| DO AMERICAN WOMEN THINK LATINOS ARE NOT IDEAL COMPANION??
Posted: 10/8/2008 9:58:12 PM | Rare- the vast majority of American Women are peeved off at Latino men because of the rampant amount of illegal aliens from Mexico, Central & South America running across our borders pretty much at will. For about 98% of American Women, you have ZERO chance because they think Latinos are just looking to get their Green Card via Marriage.
Other than that, ceasing to type in all-caps would probably work wonders for you. | |
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| DO AMERICAN WOMEN THINK LATINOS ARE NOT IDEAL COMPANION??
Posted: 10/9/2008 8:21:28 AM | my mother is cuban...my father is american........at the ripe old age of 14-15, i asked my mom why she married an american man instead of a cuban man ?? (btw, my mother has been in the USA since she was two years old.......so she didn't need a green card) and her answer was......... "because hispanic men like to keep their wives at home and their girl friends on the side........and wasn't going to put up with that crap......" They met in November, got engaged in December, married in January and they will be celebrating their 61th anniversary this coming Jan........... and they are still like teen agers. (we should all be sooooo blesssed! ) 
now, that being said.............i still think hispanic men are HOT..........HOT..............HOT........... but i would still be very wary and on the look out for tell tale signs of cheating......and if he did......... he would be out the door.......NEXT !!!
Happy fishing y'all. 
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| DO AMERICAN WOMEN THINK LATINOS ARE NOT IDEAL COMPANION??
Posted: 10/9/2008 10:09:30 AM | there is just one thing I hate more than anything else in this world - for someone to tell me that I do not like them because of their race...I have never said to anyone, so u dont like me because I am polock? Ignorance is blessed in this world and we have allowed it to happen... So what if I prefer to date only within my race - Its my choice, and that is what my Grandfather fought for and my father so that i have a choice...its called AMERICA people. But now i have gotten off track...thanks for letting me rant a little... | |
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| DO AMERICAN WOMEN THINK LATINOS ARE NOT IDEAL COMPANION??
Posted: 10/11/2008 1:14:28 PM | I wasn't going to answer until Big Shrek pissed me off with that illegal alien BS. I dated a Brazilian who was illegal for six months. In that time he was put in detention by Immigration up in NJ. His friends rallied and came up with the 8 grand needed to bail him out....he then later went home on his own. He'd been here four years, working his ass off to send money to his family. He wasn't taking any jobs from Americans (my ex husband worked construction and went through workers like no tomorrow, we couldn't keep them on the job). He worked longer hours than most for lesser pay than most. He once told me "Americans want a lot of money but they don't want to work hard for it."
Most of his friends have gone back to brazil as well because there simply is no more work here...construction is dead pretty much in my state.
But am I mad at illegals. HELL NO. So do not speak for me Big Shrek. If every illegal in this country got up and left tomorrow we'd collapse further than we already have. And you'd be paying a hell of a lot more money for your produce, and it's already going up as it is. I have absolutely no beef at all with illegals.
Now as for the OP's original question. I dated a Bolivian (legal) guy back in the 90's for four long miserable years, and after him I wouldn't give the time of day to a Latino man as far as dating went. He was abusive and had all that stereotypical machismo. When I met Welder the brazilian, he was different, very sweet, and kind, loving....but he would still get jealous a bit when I was around his friends, he kind of kept me away from them. And I was given advice from a Brazilian guy on here to just let him do his thing, never try to be controlling with him, or smother him, Latino guys didn't like that. And they would run from it. That was difficult for me. However they do value loyalty and honesty which i'm big on.
I recently went on a date with another Latino...a Puerto rican guy who i was really into. But he seemed to want to be controlling in the relationship...and it didn't work out because i'm looking for someone i can see a lot of...not a ''whenever i can get to you'' kind of guy. he was just too busy. But he was a hottie. So I guess my experiences have been mixed. but one thing is for sure. The best damn sex I ever had was with a Latino...and the only man to ever keep up with me on the dance floor was a latino...so would I try a latino agian...yep...definitely. | |
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| DO AMERICAN WOMEN THINK LATINOS ARE NOT IDEAL COMPANION??
Posted: 11/28/2008 4:35:05 PM | LITTLE PHISY OR WHATEVER YOUR NAME IS?? LOL I DIDNT KNOW I WAS ONLY SUPPOSE TO RESPOND TO PEOPLE WHO HAVE RECENTLY WROTE HERE, NO WHERE ON HERE DOES IT SAY THAT LOL THANKS FOR NOTICING ME THOUGH JACKASS!    | |
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| DO AMERICAN WOMEN THINK LATINOS ARE NOT IDEAL COMPANION??
