| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/5/2005 1:41:28 PM | | Still sexy .... I would like to compliment you on 2 things. You look absolutely fantastic! And second, the relationship you have with your partner. You are a very fortunate woman! | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/5/2005 1:42:12 PM | | should he eliminate also his female friends? and coworkers? or why doesn't he just handcuff himself to her and then she will never need to be afraid again - but odds are she still would be. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/5/2005 1:51:36 PM |
I agree and I am still trying to figure out why people who are NOT single, are on a dating site?
They are DATING someone and they are a DATING site. What's not to understand? The forums are pretty interesting.
I agree with s&b and Joe Schmo. If there is a way to deactivate your profile so that it doesn't show up under searches, and you can still participate in the forums, that's the way to go.
Asking for someone's password is ludicrous. What does she think she MARRIED to you? That's no way for her to earn your trust. Forget about you earning her trust, you just do that by making unreciprocated demands.
The joint profile is an interesting idea, but that seems a little extreme. I suggest learning how to hide your profile to singles and then doing that if possible. Good luck | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/5/2005 2:18:40 PM | | Hey if your woman wants to play with your fishing rod I say sure why not, even if your only practicing the catch and release method. Honestly I find the times when I have dated someone from pof or real life i kind of lose interest in all but the political forums, but hey what ever your privacy threshold is, right; treat the jealousies of others with delicacy and they will reward your sensitivity. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2005 2:25:07 PM | dude play her game say an eye for an eye and if she doesnt
dump her life is too short to allow woman to act like that
that is the only down side of dating internet stuff
i was on american singles and i was totally blunt and upfront
with these woman i dated i wasnt ready for ltr (commitment)
stuff and they seemed to understand but when they saw me on
line they would get all pissed off and wonder why so i tossed back
at them well u know from the start no commitments and furthermore
why cant i go on and u can?
lol
good luck my brother
stick to your guns! | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/5/2005 3:26:45 PM | | You want my personal opinion, I think both of you should get off this site unless it's not going to cause a problem between the 2 of you. I mean why stay on here then if it's just going to cause a fight? I have to agree though she is being a bit of a hypocrite since she is on here too, but once again, if she can't deal with it I think you should both delete your profiles. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/5/2005 3:39:07 PM | well first, maybe they met on here...
second, if people want to stay on and meet people just for chat/friends then that is fine. People in relationships are allowed to have friends too. Both of them having one on her means they can check to see fi the other has said "ya i am dating someone" I figure there is no prob with adding that in your profile if thats the case
As for your pass... its your call. If you have no problem with her being dominant over you for the relationship. Some guys lieka women to mother them, personally, i can not stand it. I will always have a life outside the relationship. I will always talk to people on a friendship level (altho i would add in my profile that i was in a relationship and not looking for anyone)
You give her the pass it sets the standard for your relationship which is that she is in charge and that your individuality is gone. I think both people in a relationship need independence and to respect eachother as people and not just as part of a couple.
granted anyone who knows me well can guess my pof pass | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/5/2005 4:02:50 PM | I'm with Medicat (see page one)
Pretty much the best version of the same message : sure, give it to her and remember to get hers while you're at it. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/5/2005 5:13:28 PM | I think that if you have a girlfriend, you should just pack it up, load the boat on the trailer and go prep your lil fishy together....but if you're just 'here for the forums' (which is synonomous with "not totally satisfied" btw) then, put her pic in your profile and publicly say that you love her. Message her everyday...just to say that "Yep, I'm still totally into you". Don't forget to just have one person in your favourites list...HER.
Now THAT will keep her from asking for your passwords. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/5/2005 5:27:29 PM | think that if you have a girlfriend, you should just pack it up, load the boat on the trailer and go prep your lil fishy together....but if you're just 'here for the forums' (which is synonomous with "not totally satisfied" btw)
That is so not true ohgary. These forums can be a tad addictive, not to mention amusing and full of great people! No reason not to come and check out what's going on occasionally. It Doesn't have to mean you are still 'looking'. It says clearly in his profile he's taken. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/5/2005 5:33:19 PM | The fact that she got pissed off tells me that I think Joe Schmo's right on the impending failure of your relationship.
What the hell. Christmas is coming up. Why not get yourself a nice present? The gift of being single.
