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Posted: 1/16/2006 5:04:19 PM | " Here's a suggestion from a guy. Don't have sex with him till he has put a wedding ring on your finger on your wedding night. Dating for men is like climbing a mountain. If we climb the mountain to fast and dont stop and enjoy the view when we get to the top for some reason we think like ok great that was fun, and then looking for another mountain. But if i climb it slowly well take the time to appreaciate "all" the good qualities of the mountain so when i get to the top , ill want to stay longer and enjoy the view alot longer heck i might even want to live there. Maybe not a good explanation. Hope it helps."
Well now, let me just ask you this Mr. Pop Tart, DO YOU BUY A CAR WITHOUT TEST DRIVING IT FIRST???? enough said. | |
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Posted: 1/16/2006 5:20:29 PM | | k ..thats rude!!...some ppl just take longer to get the ins and outs of what is good and bad relationship qualities...she just needs to work on her before she gets involved in anymore relationships....u make it sound like ur the only one shes talking to..and she needs to drop it...dont like it dont read it!! | |
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Posted: 1/16/2006 5:31:20 PM | | From what I have seen. And this is not with all guys. A guy who is "outspoken". Usually likes attention. And when you give him attention, you are giving him power so to speak. What's curious is uaually the the guys who are "outspoken". Really aren't saying alot in the first place. Just don't give him that power. If he's out of your life for good, just move on. The days ahead are all yours. | |
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Posted: 1/16/2006 5:31:49 PM | | what is this the oprah book club!!!...listen these r all validating questions but like anyone if u show weakness ur gonna get played, and yes it hurts but thats when u pick up the pieces and learn from them.....if ur level headed, confident, and ment for that person than even if he is a player he ll change his ways for u. everyones a bit of a player till they find the one person that takes their breath away...but the feeling has to be mutual......like i said before u just need u time..u have to figure out what kind of a guy ur really looking for, if u look at all ur past relationships i bet everyone of them has something in commom...ur repeat dating the same man!!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/16/2006 5:34:04 PM | | Don't think ur alone shauna...recently i had this ***hole off this site take me for a ride....he stated we were seeing eachother...met me every other day...and went on this site every other day..eachtime we met it got steamier...until he took me to his place where we had sex...then poof....i just got phone calls after that...and words that made me beleive he was leading me on to think we were gonna meet again....3 weeks pass by we don't meet...so i messaged him and and tried to get some closure....i didn't get any response...and getting over him has been hard...its hard to find men out there who will be honest and straight up with u....so i know how u feel girl....my advice is to cry it out and get it out of ur body....and get stronger...talk to ur friends about it (i find talking to my male friends helps a bit too)....u'll go thru different stages once u've reached the angry stage ur almost over it.....believe in karma...and next time when u go out with a guy...think about this one and don't ever walk with ur heart on a plate...somebody will take a knife and stick it in and hurt u again....be catious..and take things slow.....my girlfriends say."make a guy wait for it for at least 2 months, if he's worth it he'll stick around if not he'll be gone and u would have lost or gained nuthing." Take care and remeber be strong. Fuk him. He was probably not mature enough to tell u how he felt. Throw darts at his picture?! | |
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Posted: 1/16/2006 5:48:46 PM | I may have missed it but has any one considered the obvious? If guys are "always" doing that to her maybe the OP is attracted to the wrong guys, has low-esteem and keeps going back to get bloodied again. I used to teach a class in 'moving on after a breakup' in a divorced and separated group, and this is a pattern I saw all too often guys and gals alike.
We had a guy come one night, arm in a sling from either being broken or slashed by his girl friend. He was determined to go back to her! He never came back -- and I deliberately avoid reading the obits for at least three months --because it was obvious he was going to end up dead if he didn't wise up.
