leo210
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Joined: 11/13/2005
Msg: 76 | |
| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 12/12/2005 2:56:46 PM | | first i think nobody can really say anything about how you live as its your life and your the one who has to live it,all we can do is share our opinion,my opinion is youve comprimised your friendship,no matter which direction you go from here ,the out come totally depends on the strength of that friendship,and how you want to live,of which noone can tell you. | |
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jimb77
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Joined: 8/30/2005
Msg: 77 | |
| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 12/13/2005 10:30:51 PM | | You wanted more from him, you wanted to date him. Of course you want more now, he still just wants you as a piece of ass, you are hooking up with him until you meet someone you want to date. So this guy is filling your space until you meet a potential husband? this is truly sad to hear. | |
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| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 12/14/2005 12:13:47 AM | I have given this much thought over the years. Recently I have given it more as I have had several FWB relationships.
I decided to break down the phrase to further understand it. First, I considered "friends, friendship, friend" and what that term means to me.
A friend, a person I can trust, go hunting, shopping, hang out with. Some one with whom I share common views and opinions. Some one who respects me and whom I respect in return. Some one who understands when I am happy or upset and will listen to me.
This is a bilateral situation. It is not unilateral. It is mutual. There are many benefits to friendship.
Once a friendship develops that other person knows 'you' in a way no other person will ever know you. They know how to satisfy you. This again is bilateral.
It is eminent that sex will occur between two people who are this close to one another. It is natural. Sex is one of the most most intimate fulfilling acts that a man and woman can share. In this situation it is probably the most explosive sex ever known or experienced.
Friends have feelings for one another. They share 'love'. That does not necessarily mean they are 'in love' with one another. That is completely different from 'loving' some one or something. When you are 'in love' you will identify it as some thing completely different and separate from 'love'. It will hit you like a ton of bricks on a 50 foot pendulum.
If everything going on between you and your FWB partner that you do with other friends NOT FWB except for the sex part, then it is no different.
When jealousy happens or desire to 'isolate' them from other FWB partners or potential life partners, then there's a problem. Some one has crossed the line and allowed the emotional attachment get 'out of check'. It is then that each need to step out of the situtaion and let things chill a while.
After a few weeks/months you are completely at loss without that person it is not a FWB, but a personal intimate relationship. That must be acted upon by giving into the relationship or terminating the FWB.
That is simply my opinion based upon experience. | |
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| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 12/21/2005 11:18:28 PM | He's fallen for you or you are putting it on him girl lol. If you don't want this to be a serious relationship you better sit down with him and talk about where you stand... 
lovely29 | |
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| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 1/2/2006 4:34:32 PM | | I liked the way you phrased the situation. I recently had to put an end to the benefits side but I have remained her friend. Unfortunately she has been married throughout our benefits period and has gotten more feelings for me that her husband. I had to remind her of the boundries that were set in the very beginning a couple times and now I am holding stronger to the "rules" whereas I was not as much before because I appeased her. | |
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