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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/28/2006 8:51:44 AM |
are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Yes, of course they are!! Why would they bother with dating, relationships and marriage otherwise??? In fact, if he ISN'T looking for sex, be advised that his d*ck probably doesn't work anymore( sorry guys, hadda say it.)
OK that's an oversimplification and probably a little bit MEAN,as well( I need more caffiene, I guess)
But the bottom line answer remains the same. Other than possibly a small percentage of men who are elderly and/or ill, looking for companionship and a built-in caregiver,yes all the guys on here are in fact looking for sex. Some are willing to offer love, committment, etc to get sex. Of that "some", a smaller subset are actually willing to DELIVER on that offer.( I GOTTA go get more caffiene, RIGHT NOW)
Please understand I'm NOT bashing, this is just simply the way things are. Once upon a time a man who "toyed" with women's affections risked a horsewhipping by her dad, brother, or a suitor with more honorable intent. Unfortunately, Scarlett, those days are indeed Gone With the Wind. Now we women just have to realize that the average guy is gonna try and get what he can, BECAUSE he can. For you wonderful guys who actually DO have a code of ethics, I offer my sincere apologies; but you gotta KNOW you're a vanishing breed.
All I can suggest is that we women need to approach each encounter with a new guy understanding that the pecentages are against us as far as finding a man who wants MORE than a sexual encounter(or the series of sexual encounters commonly known as a "friend with benefits" mostly light on the friendship, and heavy on the benefits)
I am in NO WAY suggesting that we all resign ourselves to an either/or choice, sluthood or singlehood. That would be foolish, and whole hell of a lot LESS fun than diving right in and sorting the wheat from the chaff and the men from the boys. And please realize that once in awhile some guy is gonna slip PAST your BS detector, deal with it and move on...use your head so that you don't wind up in a longterm MESS and hang on to your sense of humor for dear life!
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/28/2006 9:37:48 AM | All I can suggest is that we women need to approach each encounter with a new guy understanding that the pecentages are against us as far as finding a man who wants MORE than a sexual encounter(or the series of sexual encounters commonly known as a "friend with benefits" mostly light on the friendship, and heavy on the benefits)
Or what you could do is approach each enounter with a new guy understanding, that if you are indeed having sex with him, it is because you want to have sex with this him just as much as he wants to have sex with you. Revolutionary thought I know, but worth considering.
If women can get past this insane medival notion that having sex with a man is some commodity to be traded for love, affection,and companionship, perhaps women wouldn't be so incredibly disapointed when they do choose to have sex, and actually be able to enjoy the act of sex for the joyful, incredibly feel good purpose it was intended for outside of pure procreation. If you happened to come across a man who enjoys having sex with you so much that he wants to share all that other good stuff with you too, then you are way ahead of the game aren't you? If you don't well then hopefully, at worst, you had some good sex.
If sex wasn't meant to feel good and be something enjoyable by it's very nature, without a bagillion other entanglements involved, it wouldn't feel so good would it? Surely the sensual nature of sex as it pertains to the physcial nature of the act is not necessary for reproduction is it? I don't think 2 Bears humping in the woods are doing it out of any distinct pleasure in the act. Of course I could be wrong here.
I should think, If it was all supposed to be some relevant practice of complex ideological theory at it's core (as some would suggest), then sex would take place exclusively with our brains and not our loins. So in essence, it if feels good to you, do it. If it feels right to you, do it. If its something you enjoy doing, do it(so long as nobody gets hurt and it's legal). If it is none of these things to you, then don't bloody do it, but for heavens sake stop biatching about not doing it, or biatching about those who do do it. Nuff said.
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/28/2006 10:33:41 AM | Or what you could do is approach each enounter with a new guy understanding, that if you are indeed having sex with him, it is because you want to have sex with this him just as much as he wants to have sex with you. Revolutionary thought I know, but worth considering.
