| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 10/28/2006 6:36:33 AM | If you're using her computer to log in to this site, she might already have your password, and has asked you for it (after already logging in as you) just to test what your reaction is or to confront you about something without giving away that she already has your password.
I don't know your girlfriend. All I know is that I have had former girlfriends and ex-friends find out my email and user ID passwords in the past, without my prior knowledge, and nothing good has come from those experiences. Every one of them has abused that access. Admittedly, because some email accounts and IM's keep an unsecure log on computers, it's easy enough to access that stuff without knowing passwords - discovering that by accident led me to end a relationship, years ago, when I found evidence that way that a girlfriend had been cheating on me with a married "friend" of hers.
At the same time, I can't help but mention that - unless this site contains your and your girlfriend's only circle of friends - it does seem odd that you're both still on here. I mean, you don't need to be an active user to follow when the get togethers are being held, right? And, I'm pretty sure that everyone you socialize with on here has email elsewhere. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 10/28/2006 8:56:44 AM | NO password sharing.... Sorry, but I seem to be a strong believer and advocate for privacy!
If she's simply curious to see the type of people that email you, then THAT should have been her question.... She doesn't need your password for that!
So, I'd question her motives if her persistence and goal was to gain full and uncensored access to your account....
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 11/11/2006 8:54:23 PM | | What have u got to hide n wth would u hide a password from ur girlfriend? if u dun trust her , best u keep her as friend n stop wasting both ur time .. goes both wayz ie with her asking for it , but why should she have to, n y u still 'fish'n? | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 11/16/2006 5:15:33 PM | I'm wondering why you don't want to give it to her.
No question, she should show a little more faith, but at the same time, if you aren't doing anything, whats the big deal?
My ex knew all my passwords, including email. I had nothing to hide. | |
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Joined: 4/10/2006
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 11/26/2006 9:50:11 PM | hahaha i love this question........ why because i am a lot like your gf.
however, in my case it was more like...... why is my boyfriend on this site posted as single if hes only on for the forums. after MUCH yelling and fighting, and crying from me, he finally changed his status to not looking. phewww.
now i also do sort of want his password to confirm he really is jut on the forums. i know it is a trust issue; but i guess its normal for me to want this bc i wouldnt hesitate for a second in giving up my pw.
i think it just makes us queasy wondering why a guy that is involved would be on a site that you "fish" for people. know what i mean. but it is perfectly normal to be on sites for forums, and have honorable intentions.
i understand you are getting mad for her asking this. ask her what she will get out of getting your pw. because iknow, personally, if i did get his pw... i would just be like "hmm maybe he already deleted something incriminating or maybe he already made a new hidden account" like we gota ask ourselves where will it end? it is sort of an obsession-then we will want the hotmail pw , the yahoo pw, the msn pw, etc.
i tink when you start dating someone you put your heart and a lot of trust on the line. if there are more inklings that make her wonder why you are on this; if there are past actions that make her worry; then that is very understandable. if not; then maybe she is just insecure.
either way-talk to her, get to the root of the problem. maybe she needs you to do a better job of reassuring her. maybe she is too paranoid. this is a small problem that can amount to a lot of bs. work it out! one way or another:)
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 11/27/2006 6:38:00 AM | To me this is very simple...
1. If you have a gf, and it's causing any troubles, you love her.. say good bye to Plenty Of Fish.
2. Delete your account ( if she has one delete hers to ) and MAKE ONE for the both of you to share for the forums, add pictures of the both of you, make it clear what the pair are here for.
3. Women can be jealous and need the reasurance, ( yes I am in this catagory I won't lie ) and having the ability to "check" is reasuring for sure. But I LIKE THE IDEA FOR NUMBER "2" to solve this issue. It may work out the best.
All in all, up to you .. but if want tto keep things coshure with this girl, and stay with her, you might need to break down some of your usual ways. Just as she should. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 11/27/2006 8:43:35 AM | | To put it candidly, if you have a girlfriend, then why are you still on the site. And to show your integrity, why not give it to her. To refuse says your hiding something, which typically is the case. Now if she has a profile on POF or any other site for that matter, she should do the same. So balls in your court, you can prove to her you are clean or you can loose her because of her possible thoughts you are cheating on her. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 11/27/2006 11:08:13 AM | dude, give her your password, your bankcard, your creditcard, your library card, your masculinity, the laces from your shoes, all the smileys from msn , your recipe for chocolate cake and your wallet size picture of your cats....give it ALLLLL
ARE YOU NEW????
