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| I swear men are a puzzle...
Posted: 12/26/2004 8:47:47 PM | | I think men say women are "high maintenance" to excuse themselves from putting forth any effort. They also say it to scare a woman off from expecting anything from men. I want flowers on my birthday? I'm high maintenance. I expect you to be on time? Too much work. I get mad if you don't call? Damn that's just unreasonable. I'm starting to question the practicality or validity of love here. | |
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| I swear men are a puzzle...
Posted: 12/27/2004 8:25:32 AM | There is a difference in wanting to be treated nicely and being high maintenance.My ex wife was high maintenance and I put forth 12 years worth of very hard effort into making that relationship work.
I don't believe the occasional bouquet or whatever makes any woman high maintenance,but I tend to steer clear from women who feel they are some great prize to be hard fought and won,who want to be worshipped,spoiled and pampered like a child.Such are never satisfied and are constantly throwing tests and obstacles to their men to get them to prove themselves.This need not be imo.Let me give you some examples of what I am talking about.
I had a g/f back when I was in my 20's who wanted me to dress a certain way,lose many of my friends because she felt they were losers, pursue another career path,and move to another more yuppie nieghborhood.I quit living with her but for awhile we continued to see each other.One night she called me about 10 PM and said there was a lizard loose in her apartment.Yeah, so what's your point?(I live in Florida little lizards are very common here,they're harmless,beneficial actually,don't bother anything and they eat bugs,they're really neat little critters).I told her to just wait until it got near the front door and try to shoo it out if it bothered her.No,she wanted me to drive 45 minutes to her place and slay this dragon(Florida lizards are about 1 to 4 inches long btw),after I had been working(I was working 3 jobs at the time) and after I had soaked in a hot tub with my intentions being to kick back and watch a T an A flick on Cinemax,smoke a doobie and call it a night.She kept telling me she would have nightmares about Godzilla.I told her to brush up on her Japanese then.She got pissy and hung up.I moved on.
I don't know your b/f Rheanna,maybe he is a jerk.Certainly five minutes of his time and a Merry Christmas wouldn't have killed him,but if you have been HM(not saying you are I don't know you) in the past,it can build up and the cumulative effect can turn even the nicest guys into jerks.I know I certainly had a different attitude about what I would be willing to do for the sake of a relationship after my ex split.Maybe you called while he was engrossed in a football game.Guys generally can't multitask like you ladies can.We can't do the romantic phone banter and follow a TV program at the same time.Bottom line is that there are two sides to every story.>>
They also say it to scare a woman off from expecting anything from men.
Depends on what and how much you expect.I'm all about treating women well,yet I have had more than my fair share of women who wanted me to change what I am to suit their needs.Funny thing,the times I did try to change to suit them,they lost interest.One of the reasons why I don't do traditional monagamy. | |
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| I swear men are a puzzle...
Posted: 12/27/2004 8:37:33 AM | No he called me..I stopped calling him...3 weeks and he only calls maybe once or twice to tell me he's going to bed and doesn't want to hang out. Heck, just picking up the phone was strenous enough. Why waste my energy?...lol But that's funny about your girl..Heck I would have battled godzilla myself..I used to own a Ball Python!
I don't see why he bothered to call me just to tell me he's going to drink Gin and go to bed...Hell save me the trouble. Heck I hung up on him... All he does is call now and it's a not to spend time with him. And if we do spend time. No nothing, just cuddling, and never any eye contact. But he always says I'm the boss. yuh well he's not listening..DING DING DING!!
If a man has a girl that guy should be spending it with her. Period....Hanging out with your woman on the holiday isn't going to kill you. lol | |
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Muss
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Joined: 12/9/2004
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| I swear men are a puzzle...
Posted: 12/27/2004 8:47:23 AM | | I always believe in both sides open talk...In fact it helps in clearing alot of stuff. | |
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| I swear men are a puzzle...
Posted: 12/27/2004 8:50:30 AM | | I flat out told him he was lame? So why he still calling? Told him to start acting like a B/F or I'm walking..Hasn't sunk in yet. Cause he's still calling saying the same sh*t. | |
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| I swear men are a puzzle...
