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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 1/20/2005 1:27:01 AM | People don't get used up like cars, and equipment. They are different. People are not equipment. I should think that a previous married woman would have something to offer in a relationship which a person who has not been married [common law or otherwise] may not. I don't think it makes the slightest difference....If the woman is a widow then she might know what truth is....both simple and real. Same with a man who is a widower...
If people are equipment, then they would be 'ready to hand' or just darn 'handi', ultimately good slaves or just useful and nothing more....and good slaves can be good friends, however, nevertheless slaves.
"If the women don't find you handsome, then they might find you useful." I dont mean to be silly but being both is also a possibility and being useful is fun....in many ways. I can cook a darn good fish ron don too ala Cahuita.
Incidentally the first muslims in the world prohibited slavery, and this was why the Islamic faith spread quickly in some parts of the world. Muslims: those who freed the slaves. I think there was one condition and it was not money....
The idea of people to be used like mere equipment has it's extension in 'ready to hand' and 'presence to hand' both forms of thinking and representation that is 'being handy' at something.
The idea of 2 free souls though makes more 'sense' to me; who ever heard of 2 souls, one entrapped in the body, and one free to wander like a peregrine in absolute exstactic movement around a center . Two souls should be absolutely free to wander...about.
busty pics who knows though if they are presented as mere equipment or lures? Ah who cares
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Posted: 1/20/2005 3:50:39 AM | Are you seriously implying that a woman should pretty much give up on life, and love after a divorce? What the hell? Most woman divorce becuase us guys are such pricks at times, and make them feel like they are nothing. Oh, you might understand that. Just look at this thread. I'm not going to name them, but right off hand I can thing of a sh*t load of divorced woman that are absolutely amazing, and I'd love to date, and more( not meant sexually ) with them. Hell, look at rheanna. She is smart, has one hell of a sense of humor, she's absolutely beautiful, and look at that d*mn bike she is strattling! Though I may never have a chance with a woman like her, I thank her husband/s for "throwing her away" as you put it. They at least give guys like me something to shoot for. Might I also add that I'm a divorced 25 year old guy. Is it alright for woman to date, fall in love with, or god forbid marry me? Or should I just off myself at 25, because the I have nothing to look forward to in the next 75 years? Come on, get real. We don't all make perfect choices, and that's just assuming that we're the ones that made the bad choice to begin with.
I swear, if you can respond to this post with some intellect, I'll immediately post an apology for my rudeness, but somehow I feel a really retarded attempt at witt, and revenge coming on due to your last display of Intelligence( this thread ). | |
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Posted: 1/20/2005 7:21:30 AM | Would you date or marry a divorced man?
"What God hath joined together, let no man put asunder"
This only works if both parties are rooting for the home team.
There are to many divorced people to say no. People get married for the wrong reasons to often.
I know a lot of men who look for the things that are put out on the curb.There are wonderful treasures everywhere.
Why throw away something that is still perfectly fine?
If people would only step back before they take that leap.
Stand on that handle of the frying pan, and make sure that it's what you really want, before you jump into the fire. | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 1/20/2005 8:28:50 AM | I would and have dated and lived with divorced women, and it just means you already know chances are when something comes up she will bail or turn against you, like she did before with the last guy. If she is divorced it means she chose to end it rather than work it out. It could have been something impossible to work out. But it might be she just decided looking elsewhere was easier. I don't have any choice at this point because I can't get near a woman young enough that she hasn't already been in and out of a relationship, whether marriage or a paperless LTR. Even if I could, I wouldn't because I think she should be with some young stud who can give her a better time anyway. I don't think dating a widow would be any less probelmatic. It's one thing to replace some guy she thinks of as a dickhead, but if they had a good marriage that just ended too soon, d*mn, try filling those shoes. Nope, it's hopeless I give up.
