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Posted: 12/29/2006 6:26:06 AM |
So instead of being known as the local hussy, you'd rather be the chick with gas powered Louiville slugger.
At least you have your dignity....
LMAO! Even if I were the type to indulge in the (giggle) gas powered Louisville slugger...do you think I'd broadcast it for everyone to know? Maybe I should invest in one and then have a t-shirt made up.
I'm not a prude or anything, but I'm not just into sleeping with random men for the sake of having sex. It's not important to me to have just anyone climb into my bed..and for me, it makes it that much more worthwhile when I have sex with someone that I care for and trust. Of course, it could be my self-esteem issues, but it's what works for me. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 6:33:05 AM | You seem really bitter about this.
Isn't it funny how people toss around words and phrases like "bitter" or "jaded", or "seek professional help" around when they can't come up with a legitmate way to counter a valid, albeit opposing oppinion. Seeing as you were so kind to start your rebuttal with a label, perhaps you out to likewise justify your reasons for applying said label, before your credibility is called into question as well. Of course I digress.
but for the majority of women, sex is part of a loving relationship. We need to feel a connection with the person we're having sex with. If it isn't someone that we at least feel something for, then it's no good for us.
Then by all means explain to me how does a woman derive a "loving relationship" from a hunk of plastic marked "made in taiwan"? Exactly what "connection" do you make with a cold, vibrating, teflon ball that on it's best day, only comes close to approximating a "heart" by the fact that it contains of pair of batteries marked "duracell" who's only purpose is to mimic the mechanical properties of one.
This thread as I recall is posing the generalized question "are all the guys on here looking for sex". The answer to that question is obviously yes, but in an attempt to degeneralize the nature of the question, I (as well as others) have put forth the notion that all women are likewise on here looking for sex as well. Let's face it Generalizations Suck!
Likewise this notion that intimacy, and a loving, caring relationship are a commodity which has been cornered solely by those willing to either refrain from sexual activity or who only invest in sexual activity with inanimate objects or via manual manipulation, and are inherently somehow better, more honorable beings for choosing to do so, is equally ridiculous and unfounded. As I have suggested earlier, what makes this particular flavor more meaningful and profound, and thus any more appealing than any other?
What exactly makes the fullfilment of sexual gratification more inherently noble when it is fulfilled via a hunk of plastic, or Rosy Palm and her 5 sistesr, as opposed to with a living breathing fellow human being? How can you justify the absence of true intimacy with one, and still derive pleasure from it (your diving dolphin, or delving digits), and not from the other (a fellow human being) if the results should unfortunately end up exactly the same (which may or may not be a bad thing depending on what you are looking for)? Why is one considered so acceptable, and the other not? And more importantly, why can people who profess to want such complete and utter honesty, not come to accept this very fact about themselves and enjoy life for what it is, in its truest most honest and enjoyable of forms? It simply boggles the mind, and I obviously need more Java.
Have fun 
VVVVV They make Condoms, Blood tests and other methods to avoid those potential unpleasantries Chameleontat (and FYI, it's called an STD, not an STI). Perhaps instead of googling the latest "toy" cleansing products, you should invest some time looking into one or two of them. Real men don't need "toys", and neither do real women, leastwise not when a real man is around.
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Posted: 12/29/2006 6:36:12 AM | Toys can be cleaned and don't leave you with things you can't return. Can you say STI's? Ladies, make a guy wait and if he's worth it he will. Remember what I said earlier about pricks/thorns let those let those women have the pricks. Hold out for the real men. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 7:03:53 AM |
Isn't it funny how people toss around words and phrases like "bitter" or "jaded", or "seek professional help" around when they can't come up with a legitmate way to counter a valid, albeit opposing oppinion. Seeing as you were so kind to start your rebuttal with a label, perhaps you out to likewise justify your reasons for applying said label, before your credibility is called into question as well. Of course I digress.
Sure, I'll justify my reasons. I've read quite a few of your posts, and while I appreciate your bluntness (it should happen more often), you seem to have quite a chip on your shoulder. You automatically assume that anyone in a position to ask for advice is somehow "lower" than you, and that your advice (blunt as it is) is the only suggestion that matters. You take very little into account with regards to actual human feelings that differ from yours and are the first to blame every situation on the person asking advice. You may not even realize it, but most of the people you place the blame on seem to be women too. Just a heads up... I'm sure it's an unconcious thing.
