| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 1/25/2006 9:56:47 AM | That was mean. Guys, do this all the time. It is a major complaint that I hear from girlfriends.
back to the first response, tired of getting a wrong number or a number that does not exist...
other than that if you are out drinking they may not remember who they were talking to so the err on the side of caution... | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 2/1/2006 4:49:13 PM | (/I dont understand that either...I have had that happen to me acouple of times and it makes no sense...why do they put all that time and effort into it, get it and not call...men im still trying to understand them...LOL)
This woman has the personality of a crockagator. No wonder no one calls her. | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 2/1/2006 4:53:11 PM | | I think that most men wouldnt call as I know a number of females tend to give out fake numbers(for whatever reason Ill never understand).For the guys Id say give the girls your number and leave it up to them to do the calling | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 2/1/2006 4:55:11 PM | [/Ok my 2 cents. Have you all read all the cynicism in all this? A few have said "Who cares". We all care what people think of us. Otherwise why would we try to make a good impression? We are all out here searching for one reason or another. When we are rejected, it hurts. There's alot of good people out there. There are players out there. If we want to find the "RIGHT" one for us then we have to be willing to take all the risk's and all the heart ache's. If you put up that "I don't care wall" then that's what you will recieve. You have to be willing to put your heart, feelings and emotions out there. If you don't then no one else will either. We're gonna get hurt but, if we don't risk getting hurt then we may miss the love of our lives we are looking for.]
See what I mean? She said, " We ALL care about what people think about us." NOT EVEN!!!! Who hired you to speak for me? And if they did, where are they so I can fire them? NO ONE should care anything about criticism when it is detrimental and derogatory. Sorry lady, you must be from Venus or one of those other books. You don't define who AI AM. And I am anything BUT someone who cares about what people think of me. I think of myself and that is enough. I don't need popular opinion to conduct my life or affairs. We are all at our individual developement points in our lives and those who matter to us is all who's opinions should matter to us. giving the world it's definition of decent is everyone's responsibility, but you will never make everyone happy,, so don't try to. Otherwise you end up living your life for them and their opinions. Or to rephrase that. you start living for what they are going to think about you. And that is just an anxiety filled life of dissapointment and heartbreak. People have GOT TO stop stereotyping on hear I swear!! JEEEZEE!!! | |
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AI03™
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Joined: 5/3/2005
Msg: 155 | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 2/1/2006 4:59:05 PM |
I usually meet someone when I go out. They seem very interested. We exchange numbers or I take his number. Never hear from them!!! Hey guys, what's up with that? - honey1
To the OP:
When you figure out the answer to that question, maybe I will understand why women do the same thing. | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 2/1/2006 5:29:46 PM | honey,
I think that some really believe they will call and then get home, check there emails and get too busy and figure they will call you later but later never comes. All part of the internet dating I guess. The ones who are really interested will call within three days. | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 2/1/2006 5:38:12 PM | | i dunno.women do that as well.Mistakes happen.I loose/misplace items often.Ppl who are into multiple dating tend to loose or forget who is who.(players) | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 2/1/2006 8:51:13 PM | Here's a twist. When I threw my daughter her bachlorette party at a bar, we did the typical scavenger hunt. Aside from the usual. . . underwear tag,
condom. . . I decided to ask guys for a phone number they got from a girl that they were never going to call. I couldn't believe how many I got. I started asking why? Most never really wanted it in the first place. They didn't ask for it and they kept it in the event of a booty call. Since then, my digits are pretty sacred. | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 2/1/2006 9:22:02 PM | | Y'know, that's kind of funny. Last time I encountered a bachelorette party at a bar, they were desperately hunting for the condom. They said "nobody carries condoms anymore!" What's that about? Are people not practicing safe sex? Or has the morality changed that drastically from the 90s? | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 2/6/2006 12:27:48 PM | | Good point! I had guys rush into the bathroom and bring me back a condom from the machine but he didn't have it on him. I also asked women for them and same deal. I sure hope there in the nightstand. | |
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sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 2/6/2006 1:48:09 PM | | How do you suppose you guys got those digits that their never going to enter into your phone. The ladies just offered them up and you weren't interested. Like I said, the digits are sacred. If your honored with them, respect them and use them. | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 2/6/2006 1:53:34 PM | "Why does it have to be guys' (job) to get a girl's number ? Women are scared to get it or what? too insecure to persue guys?"
While I can not speak for anyone else...
I look at it like this, let's say one man walked into a room of 50 average women(potential date), he may find 10 of them lovely & 10 of them just so so. Let's call that 'seeking 20 numbers'.
Now, if it was one woman walking into a room of 50 average men, she'd mull around & maybe find 5 men of interest. Difference is, she'd wait to see if one stood apart from the rest before she asked for his number. The down side being, in the meantime, he may have walked into the other room and gotten 20 numbers!
