| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/7/2005 3:06:22 AM | nah i wouldnt have broken up over it.... as i wouldnt have issues about wanting to ask for it in the first place...
even after everything you did to assure her you werent picking up on the side ( changing profile etc).. she still wasnt happy.... maybe it was just a easy way out of the relationship for her as you didnt give her what she wanted....which in my eyes sirens screaming.. control freak.. spoilt brat.. and insecure.... | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/7/2005 6:15:32 AM | | I think it would have been worth it for you to break up with her! Next time, maybe that should be your game plan, "chance favours the prepared mind". Next time anyone says I want your "code" say I don't date jealous, suspicious, controlling, pushy...I think you get my point... | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/7/2005 11:00:52 AM | | My Girlfriend asked me for my Facebook.com password and I would not give it to her. It is a college website linking college students throughout the country. She is still in high school so she couldn't make a site. I told her it was my website and she has no business being on there. She got extremely mad so I just told her to chill out and I'm going to the bar to pick up other older women. I left out the "pick up older women" part when I was talking to her though. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/7/2005 11:12:39 AM | | correct me if i'm wrong, but isn't this a website designed for singles who are looking for dates?...that said, why are you (and your girlfriend) on a website designed for singles who are looking for dates?... | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/7/2005 11:24:58 AM | FlyWithMe18:
Many this is a woman's thing. I have never heard of a guy asking for personal passwords. Hey, maybe it happens I just haven't heard of it. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/7/2005 4:40:45 PM | | personally, you should have a good think about the reasons both of you have an account on here, if it's for relationship tips only then i would remove all details on your profile, other then that, delete both accounts, and allocate the time you spend on here to improving your relationship with your girl, without your account, she has no reason not to trust you. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/7/2005 4:47:09 PM | I agree with blueeyes.
You should really change the "dating" option to just talk/email, or friends.
Get rid of your profile, or at least mention that you have a gf in it!!
That's what I did. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/7/2005 4:57:38 PM | | People have accused me on not mentioning my girlfriend. Well, I did mention her, but after she dumped me I changed my profile back. My old profile made reference to the fact that I was in a relationship and here only for the forums. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/7/2005 4:57:53 PM | It's a trust and control issue... she doesn't trust you and wants to have some control over you. I'd offer to exchange passwords... no if's ands or buts and then and I mean RIGHT then, both take turns, log in at the same computer, and watch the other peer through your emails.
It's been proven time and time again that someone with an issue like this, (trying to catch you doing something "wrong") is actually doing something wrong themselves and is trying to validate their actions by accusing the other of wrong-doing.
Challenge her.... and don't back down... if you don't stand up now, she'll always walk all over you... and if she doesn't like it, she can always walk away from you. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/7/2005 5:03:56 PM | and if she doesn't like it, she can always walk away from you. It's always a good idea to read the last few posts as well as the beginning. SHE HAS ALREADY DUMPED HIM!!! (for lack of a better word)
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/7/2005 5:19:45 PM | lostprophet - good on you for standing up for yourself. This is one controlling person you were dealing with. Geezlouise that is one of the most selfish reasons I have heard of someone breaking up with someone for
NO way is it worth breaking up over. seems like she didnt trust you at all. Do you really want to be with someone who would dump a supposedly valued relationship over not getting their way. This has prima donna stamped all over it.
She probably wants you to chase her and beg her to come back and then guess what, she would probably say, only if you give me your password. It is true it could be upsetting that she is insecure and is scared of losing you [ I think its highly possible this break-up is for even more attention and she doesnt mean it], but she needs to find out there are other ways than snooping and constantly checking up on you
If you ignore her she will probably come back in a few weeks, saying why arent you chasing me..boo hoo, you dont CARE about me. And if she doesnt, to break up over something like that is very immature and tells me she didnt have any real feelings for you in the first place
[ Either that or she is convinced you are cheating on her somehow....and hence the temper tantrum. And if its not true and shes that paranoid, you are better off without also ]
I dont think the whys and wherefores of being the site int the first place come into this Topic, its simply about giving a password to a partner because they are demanding it. Are they entitled to it, no way - privacy and trust is serious stuff in a relationship. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/7/2005 7:36:09 PM | Did you know all your passwords are secretly stored on your computer without your knowledge. Banking info...everything...
It's amazing what i find when i dig through peoples computers...
Just a random snipet... | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/7/2005 8:11:47 PM | | I wouldn't hesitate one second to give a girlfriend access to my POF account. It wouldn't matter to me what "issue" she was having. By giving her access I might very well stamp out that last little bit of a trust issue or give her the boost she needed to get over the insecurity she was feeling. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/8/2005 3:08:53 AM | | Make a fake profile and email her? Yeah...that's really a mature idea and a sure way to re-gain some trust. And now we know why so many people put on their profile - tired of games. lol | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/8/2005 5:28:31 PM | to the OP,
man, your messed up. Your relationship was not solid at all, that would explain why both of you still wanted your profiles up.
Earlier you said, that you mention you have a GF on it. No such thing in your profile. Also, when it asks what your looking for you have down "dating". I believe there is a selection for chat/ email or I think friends.
geez, you have a lot of growing up to do. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/9/2005 9:29:06 AM | Its a stiucky wicket ya got there bud.
Allow me to offer an idea or two to help defuse the situation.
If you do not trust her,
1) Create yourself another account at POF that will be your main one. Then give her your old account password and let her do whatever.
If you do trust her, give her the benefit of a doubt and give her the access info. If she does something bad, you'll find out easily enough and you can cut her off at the pass by eother changing the password or, as mentioned in #12, create another account.
Question, what did she say when you asked for her password to her e-mail account? I presume you did, right?? Don't let this be a one sided thing. She gets your POF password, you should have access to her e-mail (unless of course she has a POF account). Its only fair and if she trusts you, she too should not have any problem revealing her info. right??!!
Yep, thats the route ya should take first.
JM | |
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