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Posted: 1/20/2005 9:17:43 AM | | { I apologize for not being able to respond as if your insult offended me. I am in entertainment mode today. Later when I am less impervious to scorn I promise to hang my head in shame and take your words to heart. It may be a while though because the sun is out and I am well fed, which tends to put me in a good mood. } | |
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Posted: 1/20/2005 1:07:32 PM |  Human being's, Are Not Ever Trash!!!
They are all Treasure in the eye's of The Lord!!!
 just because Miss right married Mr Wrong,How dose that make her Trash???
 I don't believe so,We are human,Prone to make mistakes,we are to firgive and learn from our mistakes,this is how we grow and mature,It is not our place to judge others,unless we too wish to be judged,Men are not Superior to women,if you believe your self to be so,then I challenge you to go through the pregnancy process,give birth and become a Mom sometime...(-;
There is a GOD and HE did create us,Man is 1/2 of a whole being and Woman is 1/2 of a whole being,it takes both plus the wisdome of The Lord working together to make one compleat being...
 I am a greatly misunderstood man,I live among you and still I am totally isolated,there is only one of me,dose that make me a freek,an odd ball or trash??? NO it makes me different,but I can still LOVE,so I am still in the over all game and hopeful...(-;
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 1/21/2005 4:48:11 AM | | wow trash is such a harsh word some people divorce because they grow in different directions not because they no longer love and respect each other or because he is sleeping with the babysitter and you at the same time and yes i would date a man who has been married because he knows what it is like to be committed to another person even if it didnt last | |
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Posted: 1/21/2005 5:20:49 AM | it's an expression.
it means that value is placed on something by the person who wants, or doesn't, but that the thing itself has no set value.
It is not that anyone is actually being called trash just because they divorced.
When you break up and it is not a friendly event, chances are your ex will be angry and may think porly of you. It can range from resentment to wanting to lop your head off but then keep it alive in a box to keep yelling at it for a while. At that point, you are unwanted by them.
But you're still the same person you have always been, and whom your ex once thought wonderful.
So when you go out looking for someone new, if they want you, you are a treasure to be found, not trash to be thrown out. Not until they get angry anyway.
the problem comes when the reason why people break up is one they carry with them from one relationship to the next. If that happens, then even when things start out OK, they will repeat the bad ending. Unless the person comes to see this about themselves and acts to change it.
Many people who were treated like trash previously blame their ex only, and don't see if there was anything they did. They also may need to hear from the next person that they are wonderful, and blameless. And beyond that, if the next person has a problem with something they do, it brings back all the ghosts of fights from their first marriage, and so it gets a bit complicated to date and try anew after having already been through a divorce.
When you get to a certain age, most of the single people are single only because their previous relationships failed. So they all have baggage they either have unpacked or not. If they move in with you and they haven't unpacked it yet, they will as soon as they settle in. You can help them with it or not, but it must happen. If they have been working their problems through on their own, then they may think they have resolved it all, but thyey haven't. It still starts up again with the next relationship.
People don't advertise in their profiles what kind of baggage they carry. They like to pretend they have none. If someone doesn't think they have any ghosts, they will require you to pretend the same about them, and will not welcome yours.
I think most people who break up do so for reasons they bring with them, but that they are blind to, and blame the other person. But I don't really know most people so I can't be sure. I don't have enough room to hold a party for most people at my place, so I have never met them. I just like to suppose what they do.
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Posted: 1/21/2005 5:50:01 PM |
I says, "pardon"? What do you mean by that?
There are alot of good women out there and there are women that are trash.
If he thinks women are trash just because a relationship didn't work out, he deserves trash.
Just because a woman was married and divorced doesn't make her trash.
And just because she was never married doesn't mean she didn't loved and wasn't ditched. Wouldn't that be unofficial trash? But trash none the less.
The same logic must hold true for men. I have loved and been ditched, and married and divorced. Am I trash because of it? I can't believe he was never loved or been married and divorced. Wouldn't that also mean he's trash?
If this logic is what he clings to, 99% of us are trash! You(maybe), Me(definately) and most everyone else. | |
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