| Is BDSM wrong in your view?
Posted: 1/28/2007 10:29:04 AM | Hell no.. its not wrong at all, as long as both parties are consenting. My last g/f was totally into it and taught me alot.. wow... what a ride!
And, after seeing what I saw at Sin City last night it appears I have a lot more to learn ...bring it on.. | |
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| Is BDSM wrong in your view?
Posted: 1/28/2007 10:32:15 AM | LMAO... it is amazing just how many people on here claim to be open-minded, wild, free-spirited, etc., etc., and the second you mention BDSM, the old Puritanical values and morals kick in and they run screaming into the sunset.
In all honesty, though, i have met a few people who were curious enough to keep an open mind and ask questions even though this lifestyle wasn't for them. The biggest problem is that people have so many misconceptions about BDSM that are spread by TV and movies.
Many think of BDSM as being a case of victim and victimizer or abused and abuser when this is not at all the case. In BDSM relationships, nothing is done without the consent of both parties and the submissive has the right to stop play at any time should he/she feel uncomfortable with what is going on.
Despite being D/s (Dominant/submissive) based, i feel that my present relationship is more equal than any relationship that i have ever been in. Everything we do is always discussed and agreed to beforehand and the level of communication that Miss Rose and i have developed is absolutely amazing.
Hey Fishin chips, with a nickname like that, i would almost suspect you of being a Newfie.
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| Is BDSM wrong in your view?
Posted: 1/28/2007 12:41:23 PM | OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
I've been a full submissive since the 10th grade. While for the most part our 'society' isn't mainstream, we do have alot of resources readily available to learn from.
For some people they are more into the B/D then the S&M, for me it's all or nothing. I love who I am. Confident, intelligent, articuate and submissive.
The hardest part of being non vanilla, is the looks and comments people make when they find out that your are into the lifestyle. Might as well just burn me at the stake again.
I'm double the town pariah, I'm Pagan (witchcraft) and into BDSM. (then people wonder why I moved from small town Ontario to Vancouver)
Live love laugh learn lust
pain is pleasure!
I live to serve..I serve to live.
My humble opinion as always
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| BDSM OK AS LONG AS THERE IS JELLO
Posted: 1/29/2007 6:31:08 PM | I didn't read all of the posts here but...
I think it's all about respecting one another's boundaries.
Otherwise it can get seriously wierd and dangerous.
just my short two cents | |
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| Is BDSM wrong in your view?
Posted: 1/29/2007 7:02:35 PM | So I changed the thread title back because Jello doesn't have much to do with BDSM unless it's in a dog bowl for my slave to eat.
I don't play very much anymore...I didn't at the latest Sin because I had been drinking.........a case of don't drink and spank.
I have had experience with BD,DS and CBT...but found that the energy that was expended was too much for me. I found it exilerating, like a drug...but then you came down. I guess I couldn't handle the crash. I guess you could call me a retired Mistress.
I learned so much about who I was and do not regret a thing...I miss it and some times dabble...the Mistress is still in....but only now and then.
This works for me....is it Wrong?
No, as long as it mutually respectful....and you have your safe words, trust, and not under the influence of drugs or alchol.
Play Safe! | |
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| Is BDSM wrong in your view?
Posted: 2/20/2007 5:26:10 AM | Fishfancy... that is one of our first rules.... no drugs and/or drinking before or during play. In a scenario where you are inflicting pain on another person and using implements that can be quite dangerous, nobody should have their judgement impaired in any way and this includes the submissive.
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| Is BDSM wrong in your view?
Posted: 2/21/2007 12:29:29 AM |
LMAO... it is amazing just how many people on here claim to be open-minded, wild, free-spirited, etc., etc., and the second you mention BDSM, the old Puritanical values and morals kick in and they run screaming into the sunset.
It sounds like all bdsm-minded people are open-minded. Think again, open-minded doesn't mean that the person likes bdsm/naturist/..etc. | |
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| Is BDSM wrong in your view?
Posted: 2/21/2007 1:24:36 AM | | Some do find this subject offensive, I myself don't, I'm into the alternative lifestyles, such as kink, Fetish, Algolagnia, Body Worship, Pansexual, and Triad with mutual consent and no emotional involvement. | |
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| Is BDSM wrong in your view?
Posted: 2/21/2007 7:52:42 AM | as a usually very dominant person I like to take the submissive role in sex, that's just my preference and I enjoy it!
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Thats exactly how I feel. I want to just hang my responsibilities at the door and let my S/O take me over...lol
As for the BDSM lifestyle? Hey if it floats your boat go with it :) I believe everyone has some kinks that they are probably unaware of as being BDSM. THE most important part of any Sexual relationship is communication, and trust. I have to trust my partner with 100% of me. If I feel in any way an inclinging of doubt that they are out to hurt me in some way, then it's done. Pain does not always = hurt .. heeheh | |
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| BDSM OK AS LONG AS THERE IS JELLO
Posted: 3/4/2007 9:59:59 AM | On that note, why would you pursue someone to find out 3 dates later that they are not into being tied, blindfolded and spanked?? Seems like a waste of time and a possible let down for the person to find out, that, the wonderful person they met is looking for some thing different. Why not be open and honest upfront and include it in your profile, sort of gives that initial heads up... this is who I am  | |
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| BDSM OK AS LONG AS THERE IS JELLO
Posted: 4/27/2007 2:45:39 AM | I've tried including my interests in this regard in my profile - and I almost always end up with someone wanting a quickie at sex. The problem with me is, as much as I enjoy BDSM and wish to experience more of it, I do not go .. as far as most people in the sexual part.. I guess that's the easiest way to put it. :S
BDSM, including M/s relationships, are good (sometimes) in my book. :) | |
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| BDSM OK AS LONG AS THERE IS JELLO
Posted: 4/27/2007 11:26:27 AM | i'm pretty middle-of-the-road on this one.
i like a little play, maybe i'm too vanilla, or maybe as in many things i'm a moderate, but i'm not into the full scene of dressing up, tying someone up, wearing a costume...
just not my scene...
that said, i do tend to fall on the dominant side...and i've been told my flogging skills aren't too shabby.
i suppose what i'm saying is, i don't expect anyone to wear a gimp mask...but you may want to prepare for a red tush... | |
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| Is BDSM wrong in your view?
Posted: 4/27/2007 1:19:39 PM | Flogging?? Did I hear Flogging?? Was that double flogging?
*as she sits back and takes notes* | |
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| Is BDSM wrong in your view?
Posted: 4/27/2007 1:46:49 PM | I think post 10 by Susie summed it up pretty well.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with it as long as all parties are on the same page and extremists are at least being careful. There are just so many different types and levels of kink out there that it can take a while to sort through and find someone who matches you. Don't get discouraged, OP.  | |
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| Is BDSM wrong in your view?
Posted: 4/28/2007 8:53:45 AM | BDSM is fine for those who want it. I am not adverse to
playing a few games with my partner. I don't want to swing though.
And I ain't NEVER wearing the gimp mask nor can I envision
squeezing the thing over anyone else's head. Leather and rubber
aren't as interesting to me as cotton and lace (on the lady).
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| Is BDSM wrong in your view?
Posted: 4/28/2007 9:41:10 AM | i'm probably the most vanilla of anyone on here HOWEVER i would never wag my finger at anyone or turn my nose up because it is indeed a free world we all live in... i fully support anyone in living out thier dreams and desires just like i would in my own way!!!
three cheers for gratifying ones self... may you all live long, happy and healthy!!
oh and fully satisfied  | |
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