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| Why do guys take your number and never call? WOMEN DO IT ALSO
Posted: 12/12/2005 8:47:41 PM | Well why is it Men do it, Its not only guys that do it, Women do it also & many many times, so its not only you, Women have done it to me, Im not ashamed to admit it. So to you men and women grow the F*CK UP And give us Men & Women here more respect & trust me if I wanted to I can tell you Men what women did it.
Sincerely
Naturelover08 | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 12/12/2005 8:47:54 PM | Is it really a great loss if you give someone your phone number and they're just collecting slips of paper? Really... The guys here that complain about being used as meal and drinks tickets can point to a genuine personal cost, but a slip of paper and 10 scratches of ink? Surely there are more important things to worry about.
Hi Linguatic..
I cordially invite you and all men to do the folowing social environment..
Got to a drugstore and put the following items in a basket..good conditioner,,mascara,,a decent lipstick, one mascara..a nice perfume..one pantyhose..a hair clip and a quality shampoo..sunscreen .moisturizer and some generic..(going easy on you there) vitamins..Call a local salon and ask what they charge to cut and dry long hair for a woman..Then see how much more it costs for women's clothes at the drycleaner. Price a nice pair of shoes..This does not include what to wear, of course. You may get sticker shock..but add it up..It's a genuine personal cost.
Women earn less than men usually..sometimes far less..and spend much more on thier apprearance...Just how it is for most.
It does not excuse rudeness or lack of consideration on either side. | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 12/12/2005 8:51:46 PM | Amazing replies! 69roadrunner, I especially read that first post and thought, wow, he has amazing insight to both men and women. I liked:
"I think guys see the phone and communication very differently than women do. To guys it's a tool to exchange facts, but for women it's a way to make emotional connections with people and to exchange information. So, the phone call is foreign to a guy because it does two things to him that he doesn't like."
From a woman's perspective, I would totally agree with that. Women often think about creating harmony in communication. I read a psychologist's book on men and women in communication and I think she'd really agree with you.
Linquatic: your question included,
"Really... The guys here that complain about being used as meal and drinks tickets can point to a genuine personal cost, but a slip of paper and 10 scratches of ink? Surely there are more important things to worry about."
Well, I didn't mention the slips of paper (that was a different woman) but what I was meaning is that with the trophy collector type of guy (obviously not ALL men are this type) are frustrating because often they are so good at it that they seem very sincere, and I've found that they will talk on and on about wanting a relationship too (sure, LOL, he wants a relationship, just not with YOU, honey). The problem is that sometimes they are so good at conning women cuz they want to get laid (alot) that its not for a while that you discover their game. Or if a woman is really vulnerable, say newly divorced, she can get used by these types, because sometimes they succeed, and that's why they keep playing the game.
The problem is that a woman who isn't the type to use a guy as a meal ticket is often the person who gets conned, and unfortunately that can really hurt her in many ways, one of which is trust. It can really damage a woman's trust or maybe even her self esteem. It would depend on how far the game went.
And for those of us who are a little more seasoned, it just wastes time in our lives. To me, my life is important and the time I have is precious. I'd gladly spend it on many people who are honest and sincere, but I don't want to waste it on players. They are like the little mosquitoes of society. They suck your time and energy out of you like blood suckers, and in my opinion, they are pretty juvenille.
(male and female players, that is). | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 12/12/2005 9:00:11 PM | | So, if you're talking about not wanting to waste large portions of your life spending it with people who have different goals from you, and aren't being honest about them, I completely agree. I thought you were objecting to giving out your phone number, which seemed kind of trivial. I see your point about damaging trust, but I suggest that it would be healthier to take a somewhat more fatalistic attitude and lower your expectations of people who are essentially complete strangers. | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 12/12/2005 9:05:50 PM | One last thought on male and female players and ones that want to get laid at the other's expense...(and remember, there are actually web sites online totally devoted to helping people a) seduce and use women b) cheat on their spouse etc, etc)
Here's the thought - AIDS and STD's. You can get 'em, you can give 'em. You can play the field, and receive a little "prize" and be put out of commission. Sobering thought, now, isn't it? You can bring 'em home to your wife/husband after playing around.