Oh I thought that went without saying! Except then you have to worry if the GUY is stuck in the 50s and still thinks that sex easily given is the mark of a slut.
In certain age brackets, and geographic areas, that notion unfortunately STILL exists.
However the original question that started this thread was;
are all the guys on here looking for sex?
The answer to THAT question is an unequivocal, uqualified, unvarnished and resounding HELL YES( there Thorn, bless your heart, how do ya like THEM apples ) (You know I love you)
That said, the OP seemed a bit-well-perturbed! by this issue, I was attempting to let her down easy. But maybe that wasn't fair.
Thorn, I heartily wish, right along with you, that we could undo a couple thousand years of nature, nurture and social conditioning. It's BECAUSE humans are capable of enjoying sex for sex' sake, that some sort of "rules" had to be established, in order to keep unwanted children and unpleasant diseases under some sort of control. And a man didn't want HIS female performing the sex act with every male who happened to strike her fancy, how in the HELL would he ever be sure that his children were REALLY his??
Yes, I know we've solved a lot of those issues in the past 40 years( and unwittingly CREATED some new ones) but by and large most human societies have not quite caught up with that. In most of them, for a woman to freely indulge her sexual desires will result in some sort of social condemnation(at the least) all the way up to being cast OUT of the society or even executed.
I can only daydream about how easy my life would be if I could just go out, grab and appealing guy off the street and have my way with him. Hell I don't need a guy to provide for me and Mother Nature shut down the baby factory...unfortunately, that sort of behavior tends to cause men to DEvalue a woman as a person and a worthwhile boon companion( some tired BS about low self esteem or something, beats the hell outa me, but there it is)
I hope someday we as a society CAN achieve the ideal sexual freedom you speak of. But I for one don't intend to hold my breath waiting for it.
The original question was,
are all the guys on here looking for sex?
The answer is YES.
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/28/2006 11:50:18 AM | I'm a typical man, looking for a good woman.
Hey, I realize women have more to offer than sex, and I welcome that fact.
I'd rather get to know a woman before I go to bed with her.
Am I looking for sex? Yes, eventually. I admit it... I won't rule it out. | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/28/2006 2:19:02 PM | | LadyC, I can only speak for myself, but I was propositioned on this site more than once by a woman, divorced with kids, asking me to come over to their houses on a first date. Those times I turned them down. Men want sex but no more than women want it. And men certainly do not want it with women who are too free with it. Sex, itself, we can get almost anytime. I am looking for a woman that I would WANT to have sex with. There's the rub. Because of that, I have had my gun holstered for a long time. | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/28/2006 2:42:20 PM | OP - All the guys everywhere that are not having sex on a regular basis are looking for it. Some just have higher or lower moral standards than others. Some want sex from a single monogamous relationship with someone they truly love and some just want the old wham bam later ma'am approach. For some it is their goal to find that special woman that suits all their needs and others the goal is to put notches in the bedpost. And don't think that women are above thinking about sex often as well. It is up to each of us to seek out those of the type that we prefer. Some fish with a trawler and sort the fishes and others a very specific bait to attract primarily the type of fish they want to catch.  | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/28/2006 2:50:15 PM |
Some fish with a trawler and sort the fishes and others a very specific bait to attract primarily the type of fish they want to catch.
Gill netting anyone? | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/28/2006 2:53:11 PM | myndenway, thank you! Now will you please explain that concept to Thorn? He seems to be in favor of "if it feels good, do it."
Algy? Yes someone did say "Yes, they are." I did.
At the core of it all, probably 89.9% of EVERYBODY on here is looking for sex. I'll give ya 10.1 % to cover the frigid gold diggers(women) and the elderly/impotent( males) seeking a companion(future caregiver). NOTICE that I said "at the core"; by and large MOST see sex as part of a respectful and caring interpersonal relationship (Whew! My faith in humanity is restored!...for the moment)
I think the original poster was referring to that unfortunate percentage of males who want ONLY sexual encounters,but don't have the b*lls to put "intimate encounter" as what they seek.
