| Too early say I love you? To feel Love?
Posted: 12/6/2005 8:28:41 PM | | I agree everyone is different. It just depends on if thier is chemistry with the person. personally the word scares me cuz ive been hurt by it to many times but when the feelings come you cant stop them. And besides u cant help who u fall in love with. i believe if you take things slow and one day at a time then the feelings will come as you get to know each other but if you just jump into a realationship and u think ur in love with someone then i think thats just lust. i have never feel in love with someone just a few days after u meet them cuz i think it takes longer then that. But then again everyone is different. | |
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| Too early say I love you? To feel Love?
Posted: 12/7/2005 6:57:21 AM | Saying the words, and feeling it are two different things. If you feel it, then you may want to hold off telling the other untill you feel that they have had time to fall for you. Otherwise, yeah, it's an instant 'run away' reaction.
Make sure that your love is not brought about by purely a physical attraction. If you think you are falling in love with someone, think about the things they do that you don't like. If you can't come up with anything, then there is a good chance you are just talking about infatuation. Love is something where you see and accept the good and the bad in people. You acknowledge them as a human, with faults. Most of the time I hear people say that they love someone because they are 'perfect'. It is rare that someone is 'perfect'.
Above all... know yourself. I know I am the type of person that loves to be in love and loves to be loved... I also know that has put me in bad positions before in life. So I am very cautious anylonger and always question what I feel. I also question how others feel.
As far as too early? it will always depend on the person. If your gut tells you it is too early, then don't tell them then. Don't ever put someone into a position where they will feel bad for not returning the feelings (they may care about you, but not be willing to make the commitment at that time), they return feelings that they do not truely have, or worse, they know they have something to control you with (for at least a short amount of time). | |
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| Too early say I love you? To feel Love?
Posted: 12/8/2005 1:09:32 PM | | some may say that there is a "too early" a time to be sayin u love that special someone, but then again its entirely how u feel about him or her.nobody can tell u how u r feeling about someone. its your body and emotions. go with ur heart. | |
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| Too early say I love you? To feel Love?
Posted: 12/8/2005 2:42:31 PM | | I have always thought, when you have all aspects of what love is... that's when it's appropriate. There is a difference between love and lust, it needs to be recognized. I am a coward, though. I would never say it first, but he would know that I do, for love would be in all of my actions. | |
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| Too early say I love you? To feel Love?
Posted: 1/31/2006 6:18:56 PM | | I have a guestion for those that say they wait and are not the first to say it....What happens if they are of the same mind? I have been thinking the same thing...'I will wait until he says it first' but what happens if he is waiting for me? My ex-husband and I said it the first week but didnt' get married for three years (age being the reason). My ex-boyfriend I told I loved him first and he didn't answer until he felt it which was six months into the relationship and when he did I knew he ment it. Because both those relationships ended in heart brake I have become a more a "show me girl" but I find myself feeling those feelings again and have really been grateful he didn't say them right away but.......I don't want to wait too long and make him think all I want him for is s.e.x lol. But I have decided to wait at least another month. | |
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| Too early say I love you? To feel Love?
Posted: 1/31/2006 6:21:53 PM | | well now theres two ways to look at this....theres in love with some one and loving someone....go with ur heart but make sure ur mind is involved...or it will hurt and take along time to heal | |
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| Too early say I love you? To feel Love?
Posted: 1/31/2006 7:04:04 PM | Ok wow this absolutely freaky that this particular topic comes up TODAY.
I wrote 2 a guy in here well, 1 week ago 2day (Jan 24). He wrote me back the next day & we started chatting that day, the day after & the day after. We met up on the third day of chatting & tho nervous we seemed 2 click with several unique common interests. Upon "parting ways" for the evening, we kissed n the kiss lead to a mind swimmingly awesome make out session. During the session, he asked if i was in the market 4 a boyfriend- i thought he was saying it out of the heat of the moment & just quipped "I might be".
We didnt talk over the weekend cause he was incredibly busy but resumed chatting yesterday & today. I found out today (Jan 31) that he was serious when i made reference 2 it. That in & of itself blew my mind. But heres the clincher. Upon the end of our i-ming today, he typed "Love You". My eyes bulged & my heart stopped 4 a moment. I asked him what he meant n he typed "just deal with it".
So, now im wondering if its too soon 4 him to of said that or if he even meant it in the way i took it. Ive never had any guy say it so soon (1 weeks time). I hafta say, Im floored & Im flattered. I however, dont know enuff about him to feel justified in saying it back yet. I feel like hes absolutely "my type" & that I could see getting really into him tho. So the potential is there for me to end up feeling good in saying it as well.
So theres my dilema. Kinda like sum of the others but nun-the-less, new 2 me. | |
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| Too early say I love you? To feel Love?