Since your opinion on the matter seems to be just to throw caution to the wind and sleep with someone to get your sexual intimacy "needs" out of the way...doesn't that fly in the face of your other "advice" telling people to be careful of who they let into their lives...and running the risk that they'll get themselves into a situation that you'll make light of and blame them for anyway? A tad hypocritical of you, dontcha think?
Then by all means explain to me how does a woman derive a "loving relationship" from a hunk of plastic marked "made in taiwan"? Exactly what "connection" do you make with a cold, vibrating, teflon ball that on it's best day, only comes close to approximating a "heart" by the fact that it contains of pair of batteries marked "duracell" who's only purpose is to mimic the mechanical properties of one.
No one has ever said that anyone has derived a loving relationship from a dildo. It's solely about getting off, and for people who use them, that's enough. Why complicate it by allowing someone into your life, your home and your bed, when you ultimately have no intentions of having to deal with them later, and don't want to invest emotion? At least with the Taiwanese plastic, you don't have to deal with STD's, the chance that they'll want more, and you don't have to talk to it later. Somewhat facetious, I know, but true nonetheless.
Likewise this notion that intimacy, and a loving, caring relationship are a commodity which has been cornered solely by those willing to either refrain from sexual activity or who only invest in sexual activity with inanimate objects or via manual manipulation, and are inherently somehow better, more honorable beings for choosing to do so, is equally ridiculous and unfounded. As I have suggested earlier, what makes this particular flavor more meaningful and profound, and thus any more appealing than any other?
I didn't say that, and neither have most of the people here. However, it does make a person more trustworthy IMO. If you know that the person you are with has been with a large number of sexual partners, it makes you wonder if there is something wrong with them that he/she could not find someone compatible despite having a large number of relationships. It's also a question as to whether or not you're being played or if that person can be trusted...ie. Did he say the same things to them to get them to sleep with him? It also raises the question as to whether or not physical gratification is more important to the person than having an actual loving relationship where sex is not the only important part.
For instance, I dated a man who had cheated on the "love of his life". When I found out, it completely ruined it for me, and I pulled away from him immediately. If sex is that important to him that he'll hurt the "only woman he's ever loved" in order to get off then what kind of a chance would I stand with having a meaningful relationship with him? If he could jump from one bed to another to another, then really, he's not going to invest as much emotionally into the relationship as I would... and one sided relationships never work.
Why is one considered so acceptable, and the other not?
Because, in a lot of cases, those people who jump from sexual partner to sexual partner have self-esteem and other issues...and are seen as damaged. People who have a healthy self-esteem and who sleep with whoever, whenever are few and far between. Add in the fact that most men desire virginal, "less-used" women and hold them up as shining examples, it forces these women into "hiding", in a sense, and it's better to keep it to yourself. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 7:52:17 AM |
Real men don't need "toys", and neither do real women, leastwise not when a real man is around.
I agree.
The problem is finding a real man. | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/29/2006 7:57:39 AM |
Real men don't need "toys", and neither do real women, leastwise not when a real man is around.
Real men have the palm sisters. 
Come on folks. If it was wasn't for the primal instincts to propagate (sex) ... men would never come near the women. Of course we are all looking for sex .. here .. there .. everywhere. | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/29/2006 8:01:42 AM | At least with the Taiwanese plastic, you don't have to deal with STD's, the chance that they'll want more, and you don't have to talk to it later.
I was laboring under the impression that most us wanted more than a quickie or a one-nighter and preferred a little conversation afterwards. Isn’t that point?
If you know that the person you are with has been with a large number of sexual partners, it makes you wonder if there is something wrong with them that he/she could not find someone compatible despite having a large number of relationships.
Doesn’t the opposite apply to people who have had few partners? Particularly people who have demonstrated an attachment to inorganic matter? Doesn’t it mean they are frigid? Detached? Afraid of human contact? Unable to form attachments to other people? Unwilling to “invest emotion”? This seem introverted and reclusive to me.
It also raises the question as to whether or not physical gratification is more important to the person than having an actual loving relationship where sex is not the only important part.
Coming from someone who is advocating indiscriminate use of inanimate objects shaped like sea mammals for sexual gratification, this is too funny. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 9:00:13 AM |
I was laboring under the impression that most us wanted more than a quickie or a one-nighter and preferred a little conversation afterwards. Isn’t that point?
