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Posted: 3/18/2006 8:56:01 AM | | Well if some guy was telling me he loved me after one month of knowing him id know it was NOT love and just infactuation. You dont even know who someone is after one month. If someone was all lovey dovey after one month id be a little scared myself and probably ditch him. | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 8:58:53 AM | | Sounds to me is he thought he liked you alot and then found somebody better and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. See if he ignores you enough you will just get the hint and go away. My favorite saying is Never test the water with both feet. Take your time developing the feelings you have before you say " I love you" | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 10:00:22 AM | Hey id just like to say that men will be men! I think its like a game tro them they will fill tyour head up with compliments, and act like they care but they only want one thing.
I have hasd it happen top me so may times and girls from my experience alone i no you cant fall for them first cuz thats wen itl hurt never chase a man let him chase you cuz we all no theres more were he came from. Men get bored quickly so dont give in too quickly or youl just be anouther notch on his bed post. My new aproach to men is no sex till its astablished clearly wat his intentions are. and if your lucky youll snag a real man that wont lie about his feelings to get you in bed. WE HAVE THE KEY ALL MEN WANT SO DONT GIVE IT TO JUST NEONE HOLD OUT TO MAKE IT WORTH WHILE! | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 10:17:32 AM | hmmm maybe he got a bad vibe
or he lost interest in u in some way
sounds like maybe............. he told u he loved u to get what he wanted then once received he left
maybe its for the best cus honestly he should of told u " hey lost interest" i'm moving on
communication is number 1 now a days | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 11:36:11 AM | Hi,
This is what I can gather so far.
Some guys are serious minded. They will come on here and let you know what they want, what they don't want and what they think they need. Great!
Others will come on here just bs'ing. And they will pretend just to see if they can get someone hooked. When they see they have, the game is over. These are the mind game player in in other words, A holes.
And then there are others who already have what they want and need, but are shelfish and truly without moral values. They like to come here as well and screw with people for the pure enjoyment of seeing someone hurting over them. A very sick game.
Sometimes when we get a feeling that a person is not be forthcoming, we still like to give them the benefit of the doubt. Especially, if we really feel something for them. And when we can't exactly prove or pin point what is not right, we just tend to keep letting them in.
I'm going through this right now myself. I think a certain thing about a guy. I can't absolutely prove it, and I hate to even think it, but from what I can tell, my perception is probably 100% right. So, I just keep moving on. Life's much too short to let anyone ever pull the wool so far over your eyes that you can't even get a glimpse of the light.
Let it go sweetie. There are good and decent men out here. And God will bring someone to you when he knows you're ready. But if you get yourself all clogged up with the rotten apples, you'll be to blind to see the right one when he does come.
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Posted: 3/18/2006 11:52:23 AM | | Hi I know exactly how you feel i have dated several guys that have done this to me and its not a very nice feeling in fact just been dating a guy called Cliff who lives in Welwyn for about 2 weeks we got on really well arranged to meet up during the week and asked me what i was doing thursday night i text him back saying nothing what was he doing and i havent heard from him since ive seen him on line and it hurts like hell that guys can do this to you. Just try not to go mad wondering what you did wrong cos believe me a guy about 8 months ago i dated i slept with him then he blanked me totally wouldnt answer my texts or email but guess what he just text me saying hi didnt remember him at first then i did and mentioned he blanked me and he said sori he cant remember why he did now. Thats guys for ya. I do feel for you guys are just total a***holes just remember its not your fault | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 12:11:06 PM | Better, yeah, it's all better until you're actually there.
What i've learned is that no matter where you are, there always shit.
Just different shit. But shit none the less. Maybe people would treat one another a little better when they finally realize that we don't live in a perfect world and there will be some kind of problems or differences no matter who we're with.
So to answer you, there is no Better, just different. Shit is Shit no matter how you look at it. | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 12:20:02 PM | Hi F.
I have said that same thing to myself. Sometimes when I read a post like this, it sounds so much like someone I've run across and I can't help to wonder that same thing. Or can there actually be that many unfeeling A holes out here. That's a scary thought.
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Posted: 3/18/2006 12:30:32 PM | I have met men like that. I don't like it either. I am asked, please put a picture up so I can see what you look like. When I hear that on the first chat, it sound clear to me they want a body to use and abuse and disappear.
