| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 1/1/2007 7:47:38 PM | | no some of us aren't. some of us truly would like a relationship with a pretty woman that they can trust, and that isn't out to see what she can take him for. On the guys point of view I have never seen so many scamming women in my life. They dont even live in the same state or country that they say they do. You dont start anything off with lies. You think you just met someone nice near you and then you find out they are in Ghana. And whats up with all these incredibly beautiful women on these sites. They could have any guy they want and they are needing a relationship? Are yall that picky? | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 1/1/2007 8:18:01 PM |
no some of us aren't. some of us truly would like a relationship with a pretty woman that they can trust, and that isn't out to see what she can take him for. On the guys point of view I have never seen so many scamming women in my life. They dont even live in the same state or country that they say they do. You dont start anything off with lies. You think you just met someone nice near you and then you find out they are in Ghana. And whats up with all these incredibly beautiful women on these sites. They could have any guy they want and they are needing a relationship? Are yall that picky?
GHANA is a country in Africa just east of Nigeria... Both countries are hot beds of internet scamming ....
Those are NOT women in GHANA but actually men contacting men and pretending to be women.
They will ask for money .... and will try and get your personal email address. | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 1/1/2007 9:46:40 PM | hello ladies,,,,wake up,,,,,LOL
we are not all about just sex. it does play an important role in an established relationship,,but it shouldnt be the focal point.
and i believe it should not be the topic of a first date!!
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Posted: 1/4/2007 8:23:43 PM | | i personally think...its a cover up for what they really want ...they want passion ...affection...an more.....they desire it...just like we do. | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 1/4/2007 8:33:40 PM | I've been on this site longer than most people and I'm sure I've talked to thousands of men....and EXTREMELY FEW men have even mentioned sex to me.
Probably less than 1% of the men I talk with have been rude or vulgar. Most are very polite.
The rude ones don't bother me though, I just roll my eyes and shake my head as I delete them. No biggie (no pun intended). | |
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Posted: 1/4/2007 9:25:11 PM | Thorn Thorn Thorn--do you not read all the details- or just some minor ones to try to prove a point- an incomplete one at that. I had clearly indicated that intimacy is important, and yes dear...I am open to what may come of intimate encounters.. No toy compares to that. I'm going to try to put this in the most simple terms I can...I was suggesting that jumping into bed too soon is not likely to give anyone the intimacy they are looking for and that is what people should hold out for. If you just need to get off - yet your looking for something serious- save it for him. In the meanwhile enjoy a little electronic intimacy.
And save the big one for someone you can have something great with- whether it be for the season, or the lifetime....nothing compares to that kind of intimacy. I think I understand why you get so heated about the whole toy issue and my take on that is again...nothing compares to a sensual, loving, man who can be your best friend. I hope I put that tactfully enough- because I am in no way meaning it in a derogatory way. Negative energy produces negative sparks...smiles! | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 1/5/2007 8:25:42 AM |
97% of all guys are just looking for sex, and they will mimic being the nice guy to get it. The other 3% are comatose. ...too many hits to the head here..keep playing with your rockem' sockem's buddy....
I think kookies has it right
they want passion ...affection...an more.....they desire it...just like we do.
Any relationship takes work and patience, and if you are afraid to put in the effort, then whatever you receive will be temporary, so the sex part happens after time, understanding, trust, and love...a solid base to grow a relationship on. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2007 9:40:25 AM | | Guys think sex when they see pictures of women on here posing sexily. And a percentage of women on here (maybe misguidedly) put those pictures on profile. These women then say no correspondence with men who are looking for sexual encounters??? Wise up ladies! | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 1/5/2007 9:55:20 AM | | Is there a guy anywhere on the planet (let alone 'on here') that isn't thinking about sex? Even decent guys are supposed to have healthy testosterone levels. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2007 10:00:34 AM | Any relationship takes work and patience, and if you are afraid to put in the effort, then whatever you receive will be temporary, so the sex part happens after time, understanding, trust, and love...a solid base to grow a relationship on.
i totally agree....its bout the time an effort we provide to making this foundation.