Posted: 12/27/2004 8:57:12 AM |
Lol, you think us men are a puzzle... Trying to figure out a woman is sometimes like a Rubic's Cube with emotions instead of colors...
lol..and those colours keep changing every 5 minutes...lmao | |
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Posted: 12/27/2004 9:00:12 AM | ^ we can't help it     I can go from red to , green , to blue to yellow. Depending on the mood of the rubics cube. hehehe | |
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| I swear men are a puzzle...
Posted: 12/27/2004 9:02:08 AM | but...all those pretty colors keep you
entertained eh ? you know men and thier short
attention spans 
you are one of the great one's ex ! | |
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Posted: 12/27/2004 2:32:34 PM | @rheanna
this guy is not serious about you
I am a guy I know the signs..............
trust me | |
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| I swear men are a puzzle...
Posted: 12/27/2004 4:20:49 PM | | well then why don't you to beautiful men...enlighten us on how we tell when a man IS truly interested?? ..... | |
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| I swear men are a puzzle...
Posted: 12/27/2004 4:30:03 PM | yes how do you know when they are "truly"
interested...seems they change thier minds as
often as they change thier underwear...ha ha ! | |
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Tayven
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Joined: 11/11/2004
Msg: 42 | |
| I swear men are a puzzle...
Posted: 12/27/2004 4:32:37 PM | hMMM... WHEN A MAN IS INTERESTED?
You see, that's the funny thing, hun... If you just ask, an honest man will...well... just let you know. | |
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Tayven
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Joined: 11/11/2004
Msg: 43 | |
| I swear men are a puzzle...
Posted: 12/27/2004 4:37:23 PM | | ^^^ Indi... you know... a man has the clean closet clothes... the almost dirty pile... the half dirty pile... and the well... I'll `wear it if I need that style pile... | |
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| I swear men are a puzzle...
Posted: 12/27/2004 4:37:29 PM | If we are truly interested, we will let you know in many number of ways, you will hear from us on a regular basis, we will remember little things (your coffee, your preference of eggs, what you drink or don't, etc), we will be flirting with you (right?) consistently. And yes, if we really want to get to know you, if you ask us, the honest ones will say...
On the other hand, the a**holes out there will do the same things, save the last...
~~Dragon Rider~~
In sadness, the Dragon walks away
Happy New Year Folks | |
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| I swear men are a puzzle...
Posted: 12/27/2004 4:47:51 PM | I kinda like Tayvens idea.
Simply asking a question works pretty well with me. However I'm assuming the guy is younger than myself and may not have reached the age where he communicates easilly. | |
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Posted: 12/27/2004 4:49:00 PM | tayven my friend..the word of the day is "Pile"..smile
your in the clean pile though ! | |
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| I swear men are a puzzle...
Posted: 12/27/2004 4:51:51 PM | | You see men are not that complicated it's just that females sometimes over analyze what we do, there by convoluting the true perception of how men act. Duhhhhhhhhh! | |
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| I swear men are a puzzle...
Posted: 12/27/2004 5:13:55 PM | Here are men:
Put tab A into slot B
Here are Women:
....... 13 different languages in the instruction booklet and not one of them is English.... d*mn... Well I guess I'll just put it together until it either works or falls apart....
I think that’s a pretty accurate portrayal of the facts at hand.
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| I swear men are a puzzle...
Posted: 12/27/2004 5:38:45 PM | Now see, I can agree with that... Women tend to try to view us through their minds, and we men are simply not that complex... if it asks like a dog, smells like a dog and looks like a dog, chances are ... its a dog... If we like you, it is going to be pretty easy to tell... just that simple... if you walk by and we get all tongue tied, all smiles, stand a little taller... guess what...
~~Dragon Rider~~
In sadness, the Dragon walks away
Happy New Year Folks | |
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| I swear men are a puzzle...
Posted: 12/27/2004 9:29:41 PM | I'm not sure if I catch exactly the drift of this thread, as I can't say I follow your dating saga all that closely.
But, if I called up someone (guy, girl, love interest, friend, whatevs) and they said they would rather drink gin and go to bed instead of chill with me, there would be this little bell, a really OBVIOUS bell, that would go *ding-a-ling-a-ling* in my head, to indicate that this person wasn't interested in me in the least, and I wouldn't contact them again.
Life is too short to waste on people who make CLEAR signals that they aren't that interested.
We aren't a puzzle, us guys. Girls, however, are, to coin a phrase "consistent in their inconsistency" ;P | |
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