If this is the case GET PROFESSIONAL HELP. As soon as possible! Or you're doomed to repeat the same mistakes over and over. | |
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Posted: 1/16/2006 5:58:10 PM | | i completley understand how u feel..that has happened a few times to me!! ive tried to pay attention what i do with the guys im talkin to now..like try not to seem so desperate...u know like make em chase u a little..and things are actually goin pretty good for me! hope everythign works out for you! **eden** | |
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Posted: 1/16/2006 6:27:55 PM | | Im curious, how is everyone a bit of a player? A relationship can be a smooth road. Or a road with potholes and planks over top of the potholes, and hoping that while driving on this neglected road that the planks dont give out, prior to you driving over them. If two are open and honest with each other, as well as themselves. Relationships don't have to be so difficult. But if one of the two in any relationship is going to be "complicated", the relationship will be complicated. Its all a matter of choice. | |
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Posted: 1/16/2006 6:28:46 PM |
"make a guy wait for it for at least 2 months, if he's worth it he'll stick around if not he'll be gone and u would have lost or gained nuthing."
Yup. Good advice.
But what do you mean 'always?' Has this happened before?
It's good to be kind (people can be so hostile to each other sometimes), but coming across as too weak or needy can cause problems. One thing that even many guys have to learn the hard way, trading self respect\self control for love is just not a bargain you can make. If you give up one, you'll also lose the other. | |
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Posted: 1/16/2006 7:36:20 PM | Dear, ShaunaDanielle
Alot of guy's will say what you wan't to hear to get what they want, but not all men are that way there are some men that aren't looking for a one night stand NOT to say that you are,
but I can tell you becareful guard your Heart and who you get close too,take time to get to know people don't be in a hurry to fall in love take your time and don't give too much of yourself away
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Posted: 1/16/2006 7:36:41 PM | Dear, ShaunaDanielle
Alot of guy's will say what you wan't to hear to get what they want, but not all men are that way there are some men that aren't looking for a one night stand NOT to say that you are,
but I can tell you becareful guard your Heart and who you get close too,take time to get to know people don't be in a hurry to fall in love take your time and don't give too much of yourself away
ChrisHall1967 | |
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Posted: 1/16/2006 8:16:19 PM | | let me tell you why guys do this to you. they think they're in control of the relationship, and if you loved him enough that you'd sleep in the car, then he thinks he's got control over you shauna. any female is better than that. if another guy makes you sleep in the car, go back to your warm cozy bed, and don't contact him again. he is a craphead, you deserve better. don't fall for those guys again, they don't deserve you. | |
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Posted: 1/16/2006 8:30:51 PM | | Hello young lady., Loved your reply and profile. You speak a lot fo sense, even coming from a guy. I am not living close to you so don't be alarmed this is not a hit on you. Logic, Wisdom, Maturity and Confidence can make all the difference. Have a good week. IT has been pouring in Victoria for the last 29 days. Scary. | |
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Posted: 1/16/2006 9:16:40 PM | | i dont mean everyone is a bit of a player in a bad way..it a natural process we all fall into in looking for "the one"...some just take it to a diffrent level...and get a kick out of messing with peoples emotions. no matter how much we all "scream" no more games...their will always be some type of game involved ...even if its innocent. the hunt is always the most thrilling part and its up to those involved to keep the relationship alive...thats why relationships fail cause ppl dont want to work on them...its just easier to some to go out and find someone new when the going gets tough. | |
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Posted: 1/17/2006 3:04:12 AM | | Not all nonsense....my ex is in Iraq...yes my heart is broken..I hurt him and now he won't let me back in...he too has issues with commitment, otherwise things would be different today. I am not clingly...especially in his situation it is easier to push love away...for many reasons..one not holding me back while he is gone for a year or more..idk..i think she should dump the guy..love is too precious to waste or throw away...to hard to find in the first place. | |
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Posted: 1/17/2006 3:08:12 AM | | so so true...i wonder...i like the dart thing though..take some agression out without hurting anyone...lol. I truly believe in the karma thing, however don't let a future potential relationship be clouded by a past idiot...not all men are the same. Though keep your heart guarded...we have too much to offer!!! | |
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Posted: 1/17/2006 3:27:45 AM | | I think when there is real communication in a relationship there are no time or desire for any games. Ask him straight up what the heck is wrong, and if he needs some space then give it to him. Just remind him that he will be missing out on spending time with you. | |
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Posted: 1/17/2006 3:57:30 AM | Had to reply to the post way up above.....I can't believe you slept in a car!!~ I don't care what the situation if there was a warm place to sleep any one with a bit of decency would not have "made" you sleep in a car.
Once you have had time to think more clearly instead of being in the eye of the hurricane you will feel much better...You are just infatuated right now and love is the drug. | |
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