| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 11/2/2007 2:08:03 AM | if you have a girlfriend you shouldnt bloody well be on plenty of fish-you're obviously a cheat and you'll end up losing her-which is no more than you deserve! | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 1/4/2008 8:59:59 AM | | DON'T give it. But DO respect her and change your profile. Profile should now indicate you've "caught your fish" (ha ha) and aren't interested in dating anyone else. If maintaining POF is a deal breaker, then leave her. She's a control freak. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 1/4/2008 9:49:13 AM | ^ Well, Alexander, one of the first things I did with my last GF *was* to give her my POF password... and she gave me hers. I never looked at hers, and she never looked at mine (barring once I think I got an email that I *asked* her to read).
Then again, she wasn't the "suspicious" type, I had nothing to hide, and giving to her actually made her trust me *more* that I wasn't trying to hide anything. We both changed our profiles to "Not Single/Not Looking", and stated in them that we weren't looking.
I really don't get why I would want to date someone that *I* didn't trust with my POF password, since I have nothing to hide. And if the OP has nothing to hide, it rather seems like making a mountain out of a mole-hill, turning it *into* an issue, not understanding and respecting *her* feelings... which to me doesn't bode well for the relationship anyways. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 1/4/2008 9:52:49 AM | | Hey... of your girlfriend is a keeper then get off any dating site and find another way to make friends. If she's not a keeper then why are you dealing with that? I'm sorry to sound so harch, but if someone has trust issues you don't make light of them, but do your best to show her that she matters and that ultimately her ability to trust you is most important! Once you leave here you can work on trust issues together. If being here is more important than being with her, then there is your answer and why are you with her! However, if you're living together then you really SHOULD honor her need to trust you. Capice??? | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 1/4/2008 6:46:34 PM | | Why don't you both go into each others profiles together. You don't have to give your password. After she gets a chance to see that she can trust you, there should be no need to go into it again. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 1/5/2008 5:50:00 AM | People who stay on dating sites AFTER they have a significant other...should not be trusted. If you are both committed, then both should kill all dating site accounts, focus on one another, move on with your lives!
If you are still looking for friends, then join a group or something, get away from the PC...get into life as a couple!
I see more couples fight and eventually break up over this than I can count, including myself.
I will never get serious ever again with a man who continues to search/post/email /keep his pic on a dating site after we have the exclusive talk...because actions speak louder than words...and he is purposely keeping options open/looking at the green grass on the other side. It is not condusive to a healthy relationship to put yourself in a position of being approached for more dates AFTER you have a significant relationship...even if you change your profile to say 'only here for forums'...or 'no longer available'...come on! That's BS-I got hit on way more when I was wearing my wedding rings..thats a challenge to some people.
People say 'well, I have made friends on here'...then move them over to your normal mail accounts, if they are really friends, this should not be an issue.
Use the sites to meet people to date, then move on and finish up with the site when your goal has been accomplished. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 1/5/2008 6:25:43 AM | | Hope this hasnt already been brought up as I just skimmed the 17 pages on this post. Recently I overheard my oldest daughter telling her friend on telephone she changed a guys profile on My Space cause she was mad at him for something he did to her at school and then changed his password so he couldnt get into his profile. I was furious! and made her call this guy and apologize and give him the new password! Some on here seem worse than teenagers and I could see that happeneing here. There is no excuse I can see to give her your password! | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 4/24/2008 6:20:57 AM | ok , what if you meet a man in here , you talk two and three times a day , you really seem to hit it off and you make plans to meet and then he never shows up ? do you stay n here in hopes that he will come back in here to check his notes from you telling him that you are still waiting for him ? he told me this as a good way to stay i contact with friends, so i am leaving little notes for him just in case something bad has happend to him, to let him know im still here waiting. is this love or what ? we have talked for two to three months on and off and the last visits in here were awesome ! now i havent heard from him in almost two weeks but i want him to know that i am still interested.
he was having problems with his laptop while on the road to deliver horses. i dont want his password ! i just want to know he is ok. and IF he met someone i am ok with that because we havent met in person yet. so i cant get mad or upset about it. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 4/24/2008 7:54:10 AM | | Eh, I wouldn't give up my normal e-mail password, but when it comes to POF I'd probably go along with it. It's hard for me to consider an account on a dating website "private" when you're in a relationship. It's one of those things where you should be glad that she's ok with the fact that you even have an account here. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:02:14 AM | | Simple. If you have a girlfriend, what are you doing on here? You know how many relationships have been ruined by dishonesty and guys/women staying here after they pledge "oneness" to each other? Get off the site or give her the bloody password if you have nothing to "hide." | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 4/25/2008 8:10:51 AM | | look first of all if you have a girlfreind you shouldnt be on here.second all shes got to do is put in a fake password when that doesnt work all she has to do is forgot my pass word and they will email it to her email address.the reason you dont want her seeing it its because your flirting with other girls if you want to do that end the realationship. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 4/25/2008 10:31:02 AM | I have to say that it's pretty funny how many people assume giving your password is some great thing (not to mention, this is TWO YEARS OLD). Any idea what some people can DO with it? Some people seem like you can trust them then they turn into control freaks that chain you to the floor and you can only do what they 'allow' you to do.
