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 sweetiepi
Joined: 9/18/2006
Msg: 426
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She may have some trust issues, but I say..if you still want to be with her, give it to her. You have to decide whether you are okay with being with someone who has trust issues.

If my boyfriend wanted mine, I would have absolutely no problem giving it to him. I have nothing to hide. What's the harm?
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 427
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Posted: 4/26/2008 11:19:51 PM
your lucky; if your in a committed relationship you shouldn't even have a profile. There are plenty of women who have boyfriends and even husbands that contact me and are looking for a little cyber fun or even in person.
 VaFishnetstockings4u
Joined: 9/3/2006
Msg: 428
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Posted: 4/27/2008 5:47:29 AM
It's A Matter Of Trust & How Committed You Are

I would not give her my password , that is yours and if she trust and loves you she
will understand and accept your decision on this matter. If she is having trusting
issues with just a simple password and making demands already she will have it
on many things.

But as someone said if you are in a good healthy relationship have
this lovely girl friend why are both you on here still ?

If you are committed and love
this woman don't let a simple password come between the two of you.

It's your
choice as to what you want being here on POF
and giving up your password or proving
to your girlfriend that she can trust you that you are committed to her .

Another thing
if she has trust issues then something has happened before
to make her want to ask you for your password.

Yes many are dishonest online but not all ,
and there are also men that are married
and have girlfriends in a committed relationship too.

That are on here for just alittle afternoon delight
or some discrete fun
so it's just not the women on here lets
not lay the blame on the sexs it's all not just one sex.

If you love this woman hon , you will do what you feel is best
to maintain the relationship
take a look at her trusting issues.

Perhaps you two come to a happy medium on this matter follow
your heart and do what
you feel and know is the right thing to do about your password.

Is she going to want to know what your password is on other things
like your bank account and anything
else that she is going to make a demand on ?

You see my point at what I'm getting at is,
if she can't handle you being on here and asking to see your password
she does not trust you but it's not your fault it's hers .

Trust is a two way thing. well you have tried
to re assure her that she has nothing to worry about it
and you've gone out of your way for her.

You have a few choices.

Give up the password , or close your account or come to an agreement;
or tell her no, that she has to trust you and leave it at that .

Only you can decide what is important and matters the most to you !

It's a matter of trust and how committed you are to her and also I see a red
flag that she has issues of trust and also making simple demands .

Prehaps
ask her why ?
Then do what you feel is best to stay in the relationship.

Good luck in this matter hope it comes ,
to a happy medium for you both
true love is hard to come by ,if you have it hang onto it
once it's gone it's very hard to get back
you have a good thing with this woman ,
so do what you think is right!

All the best thanks for sharing this post Brenny
 mogrl42
Joined: 4/16/2007
Msg: 429
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Posted: 4/27/2008 6:01:26 AM
If I was to get involved with someone and he wants my password,he can have it.
I gave it to a boyfriend before,he said he had way more fun with my profile then his own.....
it wasn`t a Pof profile btw :)
 fantasiapeaches
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 430
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Posted: 4/27/2008 6:16:45 AM
Ihave thing to say, with all due respect but I for one have been in this position and this relationship seems doomed before its even started. Trust issues are what they are, but theyre HER issues. No mount of endless tryin to rsolve this issues is gonna work, she needs to get herself together before she can truly hve a relationship. In my experience, and that it truly was an eperience, but couples who need to know each others passwords is just the start of a downward spiral. But if you do give her your passward, get hers in return, and as soon as she signs in change it.
I was once witha guy who had alot of girls talkin to him, some of hom he as previus history with and it tore us apart but there were ALOT of other issues aswell.
 Iamshay
Joined: 3/14/2008
Msg: 431
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Posted: 4/29/2008 8:35:26 AM
Very middle ground, caring sharing solution Birdy! Nice! Clearly there are issues of trust. If you care about her, and the strength of the relationship, do what is necessarry to make it better. I always say, turn the tables. If you are doing something that if the tables were turned might feel uncomfortable if the other person were doing the same...you either shouldnt be doing it, or you should look for another fish!
Peace
 Dreamsasea
Joined: 11/7/2007
Msg: 432
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Posted: 4/29/2008 9:14:19 AM
[Not like its the password to my checking account or something, was just here for the forums (as was she).]