Posted: 11/28/2008 4:41:51 PM | raiderfan18 YOU TELL EM GIRLY! for starters Im latina and I was born in Chicago so noooo I am not an immagrant lol however I totally agree with everything you said in your comment. Without the illegal's busting their ass here we would all fall flat on our asses, true story. People like to hate them but the truth is they are so damn hard working it's ridiculous! | |
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Posted: 12/1/2008 9:46:30 PM | As for me I have noticed that alot of latinos (mexicans)are cheaters, I have dated alot of them hopeing Iget a different kind of guy but it is always the same thing .I noticed that for instance they are machos,and cheaters you have to do things the way they tell you or else...they lie, they beat ,they kill, they stock you if they see that you are not home at a certain time.,Ican keep going and going.I have never met a simple nice guy ...they can Be nice at first but later they will change .....I guess its the way they was brought up in mexico or something....anyways other races might be this way also but I have noticed this only in the race mentioned.Besides this,.. for the immigration thingy they come to america to (help the family) but why is it that everytime I see mexicans they own a car specially trucks with the bad bass system going on and cool clothes wanting to be boricuas (puerto ricans)if they are supose to be helping the families back in mexico??? This is my biggest question and they also have houses they ask for permits to visit someone here in america and they lie and cheat the system on the borders and just stay here for many many years.I know alot of mexicans that do this and i think this is why alot of americans dont want mexicans here in america becouse they bring all of the family here and kids go to school and they never leave ,they bring more and more family here ,until every member of the family is living here and then they buy houses, cars trucks and just stay here forever and never go back .why?why the lies always lies ..so think about it if they lie to immigration and the law ...what makes you think a mexican wont ever lie to you ???Well this is what I ask myself so I dont think I would want to date a mexican guy again to many many bad experiances with that race ...But about other latins (PUERTO RICANS,CUBANS,DOMINICANS)I dont have any problem with them .I would actually love to date one of this race a true latin(hopefully...lol) Personal opinion here .... | |
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Posted: 12/6/2008 8:09:19 AM | It's sad that you think of Mexicans this way. I've met some nice ones, though haven't dated any. Through my ex I met a lot of Brazilians, and even when he left he warned me to stay away from them because they are bad news. LOL. Even he thought he was out of the ordinary as far as treating women went.
I teach school and many Mexican students will pretend they are Puerto Rican for one simple fact, Mexicans have a bad rep here in the states. I tell them never deny who they are and to always be proud. When I hear other students making the ''wetback'' comment (and many have no clue what it means or that it is derogatory) I stop and chastise them and we remind ourselves of all the great things Mexico has brought to US.
Not every Mexican is illegal. And a few years back I met a German guy who was illegal. He was preying on women trying to get one to take him in and marry him. (I didn't fall for it...whew). Anyone can be here illegally. You never know. A lot people come here with Visas and outstay them which is what happened to my ex bf. And illegals are only considered a problem in certain areas. They govt of that city or state will make a huge issue out of it. Not so in my city, as they are pretty visible. My ex was pulled over a few times in Florida and never put in detention. Wasn't until he was visiting friends in NJ that he was. I still talk to him in Brazil, and many of his friends went back. The economy is so bad that even for illegals it is hard for them to find a job, and they are returning home.
But this whole stealing jobs from Americans is crazy. I tend to date men who are foreign specifically Indian men...who are here legally on visa. And they make a lot of money here. I've met many more legal immigrant workers than illegal. They are making lots of money here, and many are planning to live back in India, not US. Some however hope to eventually gain citizenship. But because they are educated, intelligent, and doing high paying jobs, it seems like Americans are ok with that. And in the meantime we treat Mexicans like 3rd class citizens when they are usually doing our dirtiest of jobs. Manual labor which is vital to this country. Which many Americans won't do. | |
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Posted: 12/7/2008 11:30:07 PM | | WELL IVAN...,I THINK ITS BECOUSE MEXICANS STAY HERE AND I THINK ALOT OF WHITE PEOPLE THINK MEXICANS WANT TO STAY HERE FOREVER AND CHANGE THE RULES HERE AND ALSO THE WHITE GUYS I THINK BELIEVE THAT THE MEXICANS WANT TO TAKE THE WHIE WOMEN AWAY FROM THEM SPECIALLY FOR PAPERS AND THEY REALLY DO.BESIDES I WAS WONDERING ABOUT THE TIME WHEN ALOT OF MEXICANS WAS PROTESTING OUT IN THE STREETS ...WHY OR WITH WHAT RITE DO MEXICANS FEEL THEY CAN MAKE A BIG DESICION WHEN THEY ARE HERE TAKEING ADVANTAGE OF THE SITUATION.?.I DONT KNOW BUT I HAVE HAD VERY MANY BAD EXP FROM MEXICANS IN MY LIFE THAT I SO BELIEVE THAT I RATHER BE SINGLE FOREVER THAN DATE A MEXICAN AND BE ABUSED IN ANY FORM OF WAY AGAIN...JUST MY PERSONAL THOUGHTS HERE. | |
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Posted: 12/8/2008 4:19:43 AM | I was abused by a white man.....my stepfather and then my husband. Does that make all white men abusers???? I was also abused by a Bolivian. Are all Bolivians bad? He turned me off Latinos for a long time. But then I dated my ex who was completely wonderful. I also recently met a Puerto Rican guy who is a great guy as well.