she is just being a little to curious, if the two of you have a mutual agreement about being on this site, then there should be a mutual trust......she should not have to ask you for the password. If she is asking for your password , there is obviously some trust issues going on, or there will be some arising in the future. So, ask her point blank if she trusts you....if not, why not? There you will find the underlying issue, she will explain to you exactly what it is that is causing this mistrust, COMMUNICATION. If she cannot tell you what it is, then you cannot trust her to tell you, there is a breakdown not only in communication, but in trust, and that is on tomorrows Oprah. Good luck buddy
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 11/27/2006 1:32:59 PM | | In All Honesty if i had a girlfreind i would not be in here anymore as i would be busy trying to make a good relationship ,because it does take hard work to have a real long lasting meaningful relationship .I so look forward to the day i don't need this place anymore and don't have to see all the fakes and shallow people ,and they know who they are so no need to reply to me saying not everone is vain and shallow because if you are not then this want affect you .But i also say each to there own and you have the choice to do as you wish ,thats the good thing about being an adult ,you get to choose what you will do each and every day .If you are in a dating only the one and she is your girlfriend as you say you could go off pof and if it does not work out return ,but my choice would be to get off period . | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/13/2006 8:17:24 PM | | I think she has a right to be pissed. First of all, if you love her , you should not be on a date line. You must be awfully young, or she is very naive. These sites are for people looking for others for relations with, not for buddies want to bs with buddies. People are pretty sincere when talking on these type of sites. Your girlfriend must surely know that even if you are telling women you are in a relation, you are hoping to find a woman who will say , "That's ok, lets meet anyway". YEP Lostprophet you done screwed up buddy: | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/13/2006 10:26:41 PM | If there's one thing I've learned from all of my prior mistaken relationships it's that no trust = no relationship.
It's one thing if you actually want to give her the password. It's quite another if she badgers you for it. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/14/2006 6:15:56 AM | ^^^^
So true..
Sure give her your password OP:
It starts with the password... and then the credtit card and then your paystub and then your social insurance and then your pension... and then:
...the lawyer!!! | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/14/2006 8:18:17 AM | For whatever reason she is insecure in this relationship. What is the underlying issue?
To me it's like somebody asking to read my journal...if I want to share what I write then I will but it will be my choice not because it is demanded of me. If I find out my privacy has been invaded the relationship is done. Your email is yours to share if you choose...if not she needs to respect that decision. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/16/2006 4:06:27 AM | Um, if you have nothing to hide, why are you hiding it??
Get real, this sort of behaviour/attitude destroys relationships. Great, if that's what you're after happening. If not, why on this earth would you trivialize her feelings on the issue????? I really don't get it. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/16/2006 4:58:13 AM | Well...in my opinion...once you meet someone you should remove your profile from dating sites completely...and that means "both" of you. And don't give me this crap your only here for the forums. As far as I'm concerned....you should be spending time with each other....and not wasting time reading and responding to forums. Time spent on a PC means less time with your partner! I don't care how much anyone likes to read and respond to the forums...you can live without it...and your partner should be a priority!
Why don't both of you consider deleting your profiles....and spend that time doing something together!
Gee...what did people do before technology came into our lives? Seems to me that people were much happier before computers....then they are now. Sure computers make it convenient for meeting other people.....but technology has also been responsible for the demise of many marriages. The divorce rate is at an all time high!
Love would come first in my books!! | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/16/2006 9:18:58 AM | It seems like you'll continue to be on an "eternal quest" with that attitude.
There lots of men and women in secure relationships that maintain PoF profiles explaining that. Requiring a partner to remove a profile is an act of insecurity, lack of trust, and self-centeredness.
I can check PoF at work, which usually is time away from a partner. It's easy to communicate via PoF to friends, both men and women. If you take your profile down, how is your friend going to communicate to you about interesting forum topics?
No kidding your partner should be a priority, but I'd describe a person as clingy and needy if they believed they needed to spend every extra second of the day wanting to be with me!
Hmm, what else do you recommend eternalquest? Forcing your partner to delete all numbers in his cell phone? With all that energy you invest in having a distrustful attitude about your partner, how about investing that in yourself.
There is such a thing as a happy medium. If you are currently in a monogamous relationship, state so on your profile. If you get offensive inquiries, block and delete. And show your partner your profile. There's no need to give a profile password, or any other password for that matter.
If your partner has an active profile and you don't trust his/her behavior, COMMUNICATE. If that doesn't work, you have a REAL reason to distrust someone, possibly end the relationship. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/16/2006 10:36:45 AM | It really too bad you that you have a POF account with a GF..
Because i would be spending time with her instead of trying to pick up.. oh excuse me.. thats right... sorry... I mean make chat friends here.
Get a life... get off here and give her some love. Or be a man and breakup. | |
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