| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 9/18/2006 12:38:21 PM | What an awful question.
But then again, I've met people who view me as damaged goods because I'm divorced, so I suppose I shouldn't be surprised.
Of course I'd date a woman who's divorced. I would, and I have. I'm divorced, myself, and I'd be quite the tasty little hypocrite if I thought women who were divorced were trash. | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 9/18/2006 12:45:03 PM | I would date/marry a divorced woman,
in FACT
I would "rather" date/marry a woman who's divorced than a single never been married or never been in a really long term re: woman because she (the divorced woman) has been thru it all (good and bad) and generally has "experience" in relationships/marriage & knows what & what NOT to do or accept a 2nd or 3rd time around.
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 9/18/2006 12:53:58 PM | Basically its this...
Divorce means that possibly one (or both) parties in a marriage couldn't make it work. The other gets "divorced" whether they wanted to or not.
And yes divorced people are either ones who make bad choices and don't learn, or ones who MADE bad choices and have learned (or are learning).
I think someone who is divorced and is growing as a result of the experience is a better choice than someone who was too afraid of intimacy to ever get that "serious".
I'm currently dating a wonderful woman who was "common-law" and has a son from that relationship. Neither of us are perfect (no one is), but we've come a long way and we're going to go farther. | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 9/18/2006 1:04:44 PM | Let me put it this way. Would you rather have a woman who has no idea how to run a house with a partner? How about someone who is high maintance and doesn't care how hard you had to work to earn that money? If all you want is a clueless teenager, go ahead. Everyone has a past. Doesn't mean they are wrong.
Personally, I would prefer a woman who is divorced, especially if she has kids. Means she is not a ho. Oh, and I know that not ALL women who have had kids out of wedlock are ho's but I know plenty who are. It depends on the situation. | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 9/18/2006 4:51:08 PM | Someone who is single never married, put it something like this to me
once; If I met someone who is divorced, that means that someone
else wanted them at one time, so they are likable. There are those that
are not marriage material..........no one wants them......
or something like this, I hope I made my point
And to the person who thinks that divorced people are not learning
from their mistakes, I am wondering if you would stay in a very abusive,
sick, unhealthy marriage?? Oh, yeah, sure you would (sarcastic) | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 9/19/2006 8:15:38 AM | Men can be equally bitter,i have met men from here that are there wifes divorced & there very bitter about it, a lot of times u may get along great,then u get married and find u cant live together your totally different from one another,in my option its better to live together first,..if we all stayed away from some one that has been divorced, we would all be pretty lonely unless u are very young,..well good luck to very one that is truely looking for there lost love dont give up she/he is out there & u never know u may have already been with her/him & dident realize it give people a chance isnt that what its all about,take care,..scandalous. | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 9/19/2006 9:11:52 AM | To "scoobydont"
Your lack of knowledge overwhelms me!
I heard that there are a lot of ignorant pigs on this website and by asking an "idiotic question like this shows that you are one."
I do have some good advice for you though and I advise you to pay attention.
 "If you kept your mouth shut, less people would know that you are an idiot" | |
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LisaJo
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 9/19/2006 9:21:22 AM | I have never felt as though I was trash because I am divorced..and would not understand how one could.... I was young when I married and my intentions were good (and so was his)...I met my ex when I was 17 and married him at age 21...had a child at age 22...I thought I would have been with him forever...despite the fact we loved each other...we eventually grew apart ...and thats ok...we were very young with little life experience when we got together and then married...but we did love and respect each other enough to let each other go instead of remaining unhappy....all the understanding and communication required in this type of situation is all good!! We divorced 9 years ago and to this date remain friends (as we have joint custody of our son). If you are considering hookin up with someone who is divorced...and this perhaps is a concern for you...I wouldn't let it be...look at the individual as a whole...are they honest?...do they have the ability to communicate effectively? I know that some people divorce for reasons which are very unpleasant..but keep in mind that does not apply to all of us....My experience with divorce was a learning experience...and the lessons learned only made me a better person..... | |
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Posted: 9/19/2006 9:46:59 AM | Ok so not to be too scarcastic but, let's just say NO we shouldn't date divorced people
So that cuts down the dating populous by half (50%) since that's about what the divorce rate is...good...no, not good...Why not give a woman (or man) as the case would have it the benefit of the doubt that if they are divorced, split or whatever the situation, the chance to have a better relationship the next time...I'm not talking about trading in for a new "model" no pun intended...I'm just saying that if two people split because of various reasons, Why wouldn't you consider meeting someone if you're compatible with them? | |
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xamo
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Joined: 3/24/2006
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mizbex
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Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 121 | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 9/19/2006 11:31:22 AM | | The phrase is used to explain that value is placed on us from the outside. We are trash or treasure depending on what the other person is looking for. What one person likes, someone else may not. Just because one man decided he couldn't stand living with the woman doesn't mean she is bad for all men. It just means he wanted something else. The concept is assessed or relative value as opposed to intrinsic or absolute. The use of the word trash doesn't indicate the person is garbage. It says they are not valued highly, as treasure would be. | |
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Abby48
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Joined: 10/6/2006
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 10/28/2006 7:29:23 PM | | By no means was i trash,ever,and i would never ever use that word in a forum,such a hurtful and distressing word,gosh i could hurt a fly ,never in my life did i think a man could ever call a divorced woman trash,believe you me i am a treasure and i deserve to be treated as a woman the woman i will always be,my father didnt raise trash to be another mans tresaure thank you he raised a woman and also well respected by all ,ohhhhhhhhh i can get challenging when i want and i can flame like a propane torch because no woman or man is trash oiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii not a good forum | |
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