Completely different point. We're not talking about people who want relationships, we're talking about people who simply want sexual gratification and nothing more. It's less complicated to have a dildo than to jump into bed with a different person every time an urge strikes. BTW, it can be more sexually satisfying for a woman (men too) to give herself multiple orgasms and if that's what she wants, who cares how she gets it?
Doesn’t the opposite apply to people who have had few partners? Particularly people who have demonstrated an attachment to inorganic matter? Doesn’t it mean they are frigid? Detached? Afraid of human contact? Unable to form attachments to other people? Unwilling to “invest emotion”? This seem introverted and reclusive to me.
Only if you want to see it that way. You are entitled to your opinion of course. I could argue that people who do not give their emotions easily are more likely to have long-lasting, stronger relationships than people who run from person to person. However, complaining about people who simply want sexual needs satisfied, and who want to do it their own way is kind of silly really. I really don't care if someone uses a dildo, vegetable, whatever to get off, and....unless I'm in a relationship with a person, I don't care how many people they sleep with and the details.
I'm not into people who can turn their emotions off and on at will depending on the amount of clothing the person in front of them is wearing. And neither are most women.
Coming from someone who is advocating indiscriminate use of inanimate objects shaped like sea mammals for sexual gratification, this is too funny.
Come again? How is choosing a life partner based on ability to trust and to know that you're not just the next in a long list of conquests even remotely the same as sexual satisfying yourself? Just because you may be looking for the one, doesn't mean that you don't get as horny as hell sometimes. So why do it with a random person (and have all the complications that go along with it) when you can have an orgasm, take out the batteries and go to sleep?
Sheesh, and men I know are always saying that women make everything too complicated when it comes to sex. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 9:34:54 AM | Well Brandiw I had this nice rebuttal to your earlier post almost ready to go when I lost power and lost it, so I ain't gonna bother retyping it all again. Suffice to say you made alot of assumptions, and rather than waste everyones time addressing them here, you are free to email me if you care to discuss it further. Nuff said about that.
ompletely different point. We're not talking about people who want relationships, we're talking about people who simply want sexual gratification and nothing more.
Seems to me that is what you Brandi, and some others are talking about but that isn't at all what this thread was started to discuss. It sure as hell isn't what I am talking about The original thread went like this:
are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Well seems like u cant have a decent conversation with anyone, it seems like all the guys on here think about is sex. Im sure there are decent guys, but so far no luck with it.
A topic is titled and a questioned posed. The original post sadly is nothing more than a "woe is me" rant, but at least it starts the ball rolling. Now how exactly does that Topic header and following comment lead you to your supposition that just because someone is on here looking for sex, that naturally that is all they are in fact looking for, gratification and nothing more?
It's less complicated to have a dildo than to jump into bed with a different person every time an urge strikes. BTW, it can be more sexually satisfying for a woman (men too) to give herself multiple orgasms and if that's what she wants, who cares how she gets it?
Not sure what the relevence of this information is, other than a reason to offer you my sympathies that apparently a hunk of plastic is required for you to enjoy multiple orgasms. That's a pity, but hardly on topic.
I could argue that people who do not give their emotions easily are more likely to have long-lasting, stronger relationships than people who run from person to person.
It could also be argued that people who beleive as you do, inherently find themselve alone more frequently and in need of extracircular appliances. You have been doing it your way for a while now, my question would be, if it's working so well for you, why are you not by now involved in one of these miraculous "long lasting" relationships. I don't claim my way is perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but hey I am not single and for the time being anyways you are. So who's method is working better?
Likewise, I could argue that people who do not give their emotions easily are more likely to be emotionally unavailable or commitmentphobes, and as such are just as incapable of having a a long-lasting, strong relationship, and as such run from person to person. Both are our personal oppinions, and both equally valid until proven otherwise by personal experience.
Likewise, I could argue that people who do not give their emotions easily are not any more likely to have long-lasting, stronger relationships than others for the simple reason that it takes two to have a relationship, and while you can comprehend your own personal set of variables, you cannot begin to presume to know all the variable your partner might take into consideration. To resume otherswise is a fools errand. So in essence, it's a crapshoot either way. The difference being, while you gain intimate knowledge of a hunk of plastic as you come to that pentultimate decision, I and those like me instead gain intimate knowledge of the person I am contemplating being with to begin with, and find it ultimately more enjoyable and thus satisfying.