Not to mention that forums are here and there's now something wrong with posting. Talk about everyone wanting to just drop everything and please people. If you're on here posting before the relationship why does that hold exclusive rights to stop you? | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 4/25/2008 11:20:46 AM | IF you have nothing to hide, give her the password...and ask her for hers as well. I dont see why youre stalling in giving her your password.
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 4/26/2008 10:54:33 AM | I think you just established that her regard for your trust is not valid.
What's the big deal if you're loyal anyway.
Personally, I don't ask for things like passwords, go through phones, etc. and would be turned off by someone who was that way with me. I'm not a jealous or insecure woman but I'm also not eager to trust anyone with my feelings and when I do arrive at wanting to be this way-- it won't be the result of him divulging his passwords to me. I will want to trust him when he gestures and the way he treats me and responds to my concerns are comfortable.
Apparently you're not doing something or you are doing something that warrants her insecurity about it. And she came right out and asked what kind of dialog you're having WHILE YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND. If I were her, I'd be online right now looking for another you to get to know LOL just kidding. I seriously would be less inclined to want to trust you-- and that's not good if you're working on a relationship.
If this girl isn't expendible, I'd suggest making your hobby on POF one she feels comfortable about or stop perputrating like you're loyal to just her. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 4/26/2008 11:08:11 AM | | Lost: Give it to her. If the two of you are to trust each other, begin now. This gesture is a way of building your foundation. I can understand why you may not want to share your password, after all, if she trusts you there should be no reason to ask you to prove it. Then again, perhaps a little insecurity on her part is asking you for this reassurance. So, if you want to build a future, give her the cement she needs. In the scheme of things, isnt this petty...... | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 4/26/2008 11:27:54 AM | Put the shoe on the other foot, she shares your bed and her most intimate self with you and you cant share your POF profile ona singles dating site........
Get over yourself buddy, I wouldnt give you the time of day honey........ | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 4/26/2008 11:36:00 AM | Come on people, she is in a realtionship with a guy who is on singles dating site, she has trusted him she is not telling him to get off it she is asking to view the contacts he has......
That is reasonable and hardly an issue of trust at all, if their is nothing wrong withit why cant she take alook.
How dare any of you tell a girl to simply trust the man and the realtionship when he has a singles profile up on this site.......
Next you will be calling her a fool when she posts the he cheated and she trusted him while he was on a singles site.
I have hidden my profile as I no longer want to be apart of this site, I still view the foums and still cant believe the degeneration in people that I have been exposed to ........
She should have the confidence and self respect to set up her own boundaries without this twat claiming she should close her eyes ignore her gut feelings and trust his spoken words........
That is nonsense and no intelligent reasonable trustworthy person would expect it let alone ask for support for the subject..........
she never asked him to delete it she asked to see it, big difference......... | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 4/26/2008 6:38:01 PM |
I have to say that it's pretty funny how many people assume giving your password is some great thing (not to mention, this is TWO YEARS OLD). Any idea what some people can DO with it? Some people seem like you can trust them then they turn into control freaks that chain you to the floor and you can only do what they 'allow' you to do.
Actually funny, Zopz, because my *last* ex-GF, who is still here on POF, well.. if she remembers it, has my password (it hasn't changed). I trusted her then, and I would still trust her with it today. We both kept our ID's after we started dating, we'd chat on IM and have lots of chats about the various threads we found, about our own views on the topic, we didn't always agree, but we learned a lot about each other from it. She didn't ask, I gave her my password, and I didn't ask, she gave me hers (after I gave her mine), even though we never looked at each other's mail (although we told each other and laughed about some of the funnier ones). It wasn't about either of us *not* trusting each other, she never expressed a lack of trust - and in fact she commented that she felt she didn't *need* to worry about it because I gave it to her (ie, I had nothing to hide).
Not like its the password to my checking account or something, was just here for the forums (as was she). | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 4/26/2008 8:06:01 PM | I was with someone that got a hold of my passwords and would change my accounts and passwords and stuff on me. Would even go so far as using my security questions to bypass the password all together. This being someone I THOUGHT I could trust. It ended up taking me forever to finally get it figured out and have my accounts left the hell alone. I actually gave a menial account password without any asking and it was fine, then it just kind of went downhill after that at some point.
I won't do it again though. I'd like the type of relationship like my parents' where it could happen and my accounts will never even be accessed. But that's probably rare, but it'll be a while before I do any password giving to someone else after my experience. I lost money out of it from a game I bought and my email and accounts for it were changed and I never got them back. | |
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