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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/4/2007 5:38:12 AM | | There is a lot to be said for making friends on this site or any other. There are several so called dating sites that have friendships established aroung the world and the site is a main means of contact. Read an article in local paper where a wife got her husbands password and curiousity got the better of her and she started questioning who he got emails from and why didnt he tell her he had heard from them. Eventually it seemed to become obsessive and he finally changed his password and didnt tell her. Too much information can be a good or bad thing but if you cant trust each other without knowing all the priveledged information then there is more going on here than just curiousity. If you split up,this person has access to people and things they maybe shouldn't. ID theft is a big problem these days and has to be considered in these cases. Let them read your mails and profile when you are on, that SHOULD be enough to satisfy their curiousity. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/4/2007 12:04:58 PM | :/ if you have nothing to hide, give it to her, if you dont she will think your hiding something, i'd give mine away to someone close if they asked, i have nothing to hide  | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/4/2007 12:11:29 PM | 1. Two people on a dating site and in a realtionship - very confusing.
2. Asking for passwords - very silly.
3. Having a gf and mentioing this in a profile and still not willing to give the password to the gf - very childish. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/4/2007 12:14:02 PM | | Personnally i have trust issues... mainly cuase I've had a few bf 's cheat.. Ive never asked for the password but i have asked when i go over to see them and they quicky turn it off what they are hiding, I wouldnt give mine to him so i dont expect him to give it to me.. as well i have a few gf's on here that ive met through forums or just from life, and one has emailed a guy i was seeing to see what he would say and do and he set up a date with her said he was single and wanted to be with her, i broke up with him hours later and she ditched him.... so be honest you dont know who your talking too.. but i also think if its a great relationship then you both should come off at the same time... makes it for easier relationship.. internet you never know.. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/7/2007 4:22:08 AM | i reckon u ought to just give it her m8........ but only the once,make sure she knows that u aint happy about the lack of trust and that this is a one time only thing, ive heard many ppl going on about their other half is chatting to other ppl on the internet and it would worry me to be honest,im not or havent been in this position before but personally id show her just to keep the peace but make sure u see hers too! then hopefully this wont be an issue again | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/7/2007 4:32:14 AM | | Maybe i am old fashion but if you have a bf or a gf what the hell are you looking for here, you make it sound like you got something to hide and being here when you have a gf or a bf you are hiding something. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/7/2007 8:16:09 PM | | I see no problem giving it to her. I am dating someone online and if he wants my password i couldnt care less, i would give it and thats because i have nothing to hide. On the other hand if i did, i wouldnt be giving it to him. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/8/2007 5:33:29 PM | Ian has my password.When he was here I had his.It's not about trust,it's about sharing all aspects of our lives.
I would not want to cause him distress by refusing a simple request.
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Off topic.
To the people questioning(somewhat rudely)why people with SO's are on a dating site,I'd like to reply.
This site offers many options,even though it is initially a dating site.It offers the option of friends,hang out,talk/e mail and so on.It offers the forums.It has POF meetings.It is a site designed for singles but is gracious enough to offer options for those of us not single.Not every person is a cheater.It is a passtime.Just like tv,it is free entertainment.
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/8/2007 5:55:21 PM | If you have nothing to hide give it to her. I'd give Darren mine if he asked, he's usually sittin here watching me though so there really isn't the need. However, if he did ask me for it, I'd give it to him. I know all his passwords for everything...not a big deal if you have nothing to hide, and the person you are with means anything to you.
Perhaps, it's not you she doesn't trust at all. The human race can be horrid, they always want what someone else has. If someone has it, it must be worth having, so they try and take it away. Maybe she just doesn't trust other women. Rightfully so in some circumstances. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/8/2007 9:10:05 PM | Hmm, I think that is a major red flag for someone who could end up being very possessive, controlling and jealous.
If she trusts it should be a total non-issue.
If she was sitting there watching you and you purposely tried to hide what you were doing, then obviously something would be wrong there on your side but otherwise that is just an invasion of privacy, something that everyone - even someone in a relationship - is entitled to.
That is just my two cents. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/8/2007 11:10:44 PM | Sorry, I'm going to have to say "HELL NO" on this one. I don't care, nor do I ask what the man in my life does online. And I refuse to indulge such silliness as him wanting my passwords here or elsewhere. If he is worried that I am cheating (via a little white box with black letters in it) he has the issue, I don't. This has been a discussion for me in the past and I basically made it very clear, "no way!" I am sort of a recluse and I don't socialize out in public (except very rare times with family.) My friends here are 90% female and I vent to a few of them when I need to. Hence, this is my girl-time. What I say to them is privilged information and it's none of his business. If he honestly thinks I am "looking to find" that indicates to me he's insecure and/or possible having fidelity issues of his own. I don't have time or energy for such self-defeating actions. JMO  | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/9/2007 5:37:04 AM | I gave Ian my password,he didn't ask for it.I don't think of it as him invading .He was invited in.He knows I won't cheat,he has no trust issues.When he was here I had his password,I didn't ask,it was offered.It is a sign of being confident in all aspects of my relationship.
I don't need an escape from him,my life is totally about being with my daughter and him.POF is a site I visit to hang in the forums,not a place I visit to keep him out. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/9/2007 9:54:43 AM | I see no reason why you couldn't exchange passwords if you both have nothing to hide. I can understand as I was in a relationship where there internet activity and when I would walk in the room the screen would change immediately, when I asked why I was told it was just force of habit. As it turns out that was not the truth and if I were in another relationship I may feel somewhat insecure about still being on a dating site. There are many men out there that are married or have a SO and are still looking to have some on the side. If you have a trusting relationship you should be open about everything and don't hide anything, then there can be no trust issues. 
Sandy:) | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/9/2007 2:32:41 PM | If I had a girlfriend and still found the time to come to PlentyofFish, screwing off on the computer instead of spending time with her...... I would not give her my password. I would put "seeing someone" in my profile and state that I was there for the forums.
If she persisted in pestering me about it, I'd say "the fact that you don't trust me, the fact that you're worried enough about it to ask says that you probably shouldn't be dating me."
If I had nothing to hide and I happened to logon all the time, I might invite her to watch the next time I logged in and checked my inbox. But only if I felt that she was being semi-reasonable on the issue. Unless we have come to a mutual agreement in advance about sharing all of our privacy with each other, you have no right to this information, whether i'm 'guilty' or not. If you don't trust me, please, please don't date me. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/9/2007 10:18:34 PM | YOU HAVE SOME OPTIONS U CAN
A) LET HER SNOOP ON UR ACCOUNT WITH UR SUPERVISION SHE DOES NOT NEED TO SNOOP IN PRIVATE REALLY
B) DO GIVE HER THE PASSWORD LET HER HAVE THAT ACCESS FOR A WEEK AND THEN CHANGE UR PASSWORD
ARGUE WITH HER ALL THE TIME BC OF IT
SHE SEEMS PERSISTENT SO U CAN EITHER SUBMIT OR LEAVE | |
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