The point being, that both Men and Women are here looking for Sex. If they weren't then for heavens sake why would men and women have any desire whatsoever to be in each others company? As Arry suggested, and I concur:
If it was wasn't for the primal instincts to propagate (sex) ... men would never come near the women. Of course we are all looking for sex .. here .. there .. everywhere.
If you want companionship, adopt a pet, you don't need a partner for that. If you want intimate, human, unconditional love, adopt a child, you don't need a partner for that. If on the other hand you want intimate unconditional sex you can either take matters into your own hand as some prefer, or you can find another consenting adult who shares your way of thinking, and go at it. If it becomes something more, and that is what you are looking for, that is all icing on the cake. The bottom line is, all the rules and theories, posturing, propaganda, and pissing and moaning in the world don't change what it is, it's Sex.
Have fun
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 12/29/2006 10:02:53 AM | As I interpret the thread headline and the OP’s original comment (“...it seems like all the guys on here think about is sex”), the topic of thread is not whether or not people want relationships (because we all do - to varying degrees, intensity and purpose), but rather that men are more focused on sex than women. We are quicker to get to the point (that point anyway). I agree that it’s easier and less complex to satisfy yourself than it is to find a partner to share the experience with. Sure it’s quicker, cleaner and less likely to lead to emotional complications. But that’s just it, it’s less human. By your own admission, even a one-night stand incorporates emotion. Believe it or not, this is true for men as well as women. Nobody - excepting perhaps psychopaths - sleeps with someone and comes away feeling absolutely nothing. That’s not real life. And I have to assume that YOU would not sleep with someone there wasn’t some attraction to, some shared bond. But by resorting to alternate means, you’re avoiding interaction, intimacy, FEELING. I fail to see how a mechanical, masturbatory experience makes a person any warmer, wiser, more knowledgeable or more compassionate; or how it enriches your life in any meaningful way. I hear you saying, “why bother trying to find a relationship unless I know it’s going to be everything I want it to be.” That seems very defeatist to me. I can say that my life has been richer, more meaningful and more fully experienced for EVERY relationship I have had, despite the fact that some of them were very short, or not intended to be LTRs. Even those relationships that ended quickly or ended poorly enhanced my understanding and humanity. That can never be said about your relationship with your dolphin.
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Posted: 12/29/2006 10:25:18 AM | | Thorn get your pompous ass off your high horse and leave the lady be. All she said is that women should not give it up so quickly and if they need the sexual pleasure they should buy a toy and your the one that turned it into a circus. Your just to full of yourself to see it. I agree with her and I personally do not want a relationship with a woman that hands out sex like it were M&M's and should be shared freely with any or all. If this thinking is effecting your score card then so be it. As for the toys I don't need or use them but would rather see someone use them than spread disease. Just so you know it can be STI also Sexually Transmitted Infections look it up. Some sexually transmitted infections are not classified as disease but all disease is classified as an infection. As for condoms they may help but if you bothered to read instead of attempting to cram your opinions down others throats you would know they are not a cure all. When is the last time before having sex you asked to see the partners last medical examination records. Keeping sexual activity between two committed individuals who practice moral ethics is far safer than any condom. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 10:31:27 AM | Of course we are,,but not until she's done knitting that sweater for me,,,,,.So by date no#2 she had better get the hint and buy me one,,,,img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_204.gif border=0>  | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 10:33:08 AM | I agree with you Branlynn - the only guys I have met on here so far are only intersted in a one night stand. As long as they get what they want they are not interested in getting involved with a woman, suppose they are just too SCARED of us.
Would be nice to think that someone on this site will take our searching seriously and commit to either meeting, or sending a pic with a view to maybe going further than just a quick one night fumble. But I won't hold my breath.
Come on guys - prove us girls wrong if you dare.
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Posted: 12/29/2006 10:39:24 AM | Yes. Men are always interested in sex. It is our nature. God made us this way for a reason. Personally, I don't think about sex all of the time. I stop for a few minutes each day to think about food, and perhaps fishing. Some of us are even mature enough to realize that there is much more to women than their ability to have sex with us, and look for some of their other redeeming qualities when seeking a relationship. A woman going fishing with me and not complaining the whole time ranks right up there with sex, but I always fear I will have to reciprocate with an equal amount of time at the shopping mall, or worse, with her family (that is unless she has a brother or dad to go fishing with). Yes, men like sex. The trick is to find one willing to live with out it, or who has more than a one night stand in mind.
