| |
| |
| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/6/2005 1:51:36 PM | | Well, Here is the update. She stopped answering my calls. I then sent her a text asking if she was mad. She told me it was over!! So, she broke up with me because I wouldn't give her the password. Sometimes it cost you to stick to your principles. | |
|
| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/6/2005 1:56:25 PM | IF you have nothing to hide, you should of given her your password and let her feel the fool, for checking up on you.
Passwords can always be changed. | |
|
| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/6/2005 2:01:28 PM | | Maybe it's the post she's pissed off at, if not ... maybe she might be control freak material. If thats all it took to cause a break up, then better now than later. | |
|
| |
| |
| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/6/2005 2:26:26 PM | | I was referring to the lack of intimacy of the computer versus the real world and flesh & blood relationships. I'll try to be more direct in the future. | |
|
| |
| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/6/2005 2:44:16 PM | its right better sooner then later..... at least some people find out too late.... like a friend of mine...
i hadnt spoken to him in a few years... he was on R&R over in perth before he went home after a deployment in iraq...he told me he had gotten married.. how it was whirlwind wedding only coz she found out she was pregnant.... he also told me that he doesnt have any friends anymore coz she didnt like him having them.. especially female ones... he sounded very upset and lonely... but his baby was going to be born just as he was going home.... anyways... i let it go a month... and i shot him a email.. asking how everything was going.. how the wife and child and him were settling into new family live etc... innocent right?.. i get an abusive email... saying jason dosnt want to talk to you he is not allowed to talk to you... he is only allowed to talk to me his wife thats all the conversation he needs as he has me.... well... lol.. i flipped out and told her how immature she was etc.. as he and i were friends and had been for some time....and i was just seeing how you all were settling into family life... she came back and abused me more...back and forth etc... so i sent her the convos i had with him about how he wasnt happy with her controling ways.... anyways... apparently he wrote back saying it wasnt him it was a friend of him that got into his acct etc.. load of crap pretty much... she even admitted to me that she demanded his password after he had told her i asked how the family was... she changed the password.. and put in his profile... i am MARRIED.. i dont need to talk to anyone... i have a WIFE... i only talk to her... so everyone can go leave me alone as i dont need anyone as i have my WIFE and my DAUGHTER...
and she claimed to be secure within her relationship...lol... | |
|
| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/6/2005 3:34:38 PM | lostprophet, Tell her to piss off, it's your password, your bees wax and not her's...then when she starts throwing your things out of the house, don't go for the TV or Stereo because she'll keep those, don't go for your clothes, because you can just wash those, GO FOR YOUR D!CK, It's probably in the Medical Cabinent in a glass Jar. As for your nuts, They are probably on her key chain. Now, when you get them, GET THE HELL OUT!!!
:roll: | |
|
| |
| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/6/2005 3:42:23 PM | | Lostprophet, if she's going to break up with you because you wouldn't give her your password, I say good riddance. Sounds like she has some major insecurity issues. When we grow up, we do not have the need to control the ones we love. | |
|
| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/6/2005 3:55:39 PM | | I agree, she shouldn't need the password. If you are loyal and a man of your word there should be no problem with you having a personal account on this site just to chat. I would not ask my boyfriend for the password if I completely trusted him, OR/AND if I were secure in our relationship. I sometimes am not secure in my relationships, and that is when I would want his password to someting like this. That has never happened, but that would be the only reason I would want his password, if I were in that situation. Even though you are in a relationship people still deserve and have the right to boundries, personal space, and privacy. If you were going to give her your password then you might as well have a "joint account" profile. Perhaps keep your personal profile and open a "joint account" one..lol maybe she'd like that :o) On a side note, if you spend much time on this website chatting with people, that could be a reason why she is insecure in the relationship, if that is in fact the case..lol just a thought ;) If you are in a committed relationship, then either of you having a profile on here may not be the best idea. But that's just some old fashioned advice, for what it's worth. | |
|
| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/6/2005 7:13:18 PM |
Nah, I don't think she's being insecure. See, some might argue, why are the two of you on a dating site at all if you are in a committed relationship? Instead of making this a power issue or feeling like someone's acting like your mom, if I was in your shoes, I'd smile and give it to her, and say, hey, no problem. I'd say, I want you to always feel like you can trust me, and that you can share stuff with me, too. And I'd ask her to share her password too, with me. I'd put it all out in the open, and then watch. I bet that for a while - a short while, she will look through everything on there that she can. And then, just watch - she will stop. She'll feel relieved. Because yeah, there is a trust issue going on here. Then, I'd sit down with her and say, "now, what's the real issue, and do you want to talk about it?"