Is that plain enough??
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/28/2006 2:57:14 PM | see now I wouldve said the converse: that I can't get a decent convo with a woman here...apparently male and female fish aren't spawning a whole lot... but for me-NO- its not at all about sex...I'm waiting for an independent sugar-momma type to snatch me up. n then it can be about whatever she wishes. If she wants ta chat I love intelligent convos. if she wantsta share all her emotions with me I can empathize. But i'll betcha shes gonna want sex... | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/28/2006 2:57:38 PM | | I'm looking for love more then sex but 70% of the women I met or talked too just play games and waste my time.They CLAIM they want a relationship but barely make an effort and it takes forever to "get to know each other" My profile says I want the same thing 95% of the women in POF do and I get alot of messages but many just talk then later feeling its not going anywhere I get bored and move on.I guess I could say "where's all the women serious about having a relationship with a man ready for one?" A few guys I talked too said the same thing.Other guys saying they send messages the woman reads it and doesn't reply.I used to think maby I was too picky but I figured out its not me at all.There's alot of women who just don't know what they want.Others overly critical or negative about men.Some rant for a week in thier profile how not to IM them or no picture no reply ect setting a negative tone right from the start.If these women really wanted to meet someone you wouldn't get that impression from thier profile so why are you really here? Anyways..Branlynn if you would like a non sexual conversation by all means send me a message I'll talk to you.I'm into politics,news,world affairs ect I can talk for hours about anything. | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/28/2006 3:00:34 PM | Keep in mind that the advent of free and easy internet porn is giving women a run for their money. 
If you got a highspeed connection and good wrist, those seeking just sex can get off a lot cheaper and easier.
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/28/2006 3:18:12 PM |
GENERALLY SPEAKING:
SOME MEN FIND WAYS TO LURE A WOMAN TO LIKE THEM.....PRETENDING TO HAVE AN INSTANT CONNECTION, PRETENDING TO HAVE THE SAME LIKES/DISLIKES/INTERESTS, AGREES ABOUT HER OUTLOOK ABOUT LIFE IN GENERAL...
I HAVE HAD MY SHARE OF MEETING THIS TYPE OF MEN THAT IS MY MAIN REASON FOR BEING SINGLE FOR 6 WEEKS-- THEN I MET SOMEONE FROM HERE THAT I THOUGHT WAS DIFFERENT FROM EVERY OTHER ONE THAT DID WHAT U HAVE SAID.... BUT HE END UP BEING WORST THAN THE PACK BECAUSE AFTER WE PARTED WAYS...HE WAS GIVING ME POINTERS ABOUT DATING DO'S & DONT'S WHEN I HAVE OTHER FRIENDS THAT I HANG OUT OR GO ON DATES WITH THAT I HAVE BEEN FRIENDS OUTSIDE POF.... SO I KNOW WHAT I AM DOING... WITH HIM GIVING ME POINTERS MADE ME UPSET & REALIZE THAT I DONT NEED HIM IN MY LIFE.... SO I DECIDED TO CUT HIM OFF BECAUSE WE HAD THE INSTANT CONNECTION... CHEMISTRY WAS THERE & HE WAS JUST AFTER A ONE NIGHT STAND......HE DENIED THAT IS NOT WHAT HE WAS AFTER BUT BEFORFE WE MET IN PERSON - HE ADMITTED THAT HE WAS HOPING FOR ME TO GIVE HIM A HUG & KISS RATHER THAN A HANDSHAKE...WHAT DOES THAT SAY ABOUT HIM??? HE LIKED ME TO GET PHYSICAL WITH HIM AND BEYOND THAT SEE U LATER.... HMM WHAT A JERK..... | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/28/2006 3:34:48 PM | Yes....ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!!! We are looking for SEX. There. Does that answer the question???