Posted: 1/31/2006 7:27:22 PM | Rock&roll,
Be careful, but go for it, girl! Some guys say it early, & mean it! Some guys don't. I'm the former, rather than the latter, & it has gotten me into trouble time, & time again...they never return... But if you love him too, then go for it! But after 1 week? wow?!? | |
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| Too early say I love you? To feel Love?
Posted: 1/31/2006 7:28:56 PM | | Just make sure you are the correct frame of mind, no tragedy, etc...be in a good place, think with a clear head. When my wife first died, I just wanted to be out of pain, very bad time to say a female who was compassionate. Ignore "I love you" when it comes from a person going through a high pressure divorce. | |
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| Too early say I love you? To feel Love?
Posted: 1/31/2006 7:40:43 PM | | I have always believed that there needed to be "some time" to really fall.. and for it to be more than infatuation...But recently, with my SO, I feel like I loved him from the beginning. From the very first exchange he felt like home to me...Which was/is frightening...but I learned that Love knows when is the right time..I choose to embrace it instead of deny it... | |
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| Too early say I love you? To feel Love?
Posted: 1/31/2006 8:13:42 PM |
Upon the end of our i-ming today, he typed "Love You".
he never said "I" love you...he said love you in regards to what he knows of you thus far | |
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| Too early say I love you? To feel Love?
Posted: 2/1/2006 7:38:47 AM | | I dont think there is a right or wrong time to say it. Just make sure you are being true to yourself. After 2 dates, ok thats too soon! I know I usually say it after a few months of dating, but as I get older, I think it will be different next time around, I really want to make sure I mean it. It depends on the person, sometimes I get those butterflies in my tummy pretty early on, sometimes it takes a bit more time for that to grow. Trust me, you will know it when you are in love. You wont be able to keep your mind off of it! Now, if you say it and he doesnt say it back, dont worry. He will say it when he's ready, on his own time. Good luck! | |
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| Too early say I love you? To feel Love?
Posted: 2/2/2006 10:25:39 AM | (he never said "I" love you...he said love you in regards to what he knows of you thus far)
Yer absolutely right Marol. After i talked 2 him about it, he said exactly what u wrote in here. I was kinda hoping that. Because tho ive had guys 2 b the first 2 say it, it was never that soon so thats what threw me. This whole dating gig is akward (tho incredibly worthwhile 4 the good people u can meet). | |
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| Too early say I love you? To feel Love?
Posted: 2/2/2006 6:15:36 PM |
what does one do when they seem to be in love with someone but their mind tells them they should not! help!!!!!!!!!!!! Go with the heart. See where it leads you. Love is not a rational thing, and the mind will try to take over and control the situation. Don't let it. | |
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| Too early say I love you? To feel Love?
Posted: 2/2/2006 6:28:25 PM | | rockarollawomn-- you should not say it unless and until you feel it for sure. The problem with saying it too soon is that people don't know what it feels like (as in, what is this strange feeling i am feeling that i have never felt before?), or they don't want to be in love, or they think they might be merely infatuated, so telling them you love them very early on may serve to confuse them. While it may be love at first sight, it takes a while to know for sure, just as in other cases it takes a while for love to be there! So it is easier for a person to deal with their own feelings and Know how they feel if they are given enough time and space. Telling someone prematurely doesn't allow for this space. Actions speak louder than words anyway. If you or he feels it, the other will know it by your actions, and when you are rather sure it is there by actions, say it! | |
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| Too early say I love you? To feel Love?
Posted: 2/2/2006 9:53:08 PM | Just be carfeful not to say it in the heat of the moment. You will regret it. It is always better to wait anyways. If they really love you and you really love them, the way you react to them and vice versa you both will know.......
Too many fall into lust and make themselves believe it's love. Don't fall into that trap. It hurts too much and others get hurt along the way too. | |
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| Too early say I love you? To feel Love?
Posted: 2/2/2006 10:00:16 PM | | I found out from experience that it shouldnt be said if you are fresh out of another relationship especially if that was a bad experience and like everyone else said, in the heat of passion. i had a woman tell me that about 1 1/2 years ago and I found out after she had been in an abusive relationship before meeting me. And to make it more fun it was said in the heat of the moment. i think it depends on the people and where they are at in life. If your secure with yourself in life and so is your partner and you actually feel it. then it will come out. Unless your really drunk and in Vegas then all bets are off. | |
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| Too early say I love you? To feel Love?
Posted: 2/3/2006 10:44:15 AM | | I know when I was young I spent alot of time sorting out and ran away from some good catches thinking this cant be its too soon!!!!! I rationalized so much I married the wrong man. Havent felt anything for along time. Let me tell you, TOO SOON or not this time around Im not running!!!!!!I dont know about how soon to say it but Im not going to put no time limits on feeling it!!!!!!!I will enjoy and take it day by day. | |
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