birdy, I really like that plan. | |
|
| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/6/2005 7:21:28 PM | Wow.. That's a hard one!
I wouldn't ask for someone's password.... but I would be bummed if I was in a relationship and they chose to keep their profile active.
Ok.. so your profile shows you have a girlfriend and you're looking for friends......
DON'T even try to tell me that you HAVEN't gotten E-mails from girls that don't care that you're in a relationship cuz I'm sure you have!
There are a lot of people that while in a relationship still talk to other ppl.... and some of them are even looking for their replacement! You may feel you know that you're in a solid relationship... but seeing an active profile can cause..... doubts.
I don't know why you didn't say.. I won't give you my password but I'll log on and you can see who I've corresponded with....... IF you have nothing to hide...
I have things on my computer that I havent' deleted from relationships in the past..
It would make me uncomfortable to have a boyfriend messing around on my computer. | |
|
| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/6/2005 7:26:17 PM | I don't know why you didn't say.. I won't give you my password but I'll log on and you can see who I've corresponded with....... IF you have nothing to hide...
I like that plan too.
And, maybe get rid of your pictures. I mean, if you're just here for the forums, and you're happily in a relationship, maybe it would help her feel better about it if you didn't have pictures up. | |
|
| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/6/2005 8:23:56 PM | Okay I just read your profile and you say in the forum that you clearly state you have a girlfriend I think maybe you need to go read your profile once more because it actually says you are looking for a woman for dating. She may want the password because of that... I dont know how I feel about the password thing but if I am dating someone I give them my password only because I have nothing to hide, I would rather be open then closed.
So if you are not serious about this girl let her fly dont give her the password
If you like her then give her the password and change your profile. | |
|
| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/6/2005 9:51:29 PM | | I'm probably gonna get in trouble here again, but here it goes... It isn't about trust, it's about power. She wants to bend you to do what she wants. If you don't stand up and be a man, it's all over for you. Maybe not right away, but things will go downhill. She may even break up with you for not giving it to her, the ultimate test, hang on and you'll prove that you stand your ground and she'll come crawling back. And if she doesn't, you're 21 dude, no sweat! lol, it's true! Hate me...I think I'll make that my new name... I see I answered a little late, wel save it for next time bro, she'll be back at least once...;) Still don't let her rule you! | |
|
| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/6/2005 10:08:41 PM | | Read my post post above. She did break up with me because I wouldn't give it to her! She stopped answering my calls and then sent me a text and said it was over!! | |
|
Airuis
|
Joined: 11/21/2005
Msg: 96 | |
| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/6/2005 10:28:44 PM | | The way I see it, it's better that you found out about this side of her now rather than later. Somebody that would break up with you over not being given a password has obviously got some issues she needs to work on by herself. Let her chill for awhile. | |
|
| |
tabby
|
Joined: 7/27/2004
Msg: 98 | |
| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/6/2005 11:19:17 PM | | im not sure if this has been suggested yet as i didnt feel like reading through all the posts but if she wants to see who emails u why dont u sit with her in front of the computer while ur logged in so she can see the silly things people are saying to u. this way she can see who messages u and that shows that u havew nothing to hide, but still protects ur password and general privacy since she cant look at it whenever she wants to "check up" on u. my bf knows i come on here for the forums and sits with me on occasion to get a laugh out of some of the emails i get. | |
|
| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/6/2005 11:27:42 PM | ^^ tabby.... you shouldve read the last few posts... she dumped him for not giving her his password....
and yes... a number of us suggested what you had.... guess if he took that option it still wasnt good enough for her.... | |
|
| |
Home
login 