This is an absolutely a ridiculous question on the surface. Its kind of like asking..." Do all the Men on here have to eat that damn Food?" or "Do all the Men on here have to breath that damn Air?"
This is not really about SEX. Its about "STYLE"......!!!!!!!!!!!!
I get what the women's complaints are about this. And it certainly isn't that Men like sex! Quite the contrary. Women would be a sorry lot indeed if most men stopped liking and wanting sex! The complaints are about the 'style' in which the man goes about meeting this most manly of needs. ha. Lets face it... some of us are just plain slobs when it comes to this! Some of us are way cool. some of us are just plain pathological about it. some of us are very healthy and functional. Listen up Men.... the ladies prefer the Cool and healthy functional men!
Now.... Ladies, there is a mirror image of this world on the other side of the Looking glass for you. I am not going to attempt to explain it here. But I'll give you a hint. We must Be what we seek. Happy Humpin' Everyone! har. | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/28/2006 4:52:53 PM |
Wow thorn . . . you've got quite a prick, don't you!
Why thank you for the kind words M'am, but then you ladies have always told us, it's not the size that matters, it's knowing how to use it right? What can I say, I get alot of practice.
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/28/2006 9:04:53 PM | Wow.
How pleasant it is to be the exception to the trend. To explain:
no - I am not looking for sex
no - I am not elderly
no - I am not impotent
no - I am not looking for a future caregiver
yes - I would enjoy sex if it wandered my direction
yes - I would feel sexual attraction to a woman that has the right features that I find stimulating
and yes - I have the ability to please the right woman should sex enter the picture
having said all that -
repeating my first statement - no - I am not looking for sex....
Sex is very much the icing on the cake for me. It may make the cake appear edible, but it also conceals the cake if too much attention is placed upon it - hiding something that can actually be very toxic in the long run. Metaphorically, it is better to get to know the cake first, then appreciate the icing. It is also extremely difficult to have any of the icing without at least a tiny portion of cake being attached to it, so just having the icing is problematic (it is possible to buy icing separately, but that hopefully doesn't apply to a site like this). Indeed, to take this to a transcendent, almost Zen level, the pinnacle of wisdom in this is to get to know the baker....... but I digress....
I hope I've made myself appropriately obscure...... ;) | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/28/2006 9:59:19 PM | I think there are a variety of people on here looking for a variety of things. Whether or not they are honest about it is another question. My advice is be very upfront about what your looking for and what your most definitely not looking for right in your profile. Lay it all out on the line and watch the riff-raff disappear! You might realize you're not getting as many hits as you did before but were looking for quality not quantity.
My second offer of advice is to buy some batteries. Don't give it up so easy, no matter how much you think you love him, or you think hes into you, if hes into you he will wait. We've all met someone who talked a good game and had us falling for it- and often its not even worth it. (in any aspect)
If hes into you he will wait for you, if you give it up easy to him hes going to think you give it up easy to everyone and he wont want anything serious with you anyways. There is nothing wrong with wanting sex, enjoying sex, hell sex is awesome- but it is so much better with someone that you really have something special with.
Lets be honest here, we can take care of things on our own - the end result is just as good as any man. What were looking for is intimacy, that special touch, that loving feeling...hold out for that and you'll find what your looking for- and send packing these low-lives who man enough to just be honest that they are only looking for a piece- let alone get our rocks off. As for the guys who say they aren't looking for anything serious and are honest about it--good for you. Its the men who claim to be looking for a serious relationship but aren't that are the real losers here
Never ever give it up to keep him- if he wants you he will wait. May I suggest a diving dolphin--OMG!
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/28/2006 11:24:30 PM | Of course there are exceptions, but basically the difference is this:
Women want love before sex
Men want sex before love
Because sex is so important to a man, the man wants to make sure his woman knows how to perform in bed before he commits his heart..
The woman is afraid to have sex before the man commits his heart..
