Elis
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Joined: 12/17/2006
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| What is a good first email?
Posted: 1/25/2007 11:36:57 PM | My first and continuing emails are always somewhat large in size :D.. i want to grab her attention after all and keep it.. however it never works?.. im quite nice.. respectful.. funny., non-offensive.. playful.. however the first is always kinda hi, nice profile, point out interesting points.. ask them about such things.. try to spark up conversation.. same thing i use in real life almost, but written.. works no prob in real life :D.. here.. opposite effect..
actually im thinking of changing my strat :D.. what u guys posted above.. hmm. :).. maybe ill give "wanna make out?" a try.. maybe the opposite rule works for that too? :D? and ill finally meet that special someone! ok time to search for that special someone and use that line! wish me - uh.. - bad luck! :D!! (ill never figure this site's gals out..) | |
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| What is a good first email?
Posted: 3/24/2007 11:50:34 AM |
however it never works?..
first and continuing emails
Confused? does it work or not? if continuing emails, must be working to some extent?
actually im thinking of changing my strat :D
Have same kind of problem and been thinking that also . Think that changing things up can help, gets sort of boring if doing same thing all the time. Question is what strats will work? Perhaps it doesn't matter, eh? More spontanaeity could be the key for us methodical types. I think perhaps that if profile, emails and personality in general r too generic, women have red flags that go off. They could think, player, liar, need psych profile to make a decision, at least not telling me everything that I need to know. Actually, who does tell everything about themself when dating? My experience is that we don't really get to know someone until we are getting serious (sometimes not even then)because we just put on our best face when dating. Not going to tell someone all about our problems or how we are going to deal with them while on a night out on the town, that would just be dumb! Nor would we want our date to either. Let's face it, we only know what someone is willing to let us know about them. However, women are very intuitive and intelligent about these things. They need material to work with. I think that if they are feeling that they are just getting the fluff from us, they don't have enough info. So its important to be playful, romantic, frustrated, expressive..uuugghh, in order for them to get a feel for who we are. Especially on the internet where there is so much less accountability. I mean there really is no way of knowing if someone is telling the truth on here. Not like getting to know someone in a community where there are regular interactions that can be observed.
Also, someone told me that women like to see that we have a life, maybe some pics with friends, sisters, pets help?
Anyway, I'm with the guy who said somewhere on here that its not very likely that we are going to meet our future partner on site, just one more option to explore.
So, I am going to keep it light, serious, playful, flirty, but hopefully never boring and not going to take myself or this site too serious! Keep it real!
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| What is a good first email?
Posted: 3/24/2007 12:51:55 PM | Perfect first e-mail? hmmmm, how about:
"Hello, I saw your pics and read your profile -i think you are soooooo hot and i cant live without you, -i'm a totally rich young female nympho, who likes to run around naked my huge mansion, watching action flicks on my giant HDTV, drink margaritas and have someone as dashing as you watch me model my skimpy lingerie. i love running around topless in my backyard, skinny dipping with all my other hot Playboy centerfold friends in my huge swimming pool or soaking in the hot tub. i need someone who likes to hang around and play with me, rub suntan oil on my back/front, barb-que steaks on my totally gnarly grill, drink beer with me and drive around in my huge fleet of totally expensive sports cars. please read my profile and check out my pic, and please please please write me back soon -i don't think i could live without you.
-FYI -they are real too XOXO" 
-YEAH thats gonna happan   | |
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| What is a good first email?
Posted: 3/24/2007 1:01:58 PM | Again - like some women here - this is actually a great question, so I too feel a need to reply.
First of all, for a more likely chance to get a reply to a message you have sent someone, put some actual thought into what you are writting. First take the time to read her profile and get to know her. If you are interested in her as a potential date, then you have to show that you are actually interested in "her".
I do not know about other women, but I do not respond to those who try to IM me first, I'd rather see and have a chance to know who it is I'd be talking too first. So maybe if IMing women hasn't worked for you, try sending a message first, and see if she is interested in speaking to you.
Take note of anything on her profile that seems to be important to her. Feel free to compliment her on her appearance if you like, but how you go about it, will be how she'll view you and your potential "dateability". If you are curious about something she has mentioned, ask her a question, questions are best, because it may motivate her to respond.
I like a good paragraph to read, granted as one of you said, some of us recieve a ton of messages. Well a majority of those messsages are very short, and for me, it sounds all the same. I ignore them. But if you put effort into it, share a bit about yourself, show an interest in something I do, find some common ground, ask to know more, I may reply.