A quickie for you, pardon the pun: Three men went fishing one weekend. The first one complains "You would not believe what I had to do to get away for the weekend. My wife made me mow the lawn, clean the gutters, and wash both cars before she would let me go!"
The second one chimes in "I know exactly what you mean. I had to paint the house!" They looked expectantly at the third man, who said "Oh, no problem. I set the alarm for 5:00 AM and woke up my wife and asked her: Fishing, or sex?" | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 10:54:02 AM | Decemberman,
Oh that is TOO funny!
Thank you for an answer to the original question that actually makes SENSE and didn't mention sex toys . I love it.
I have no redeeming qualities and am 3 yrs older than your age restriction, but by golly I am SO DAMN GLAD to find out that there is at least one mature adult male in THIS country who hasn't lost most of the sense the Good Lord gave him.
You don't by any chance have any older single brothers in Michigan ,do you??
Cindy O
PS I don't mean to imply that other mature male forum posters are of insufficient sense,but this guy really hit the nail smack on the head, IMHO. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 10:59:53 AM |
Thorn get your pompous ass off your high horse and leave the lady be.
Sticks and stones Karma Chameleon, sticks and stones. If you want to play Don Quixote to impress the ladies instead of swallowing helpless reptiles, find some other windmill to tilt with, as I have stated before I won't give you that satisfaction.
All she said is that women should not give it up so quickly and if they need the sexual pleasure they should buy a toy and your the one that turned it into a circus. Your just to full of yourself to see it.
Circus? Like with clowns and stuff? Listen I don't need to hear what is required for your personal mental masterbation and home jack off contingent. And if you want to continue with some personally targeted diatribe by all means take it to email where it belongs. I never questioned how the Lady, or apparently you, go the "job done" by taking it into your own hands, what I questioned was the presumption that your way of going about things was somehow ludicrously more "noble". Which I personally think is Horse hockey, or did you miss that point regardless of how many times it was reiterated? If you want to take matter into your own hands on a routine basis, by all means have at it, but don't for one iota presume your way is by its nature the only or best way. Sheesh talk about bloody high horses! Mr. Kettle meet Mr. bloody Pot!
I agree with her and I personally do not want a relationship with a woman that hands out sex like it were M&M's and should be shared freely with any or all. If this thinking is effecting your score card then so be it.
My scorecard? Um sorry but which one of the two of us is presently in a healthy monogamous relationship, and which is the one apparently online shopping for new methods of self gratification, and googling Sexually transmitted Disease information? Me or you?
As for the toys I don't need or use them but would rather see someone use them than spread disease. Just so you know it can be STI also Sexually Transmitted Infections look it up. Some sexually transmitted infections are not classified as disease but all disease is classified as an infection. .
As someone who doesn't purport to need them you apparently know a helluva lot about them don't you. Likewise I have never had the necessity to become intimately up to date with my knowledge of sexual disease or infection, as you apparently have, because when I do choose to sleep with someone I choose very very carefully, and very wisely. I know what to ask, when to ask, and how to ask to garner the information I require in making such a choice.
It would occur to me that someone who is apparently so overtly concerned about such matters, as to be up on the letter of the law regarding every nuance of such, must inherently be more prone to the risky behavior that leads to such, or have existing personal experience with such, otherwise on might call to question why you have cause to know so much about it to begin with.
As for condoms they may help but if you bothered to read instead of attempting to cram your opinions down others throats you would know they are not a cure all
I am sorry was there some elaborate, detailed disertation on disease prevention measures in this thread? Care to quote it? As for cramming of my oppinions, all I can say is I am incredibly flattered that you think my words have such incredible impact and meeting that people should feel compelled to lodge them in thier esophagae. Here I thought they were just my personal oppinions and observations and people were free to take them or leave them. Woulda thunk huh?
When is the last time before having sex you asked to see the partners last medical examination records. Keeping sexual activity between two committed individuals who practice moral ethics is far safer than any condom.
Let me clue you in on something mate, I always ask, but then I don't always have to see, because as a rule of thumb, I won't sleep with people I don't trust. Hell I won't give the time of day to someone I don't trust. Its called by some common sense, and it doesn't require a Phd in bloody Philosophy or Bible study to posess such.
