you there Jimbo, but I didnt sneeze either I was just commenting on how some guys without having any particular strategy or seemily any intelligence can just murmer a few words just to get what they want...seems pretty senseLESS.
As me for me, well yeah, its sad but true too. Still striving to do better though | |
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