Then there are women who currently have a bf, or potential date, and they go quiet for certain periods of time.
If you fail the first time, maybe send another, this one asking for friendship. Don't send another within the next day or hour. Wait a week or two. This will show her that you haven't forgotten her, and you'll earn brownie points.
But whatever you say, it better be geniune.
I hope this may help some of you. | |
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| What is a good first email?
Posted: 3/24/2007 1:08:16 PM | | every woman and man has thier own idea of a good first e-mail...while sum girls like you to tell em they are cute and shit...the others dont care 2 hear that and would rather you ask bout or talk bout other things...alls im sayin is every1 is diffrent | |
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| What is a good first email?
Posted: 3/24/2007 4:32:51 PM | I try to keep it short and simple...just a brief introduction telling a little about myself, perhaps a mention of something in their profile that initially attracted my attention, and an invitation to write and get better acquainted, should they be interested in me of course. If I don't hear back from them, I assume they weren't interested after all, and that's the end of story.
I've learned my lesson about writing too much at first, or being bothered by a lack of a response. If a woman is interested, she'll write back and we can get to know each other then. After all, no sense sweating the small stuff. | |
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| What is a good first email?
Posted: 3/24/2007 5:08:35 PM | The absolute best first email I've received was so cute and funny!
==="What, you're still on the phone?"
It was a great ice breaker! | |
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| What is a good first email?
Posted: 3/24/2007 6:33:16 PM | Hi Everyone,
The first line is an ice breaker. It only shows a level of intelligence. I do not even look at the e-mail first or the opening line. I go directly for the profile, it tells all.
Spelling mistakes, grammar, puncuation and all those things you learned since grade one were for a reason. Do not use the lazy spelling of words when trying to make a good first impression. One line cliche's are out too. Some people do not understand what you mean. You don't have to repeat yourself, saying it once is good enough.
Always remember your audience! The key to good writing is to control the audience.
"The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious."- Albert Einstein
Always leave them wanting more! If you say it all in one e-mail what is the point of another? "If A is a success in life, then A equals x plus y plus z. Work is x; y is play; and z is keeping your mouth shut."- Albert Einstein
Sincerely,
Nathan
"Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm
not sure about the universe." - Albert Einstein | |
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| What is a good first email?
Posted: 3/24/2007 8:18:40 PM | | C'mon ladies, give us a bit of help here. Most of us don't really know what to say to ensure some sort of reply. What catches your attention? | |
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| What is a good first email?
Posted: 3/24/2007 10:17:18 PM | My personal preference is an e-mail that is short and to the point. Someone who writes a novel in the first e-mail turns me off immediately. Some of the e-mails that I have sent read like, "Hi, my name is _____________. I enjoyed reading your profile and see that we have common interests like hiking and exploring. If you're interested in chatting, I'd like to hear from you. Otherwise, I wish you luck in your search.
Of course, that's only one style. There's also the e-mails that call for humor, like when the person has a funny picture or something funny in their profile, or when I just feel like being a stinker. Then I might send a taunt that simply says, "my dog's cuter than yours!" and leave it at that.  That usually gets a response from someone who has a photo of their dog on their profile. 
Rae | |
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| What is a good first email?
Posted: 3/24/2007 10:56:03 PM | | I tell them I read their profile really enjoyed it and if they'd like to talk say hi...If they don't respond so what... | |
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elnik
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Joined: 11/1/2006
Msg: 39 | |
| What is a good first email?
Posted: 3/24/2007 11:02:04 PM | I have never commented on the girls looks lol. Every email is diff too.
or for the most part I get read/delete. Now if a girl reads my profile and sends
me an email I always get Wow I loved your profile and its so diff. Or I get
I read your letters I had to hold back tears lol.
Read my profile its diff alright lol.
Now when I send my emails I know that there good Most are anyways.
But they see my pic and delete me. So I know they haven't read it lol.
mine- I'd write something like this.
Hi pink lady
I just read your profile and I see you are raising 2 girls on your own.
I also I have 2 girls they are great kids. I just wanted to let you know you
have my respect. Your job is a tough one. You also said your looking for
someone that is honest , that will treat you like a lady and loves life . Thats
me . I hope we can devolpe a freindship.
Elnik
tag your it
Their reponce read/delete rofl | |
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| What is a good first email?
Posted: 3/24/2007 11:49:03 PM | How the hell should I know... every single first contact email I've ever sent since the founding of the InterNot has blown up in my face and then imploded... only to reappear via some kind of spatial flux and kick me in the junk.