Justthecute: Yes, you're totally right about the time that women put into dating. Women put quite alot of time into looking really nice for a guy when they go out. We want to impress you guys and make you feel special. It's our way of saying, "thanks for taking me out and spending the X dollars that you did tonight." The truth is, we really want you guys to feel just as special as we do being asked out and taken out. We want to enjoy the experience just as much as you do, and we love the chivalry. | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 12/12/2005 11:52:00 PM | I remember that comedy show with the scene of lower expectations - what a riot lol
I also like the saying - anyone can have anyone they desire if they arent picky
also, I would rather select my companion than be settled | |
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Sins23
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Joined: 12/10/2005
Msg: 83 | |
| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 12/13/2005 7:54:44 AM | Ok i'll probably get flammed from both sexes by providing my view on this. but what the hell.
It's simple, most people that are single and back in the "hunting" game still have that last relationship that went sour in the back of their minds. Has nothing to do with it ? BS.
Women are known to be more emotional, let's not deny it, it's a fact of life and we men love you for it as much as we can hate you for it.
I have seen women make huge scenes in a bar because the guy said he wasn't interested.
"what are you a ****ing fag ? "
"what the hell you doing talking to me if you have a girlfriend?"
and so on.
So ya guys will take the number, to avoid a possible public confrontation leading in an evening ruining outburst of emotions.
I've also seen guys want to kill themselves from rejection in a bar. So to all the women that take the numbers and don't call back, Thanks :)
Truth is, i think men do it to avoid a face to face confrontation, and think that he will be easily forgotten after the evening ends.
Women do it to spare a guy's feelings, not humiliate him in public in front of his buddies.
I'll admit, i've taken numbers and not call, and i only have one reason.
If i'm in a bar, i'm sociable, men, women, it doesn't matter. it also doesn't matter if i have a girlfriend or not because I KNOW I'LL BE GOING BACK TO HER. HOWEVER, i make sure the women that i do talk to in a bar know first hand that i have a girlfriend and that this conversation, no matter how interesting she or i may be will end when this evening ends.
Some women ignore the "i already have someone in my life" clues and keep moving in for the kill.
So women everywhere, i apologize for all the men that took your numbers and didn't call. We mean no disrespect or cruelty when we do it.
And For all guys out there that take all these numbers and never call, Ask yourself....
Why do it ? | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 12/18/2005 11:56:01 PM | okay, I think you opened the door, sins23.
"If i'm in a bar, i'm sociable, men, women, it doesn't matter. it also doesn't matter if i have a girlfriend or not because I KNOW I'LL BE GOING BACK TO HER."
YUCK!! Wow, classy guy.
"HOWEVER, i make sure the women that i do talk to in a bar know first hand that i have a girlfriend and that this conversation, no matter how interesting she or i may be will end when this evening ends."
Give me a break! Do you honestly believe that anyone would believe this? I seriously doubt that any women hit on you when you've got a girlfriend, and I also seriously doubt that you would bother telling any new women that you have a girlfriend when you are out on the prowl.
Somehow, actions speak louder than words, and a "code of ethics" doesn't really go hand in hand here, does it?
"Some women ignore the "i already have someone in my life" clues and keep moving in for the kill."
Oh, come on. Give us a break, here. Thy ego speaks a little too loudly for anyone to believe this bravado.
"So women everywhere, i apologize for all the men that took your numbers and didn't call. We mean no disrespect or cruelty when we do it."
I really do not think the "women of the world" are taking notes, sin. I honestly don't think ya got elected as the spokesman for all the men of the world, if you know what I mean.
"And For all guys out there that take all these numbers and never call, Ask yourself....
Why do it ?"
Well, I guess because they want to prove that they are the kind, honest, humble dudes that you are, right, sin?
(I'm laughing - hope you can handle a little sarcasm).
Sin, I'm sorry, I just don't buy this. And I'm sure you're going to respond with a whole bunch more bravado and self defense, but I hope that you just laugh and admit that you were going for some attention.
Really, no offense intended, but it gets so silly, how can we honestly take you seriously? | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 12/19/2005 12:07:02 AM | Part of me can believe Sin23, but that doesn't mean I am defending Sin23.