To the good men who are truly interested in courting and marriage. You are a dying breed. | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 12:39:24 PM | Actually the truth is that the guy is not sure of what he is doing....
He is not sure of himself first forget about what he will decide about the relationship with you..Even if one wants a break off there is a way to do it..you just don't throw the
fly out of the tea cup....as if you never meant anything to that person..
a person who cannot understand the pain you must have went and suffering
and cannot even share that he not worth it....you must be fooling youself if you still think of him...life goes on...forget it...or better try to forget....and one more caution
if he comes back don't accept him becoz he can do that again as he knows he is your weak point....rest u decide what u want out of ur life....all the best ...GOD bless us all...amen... | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 1:03:50 PM | | I think if a man tells you he loves you within a month----run!Because i believe that is coming from below the belt instead of the heart.In my past experiences i have been told that someone loves me because of their intense desire, not because they wanted to grow old with me.SAD but that is why i am doing a dating site so it's not just physical/And i think i have been guilty of doing the blow off- each person has their own reasons for doing that..Mine in the past is because i thought the person was full of **** or they weren't what i thought,too needy, or even worse crazy.But this day and age you can never tell with guys-some believe if they play hard to get that makes us want them but that's my number one reason to vanish from a man when he tries to play games.So if a man says i love you question him directly about what does he love most about you, and what makes me so good for you?sounds rude but men will stumble over that answer if their trying to get some bootie, but if by chance they mean it they will say, because your kind,warm, i love the way you smell,walk, i love your communication style, i love the way you make me feel, i want to be a better man, blah, blah. Hope this helps because i have alot of honest advice.I have heard it all but vanishing after you say you love someone COME ON- i would not be available personally when he decides 4days from now that he loves you.I wish you the best and good luck because this dating thing sucks.You have to give someone the benefit of the doubt but listen to what a person says about how they feel about you and know when attraction is not love.I believe that women/men emotionally are on the same level so there is no excuse for i needed to think if i loved you after i told you so, it is simple.You care for someone enough to say i love you than that means you are their best friend and you will be able to talk about anything and eveything.Don't settle for wandering take action and find a man who is there and there are no doubts- that is the best feeling in the world.And you deserve nothing else. | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 1:09:22 PM | | I was 35 before I found my true love. he died unexpectedly 18 mos later. I think you need to figure out what you want. 21 I wanted such different things at 21 than I do now. It also sounds to me like self esteem issues on both ya'lls part. My suggestion is to get ATTACKING ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION BY LUCINDA BASSET. It is woth the $$$ and It helped me tramendously. I still refer to it today. don't worry about finding forever right now it will find you when the time is right. You and i are capricorns we don't get what we want until late in life check your horoscope profile. it has turned out that way for me. | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 1:15:54 PM | | Its simple, from a guy's perspective. What you need to do is, no matter how much you are interested in a man, act like it's no dig deal. EX. If he says he's going to call you tonight and doesn't.....Don't call him. Let him persue you. That way if he is bullshitting you, you aren't wasting your time either. then you just move on. Its just part of "the game"........BRIAN | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 1:47:39 PM | | while it is truly sad that a person tells you some untruths (i love you are some of the easiest words said by men)...(often considered the most important words said, there are still 3 JUST as important words...I AM SORRY..which often go unsaid...) but if he claimed he loved you you obviously know that HE DOES NOT...or he would value you much more..and also , think of it this way,,,ARE YOU NOT BETTER OFF KNOWING THAT HE WAS NOT CONSISTENT NOW compared to much later??? if he has been signing on he was ALWAYS probably playing on you anyways...tis a sad experience but one that happens all over and all too frequently...i also know words do little to close that wound...time is the healer...and you ask how can someone ignore someone?? all because they themselves placed little or no value on you..and that is the real hurt...rda | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 1:53:05 PM | | There are a lot of jerks out there, men and women, who are just out for whatever they can gat. It sounds to me, he was just using you till someone better came along. How can you tell in advance? I wish I knew. All you can do is forget him, I know it isn't easy to do, and move on. There are nice guys out there who will treat you right and not lie to you or use you. Hopefully you will find one soon. Good luck in your search. | |
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