If I had 10 dollars for every time I got a message back I'd be like a tenionaire...
the giggleparts - A local leader in successfully failing since 1980. When you need someone to fail, trust in me. Guarantee not honored in the lower 48 states or Guam... who the hell really cares about Guam anyway? How many people even know where Guam is? I do.... and I went to public school. | |
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| What is a good first email?
Posted: 4/11/2007 7:53:44 PM | I have, I think, came up with the world's greatest opening email. I save it for only those special ladies who peak my curiosity to the utmost. It has gotten me a response every time I have used it too. It is....
Got cha!
Why in the world would anyone give away the perfect pick-up line so that every joe will be sending it to every woman here!!!!!
Sorry... just had to do that. | |
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| What is a good first email?
Posted: 4/11/2007 8:09:34 PM | I usually say "how come you never call".
If that doesn't get a conversation going, nothing will..... | |
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| What is a good first email?
Posted: 10/19/2007 10:12:05 PM | First Emails are like first impressions... They say it usually takes one approx. 7 seconds to make an impression upon getting introduced.... I think It’s important to write something that'll spark the other person's attention. Saying stuff like ' I want to name our kid Mike' doesn't really fly....
I personally look at the background of their picture and make a comment.... For example... "Man that’s a messy room, do you even shower?"
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| What is a good first email?
Posted: 10/19/2007 10:17:06 PM | "how's it going?"
"Hello, how's it going, my name's Anthony."
Last couple of times, the chicks just deleted the messages. | |
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| What is a good first email?
Posted: 10/19/2007 10:35:45 PM | One of the guys asked for the ladies to comment...so, here's MO...
I like humor in the first email, especially if it is an take on my profile. I don't like sexual innuendo and I delete the "cut and paste". What makes me respond is originality.
Also, if you send me your email or IM address or phone number, then it would be obvious you didn't read my profile...resulting in the delete button also.
Grammar, punctuation, spelling and sentence structure are important to me, but not always a deal breaker. | |
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| What is a good first email?
Posted: 10/20/2007 12:28:47 AM | Well this example always seems to gernerate some kind of responce.
hi my name is licalottapus, i live In iceland ann like eatin peenuts ann fishin.  Whem im nut eatin peanuts or fishing i use my spare time to trim my nose hairs since it's ta cold ta masterbate.  i was a thinkin if you might have any nakid pictures you could send me & da guyz to see if i stuff stil werks good? do u sukda penis? hop u do it fur me like on da poorn movees dus it. oh ann i need a good women who know how to dig fur worms so i can keep afishin. would help if u have boat, if so please send picter of boat. if u deside to cum liv wit me i be ahopin u hav sum money cuz i drink alotta beers ann need to pay my innernet. but if u rite me back and fall inlov wit me when u cum to liv here bring sum bar soap wit ya cuz aint got none here no more rekon it frooz lik rock. anywaysin i caint wait ta kiss u real good n slopy cuz i hav experencess lot in my daz. will be good man fur your alikin, wana meet ur famly sum time to if tat ok. ucan send westurn uniun frum ur town fur my money. ill be lookin fur it soon. u seems lik smart gurl i know u wilabe a ritin me soon baby cuz ima hot hansum man ann u reely need my luvin. be a likin  ya soon~ licalottapus | |
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| What is a good first email?
Posted: 10/20/2007 12:29:04 AM | | Miss Music, with a charming and detailed profile like yours I would think you would have gotten a lot of good first emails by now? I think what I look for in a good first email is that a woman saw my profile and liked it projecting some intelligence and sweetness. In the past two years I've seen some thoughtful first emails. I also got a few IM's on another site that resulted in actual dates, IM's are kind of challenging, you have to look at the profile and make a snap decision if it's right to respond or not. Often I would turn down many IM's based on my ideals, later I thought I was being rude and would accept most IM's from women, a couple of times that opened the door to making making dates that were dead ends, be careful with IM's. I'll go with my recommendation in your case: look for someone who really read your profile, meets your ideals projecting intelligence, honesty and sensitivity, that's a good start. | |
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| What is a good first email?
Posted: 10/21/2007 1:05:49 AM | Yeah its always nice to get the impression that someone has read your profile and actually wants to know more about you and something specific I might add.
Personally, I dislike form letters and the standard ''hi how are you? lets chat sometime''
I like to know that there is a personality hiding behind that computer somewhere...
but maybe that's just me | |
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| What is a good first email?
Posted: 10/21/2007 1:50:48 AM | | What is a good first email? The truth the truth the truth, that way there is not a followup of useless emails that waste time and web space and bandwidth. | |
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