Words only a man could write about checking accounts on a FREE dating site... just here for the forums? LMAO... I love the nuts and bolts that make this world up! Get off if you love her, period and same for her.
 Dreamsasea
Joined: 11/7/2007
Msg: 433
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Posted: 4/29/2008 9:16:44 AM
Fantasia? You da bomb girl. EXACTAMUNDO! This isn't an advice column he wants, it's a ME thread, so after this? Off this one.. haha...OMG, g.f. wants my password of who I'm messing with behind her back. Rocket science? I think not.
 possibilitiesrendless
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 434
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Posted: 4/29/2008 9:28:55 AM
Hi there!
Well from my experience with a guy who continued on this site, even though we were together - there is WAY MORE than forum comments/surfing going on!!
Some people get addicted to this site and even though they are with someone are always looking for the next best thing!!
I asked him for his password but it was because I had a gut feeling it was WRONG for him to still be on this site still regardless of the excuse!!
If you guys are together, please tell me why it is important to still be on here!!!

Give her your password and show her you have nothing to hide, but I do agree you should get hers - then really you guys - CLOSE YOUR ACCOUNTS!!!
TRUST IS EVERYTHING but this website is temptation just waiting for you!!!
 musicianfriend
Joined: 7/23/2007
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Posted: 4/29/2008 9:37:05 AM
Whats the big deal....Give it to her. I think the internet makes it so easy to meet others.....She has an investment of time in you. She has the right to know if her world is possibly getting taken away from her.

GIVE HER THE PASSWORD IF YOU HAVE NOTHING TO HIDE.
 annabanana1980
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 436
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Posted: 4/29/2008 2:05:27 PM
my opinion on the matter would be... what the hell are you doing on a dating website if u have a gf and are in a committed relationship
i think the time you spend on here should be spent maybe with her??? perhaps???

and regarding the fact that she knows ur here that DOESNT MAKE IT OK!!!!!


and for all the guys who say its a insecure issue... no, if your in a relationship, LEAVE the dating website... there are plenty of places
on the WORLD WIDE WEB to chat... loads of other forums... that isnt a dating site..

if you were my bf... you wouldnt on it and if you were you wouldnt be my bf.... end of.

nothing to do with trust its logic... you have no reason to be here no more end of.

regarding your test and passed comment.... my advice would be quit playing mind games and grow up... y'all life is to short.
 .Selena.
Joined: 9/3/2007
Msg: 437
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Posted: 4/29/2008 3:11:56 PM
3 yrs later, I wonder if he gave her the password.
 countrygirl800
Joined: 4/26/2008
Msg: 438
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Posted: 4/29/2008 3:18:51 PM
WHAT I S THE REASON YOU ARE ON THIS SITE IF YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND? JUST CURIOUS TO NOW THE ANSWER JUST BROWSING? ARE YOU LOOKING TO FIND SOMETHING ELSE
MY OPINION IS IF YOUR IN A RELATIONSHIP WHY WOULD YOU NEED TO BE ON ANY SITE?
 LonelyNCurious
Joined: 4/12/2008
Msg: 439
Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 4/29/2008 3:24:50 PM
I hate to sound like a crazy woman lol, but why are u on here if u have a girlfriend?? Speaking from experience, I asked my ex for the same request of his password. He gave it to me without hesitation. After I checked his account a few times, I realized I was being childish. If you dont give her the password, she is going to think u are doing something wrong. Is it worth the headache???
 Dolomite363
Joined: 4/5/2008
Msg: 440
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Posted: 4/29/2008 3:35:14 PM
If you have a steady girlfriend then why the hell do you actively maintain a profile on a fxckxxg dating site? duh... kinda lame from her point of view... don't you get it?