When we start looking at people as individuals and not part of a group, only then will we truly accept one another. Many people (especially in my city) only saw Obama as a ''black'' man, and not for the person he was.
It's ok to be attracted to a particular race of people. I happen to love caramel colored skin, and it's what draws my eye and attracts me. I've mostly dated Indian men this year. But I can not say all of them were bad, or all were wonderful. It's been a mixed bag. And that's the way it is with any race of people. Delicious apples and rotten apples. I think indeed there are certain traits that can be found in certain cultures, but not everyone is the same. I've had some Latino men in the past even say "I'm not like other Latin guys." That shows they do know about their bad rep with women. Black men have said this too. It just all goes back to the saying that a few bad apples can spoil the whole bunch.
We are all a country of immigrants. Whites were just the first to invade, oops I mean immigrate to America. Now Latinos are coming in droves. And I think it is a backlash of that. But again remember, not all are illegally here. And illegal immigrants are not ALL Mexican. Sitting in a detention center in Newark and listening to the stories of family members visiting the detainees was very enlightening on that subject. But Mexicans have been vilified by the press, so they've become like the poster child for illegal immigration. | |
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Posted: 12/8/2008 4:35:53 AM | Well I'm a Latina, and from my experience 99% of Latino men have a genetic flaw that keeps them from being faithful to one woman.
I've recently started dating a Latin (Puerto Rican) man and someone told me "all Hispanic men cheat" and I have to say I found it insulting and an unfair generalization, one that I never heard of and I hope isn't true. If it is true, do you really believe it's genetic or is it a culturally-accepted behavior? I doubt there's evidence to support a finding that only 1% of Latino men can be faithful to one woman. 
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Posted: 12/8/2008 5:01:40 AM | | Unfortunately I would have to say yes. Some do. I have dated several latino men and really find no difference than american men. I don't think natonality makes a difference. You can find similar personalities and temperaments in each culture but I have had a few american women tell me that latino men are generally bad mates. Their point of view is that latino men treat women poorly. More as a subordinate than a friend and lover. I honestly don't recall any of the women that have said this to me ever actually dating a latino so I don't know where they get this information but there it is. I haven't personally experienced that myself. | |
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Posted: 12/8/2008 5:57:59 AM | I found it insulting and an unfair generalization, one that I never heard of and I hope isn't true. If it is true, do you really believe it's genetic or is it a culturally-accepted behavior?
Didn’t think I would ‘jump on this band wagon’, but then I remembered something:
Several years ago, I owned an international concrete company with plants in Mexico. While I never went over to the plants, my husband did. Each time he was greeted by one of my Hispanic ‘associates’ who NEVER failed to invite him ‘cheat on his wife’ (ME)!! I don’t know what they are called, but there were actual complexes that were apparently designed for this purpose with discreet garages leading to upper floors, etc. I would imagine another version of a brothel!
This DID seem to be rather ACCEPTED practice! In fact, they were convinced that there was something WRONG with my husband because he declined:)
Conversely, back here in the States, I am pleased to say that I witnessed just the OPPOSITE! What I saw were Hispanic men working here, remaining faithful and diligently saving money to be able to rejoin their spouses.
AND - I have dated one Hispanic man, and ‘cheating’ was NOT an issue………...I wish I could TELL you WHAT the issue was………..but not in THIS forum:))))
ALL that to say, that I think 'generalizations' about ANY given culture, etc., are ludicrous!
BEST WISHES, Hallie! | |
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Posted: 12/8/2008 7:34:33 AM | | Thank you SRQ. I also believe it's cultural, and not just Latinos but many European men have also been taught it's normal to be married and have girlfriends/mistresses and many Americans have affairs even though not part of their cultural upbringing. Time to stop stereotyping and deal with people on an individual basis. | |
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Posted: 12/8/2008 2:11:49 PM | hmm.... interesting.