Call me Devil's Advocate. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/5/2005 6:16:57 PM | | thats a little silly...but if she's really that curious and you've got nothing to hide, maybe show her your inbox and put her mind at ease! | |
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Posted: 12/5/2005 6:33:42 PM | yeah I would opt for that too. ^^^ don't listen to all the miserable singles who are telling you to break up with her simply because they want to drag you down with them. 
hey if you have something good together, take care of it. take care of each other's needs and above all talk things out because communication is crutial when building trust. If you are not serious about her then that's a different story but if you are and you care then make her your priority not some silly power struggle over who is right or wrong in this matter.
Make a decision that mutually benefits both and find a common ground where by you can both feel comfortable and not like you have to distrust on another. If you care about each other you will solve it together.
For those of you that asked...our profiles and can be easily hidden under HELP there is an otion to "HIDE profile and another to DELETE....HIDE just hides it so that your profile does not show on searches but if you post on the forum you see what you have on the left. <-------- | |
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Posted: 12/5/2005 7:26:48 PM | The issue of if I should be here or not isn't really an issue since:
1. I'm not here to meet anyone!
2. We have discussed it and she is okay with me being on here. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2005 7:54:18 PM | There are subtle ways to ease her jealousy without giving her your passwords. You know, like add at least a few restrictions. Saying "I'm in a relationship" and SHOWING it are two different things. So, if you're serious about it, then SHOW it. Don't just say it. Ya, the forums CAN be fun...they've provided me with a few laughs but I've also seen several that turned into nastiness.
I'll just give the OP a wee bit of advice. You're only 21 and if you cave in to jealousy at this stage, she'll be using that for a loooong time. I for one would never tolerate any jealousy at all. You can try and ease her fears a little but handing out your passwords is a little overboard, don't ya think. If there's a ring on her finger and you have 5 kids to feed with nothing to hide, then by all means...but in your case, I'd say no.
But hey, whatever.
Tosses ya a cold one !
G. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/5/2005 8:05:35 PM | ^^How about the obvious? if a partner is threatened by the fact that their mate is on a dating site, why not remove the profile all together? I like how she gets blamed for being jealous and men always think that women try to control them and they feel they don't want to have to relenquish their freedoms to them but the whole time they fail to see what drives their partners to uneasiness in the first place.
If she were "really" fine with him being here she would NOT be asking for the password.
this is something tha is just not working between those two.
Either she is not telling him exactly how she feels for fear that he might get upset if she says "I wish you would take your profile down"
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the OP is not being totally upfront about the situation.
but something doesn't make sense here. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/5/2005 8:18:43 PM | the OP also mentioned that the GF has a profile on here too.... he hasnt said what he thinks of her still having a profile on this site.... which i have made note to question the OP in a earlier post i made on this topic....
i dont think there would be a fear of telling him how she feels incase it would upset him.. as she did ask for it... and out of concern he has come here to ask what he should do... so there could be a upset factor that she does not trust him... if she was concerned about upsetting him by telling what she really does feel... she wouldnt have asked in the first place...
but like you Sexy.... somethings arent adding up... he has noted in his profile he has a GF... thats plain as day... so really i dont know what the problem is with the GF.... she should be happy he has put that on there... | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/5/2005 8:33:22 PM | Hey Sexy,
I already suggested that they just go off in blissful love. Delete your profiles, be in love and build your white picket fences together ! Yep, I still love your upside down kitty....but thats a whole other story.
Sometimes I think people just make up topics and ya know, something just isn't right here. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/5/2005 8:37:41 PM | Nope. Nothing is being made up! This is the straight s#@t and unfortunately I'm stuck in the middle of it.
To ohgary: Yup, that's what I do. When I get bored I make of bogus problems about the problems me and my girlfriend are having. I love living in this fanatasy world, it is so excting!! | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/5/2005 8:50:18 PM | First; erase all the juicy shit then most definantly get her password in return for your own.....did you ever think that maybe she is dealing with a guilty conscience?
Either way, or for whatever reason, she has probably already deleted all the good stuff too!!
So, then it'd be a win-win situation....would'nt it? | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/5/2005 8:54:00 PM | Don't get upset at me bud. I'm just trying to help out a younger guy...at the same time , trying to figure out if you have some kind of angle to this whole thing. Thats all. If you're REALLY into her, you're heart, mind and soul will tell you what to do. Ya know....we can only offer up our opinions on what we think is going on. Nobody's trying to hurt you.
I'd rather just talk to sexy and brainy...she's way closer to me..in age and proximity (and she has an upside down kitty cat too, ya know) Hey, I tried to help but ultimately you can do what you want. You're a big boy now. So, go get'em Tiger ! Thats what I tell my 14 yr old. Even HE knows NOT to give out his password.
Thats ALL I have to say on this topic and I won't be responding here again. Good luck bud. Have a cold one. | |
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