| Oral sex more personal than actual intercourse?
Posted: 12/2/2005 8:08:24 AM | | Funluvin, if he ain't man enough to wait for what he should know is worth waiting for, then just find another guy. I'm sure you'd have a line at your door tomorrow if you wanted it. Good luck. | |
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| Oral sex more personal than actual intercourse?
Posted: 12/2/2005 8:21:51 AM | I bet funlovin you would never say no to getting oral....I agree with my fellow there that said I could care less about getting oral done to me as long as I can give lots of oral I am a happy man (and believe me she will be happy too) so go ahead ladies continue the lying to yourself
hey what about women that won't kiss you after you have been down on them......whats with that.....don't they like their own taste??? | |
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| Oral sex more personal than actual intercourse?
Posted: 12/2/2005 9:23:52 AM | | funluvin76, I agree. It's up to you if you wanted to give him oral, not up to him to ask for it. I'll tell you a story. When my lady & I started dating, it took awhile. But I never asked her for oral, she surprised me by giving me oral. So, any guy you date, shouldn't expect oral on the first date. At least have a few dates before deciding to do the oral thing. Just surprise the guy with oral & don't give him oral because he wants it. Do it because you felt an attraction to him. | |
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| Oral sex more personal than actual intercourse?
Posted: 12/2/2005 11:01:44 AM | FunLuvin76..
...I'm glad You gave this guy the gate...asking For Head On the First date..and a male expecting It is just plain Rude and screams desperation... ,,Asking for Head on the first date,gains special Perv status.A real Man Gets To Know You and Will accept What You have to Give graciously,If and When You are ready to do So...Many Posters have gone right past key point concerning Your Post...**You were not ready to do so***...The Guys an idiot and I'm sure if He could have been patient, sooner or later he would have received some....instead of acting like a drooling dog that he was.
Where is the mystery in sex these days Guys??..its all Wham Bam thank You Mam..... | |
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| Oral sex more personal than actual intercourse?
Posted: 12/2/2005 11:06:26 AM |  All of it is pretty damn personal. I won't sleep with a guy unless there is a "relationship" which in turn is personal. So, in answer to the question, in my opinion, one is no more personal than the other. That's almost like all those teenagers out there saying, "Well, when we are having oral sex, it isn't REALLY sex." | |
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| Oral sex more personal than actual intercourse?
Posted: 12/2/2005 11:47:36 AM | funluvin,
I'd say that each person has got to feel comfortable, and if it doesn't feel comfortable then don't do it. I think that Oral is more personal and if the one I am with isn't ready then that is fine I can wait. There are other things we can do!!!!!!   | |
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| Oral sex more personal than actual intercourse?
Posted: 12/2/2005 1:41:56 PM | Actually, I see your logic and agree with you, in a way, though not completely. I think sex and oral can both be intimate or not intimate, depending on the type of person you are and what you are seeking in a partner. I did not used to think that oral is only an intimate act for me, but I have recently changed my mind. In order to give oral, for me personally, it's something you have to really want to do in the given moment. So, you either need to love or really like the person, or you have to be really turned on. Intimacy applies to the first case, not so much for the second case, when using the term loosely.
Though, for me, sex is "way more personal", as well. Not that it has to be for everyone. Basically, I do see your point in how oral can be more intimate than sex and maybe you have to be a woman to truly understand why... I only say that due to the shocked reactions from the men! For my disclaimer, there are exceptions. : ) | |
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| Oral sex more personal than actual intercourse?
Posted: 12/2/2005 7:33:03 PM | Some of you men are missing the point about waiting on the oral sex issue. It's not that some of us women don't love oral sex...we do! It's that it has a special place for us and seems much more personal then regular intercourse. It is something that we build toward when forging a relationship. We don't start off with it. So, it has nothing to do with the ability of a lover. It has to do with trust and familiarity. Get it?
Edit: I know some women have the complete opposite take on it...and that's cool. It's a very personal issue. But, the important thing to remember is that if a woman doesn't feel comfortable with something...or a man...that should be respected. It is inappropriate to try and manipulate someone's sexual values for your own gratification. | |
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| Oral sex more personal than actual intercourse?
Posted: 12/2/2005 7:36:40 PM | i guess the big thing for me is the unprotected aspect...the only time i've ever had unprotected sex is when i was married, and with one person...once...and i really cared for and trusted this person totally...though i did go in and get checked, just to make sure...when the doc gave me a clean bill of health i felt silly that i doubted, but i had to for my own peace of mind
and to answer one of the previous posts, no i don't accept oral until i'm ready to reciprocate | |
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| Oral sex more personal than actual intercourse?
Posted: 12/2/2005 7:40:54 PM |
For me, it's all personal! Oral or intercourse! You're showing another person the most intimate parts of your body.
I agree totally. Any sexual contact is personal. I just find some sexual acts require more trust and intimacy...oral being one of them for me. | |
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| Oral sex more personal than actual intercourse?