Ken
 misssexyprincess
Joined: 4/7/2008
Msg: 441
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Posted: 4/30/2008 8:58:19 AM
why are you even on this site,its for dating ......
you should be more respectful to her and not even be out "looking", if your not sure you want to be with her , move on.......
 terdle
Joined: 8/6/2007
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Posted: 5/3/2008 11:13:00 AM
How about having her go online with you, creating a shared profile. I know that some folks like to chat in the forums. It may be time to decide what's more important a real relationship or the ones of the flat online world. While you mention you have a girlfriend, I will share from personal experience that some women just don't care whether you have a girlfriend or not. Those women tend to have the view that you're on here, and you wouldn't be unless there was something missing from your relationship.

If your choice is your real life relationship, and there is something missing, how about trying to work harder on the relationship, instead of spending time in the forums or other distractions. I bet you get a huge pay-off.
 Looking4OCMan
Joined: 3/19/2008
Msg: 443
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Posted: 10/12/2008 11:48:11 AM
If you have a girlfriend and you are in a manogamous relationship
then their is no need to be on POF? You shouldn't be. This is a sight for people
that want to meet someone special. If you have someone special and it is upsetting
her then you should delete your profile. Why rock the boat, unless you like to
make her feel insecure. I went through this with a boyfriend, these type of men
are not worth it.
 robfish
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 444
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Posted: 10/12/2008 3:48:13 PM
I think she has every right to feel insecure and the fact that you're not willing to give her your password makes it even worse. Instead of writing a three paragraph essay of what I think about this i'll keep it simple >>> POF Forums or your girlfriend?? Make your choice. Sure, the forums can be entertaining but why anyone would put their relationship on the line by keeping their profile active on a dating site is beyond me.

The whole point of being here is to find someone special, you have and now you won't leave. If you don't do something about this soon the trust issues will ruin the relationship......but hey, at least you still have the forums right??
 IluvChris
Joined: 5/12/2008
Msg: 445
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Posted: 10/12/2008 4:04:13 PM
I am open and honest with my guy, I didn't meet him through POF, but openly told him about my profile and the fact I visit the forums often. Sometimes we discuss topics that ive read and of course he didnt have a problem with me learning how to Deep Throat by using a trick I read on here.
The other day when he was over I showed him why I was still on POF and what interested me about the forums. He got a few good laughs at some of the Forums.
I don't think you should give your passwords to your lovers..... being open and honest should be enough.
 acitalriwt sixela
Joined: 5/5/2008
Msg: 446
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Posted: 10/12/2008 4:12:19 PM

POF Forums or your girlfriend?? Make your choice. Sure, the forums can be entertaining but why anyone would put their relationship on the line by keeping their profile active on a dating site is beyond me.


A choise between POF forum and type of person who is so insecure and untrusting is easy for me.
 jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 447
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Posted: 10/12/2008 4:31:56 PM
No. plain and simple No.
 corindan
Joined: 7/13/2008
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Posted: 10/12/2008 4:44:02 PM
I think you two deserve each other. Unfortunately, the world does not deserve the babies you two will make.
 beniandthejets
Joined: 1/10/2008
Msg: 449
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Posted: 10/12/2008 4:48:43 PM
If you have a girlfriend and it is exclusive, GET OFF A FREAKIN' DATING SITE!!!
 TheDirtyBen
Joined: 8/25/2008
Msg: 450
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Posted: 10/12/2008 4:48:50 PM
Since both of them were on POF and both had their own accounts.........why not combine them?

I mean, if it's an honest relationship, and both have nothing to hide, yet they like the forums, the choice is obvious to me!

You create a joint account and you both have the password and every detail of the profile eludes to a happy couple that is their for the forums ONLY.

If only one side had an account on a dating site and the other felt uncomfortable about it, you delete the account.

What's more important to you?? POF or your SO's feelings?
To me..........that's a no-brainer!
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