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| What have you learned from your failed relationships?
Posted: 7/7/2012 7:11:15 PM | From my relationships I learned what I did not want in a relationship, I learned that I need a partner who is willing to communicate with me and be up front instead of giving hints and getting mad at me over petty things when there is something bigger going on. I also learned that I need someone who is ready for one.
But most of all I learned what I am looking for in someone and that I won't settle for less. | |
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| What have you learned from your failed relationships?
Posted: 7/8/2012 12:36:12 PM | I have learned that I should allow myself to be vulnerable and open when I communicate, in order for any relationship to work.
I learned that there are great guys out there if givin the chance...
...and I also learned the strength of mutual attracton... | |
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| What have you learned from your failed relationships?
Posted: 7/8/2012 1:33:44 PM | You cant help anyone that wants to stay in denial of their problems.
If you have some yourself you have a chance to deal with it when you have time to yourself. come to think of it, denial of being part of the problem just keeps the problem around you. If you succeed at that then the failed relationship was not a failure. It was the last step in becoming a better person. | |
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| What have you learned from your failed relationships?
Posted: 7/8/2012 4:15:53 PM |
I have learned that I should allow myself to be vulnerable and open when I communicate, in order for any relationship to work
Agreed. I've learned the same. I need to jump into a relationship with both feet and give it my all. Expose my inner being. Sure one may get hurt but it worked for me. My gal and I have a fantastic connection. | |
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DB0011
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| What have you learned from your failed relationships?
Posted: 7/9/2012 5:15:29 PM | What have i learned from failed realationships. Never trust a female. Never fall in love with a girl. It only hurts. When it comes to dating females hold most of the advantages rest with them. A soulmate is a fallacy. True love is a bill of goods sold to the general public by tv writers and hallmark cards.
alcohol helps | |
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| What have you learned from your failed relationships?
Posted: 7/9/2012 6:37:31 PM | | i've learned that i can be absolutely madly passionately in love with someone and still have the strength to walk away when it's not a healthy situation... i've also learned that this sucks tremendously...but i've learned that i am strong enough to do it... | |
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| What have you learned from your failed relationships?
Posted: 7/9/2012 10:33:29 PM | | I've only been in one real relationship. From that I have learned to depend on no one but myself. I've learned to be a happier me. Getting dumped by him was the best thing that could have happened to me. 8 months ago I would have begged to differ but I'm much happier and learned to be happy without someone in my life. I think overall, happiness is what I've learned through my failed relationship. | |
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| What have you learned from your failed relationships?
Posted: 7/10/2012 12:33:57 AM |
What have you learned from your failed relationships?
Whatever you do in the beginning to "get" the person, you must continue to do throughout the relationship. Also, no communication will KILL the relationship dead. Plain and simple. | |
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| What have you learned from your failed relationships?
Posted: 7/10/2012 1:35:43 AM | That people don't change.
Except for the part where they're real nice for the first month or two and then the demon rears its ugly head around month 3 when they can't keep it in anymore. ;) | |
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| What have you learned from your failed relationships?
Posted: 7/10/2012 2:23:00 AM | | If you want a relationship, be in the relationship. Don't let it become an afterthought you have to fit into your life between what you really enjoy doing. Be impossibly picky, don't settle because it won't work and you'll both be hurt. Hurting someone hurts you just as much as them if you're not a total @hole. | |
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| What have you learned from your failed relationships?
Posted: 7/10/2012 3:05:17 AM | I can't save people. (people use problems as excuses and most do not want to give up their excuses regardless of how much they say they need to and know they need to)
I can love people from afar. ( I don't have to be with someone to love them)
I will outgrow the wrong partner. (it's about growing)
I was 50% of the problem. (I am always 1/2 of the equation )
Those relationships do not define me.
I'm not responsible for their feelings.
Expectations destroy most relationships.
I'm not that important. (but don't tell my ego I said that)
Water seeks it's own level. (if I seek deeper I must be deeper)
Never to regret doing anything that made me feel good to do.
I don't even know what I don't know.
I can be just as happy alone as I can be in a relationship. | |
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| What have you learned from your failed relationships?
Posted: 7/10/2012 9:01:15 AM | That we don't always find what we're looking for, no matter how reasonable that quest may seem.
That if we don't find what we're looking for, it's a pretty good idea to know and understand ourselves well enough to know what we're willing to compromise (and that often enough, that compromise bites back.)
That the common denominator in a series of failures is always what looks back out of the mirror.
That (speaking as a man) a woman has to shine in a man's eyes.
That when honesty fades (for whatever reason) one needs to wake up immediately to the damage falsehood does.
That human kindness isn't just the milk that goes on the cereal....but graces every meal.
That if you're gonna ride a teeter totter with someone, not a bad idea to know how to balance two different weights - otherwise, one spends all their time up in the air, while the other one just sits on the ground. | |
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| What have you learned from your failed relationships?
Posted: 7/10/2012 10:27:03 AM | | That if he doesnt like me for who I am then 5 years of his trying to change me will not change HIS mind. Like Popeye I am what I am. I now seek out men who come in the relationship thinking and feeling and enjoying the same things I do. No more opposites attract. IF he likes things I do not he will not compromise, HE will expect me too. IF he doesnt believe what I believe HE will expect me to change my mind. If he doesnt feel something is important before he meet me he wont change his feelings even after I walk out the door. NO more opposites is what I learned they attract nothing but divorce papers. | |
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| What have you learned from your failed relationships?
Posted: 7/10/2012 10:31:31 AM | | One of the things I learned was that I am accountable for how I feel. If I cannot or dont share my feelings, other people dont have ESP and Im only hurting myself by not communicating my feelings. | |
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