Example: When I am with someone and I am at a bar, party, whatever...I will talk with people, and it doesn't matter the gender. It's just conversation. But I will make it known that I am taken so there will be no misconceptions. I'm not saying that I get hit on a lot, because it doesn't happen to me. Neither am I on the 'prowl'...I just like to go out and have fun with friends or the woman I am with, there's nothing wrong with meeting new people. A few of my outgoing/social friends (male and female) are people I met at the bar or club. | |
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eira30
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Joined: 1/19/2004
Msg: 86 | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 12/19/2005 7:23:22 AM | | I've been given phone #'s online without asking for them. I didn't call, because I just didn't feel like it. I wasn't pushed to call the person. As for meeting someone in person and exchanging phone #'s...my reason for not calling would be that I just wasn't interested. | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 12/19/2005 9:11:56 AM | probably cos their married or got girlfriends, their just out for a good time...
Id count my blessings if they didnt ring and think of my lucky escape..
if they cant ring ya, it sums them up in one... unreliable!!!.. | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 12/19/2005 9:17:35 AM | I do exactly the same thing, dog mommy. If someone gives me his telephone number or writes me and I haven't asked for it, I don't necessarily feel that its my responsibility to call or write, right away, or at all. I do if I can. Right now its Christmas, and I feel exhausted with chores and work so I'm not trying to write.
But I think its weird that a guy would go out on the date and then offer a phone number and then not call. My thoughts would be, he'd cfhanged his mind. Fickle, yes, but then, do you really want to be with such a fickle person? | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 12/19/2005 9:24:24 AM | | That never happens at my house. If I say I'm going to call. I call. I wnat to know why women give there phone number and never answer. Or take my number and never call. It does suck, no matter who it happens to | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 12/19/2005 9:29:31 AM | | honestly i don't know if they take my number they always call..it could depend on the city you live in..sometimes guys collect numbers in contests to see who can collect the most of them and there friends..actually there was an episode that showed this on the real world austin..and having an older brother i know it's true | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 12/19/2005 9:40:42 AM | They usually change their minds or by the time they sober up they wonder who this number belongs to. Well you have more choices and can move on and thats what I would do. Dont wait by the phone, move on:} | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 12/20/2005 12:19:47 AM | Eh...
Had my share of humbers given out and given to me. When I say I'll call, I call. It's just common courtesy and respect. Whether or not I get a decent reception, that's a completely different story. There's only been a few times I actually fretted about, and that's because I thought they were really interesting. Either way, it's just a phone call. If it goes well, great. If not, move on...life's too short to let it pass by while pondering a phone call. | |
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Sins23
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Joined: 12/10/2005
Msg: 96 | |
| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 12/22/2005 4:41:02 PM | i'm not asking you to believe what i'm saying or not, after all we are all just names on a screen here.
but some women don't give a damn if your seeing someone.. just as guys don't give a damn.
so birdy...
hey man, i'm not anybody's spokesman...
so instead of shurking every comment i made which i'm sure you made just for rebutle attention.
you can't tell me that you honestly believe that all women will say "ohh your seeing someone, my apologies, i'll back off,"
**** that, women are just as hunters as men are. | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 12/22/2005 6:34:24 PM | | Sorry to be blunt but women have been doing the same thing to guys so just learn to relax and move on! Obiviously he didn't want to say to your face that you didn't do it for him so get over it. Just remember for every no you are that much closer to a yes! | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 12/22/2005 8:35:51 PM | | it goes both ways but as a woman I know how you feel been there and done it when I was single,kinda bring back memories in the dating world where I give guys my number and some called and some dont and I had a rule within my self if he dont phone in a day or 2 I just get turn off from the person and really wont care to date him anymore. | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 12/22/2005 8:42:45 PM | The next time a man asks for my phone number, I'll going to ask for his. That way, if he doesn't call, I won't call him. Or, maybe I will, and talk to his Mrs.  | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call? WOMEN DO IT ALSO
Posted: 12/23/2005 2:12:45 AM | i am a busy single man, plain and simple:
broken down;
busy= work lots to make money to have fun (paintball, rafting, hunting, fishing)
single= after work comes having fun (paintball, rafting, hunting, fishing)
man= 1.) forgot to call you , having too much fun.
2.) if i didn't think you could handle the activities i am doing i wont call you
thats why if you can hold my attention by not going on a "normal" (dinner and a movie) first date then i won't call | |
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