Keeping sexual activity between two commiteed individuals? Committed to what? Committed an idea, to a hope? People don't change their minds right? Every single relationship you have ever had in your life that became sexually intimate at some point only ended because of the untimely demise of your significant other right? What difference does it make if the intimacy ends in a week or in 10 years? The intimacy is gone, and you are once again left holding your pecker in your hand looking for the next person to"commit" to. Who are you trying to kid? There is no guarantee. There is never anything more than just hope, I don't care how you go about it, there simply are no guarantees. So to presume your way is any better, or any more relevent than anyone elses, is pure and unadulterated BS, whether you can handle that truth or not. Good luck with that, me, I am done here.
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Posted: 12/29/2006 11:11:00 AM | yup...
no offense guys but my male friend says...majority think with their um...u know little head wiff no brains.....lmao...an how true it is for many. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 11:14:40 AM | We all are looking for intimacy with the right person. The problem is, many of my species has a one track mind. The art of conversation is lost to many due to the overwhelming desire to launch ones heat seeking moisture missle. :P
Come on guys. Get real. Open up and actually care. All a woman wants is to know you can share your feelings and actually care about her as a person, not a sex object. Try it. You just might like it. JMO
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Posted: 12/29/2006 11:18:25 AM | Well seems like u cant have a decent conversation with anyone, it seems like all the guys on here think about is sex. Im sure there are decent guys, but so far no luck with it.
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not true i personally feel its all bout how you interact with ur conversations. what do you inituate or what do you allow in your conversations. i always have great conversations with some guys...its up to me what i accept. so right off the start i make it clear...keep the conversation clean...if your wanting cyber talk..go else where...many will respect me an keep it clean. i give them the choice and i stand by my beliefs. i've had female friends say to me...hes such a pig....hmm...looking at their conversation with the corner of my eye....it was her responses that said it all. we only get whats coming to us...by how we react or responde. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 11:25:08 AM | Just so you know it can be STI also Sexually Transmitted Infections look it up. Some sexually transmitted infections are not classified as disease but all disease is classified as an infection. As for condoms they may help but if you bothered to read instead of attempting to cram your opinions down others throats you would know they are not a cure all. When is the last time before having sex you asked to see the partners last medical examination records. Keeping sexual activity between two committed individuals who practice moral ethics is far safer than any condom.
here speaks a man who knows what he's talking about. I am sorry Thorn but condoms do not protect you against HPV. This may not have much effect on you as a man except to do nasty things to your genitals but for a woman it has far reaching effects. HPV is the leading cause for cancer of the cervix. It can be a death sentence for a woman. It isn't a disease...ie. STD...it is an STI and just genital contact can cause it. Education is a wonderful thing. There is a campaign about this at the moment called "tell someone" to encourage us all to tell each other and especially our daughters to get vaccinated against the common HPV's that cause cancer.
As someone who doesn't purport to need them you apparently know a helluva lot about them don't you. Likewise I have never had the necessity to become intimately up to date with my knowledge of sexual disease or infection, as you apparently have, because when I do choose to sleep with someone I choose very very carefully, and very wisely. I know what to ask, when to ask, and how to ask to garner the information I require in making such a choice.
Since they estimate that 75% of the sexually active population comes in contact with this infection at some point in their lives, it doesn't matter how careful you are, if the person you are with has slept with one person before you then they may have come in contact with it. And it can lay dormant for years. Its nothing to do with being a player or a slut. Its a common human infection. If you have kids who are sexually active then you need to get educated and talk to them about this.
P.S. Thorn...for the record. I do not appreciate private emails telling me I am full of BS and righteous indignation. And making out that I must have the STI if I am talking about it. The fact that I educate myself because I care about my daughters does not make me a pariah. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 11:39:39 AM |
"I can get SEX whenever....but a meaningful relationship .... much more difficult"
This statement from funlovingscorpio is the TRUTH! I believe as well, some of the Men on here are looking for sex and so are Women. Not that there is anything wrong with that  ....However some of us "Women" are not. Which can be a little bothersome!
So, I say those who are looking for sex try to find those women who are on the same page as yourself... It's that simply! Or is it?
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Posted: 12/29/2006 1:19:21 PM |
Well Brandiw I had this nice rebuttal to your earlier post almost ready to go when I lost power and lost it, so I ain't gonna bother retyping it all again.
Uh huh.
Suffice to say you made alot of assumptions, and rather than waste everyones time addressing them here, you are free to email me if you care to discuss it further. Nuff said about that.