And so the dance of the sexes continues.. | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/29/2006 5:46:57 AM |
My second offer of advice is to buy some batteries. Don't give it up so easy, no matter how much you think you love him, or you think hes into you, if hes into you he will wait. We've all met someone who talked a good game and had us falling for it- and often its not even worth it. (in any aspect)
Lets be honest here, we can take care of things on our own - the end result is just as good as any man. What were looking for is intimacy, that special touch, that loving feeling...hold out for that and you'll find what your looking for- and send packing these low-lives who man enough to just be honest that they are only looking for a piece- let alone get our rocks off.
Yes because society has apparently taught us that "giving it up" to some inanimate, battery operated, uncaring, hunk of plastic is inherently more virtuous to "giving it up" to a living, breathing, warm blooded, fellow human being, who heaven forbid, might by chance actually provide some emotional happiness as well. Something a Diving Dolphin, Jack Rabbit, or Ben Wa Venus Clit Cruncher is never likely to do regardless of how advanced the technology becomes. Leastwise last time I checked the advertised feature/benefits on the packaging didn't include "intimacy, that special touch, that loving feeling". That is of course, not unless you get that kind of feeling from the "touch" of advanced latex products.
Yes I understand it all now so much more clearly now. Obviously jamming a man made hunk of petrochemical goo into ones vagina, to sastisfy ones sexual urges on a routine basis, makes one a better, more sensitive, caring, and hence more worthwhile individual than one who would instead jam a "Superior Being" inspired hunk of living breath flesh into oneself for the very same purpose, with the added bonus of potentially caring for you when it's done. The difference is so clear to me now, the latter has a Man attached to it, and who in their right mind would want that right? Does that about cover it?
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/29/2006 5:58:44 AM |
Yes because society has apparently taught us that "giving it up" to some inanimate, battery operated, uncaring, hunk of plastic is inherently more virtuous to "giving it up" to a living, breathing, warm blooded, fellow human being, who heaven forbid, might by chance actually provide some emotional happiness as well. Something a Diving Dolphin, Jack Rabbit, or Ben Wa Venus Clit Cruncher is never likely to do regardless of how advanced the technology becomes. Leastwise last time I checked the advertised feature/benefits on the packaging didn't include "intimacy, that special touch, that loving feeling". That is of course, not unless you get that kind of feeling from the "touch" of advanced latex products.
You seem really bitter about this. Have you ever thought that it isn't society, but a woman's wanting to protect herself emotionally? It may be different for a man, and since I'm not one I won't even pretend to know what goes on in your minds....but for the majority of women, sex is part of a loving relationship. We need to feel a connection with the person we're having sex with. If it isn't someone that we at least feel something for, then it's no good for us. For most men I've known, sex is an availability and quantity game. I'm sure there are exceptions, but in general that's what I've observed.
Obviously I'm not speaking for all women either, but i don't get that "intimacy, that special touch, that loving feeling" unless I'm actually into him. That's why toys are preferable sometimes. We don't have to worry about our reputations, our feelings, and not being able to get rid of him in the morning. ;) | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/29/2006 6:07:56 AM | Yes I understand it all now so much more clearly now. Obviously jamming a man made hunk of petrochemical goo into ones vagina, to sastisfy ones sexual urges on a routine basis, makes one a better, more sensitive, caring, and hence more worthwhile individual than one who would instead jam a "Superior Being" inspired hunk of living breath flesh into oneself for the very same purpose, with the added bonus of potentially caring for you when it's done. The difference is so clear to me now, the latter has a Man attached to it, and who in their right mind would want that right? Does that about cover it?
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You ROCK Thorn 
That's why toys are preferable sometimes. We don't have to worry about our reputations, our feelings, and not being able to get rid of him in the morning. ;)
So instead of being known as the local hussy, you'd rather be the chick with gas powered Louiville slugger.
At least you have your dignity.... | |
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