Is there a guy anywhere on the planet (let alone 'on here') that isn't thinking about sex? Even decent guys are supposed to have healthy testosterone levels.
^^^ no one said they couldnt think bout sex....who desont..lol..or have desires for it. i personally feel its a turn off when one jumps to the topic of sex right off the start. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2007 10:10:34 AM | Of COURSE men think about sex....don't YOU? If it wasn't for sex, there wouldn't be a human race in the first place. I think your question might be; Is that ALL men want? In some cases I could ask; Is that all WOMEN want?
Well, maybe some people, but I personally think that most people are hoping for a sexual "relationship" that includes a whole lot more than just sex.
If all you wanted was sex, why waste your time here? There are many "working" people willing to accomodate someone with that kind of morals. Personally, I've never been that desperate.
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Posted: 1/5/2007 10:13:53 AM | yes i think about sex all the time. and yes i'm looking for sex. i aint been laid in years. aint found the right one who likes to wrestle and rough sex. but there are girls who are looking for sex as well, they just don't always say it up front. on the other hand, i'm not rude and don't get into dirty talk. and i do enjoy good conversation and good hugs. there, i've said it upfront. any questions?
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Posted: 1/5/2007 10:52:40 AM | Do you feel that intimacy is part of normal persons life ? Yes
How often do you feel is normal and healthy ? Two to three times a week .
Do you think that the absence of intamacy creates frustration, aggression and situational depression ?. -------------------------Yes definately.
What are your answers and opinions ?  | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 1/5/2007 10:57:07 AM | | Their are essentially three types of guys... 1. Those that want to jump your bones at the earliest opportunitiy. 2. Those that want to jump your bones but are afraid to do it staight away for fear of scaring you off, so they put on a nice guy act for some time until they feel you will accept their offer.. and 3. Those that have been neutered. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2007 11:41:50 AM | are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted By: nightcowboy
... I'm looking for love more then sex but 70% of the women I met or talked too just play games and waste my time. They CLAIM they want a relationship but barely make an effort and it takes forever to "get to know each other" My profile says I want the same thing 95% of the women in POF do and I get alot of messages but many just talk then later feeling its not going anywhere get bored and move on.
Posted By: babsbunny279(d1069769)
... when I meet a good looking man I think about what it would be like to sleep with him but my main focus is, is he a nice person, is he someone that I would like to get to know, can I have a relationship with this man.
I don't want to write a novel, so I'll try to keep this short...
Sure, no matter where you go, there's people looking for the "one thing". But there's also people looking for relationships mixed into that population too. While it's true that men looking for just sex will spam every woman on the site with a "Hi, do you wanna have fun?" email, women often fool themselves into thinking they do not bring sex into the equation as well.
As Babs pointed out, one thing that DOES cross her mind is what it would be like to sleep with a him. EVERBODY does this, whether consciously or sub-consciously.
When you get the unread/deleted message - it's because they've probably already decided from your pic that you are "unkissable" (never mind anything further), as in "Ugh, I could never kiss THAT face". If your pic and profile "pass", it may be on to the first date.
You were kissable, she now wants to see if are you a nice person, are you someone that she would like to get to know, can she have a relationship with you, is there any "chemistry" (does she find you sexy). You only have that first date to convince her how wonderful, fun, and "sexy" you are. If she found you're unexciting and can't picture herself having sex with you, it's game over. It doesn't matter, if you're a "great guy", have lots going for you, are fun etc. She'll still like you for your good qualities, but "not that way" and you'll be relegated to the "just friends" list.
Posted By: jamessh
Men want to have sex and fall in love. Women want to fall in love and have sex. There isn't much reason other than that for men and women to talk to each other. ...Anyone who wants to talk to the opposite sex is looking for sex. We're just arguing about the order. And that's no lie. Anyone who isn't looking for sex is dead...
jamessh covers it quite well. While I'm not one of "those guys", I'm not dead either.
