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angmm
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Joined: 12/28/2005
Msg: 177 | |
| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 1/17/2006 7:48:17 PM | | So true. It is so easy to get wrapped up in a feeling and let go because you feel comfortable and you feel like they feel the same. Inevitably it ends up bad or or just ends up nothing. I had to learn to take it easy and not get caught up in the moment. That guy sounds awful and should be kicked to the curb. | |
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| to miss pinochio - a puppet on a string
Posted: 1/31/2006 9:46:15 PM | from a male persective- he's palying you and he knows it and your the sucker for it. And ya know -typical women- you'll keep going back for more and wind up marrying him. When really nice guys exist out there.
But NOOOOO the more abuse he gives , the more you'll wine about him and go running back.
shhesh - ladies - what do you have aginst the real nice guys. i have seen this time and time again (ex model photographer) and heard the wineing. but face it you women go for the bad boys -divoorce them when you come to your senses- then place an ad on a dating service that goes like this-
" Im seeking a honest guy,who is loving sensitive , bla,bla ,bla" when you should have done it in the first place.
so you look young- be smart the first time - use your head and not your heart. and most of all LISTEN TO WHAT HE IS REALLY SAYING !!then you'll believe me.
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Posted: 2/3/2006 9:10:35 AM | | sounds like you encountered a "serial monogamist" and they leave a path of destruction in their wake without concern for anyone else. these boys are runners, utter commitment-phobic, emotional ****wits who are terrified of needing another person or real love. they only feel desirable/attractive in the initial honeymoon phase with women, so they've never sustained a relationship beyond that point. they seek out & blow up every partner's tiny flaws and use them as an excuse to bail. their words mean nothing when the actions don't add up. they have to get therapy and decide to change this as it's got nothing to do with the women who love them and is a lifelong pattern of narcississistic self-indulgence. sorry for the pain you're in. it really does suck and i've seen it all too often; hope that you find someone to treat you with the respect and dignity which you deserve. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2006 10:18:54 AM | Im gonna hafta go with tario on this one... you cannot possibly love this person after a mere 30 days.. you can credit endorphins for that love like feeling you may have somewhere below the navel.. but to love someone...and you know im right.. to love someone you have to know them.. spend time with them.. see EVERY mood and facet that you cannot see unless you spend more than 30 days.. unless he has MPD and yyou are seeing seperate personalities instead of just facets thereof.....
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 2/4/2006 2:38:11 PM | | My Dear it is not about you it is about him..also the most important person to love first is YOU..No people do not love within a day, a week a month...it is about exhanging..giving and receiving love. it takes time and it is a process...what you can BE for one another..what ever happens..if he tries to contact you now..with whatever reason he may have..you must be strong..do not allow contact...respect yourself..Ok?? Trust me...Entirety | |
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| to miss pinochio - a puppet on a string
Posted: 2/4/2006 2:45:15 PM | | Yes we all nice like nice guys we just dont all dont know how to "pick them". I feel you are generalizing sir and not all the ladies out there are mature and have had the same experience as others and done the necessary work on themselves to pick out the sheep in wolves clothing if you understand what I mean. There is alot more to people and there psyches than just dating and picking and choosing. It is much more profound. There are many wonderful people out in the world (fellows and ladies alike) and hopefully we all have good intentions but the sad truth is some do not..... | |
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dita1
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Joined: 1/13/2006
Msg: 186 | |
| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 2/4/2006 3:47:50 PM | | I liked your comments. You do have a point there. This is how people are, some of us get bored fast and buy a new video game every day, some can't help it but play with 2 or 3 "video games " at the same time...lol and some others who like to play the same game over and over, so they are ready for a commitment but this scares the others like hell. What I would suggest to Shawn is that; since you can never discover what type of person you are dating in a month or even three, just forget all the incident above and move on. You will be in the same situation probably again…. but finding the real love at the end, it is worth the risk. | |
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dita1
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Joined: 1/13/2006
Msg: 187 | |
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dita1
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Joined: 1/13/2006
Msg: 189 | |
| to miss pinochio - a puppet on a string
Posted: 2/5/2006 12:25:41 PM | "be smart the first time - use your head and not your heart. and most of all LISTEN TO WHAT HE IS REALLY SAYING !!"
hm.. I don't know why but what stitchimage just said it looks intriguing. But aren't we taught to listen to our hearts instead of our minds? don't we have to push away the fantasies that most of the time we build in our mind when we think (but doesn't mean it's true) we are with the right person? If you allow mw I would change it a little bit from " use your head and not your heart" to "use your heart and not emotions" Try to listen the little voice that said "what he is doing to me is not right" instead of the load voice that said "OH God if I don't do what he is asking me to do I will lose him". So, conclusion; satisfy yourself first do what you really want to do, don't do things to satisfy him or anyone else for fear that you might lose them. If you lose them, means they were never yours to begin with. | |
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Posted: 2/5/2006 2:31:54 PM | | I am not an expert, but it would seem to me that if this type of behavior is something you have experienced regularly, you need to re-evaluate your criteria when it comes to males. Some appear to be driven to copulate with as many women as possible, the more alluring and beautiful the lady, the more their egos are sated. I would be suspect of any male who claims to love you in such a short period of time. There are boys and children out there. There are those who are clearly "twisted units". While I'm sure the ladies truly enjoy a "fun" male, you might want to shift your priorities to men, preferably to men who treat ladies with deference. Gentlemen who respect a lady and possess respect for them as individuals, not sexual prizes to be conquered. Love is terrific, but only if it is truly mutual and accompanied with respect. Stop shopping for boys and start seeking men, gentlemen. You'll be glad you did. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2006 11:52:15 AM | | Do NOT go and see him at his house!!! and really you should not call or e-mail him anymore. Its very destructive to your mental health. If he has blocked your # thats a pretty good sign that he will not be talking to you again. you need to move on and start getting your head together. dont ever beg. its not attractive. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2006 12:49:02 PM | "thanks... i don't think he really meant what he said now though....now that i think back to this weekend i don't think he was being honest about much of anything now. i think he was hinting that he wanted me to go home instead of spending the night with him, but i didn't even realize it until yesterday. i guess i should have realized when he made me sleep in a car...but i cared about him so much that i didn't care where i slept"
Okay I know this is an old post... but just happened to be passing through and read this... I can not believe this guy made her sleep in the car... but what amazed me more is that only one person said anything about it!