I've dated several (more than 3) latinas and I have friends that date them and one friend married to one. I've not seen one yet (nor heard of one) that didnt go out of their way to dote on their men and who weren't insanely jealous and protective of their relationships with their men.
On the other hand, try finding those traits in an American woman...
I also know some latin men who do not cheat and I know some who would at the drop of a hat and see absolutely nothing wrong with it... about a 50/50 mix.
From an insurance standpoint, smokers are more agressive drivers and involved in a higher number of accidents. Are all smokers dangerous drivers? No. Will all smokers be in an accident? No. Is it statistically significant enough to warrant higher rates for smokers? Absolutely. That's why smokers are automatically assigned to a different/higher risk pool than non-smokers.
Sociologically, you dont end up with stereotypes if there is no fundamental basis for the belief. If only one in 10,000 latin men cheated it would be a non issue and would probably not even be an issue if it were 1 in 100 latin men. Does anyone have the real numbers? Probably not.
Will your latin bf cheat on you? Who knows. Is there enough rumor, speculation, generalizations and sterotyping to make sure you keep your eyes open? Better be or you will be (tying into another thread) crying the victim cry. | |
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Posted: 12/8/2008 3:30:30 PM |
I've not seen one yet (nor heard of one) that didnt go out of their way to dote on their men and who weren't insanely jealous and protective of their relationships with their men.
On the other hand, try finding those traits in an American woman...
Oh princely frog, you are opening up a can of worms? I'm trying to figure out whether this is a trait you like, appreciate and respect, or not? I think any woman who loves a man and feels loved in return would be happy to dote on her man and be protective of her relationship with him! However, the insanely jealous part would only come with someone you cannot or do not trust I would think. | |
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Posted: 12/8/2008 4:18:59 PM | Again people should be treated on an individual basis for who they are and what they bring to the table. Their culture may have shaped them, but not defined who they are in their heart and soul.
As I stated I've been abused by white men, I've been cheated on by white guys too. I don't think that is stereotypical of any one race and happens across the board in all races and cultures. | |
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Posted: 12/8/2008 5:15:39 PM | dude, I have a strong feeling it's not an ethnic situation...since the latin/hispanic population is growing leaps and bounds.
Other than the fact that you are a 'CUTTER' , and rather humble too...I' m not sure what the problem is.
How many of your male friends are looking for American women.....??
For in my area, and my profession, woodworking..and boatbuilding....I've worked with many Latino dudes....mostly from Mexico...and Brazil. I've always found these guys to be fun..i agree...and ambitious , to a degree. But, in my observations and in hanging out with these guys...they always seem to prefer looking for a Latino woman.
It may not be across the boards, but they have told me...many times, they are looking within their own ethnic circle when looking for girlfriends,
OK, I'm sure you got the message about turning off your caps, yes,?
so, maybe tone it down a little , bring out some of that Latino 'cool' and you'll be fine bro'.
tener una buena noche, mi amigo
Kimbo**************************************************
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Posted: 12/8/2008 5:49:45 PM | I am sorry you've had such bad luck....but I am a person that was adversely affected by a variety of Latin women. There are truly stereotypes out there and unfortunately...you and I are touching some on some of it on here. I was impacted by it and vowed never to date Latin. And you are being affected by others that have paved the way for you.
I think over time my mind will change. But I just can't forgive and forget right now and maybe there are others out there like me..... | |
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Posted: 12/8/2008 5:55:02 PM | It may not be across the boards, but they have told me...many times, they are looking within their own ethnic circle when looking for girlfriends
I wonder, why do you think that is, Kimbo... because of what froggy said, they are more subservient than most American women? Or maybe it's just they feel more comfortable with someone with the same background or heritage, which is understandable? | |
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Posted: 12/8/2008 6:30:25 PM | I never said ANYTHING about latin women being "subservient" and I would certainly balk at using that word to describe ANY latina I have ever known or dated.
They do have what most American women have lost and that is male friendly behavior. They are much more willing and capable of handling their man instead of trying to bulldoze over him.
(yes guys, I just reopened that can of worms)
A friend of mine sent me an email today and in it she was describing a conversation that she had with a guy who described American women as a people who want to be celebrated. My experience with Latinas is they want to celebrate their relationships with their family and their man... and could care less about themselves being celebrated just because they are female but prefer to earn the celebration by being loving and caring women.
And kimbo is correct, most latin men I know will not marry outside of their ethnic background... and many latinas are the same way. | |
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Posted: 12/8/2008 6:35:54 PM | | Excuse me but your description of their behavior, "doting" brought to mind that term for me, yet I said any woman wouldn't mind doing that in the right circumstance, no matter what their cultural background. You and your friend sound like you are generalizing negatively about American women. | |
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