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Posted: 1/5/2007 7:06:36 PM | I'm one guy not really looking for sex, but actually looking for a full fledged relationship.
I'll discuss, politics, your favorite book, movie, museum exhibit, music, favorite aspects of your job, what makes your home life tick. If you want to teach me a good trick to solving crossword puzzles, or Sudoku, or play good game of something, I'm game. If you want remorse, I'll say "I'm sorry to hear that" a thousand times till Sunday. Tell me what makes you feel funny inside, and I'll oblige. No sex is something left for last when I know you are as trustworthy with me about your life as I can expect you to be. Until I get to know you, I'm not even going to consider sex and only if you bring it up will I seriously consider it. With laws about sexual harassment being what they are, the men are at a disadvantage if they try to be too forward. So I won't broach the subject unless asked. | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 1/8/2007 5:44:38 PM | Such shallow thoughts...think about the other rather than yourself...sex would be an added bonus to the consiquence of dating another....provided both agree
Guys think sex when they see pictures of women on here posing sexily. And a percentage of women on here (maybe misguidedly) put those pictures on profile.
Im wondering what kind of fish they are looking for...I already know the bait they are casting...
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Posted: 1/8/2007 6:00:32 PM | Not me . Don't get me wrong sex is part of a relationship but it doesn't have to be intimate right away get to know someone first and foremost before getting intimate so the realtionship will last longer sometimes. Trust me I have had it on first dates but then it never works out in long run. I am in the middle of a divorce right now I am not looking for a one-night stand I am looking for someone who can understand me be with me no matter what the situation I am in and someone with the biggest heart. I am talking to someone on here with a big heart and is very pretty also in my heart. I always walk wioth my heart first so I know I will be a good man.  | |
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Posted: 1/8/2007 6:26:29 PM | Hi, most people love me and hate me for the same reason, I tell it like I see it. A true friend tells you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear, so if you were legitimately seeking an answer to your question, here is my opinion on the topic.
Your profile first says, your looking for friends. Then when you click on your profile, it says your seeing "other relationship"
You have yet to define that.
People treat you, how you allow them too. Im guessing the men you are basing your initial question to, gave you more then one sign, that was their bottom line.
They typically come right out and ask you questions such as, bra size, do you give head etc
And you trying to give them the benefit of the doubt, do the lol thing and play coy..... any decent self respecting woman would immediately pick someone else to converse with.
Your profile also has several things in it, that give any player online, the ammo he needs to tell you what you want to hear......
All while he is "working" you , hoping to get laid.
And if it didnt work for him before (and plenty of men like him ) he wouldnt be doing it again, this time with you as his audience.
You are young, there are plenty of real men out there, you just have to wait for the right one to come along, get out, in real life, quit waiting for the knight in shining armour to come in an email......
And, I would change your profile, leave some things to the imagination.
Don't give a man the ways to play you, and you wont get played.
Good luck in your quest--Nikki | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 1/8/2007 6:39:06 PM | | The way I see it is the over 40 bunch (females) are using sex like a tool. I can take it or leave it after many-many long term relationships but what I see in here is even the very unattractive women have their secret tool. Men aren't as shallow as most of you may believe. | |
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| are all the guys on here looking for sex?
Posted: 1/8/2007 6:51:54 PM | Mythy1, with all due respect, I have to counter your comment;
Some of us, even though we are in fact old bags over 40, or 50, even, have more self respect than to run to a man's house and hop into bed with him after 3 emails...if that's your interpretation of "using sex like a tool" well then yeah, what else are we supposed to do? Become free sluts because we're over 40? I do not think it's unreasonable to want to meet a guy a few times, and feel like I'm respected and valued as a person, before becoming intimate. If that's using sex as a tool, just call me Ms Black&Decker!
Cindy O | |
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