Girlfriend you need to be around people who will give you self confidence, strength and independence not belittling.
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Posted: 2/14/2006 4:17:46 PM | hill valley hick - [there are one of two reasons hes doing this. One reason is that he just doesnt want you. I know its hard to hear but it is likely the truth. The second reason is that he still wants you but is playing mind games to make you want him more. All part of the game i guess althogh i dont believe in that shit. Anywayz most guys have no game so its probably the first one so if a girl did that to me i would question her about it and if it continued any more her ass would be dumped.]
most guys have no game?! any woman out there believe this guy? look in forums under "broken heart" and find his thread about how men that check in with the women they love are wussies.
hvh - you love men - there are forums on this site for men who love men and they can help you come to terms with yourself and your sexual preferences. embrace who you are. | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 2:21:32 AM | | Sorry honey, it is not that cut and dry. The message I just read has some merrit, but at the same time you can never group people into catagories. We are as different as the flowers in the park, as different as the stars. How can you say all of one sex is the same at that age? That is so redicous, every person, man or female are unique. That is something that has to be rembered. Granted that there may be a higher ratio respect and deeper feelings as the male ages. but there are so many that grow up with that respect, the honor that has been instowed into them during thier childhood. To say all are just Lusting at that age or any grouping is so foolish. Do not get me wrong, there are plenty of men out there that are like that, wow there are just as many women in the same catagory. If you are to do that game he stated above, just think. He would be frustrated from the start, because she is useing that as a wepon against the one she is suppost to love. By his saying, men do the same and it is all kinda control. Wake up people, Love is not control, love is communication, love is shareing and HOPEFULLY the joy of just being there together.Life doesn't have to be control, I have seen that idea for alog time, and for along time I have seen couples just tear them self apart and why? because they couldn't talk, why they where to busy trying to control, which leaves no time for communication, no time for LOVE!!!!!!! Listen, Talk, Hold, but of all be forgiving, we all make mistakes, but that love word is pretty strong, the feeling is so much stronger. IT IS A PARTNERSHIP, there is no partnership in the world that will work with out compermise. No Age, No Time, And deffinatly not the full male or Female idenity come on.In short, unfortunatly you have been looking in the wrong spots, they are there just keep trying you will find it. Male or female we all have that search, but to find it is worth more then any gold mine, or oil feild. It is true, lord enjoy it because there is nothing better. Good Luck | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 2:43:34 AM | | Kitty, I am sorry but if he made you sleep in the car. There is something wrong with him. You are supost to be the one he loves? I know it is hard, but it doesn't even sound like you two talk. Hun, you can not have a relationship without communication, Respect for each other. Love is a hard game to play, so many people have different ideas how it should work. So many think that you need to control each other.WHY I mean think about it, you control your dog, your cat but a partner in love? So many times I see people get the upperhand in a relationship, and are joyfull. That is thier goal to get something to hold aginst the other? Instead of finding good things whitch are happening, that you can celabrate with them, that you can praise them for thier accomplishment. Don't get me wrong, it is not easy, it is not easy to give and recieve compliments or praise. But just think how much better the love would be if you had that. Instead of holding things over the other ones head, thinking in thier Kindergrton ways to be the way it is suppost to be. To hold favors to obtain a footing, if you do this, hey you get this.Sorry, if that is the way you see life, love you have alot to learn try by understanding one another, be there for them not planning a war, and useing this or that stratigy Humans, we are a rough breed, but we do have it in us to make an effort to be better people in our relationships. | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 6:47:06 AM | I read that book..why men love ****es..it's awesome. All woman should read it especiall being on sites like this. I too found someone I thought was perfect for me as I was for him then he stopped communicating with me. I haven't met him yet so putting out wasn't the problem..but I did send him an email and ripped him a new ***hole for leaving me hanging and did receive a nice email back..but now it'll never happen in his lifetime!!!!! | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 7:18:15 AM | | You saw this guy for ALMOST a MONTH and he professed his love for you. Did you have sex with him or was there any petting. I don't know about you, but I find it hard to fall in love in two to three weeks. I took the opportunity to look at your profile and you are an attractive woman. Maybe, he fell in love with your body. Your age is 22, so I assume he is about the same age? Need I say more! Sorry for your hurt. | |
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dj666
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Joined: 3/8/2006
Msg: 200 | |
| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 3/18/2006 7:26:26 AM | You know what? The only problem you have is lack of self-confidence and self-worth. You need to keep in mind that anyone whether it is a relationship, friendship... has no right to treat you like that. You might want to do a little soul searching and find out what's making you choose men like this. You deserve everything you want. You shouldn't have to feel like that ever again. You may want to put the relationship issue on hold and work on your self-esteem before you move forward. You will never find any happiness until your comfortable and happy with yourself. Good luck to you. | |
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