| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/9/2007 10:57:14 PM | Here's an interesting thought ... this message was posted almost 2 years ago. The OP is no longer on this site, and people are still giving him advice!  | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/10/2007 2:33:13 AM | I wouldn't give her the password. Since it's your account it's your "property". I don't give my password for any account (e-mail, ban.k or whatever to anyone).
I would be willing to let her once see my profile and mail IN/OUT history & what I had posted on the forums. This would be with me sitting with her there. That way you can prove your not up to any "funny business". | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/10/2007 2:56:24 AM | Eeeyikes! She has trust issues. I had that happen with a guy I chatted with, and I was like uhh we have never met and I don't know you that well. He later said he was kidding, and I asked him then why did he ask?
Anyway that is a bit of privacy issue there. If you want to give it to her, then do it and then change your password LOL.
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/10/2007 2:59:34 AM | Hehe laff very funny and good observation there and nothing with still posted about it, as it will help to prevent others with posting the same topics over and over. 
Here's an interesting thought ... this message was posted almost 2 years ago. The OP is no longer on this site, and people are still giving him advice!
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/10/2007 3:16:23 AM | What are you worried about? And if you have a g/f then why are you on a site that is primarily (YES PRIMARILY for DATING???)
If you have nothing to hide and have an honest and open relationship then you have no reason to be cruising forums behind or even with knowledge of your partner. You want someone to be a PART of your life, not to exclude them or drive them away.......er......at least that was the IDEA OF DATING and relationships prior to my 14 year marriage!
Just a thought!
Personally,if I were seeing someone seriously and exclusively, I wouldn't be on here or any other forum/site and I would expect the same RESPECT in return. Yes, Gentlemen, that is respect. Oddly enough, i f you want to be treated a certain way, treat others that way. IF you hide and keep from than that is what you get in return.
Sadly it seems no one wants anyone to be open and upfront. Kinda odd in a day and age when your marriage records are available online, don't ya think? | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/11/2007 2:12:25 PM | As you said when mentioning your 14 yr mariage...and yet you are on here. so even being that open and trusting didnt work. Things are different in today's world people will lie to you to get your information. People you live with, loved, and trusted wil take your info and use it against you or in some illegal way. For many people computer access is their main contact with the outside world. Have read articles about disabled people creating a whole virtual life for themselves online. Something they would have been prevented from doing not even so long ago. I still say you have to have some personal privacy and for safety's sake that means protecting yourself .We all need some things that are uniquely ours and part of what we are.I dont mind sharing but Im not giving it to you to keep...look at whatever you want while Im here but dont get snoopy and obsessive when Im not. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/12/2007 2:35:18 AM | | If your activities on POF are purely innocent then why hide your password from her? She must think something is questionable or she wouldnt have asked for it, MOST girls wouldnt take the risk of making their man think hes not trusted without reason! so if she's wrong then prove it to her and give her the password, not giving it to her is just gonna add weight to her suspisions that u have sumthin to hide. Try and think of how she must feel to have asked you for it in the first place! | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/12/2007 7:57:32 PM | | Gotta agree with ArtofLiving here...and maybe I'm old-fashioned. Call it what you will, but my take on POF is that it is a place to primarily network with the opposite sex. I'd think, if you have someone you're trying to build a relationship with, you'd want to build trust also. You're not going to do that by a) continuing to visit dating sites, and/or b) hiding behind the "privacy" thing. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/28/2007 9:16:54 AM | As one of the oddballs who are in a relationship and still posting here....it wouldn't be a big deal for me.
I sit here and post in the forums with him literally 2 ft. away from me watching t.v. or talking. I laugh and read some of the post to him and get his opinion before I start typing. And ya, I've got his password...he uses the same one for everything. Sure, maybe he has some "secret" accounts some where, but it still boils down to trust and if thats how you're gonna think all the time, you'll drive yourself crazy and your mate will be driven away.
I don't see anything wrong with her having it if she wants it..and I'm wondering why its such a big deal to the OP. If theres nothing to hide.....why not make her feel good about it AND up the trust level by sharing it?
Lonelywind- I guess I would agree with what you're saying if its an obvious problem. My man trusts me and knows he has nothing to worry about as far as my posting here or blogging on the net. I mean, ofcourse, out of respect, I ASKED..."hey, do you mind if I keep posting?" His response was "I don't give a sh!t, knock yourself out"
I got my guy. He got his girl. Both our profiles reflect this and I very rarely even have someone disrespect that enough to contact me with a come on. They get smacked down fairly quick if they do.
And I suppose if it wasn't meant for non-singles to post in the forums..the admin. wouldn't allow it. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/28/2007 10:49:28 AM | | No, I would not give her the password.... but if she wont let it go and you truly have nothing to hide, why not just log in and let her look...log in yourself..... on the other hand, she does not have any right to see your personal emails. ... but if you are just wanting to show her there is nothing to worry about just log in for her. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/28/2007 10:49:56 AM | Here's an interesting thought ... this message was posted almost 2 years ago. The OP is no longer on this site, and people are still giving him advice!
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/28/2007 2:41:42 PM | | no offense but there are soooo many other boards with forums that you could go on- why a dating one. you may have not done anything but who is to say that you wouldn't if a really hot girl approached you, i wouldn't trust you and would think that you would bail if someone better came along. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2007 6:59:46 PM | Well, "Kelly" since you asked, for the most part I, myself, post in the same ongoing threads that I started or became a part of when I joined the site.