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 2/6/2006 2:17:32 PM | | I think it is not entirely fair to place all the blame solely on men. I have to say I have been guilty of doing the same. I have met guys out they have given me their numbers and I never called. Why? I am not sure. I guess when I first met them they were cute, I might have been somewhat intoxicated, I enjoyed the flirt etc...but once I got home or sobered up or had a day or two to think about it I realized there really is nothing there to go on. Maybe they were not as attractive as I thought, maybe they weren't looking for the same things in life as I was, too young or too old, basicly just not compatible beyond the few hours of flirting...that's all nothing personal. However at the time when I asked for their numbers I truly thought I was interested. It wasn't about "oh I will get his number and make him wait by the phone all day and laugh behind his back..." I am pretty sure guys go through the same things as I did... | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 2/6/2006 5:59:39 PM | | I have always wondered if it would not just be kinder to say I enjoyed meeting you but I dont think we have a connection. I guess they feel it wont hurt as much to take the number and not call. | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 2/6/2006 10:56:55 PM | I just talked to a guy friend who explained another side of this to me, his.
He met a couple of girls in a bar & everyone was having fun.
At last call they offered their phone numbers to him & he felt it would be kind of a mean gesture to refuse it. He admitted that the next day he barely remembered much about the girls, just that they had all been drinking. What were the chances that either of them were in the same frame of mind the next day? He wasn't.
I asked him if he ever tried to call them later & he admitted once he called from a business phone. Neither number was theirs.
I don't think he will ever call another "bar number".
This may have a slight strand of truth to it for anyone who feels jilted. When confronted with a split second decision... take/offer a number or not... sometimes ppl feel they've left things on a pleasant note by going for it.
All things concidered, it's one of the least damaging behaviors I hear ppl complain about!
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 2/6/2006 11:26:57 PM | Not to get all existential on this, but I think that it is the Mars Venus thing. The people you want to call don't and the people you do not want to call require restraining orders! It must be upsetting to a woman when they give out their number in good faith expecting to get a call, but I can tell you, it is hard for guys when they ask for a number in good faith and the woman writes something that is clearly not a number and then turns to their friends and says something degrading about the guy who asked -when he is in earshot. Or you call and quickly realized that the women only gave you their number because they were wasted drunk and are now like a minx trying to gnaw their paw off to escape from the trap.
In some ways, I think that men deal with more rejection as historically the onus has been on them to make the first move, so it is probably more shocking for a women to get rejected.
We are all searching for that diamond in the rough. It is so weird to me how there are so many amazing single people out there on both sides that cannot connect. I guess that it is hard for all of us to take down the defense mechanisms at some point. Good luck everyone! | |
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sddude
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 2/7/2006 7:39:46 AM | Still women are too chicken to persue guys and get their number .
I have done this alot , alot of fake numbers, ansering machines and women who do not remember , I always call ,...to get a number is a little treasure for me because I hardly get dates as being me or meet any interested women .
Alot of guys do call but alot of women play the little phone game , guys end up the losers so later those numbers lose their importance . | |
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 2/7/2006 1:50:13 PM | I admit~
If a guy is being too terribly pushy for a number, I'll give him the number to the local CDC branch. Call it a subtle hint in self expression. It's my way of cooling his jets so the next female won't feel pinned down by his exuberance. (I'm sure he never even made that call. If he gave me his number, I wouldn't call.) Take a moment & reflect... if you're wondering why you never got a call, is there any way that you could've come off too eager for those digits? ...just a thought...
It has become a game, this number collecting fasination. It's like a grand scavenger hunt of testostrone. (no offense guys) Perhaps most of us women simply don't enjoy the same kind of contest mentality as the number banking men. I do know a few females who collect them but typically it's the guys who feel there is some urgent need to ask for a number. If the setting is appropriate, then hopefully the exchange will be mutual & pleasant.
Personally, I like to do things like wait until the very last second & then toss a paperball at him.
"You shouldn't lose that little ball of paper" I hint.
I usually get my phone call that way.
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| Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted: 2/7/2006 11:45:20 PM | | I have never asked for a number and not called, I thought I was like most guys, guess I was wrong. Of course, you know there is nothing wrong with being wrong sometimes, is there? I can wait for a paperball, but if I throw it back don't be offended, it just means that I would use it. Who ever knows what would happen, most women just don't take the chance on the right guy because they are to busy getting in the way of themselves. I ahve been to a lot of sites and it seems like there is always that same old headline "where have all the good guys gone". What is with that? The only thing that I have learned about women that state anything along those lines is that they are to damm busy getting in their own way! | |
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