| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/13/2005 1:00:59 PM | I think there is more thatn the OP is letting on.
The forums are not worth creating strife in your relationship!!! Let go already!~
If the gf wants your password, she is worried you are screwing around on her. That is why she's getting nosey.
The larger issue here is not if you are screwing around or not (another thread maybe?) but the issue of privacy. You should have trust in a relationship, and part of that is respecting privacy and space.
YOU need to determine what YOUR baseline is...do you want to give her keys to your car, your house, your boat? Do you want to give her the PIN # for your debit card, your voicemail or cell phone?
Comeon! This is privileged info and that is why it should belong to you and you alone.
What you have to determine is what is important to YOU...that she respect your space and privacy...or that you start down the long road of continually proving that you're not cheating?
She will never be satisfied if she's that insecure. But if you're cheating...I can see why you'd want to hide your password. I'd just get BOTH of your profiles off a dating web site. The forums are not worth creating strife in your relationship!!! You're making choices to poison the situation and then complain because it creates havoc and drama? | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/13/2005 1:14:45 PM | Personally I don't see a hidden agenda in post #1 It was a situation where he didnt know what to do. Agreed. However, if you read through his following posts, I believe that the significance of the adjective "hidden" will become clear to you.
I'm really beginning to wonder about these forums and the anger that I see being thrown around. I agree with you on this; I wonder too... to clarify, the OP is long gone and I don't think the banter here is angry... at least it's not from my corner. The rallying exemplified in msg 207 doesn't impress me much, but I hope it was a fluke. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/13/2005 1:28:37 PM | | no not looking for an argument, but I don't understand why you had to make a personal comment about the last post. what cara2005 said made a lot of sense. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/13/2005 1:32:52 PM | please allow me to change the word anger to hostility. I think it's a better choice. And as for making personal comments, thats what forums are about, only minus the hostility, judgement and assumptions.
Now, play nice (shoot, too late to use an emotion, because I am editing) | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/13/2005 1:37:15 PM | no not looking for an argument, but The "but" speaks volumes.
And believe me, if I was looking for a fight, I wouldn't hide behind a computer ??  ?? I can't believe you actually said that. Absolutely priceless.
I can see that my lighthearted teasing is bothering you ~ (I know, I know, "no, it's not.")
You suggested earlier that you were done with this thread, but it seems you can't get enough of me. I'll make it easy for you, friend.
Take care.
Get the last silly word in and then perhaps we'll BOTH be able to move on.
(shoot, to late to use an emotion, because I am editing) I... HATE that! | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/13/2005 1:40:38 PM | yeah, I was a bit of a witch to you a few times, sorry about that. Just got fired up and it's hard to tell when someone's teasing over a computer. So, girlly, I'm sorry. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/13/2005 1:56:16 PM |     
Ahhh, you guys!!!! That's really nice on both your parts!! You are both very intellegent people with some very interesting views and opinions, especially for being so young. I am rather baffled at how much knowledge you both have, particularily you girly. But ..... nuff said
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Posted: 12/13/2005 2:28:12 PM | for some - three words are "I love you"
when another three words to love by are trust, honour and respect
I think that was a typo and was meant to write 'to live by' - only 'to love by' sounds right as well | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/30/2005 2:31:10 AM | | Poet - your posts are cool. Too darned bad you live in New Zealand. Keep writing - your poems are wonderful and you are a very classy man. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/30/2005 3:51:55 AM | | all I read is the title of this thread. and NO WAY would I give in to a stupit request like that. It is a controling test. she must be spanked | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/31/2005 6:12:52 AM | The forums are not worth creating strife in your relationship!!! Let go already!~
If the gf wants your password, she is worried you are screwing around on her. That is why she's getting nosey.
The larger issue here is not if you are screwing around or not (another thread maybe?) but the issue of privacy. You should have trust in a relationship, and part of that is respecting privacy and space.
YOU need to determine what YOUR baseline is...do you want to give her keys to your car, your house, your boat? Do you want to give her the PIN # for your debit card, your voicemail or cell phone?
Comeon! This is privileged info and that is why it should belong to you and you alone.
What you have to determine is what is important to YOU...that she respect your space and privacy...or that you start down the long road of continually proving that you're not cheating?
She will never be satisfied if she's that insecure. But if you're cheating...I can see why you'd want to hide your password. I'd just get BOTH of your profiles off a dating web site. The forums are not worth creating strife in your relationship!!! You're making choices to poison the situation and then complain because it creates havoc and drama?
Most intelligent response ive seen. Would I give it to her? NOPE, Id just delete my POF account and be done with it. If you have a girl who you care about, is it worth giving up to talk online to strangers?
And no offense, but married or commited men still get hit on. The "off-limits" factor is attractive to some weirdos. So saying "im dating" is no gaurentee. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 12/31/2005 6:23:11 AM | | I am assuming u have made the decision whether to give her the password or not already. If not, I would say go for it. If you love her and she has no reason not to trust you then give it to her. Its a small price to pay to make the one you love happy. Besides, chances are shes just feeling insecure for some reason, probably nothing to do with the password, likely something to do with the two of you. SOmething happened to make her suspicious and you need to talk to her about that. Chances are she'll go on, feel stupid for being so untrusting, apologise and never go back. What's the harm in that? | |
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Posted: 12/31/2005 7:48:11 PM | birdy267
Poet - your posts are cool. Too darned bad you live in New Zealand. Keep writing - your poems are wonderful and you are a very classy man.
Thank you - when there are times I wish I was a Canadian
Then being a New Zealander is part of what makes me a kind hearted caring person | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 1/3/2006 10:07:01 AM | I don't know, LostProphet -- I disagree with EmpressV's advice to "free yourself" and regain your privacy...
MY advice is this -- why not get away from POF for now and pay closer attention to your girlfriend... | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 1/3/2006 10:16:43 AM | LilKym77... you wrote "something happened to make her not trust..."
Yeah, I GUESS SO!!! He's on a internet dating site!!! I'm just guessing here, but that would probably do it for ME... | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 1/3/2006 10:28:18 AM | | You know what, she is only a girlfriend. The man or the woman or both were not committed enough to go through the custom of holy matrimony. So the courtship didn't work out, but there are plenty of fish left. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 1/6/2006 2:20:04 AM | Its your privacy yeah maybe you don't have nothing to hide, but maybe there's something's you just don't wan't others haveing any idea of or knowing anything about i DO NOT think you should have to give her you'r password. You have you'r own freedom and so does she nobody should tell you what to do or when to do it. if she LOVES you then she will TRUST you. So goodluck on this whole deal and hope everything goes alright for you hun. | |
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| Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 1/6/2006 6:30:27 AM | What I think about this... is that if you have a girlfriend you shouldnt have a profile on a dating site regardless of whether you are open about it with everyone.
I dont blame her for being suspicious. | |
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