I have one that is now 400+ pages on a very personal subject for me. An illness that someone in my life has. I've gotten a lot of info and support from some of the folks on this board.
The other topics I post on are generally relationship related. Asking opinions on this or that.....much like THIS topic.
For the life of me, I can't figure out WHY some people are so bothered by non-singles posting in the FORUMS of all places. Its not like we're hogging the men (or women as the case may be) and its certainly not as if our opinions or insights are any less valid for the fact that we are no longer looking for a mate.
If someone is going to cheat, they are going to cheat. The theory that "You might cheat if someone really hot messaged you" is ridiculous. If one is the type to cheat on someone you supposedly love, you're gonna do it regardless of whether someone messages you or you have to go looking for it. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2007 5:11:53 PM | The key difference quadmom is that you are not hiding your information or access or activities. If someone is posting on a dating site and in a relationship and doesn't want to share that information to clarify why they are truely there....
Uh yeah........
question it! | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 10:52:20 AM | | If you have a girlfriend what are you doing on a dating site? There are plenty of other forums and internet communities that have just as many interesting topics. That just sounds stupid to me for both of you to continue to have your own accounts when you are supposedly a "couple". If you are both on the site and have nothing to hide, why not join your profiles into one account? I don't agree with someone having to resort to snooping into someones email and asking for passwords, so why even go there? If you had one account, then there could be no misunderstandings. If I was in a committed relationship, I wouldn't want my boyfriend to still have his fishing pole in the water. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 6/7/2007 6:04:11 AM | Oh, absolutely ArtofLiving! I couldn't agree more.
Obviously this guy was up to no good in the first place, or else her asking the question wouldn't have rung his bell so hard. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 6/7/2007 9:37:42 PM | If your in a non-comitted relationship then she has no business having your password, your not in any relationship agreement with her and what you do is your business.
However, if your in a "one-on-one" relationship you should honor that and I find it amazing that you BOTH have POF accounts - what are you looking for and why have the POF account if your comitted?
If your both looking for a "playmate" or whatever then make a joint account and delete the individual accounts.
Overall - never ever give out passwords - when your partner gets pissed they will alter your account before you can change the password and you will have a person of the same sex giving you a call at 3am cuz your profile states "thats how you roll".... | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 6/7/2007 9:41:45 PM | Come what may. never give her or else you or her could be an ex. Lol
I think its just about the belief in you, unless you are still searching for someone despite being with your gf which makes her suspicious.
If thats not the case, you got to earn trust. Its easier to earn trust but so difficult to maintain it. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 8/7/2007 10:03:18 PM | | Funny this came up, my bf or was my bf til i found him on this site. So i ask him for his password if he has nothing to hide. He refused and i told him if he were on this site then its over. So i finally "find" his password and guess what, he is a cheat. Big shocker right? Nope sorry girls if ur man is trolling on here he is online cheating. And anyone who ur dating that wont give up his password has alot to hide. So fyi girls Mr.1000 is not what he says he is, lol in fact the bike and the dog i bought him. Worse yet the wessel has old pictures up, he dont look half that good anymore. So now i am here trolling all cause of a password. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 8/19/2007 9:30:07 AM | *hahahaha... a two year old thread that keeps going, and going, and going... guess it's a problem a lot of relationships have, eh?*
~sexy~,
You are right, it's funny this came up. I found out my ex-girlfriend was on Match.com, MySpace.com etc.... trolling for men and writing flirty emails, making plans to meet some of them. When I questioned her about it, she denied she was doing anything wrong, but wouldn't fork over the password or even open her account to prove her "innocence". She closed those accounts and we patched things up, but the trust was lost. Then, a couple months ago I find that she had another MySpace account, which she says she was using to "keep track of her daughters MySpace" which was total bull$hit and I proved it to her. She even had the gall to put up photos of her that I took (I'm a photographer, so that was a slap in the face!). Again, she refused to prove her "innocence", instead opting for trying to make me feel like it's MY fault that I don't trust her!!! Once you get caught lying, it's YOUR responsibility to go out of your way to make sure your partner trusts you. Once trust is lost, it must be earned back, not given blindly.
Bottom line**
If your partner comes to you with questions about your online activities, answer them honestly. If you are innocent, then you will even show them the online account in question. But you don't really need to give them the password. If you want to give them the password, it's easy to change it to something generic to give to them, then you can change it back later.
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 11/2/2007 1:37:08 AM | Hey buddy
Let's get real NOW the idea that she would even ask is insulting, ask her what her password is for her MSN or any other messenger programs that she has.
Then ask her for her bank account password too.......The problem I have with women like that is they are fishing, spying, so that later they can use it against you. No matter what your profile may say, if a beautiful woman contacts you , you will have a problem you do not have control over who connects with you and for that reason alone she will make you delete your accounts to prove your love for her.
Give her an inch NOW and she will continue to take a YARD for the rest of your life. Where is the respect? the trust? the love?
She is your girlfriend NOT your controller, set it straight NOW before she snips your BALLS. What will be next? Who you can hang out with/party with? it will never end STOP the MADNESS NOW before its too late, personally I would DUMP HER
Good Luck Buddy she's the devil in disguise | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 11/2/2007 1:49:19 AM | If a guy has a girlfriend, why would he need a profile on an internet dating site? Or the other way around with aa woman with a boyfriend.
** I realize this is a 2 yr old thread, just a general question** | |
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