Posted: 12/2/2005 10:01:13 PM | | funlovin.. no there is nothing wrong with how you feel and do not let anyone make you think that. For the most part I do agree with you, unless you are in it just for the SEX then the oral is much more personal. Sex can be just recreational to alot of folks and there is nothing wrong with that, different strokes for different folks. | |
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| Oral sex more personal than actual intercourse?
Posted: 12/2/2005 10:07:54 PM | Am I missing something...
"most things can be cured"..... now THAT makes alot of sense! Who the hell wants to catch something even if it can be cured? And not just sleezy people get "stuff"... just like AIDS is not a homo thing.
People just think differently and that is ok. But don't dog someone because they have differnt opinions or do things differently. | |
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| Oral sex more personal than actual intercourse?
Posted: 12/2/2005 10:27:50 PM | There is something else I want to add even though I got in here at the end. I've had many of my male "friends" tell me that some women just cannot give a good blow job and they had rather them not even bother. Of course I didn't believe this but then again, a guy told me once that a man can tell when I woman really isn't into it and that is true. By the time I'm to a point of giving oral sex... I can assure you.. he WILL WANT MORE!!!! When it's right then you will be totally into pleasing your man and that makes you want to please him. AND there is not better feeling for me than all that CONTROL I have over him at that time, I love knowing that he is totally getting into me doing him. Mmmmm... I think I'll make a pit stop on my way home tonight.... yeppers.... that's a good idea...  | |
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| Oral sex more personal than actual intercourse?
Posted: 12/3/2005 12:50:42 AM | | I don't think it's more personal! Sex is Sex regardless of the means. I will not be with a woman that will not return the favor of oral sex(without a condom) I will gladly and willingly lick her to orgasm. If she doesn't want me to cum in her mouth that's fine with me. I think oral sex while I'm wearing a condom is a complete waste of time and effort! | |
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| Oral sex more personal than actual intercourse?
Posted: 12/3/2005 9:15:20 AM |
Recently was with someone...not in a serious relationship...and after the first time we had sex, he wanted oral. I told him up front that i don't do oral unless i'm in a serious relationship. now, he wants oral. i told him that oral was way more intimate and that i can't just do that with anyone. he asked my how i could let him put his penis in my vagina and not in my mouth. i told him, one...your winky has a raincoat...and two...it's just way more personal than i want to get right now...
my question is, does anyone else feel this way? personally for me giving oral to a woman is more personal... but getting a blow job isn't really all that personal to me... maybe its the fact i'm recieving and not giving... but i've had woman say they don't like to give oral and i'm like ok cool we'll find something else to do... but i also know for other people giving and recieving oral is not personal at all... i had an exgf who strongly believed oral was not cheat whether giving or recieving... so its all in your perspective | |
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| Oral sex more personal than actual intercourse?
Posted: 12/3/2005 12:34:23 PM | | ^^^^^^^^^to me any form of sexual action is cheating, but yeah, to me both giving and receiving is personal...i mean, if i'm not going to reciprocate then why let them? and i know some men (my ex-husband)...can totally get off...i mean totally...just by giving a woman oral, but i like to give if i receive...in a relationship (thought i'd add that just in case) | |
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| Oral sex more personal than actual intercourse?
Posted: 12/3/2005 2:04:12 PM | | yeah, oral is very personal. at the same time, I really like when I can give oral to a girl. It is a big turn on for me to give it. But if a girl believes it's more personal, I understand. I just wonder if her skills are going to waste? | |
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| Oral sex more personal than actual intercourse?
Posted: 12/3/2005 5:50:44 PM | Girl, just do what's right for you. There are men out there that will respect that., sometimes even more than if you just sucked d1ck on demand, for me it's like not screwing on the 1st date, SOME guys take that as not being slutty, and LIKE that. Unfortunatley the first few who responded are not those men, and IMO likely to stay single longer than those who are more mature or patient about things of this nature. LOL
Guys trying to pressure or ridicule girls who don't wanna eat you is NOT gonna get you a GOOD blow job even if you finally suceed! She won't be into it, and "into it" is the best kind of oral to receive surely?
Try getting to the bottom of why your girl is reluctant. Then LISTEN.
Maybe she doesn't like the taste of your "lube" go grab the honey from the kitchen?
Maybe she just doesn't want the cum in her mouth, offer to warn her.
Maybe you push too hard and she feels choked, let her do it the way she is comfortable and control how much of you is allowed in there, you might just get to like HER techniques after a while.
If everything else in the relationship is strong, why let this one detail ruin it?
I had a b/f once who did not like to receive oral, our chemistry in every other area was so good that it was worth overlooking. And even if it hadn't been, how would pressuring him or ridicule help really? | |
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| Oral sex more personal than actual intercourse?
Posted: 12/4/2005 6:43:55 AM | | Fun - you were honest with him.. if he was a man with character, he would want that connection to grow for you... YOU choose what you are comfortable with.. You are defiantely not alone,,and suprise .. I also beleive oral sex if one of the most intimate acts you can do with your partner. Wait for the intimacy, and then you will enjoy it too! | |
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