I've made no assumptions about you...your last 25 and your older posts speak for themselves. So I guess that would be the real "nuff said". :)
A topic is titled and a questioned posed. The original post sadly is nothing more than a "woe is me" rant, but at least it starts the ball rolling. Now how exactly does that Topic header and following comment lead you to your supposition that just because someone is on here looking for sex, that naturally that is all they are in fact looking for, gratification and nothing more?
It's quite simple Thorn. If people (men in this case) are messaging people with the sole purpose of soliciting sex...or at the very least to talk about it to the point that no other conversation is possible then they are indeed looking for sex and only sex here n'est-ce pas?
Not sure what the relevence of this information is, other than a reason to offer you my sympathies that apparently a hunk of plastic is required for you to enjoy multiple orgasms. That's a pity, but hardly on topic.
Tsk, tsk. I didn't realize reaching and vague insults were a debating skill. I simply meant that for SOME women (I'll leave myself out of it because frankly, it's none of your business), it's preferable to use a vibrator and dildo depending on what they want at the time. Why wait for a guy to get off work, come over, etc. if you just want an orgasm? Besides, masturbation can often lead to quicker and more satisfying orgasms.
It could also be argued that people who beleive as you do, inherently find themselve alone more frequently and in need of extracircular appliances. You have been doing it your way for a while now, my question would be, if it's working so well for you, why are you not by now involved in one of these miraculous "long lasting" relationships. I don't claim my way is perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but hey I am not single and for the time being anyways you are. So who's method is working better?
And again with the insults...
Thorn, unlike you I don't believe that I need an LTR to complete me. Sure, it'd be nice, but I'm hardly going to grasp on to some poor shmuck that I have no feelings for so that I can have a pissing contest with some guy online. What's next, are we going to pull out IQ scores or tax returns?
And as for my situation, I devoted myself to being a good parent to two little girls who have a father who doesn't care about them, except to invent ways to use them to get back at me for not giving him another chance. Since I chose to have those children, I put them first...which is how is should be.I've minimized the damage as much as I possibly can, and since the judge has ordered my ex to actually take the kids or have his visitation revoked, I have more time to go out and socialize....time I didn't have for the last 6 years. As well, I believe it's telling that out of the relationships I've had, I'VE ended them and I'm pretty good friends with most of the guys I've even gone out with. As a matter of fact, I've introduced some of them to their wives and I'm friends with the wives too.
Likewise, I could argue that people who do not give their emotions easily are not any more likely to have long-lasting, stronger relationships than others for the simple reason that it takes two to have a relationship, and while you can comprehend your own personal set of variables, you cannot begin to presume to know all the variable your partner might take into consideration. To resume otherswise is a fools errand. So in essence, it's a crapshoot either way.
Ah, there we agree. That would be the reason I'm single now. But who would be more likely to have the type of solid LTR that many of us here purport to look for.....the ones who wait around, take their time and make sure they want to be with the other person...or the ones who bed hop and mistake sexual attraction for affection and basis for a relationship that will most likely end in a few months?
If on the other hand you want intimate unconditional sex you can either take matters into your own hand as some prefer, or you can find another consenting adult who shares your way of thinking, and go at it.
Now you say that, but what was it with all the snark and the intimating that there's something psychologically "off" about someone preferring to take matters into their own hands.....or hand I guess. :)
For some, that piece of plastic is a means for sexual pleasure...nothing more, nothing less. There's nothing nefarious about it for most people...they do not suddenly believe that they are having a relationship with an inanimate object, nor that it's comparable to human relationships in any way. BUT, it is preferable to some women to to masturbate outside of a relationship than to hook up for the sake of hooking up. And if you have a potential partner, it may be preferable to letting down your guard and trusting someone you don't really know yet. Trusting your partner usually leads to better sex.
Add to that the fact that a person you may be interested in down the road may not be so happy about your vast experience... well, it's a good idea for most people.
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Posted: 12/29/2006 1:41:13 PM | I'm not particularly a FAN of auto-eroticism, but it's been my observation that no vibrator has EVER left a lady's telephone number on a men's room wall, under the heading," For a Good time call..."
Or whined " but you f*cked my buddy a couple of weeks ago" ( Trust me, telling the guy "Dude, your BUDDY was a stud muffin, you AIN'T" is NOT what he wants to hear. Lucky he was little enough that he knew I could whip him in a fair fight LOL)
Cindy O
and maybe the above story is true, or maybe I just made it up... | |
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