| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/9/2005 9:31:03 AM | lostprophet
Oh dang dude, I just read the past threads. Sorry to hear ya broke up, but obviously it's for the best. Just remember what I wrote earlier, for future references!!
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/9/2005 4:21:39 PM | You have no obligation to give her your password... Remember one thing though, is if you say or write something, keep in mind, would you say it or write it, if she were standing over your shoulder. If you answer is "no", then you've got trouble in Paradise..
Surely, she can log onto POF and read what you put.. Each of us is entitled to our privacy, but do keep the communication with her, open and honest. She may have some insecurity issues here, and you both need to address these, the sooner, the better. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/9/2005 6:06:04 PM | Pardon me for asking lostprophet but, if you have a girlfriend why do you have a profile? I would wonder if I was dating a girl if she had a profile on here. Both of you get rid of your profiles and then the issue takes care of itself. Get rid of each others profiles together and chances are you'll get laid again.   | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/9/2005 7:03:16 PM | "Make a fake profile and email her? Yeah...that's really a mature idea and a sure way to re-gain some trust. And now we know why so many people put on their profile - tired of games. lol"
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/9/2005 9:44:15 PM | Lost Prophet, if I meet that super wonderful guy that I want to make a committment to - you know, the real thing - I'll say goodbye to my chat buddies here and hang up my ad, any day. For me, it means, I'm into you more than I'm into the dating/chat sight, and I'm letting you know.
That's just me. And honestly, I think that when we keep the door open, we kind of ask for trust issues. Maybe she's insecure, or maybe not - maybe there's a problem and she's sensing it and reacting to it? I'm only throwing it out there to get you thinking and if you don't agree then feel free to dump my idea. But what if, just what if, something inside of you is keeping in touch with women on a dating site as a way of dealing with a little nagging voice inside that says, I'm not sure this girl is the one for me...or maybe another voice that says...this is my way of feeling like I'm not giving up my independence while I'm also getting involved in a serious relationship.
Too indepth? Maybe I'm too philosophical on this one. But I thought I'd throw it out to you. | |
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lusha
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Joined: 11/21/2005
Msg: 136 | |
| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/9/2005 9:51:38 PM | | i agree with giving it to her. if you have nothing to hide then why not? maybe she is just looking for some security in it all. there should be nothing wrong with that.but you are also intitled to hers. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/9/2005 9:53:44 PM | | I think that birdy267 is right on. If this is a woman that you care about and think that there might be a long term relationship, then share. be open and honest. I am starting such a relationship and believe me it is hard to trust someone you don't know that well, but I want a long term relationship, and I have been and will continue to be completely honest with her. I am hoping that it doesn't drive her away, but that is a chance you have to take. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/9/2005 10:07:59 PM | | I don't think it's a good idea to keep a profile up if I found someone... if it goes bad I can always make another. First off you have made progress in a relationship so you should have done your best to take off or hide all of your profiles. You closed a chapter in your life with finding your long lost friend and lover. Supposedly, now you have to start all over. Seems like your girlfriend wanted all of you and you turned her down. If she is using the same site where is her reply to this? It is great to hear both sides of the story. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/9/2005 10:17:10 PM | | Sorry... didn't read the 6 pages...however... YES... if you are in a relationship and want to stay on a singles site... give her your password. Other option is get off the site... | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/9/2005 10:18:19 PM | what is her purpose in getting his password???
If she has free time, tell her to get a hobby.
If she's insecure, tell her to get over it.
Maybe she's putting up a front and doesn't trust that you aren't talking to to other girls on here!! It's like asking someone for their real email password
Next thing you know she's gonna want the password for your VM
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/10/2005 4:26:56 AM | | Ok read you broke up, sorry to hear that. The whole passowrd thing could go both ways! If she was willing to share hers with you, there really would have been no real reason not to share yours. Wow, you must have loved her to change that profile of yours that quickly!!! Damn, guy talk about jumping back on that horse!!! The whole idea of both of you having profiles here even if it was for the forums is kinda f'd up. There are other internet sites you can have a forum to speak in. Why use a dating site? You in essence put your chat buddies ahead of your girl. Hopefully, you will learn something from this. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/10/2005 4:44:38 AM | | This is a really hard place to instill trust... it's a DATING SITE.. granted MANY people on here are in relationships and do come here because it's one of the best forums around, but that does not disolve the fact that it is for dating. Coming here while in a relationship is like going to a singles bar while in a relationship .. You're going to get 'hit on', you may even get tempted. If she is feeling insecure about this now, it's likely not going to lessen anytime soon. Talk about it, if she honestly trusts you and doesn't really care and is just curious, tell her you will cut and paste or show her all your emails.. If you know deep down this site is bothering her, then decide which is more important to keep. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/10/2005 5:20:55 AM | | Yeah...I agree....If your in a committed relationship what's to hide. And don't you share everything? I would feel like you had something to hide if you told me no..If there is nothing to hide what's the problem..I don't like this secret life thing..and I don't agree with your own privacy..if you are a person of integrity then there is no problem..And maybe she did trust you right up until you wouldn't give her the password...then the doubt starts to set in.. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/10/2005 5:23:49 AM | | oh and trust is earned too..you have to prove yourself trust worthy..you don't just get for nothing and especially when you won't allow yourself to be open and vulnerable..then who's not trusting who... | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/10/2005 10:18:47 AM | | Something not square here. If you enjoy the website and still like to check out people's profiles, then say so. You have a ight to your privacy, but you also have an obligation to be blatanly honest to your girlfriend. She does speak English, right? | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/10/2005 1:22:04 PM | I've read more than the first few posts, and in my opinion, it's been the latter ones that have made the most sense. The only ppl that feel threatened by showing their significant other their forum activity is ppl that have something to hide. The forums here may be great, but I certainly wouldn't sacrifice a relationship over them - no offence, anyone, but a person standing in front of me, interacting w/ me and merging our lives together, is much more important than any forum.
I also agree, that the OP's profile changed pretty quickly ~ another clear message that he obviously didn't put a whole lot into the relationship. And I also would like to hear from the "ex" - if she's so involved w/ the site, why hasn't she reacted?
The longer this thread goes on, the more I'm convinced that this was a GREAT way to garner sympathy and a few dates. | |
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