| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 10/28/2006 7:54:28 PM | | *Sigh* What a silly question. What does a persons previous marital status have to do with anything? Sometimes life throws people curve balls and I think its judgemental to not consider someone because they have been through a divorce. No little girl sits in the playground and whispers to her friends, "One day I want to meet my prince charming and then get divorced." | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 10/28/2006 8:20:21 PM | I dont consider any human being to be trash, no matter where they are, or what they have been thru. As for would i date a divorced women, yes i would, and have. I could nt find myself dating someone that has never been married to be honest, i have been married twice. Therefor, i must be really trashy lol.... but thats ok... i am what you think i am, i am what i am, and i am who know i am.... ok confused ? Well so am i lol... | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 10/29/2006 3:54:18 AM | I'm a little young to have an opinion on a matter such as this, for obvious reasons (although divorce ages are slowly creeping up now days), but I am going to give my opinion anyway.
Well, I honestly believe that if two people divorce, it's usually because they realise that things weren't going very well in their favour. There are other reasons (bigamy/unfaithfulness, mistrust, etc.), but I believe they all boil down to the same thing in the end.
Just because a woman divorces a man, or even vice versa, it doesn't classify her as "trash". Since you obviously had a run in with a similar situation this is causing you emotional distress to have this kind of mindset (such as you getting divorced, or parents getting divorced).
I believe any woman is treasure if she pushes the right buttons for me, and wants the same things in life as I do. That doesn't mean I think that any woman who doesn't push my buttons is trash - they just are not right for me that's all. | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 1/19/2007 9:34:59 AM | this is abosolutely a very stupid q's... a person woman/man is always a treasure/special in thier own unique way,no matter what thier past is...we all make wrong judgement and choices along the way..i just hope you will not be in that position (divorcee) someday...its a pity for you having thoughts like that...
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mykewl
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 1/19/2007 10:02:24 AM | WOW! Dudeley needs a grip! I am wondering if he is considering marrying a woman who was in a bad relationship, & whether she knows she is about too enter another one? Does she know this is his perspective? I tried looking for this guys profile, I was going to ask him(?) directly, but apparently he isn't here any longer. Hope he is man enough too let her know he isn't sure what he is getting, cuz maybe then she will know what she is getting!  | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 1/19/2007 10:57:29 AM | | Perhaps I've misunderstood your reasoning, but I'm male and am terribly offended by the notion of "another man's trash"! I'm not going any further with this as my back is well and truely up and when that happens I tend to say all kinds of things I sometimes regret, so if I've misunderstood I apologize and if I haven't the other people here will deal with you far better than I could. | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 1/19/2007 11:10:44 AM | Wow, that is a pretty severe comment, so, it depends on the woman, usually anybody directly out of a relationship is a rec, angry, resentful, still blaming. When I look at my ownself, and compare myself to when I was 27 and just got married, to now,44 and been divorced for 7 years, I am much happier with myself and who I am, than when I was just married.
I think alot of us get better with time and experience, but you are wise to know that not all do,, I remember a saying that hit me hard..." each experience either makes us bitter, or better". Was my ex my trash, no, not at all, she was a lesson to hard for me to learn(at the time) and so it is with most of us.
Some divorced woman are wiser, more open, know how to help the relationship from getting stail, some divorced women are very angry and still wanting to behead a man, so the question is a bit general, so like most of the general questions, I give a general answer" it depends on the woman". | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 1/19/2007 11:22:57 AM | | At my age, most people are either married or divorced. I am, my ex is not trash, it just didn't work out, nobody to blame, both of us to blame. If I only dated people who had never been married, people would accuse me of robbing the cradle, I mean, I'd be dating women young enough to be my child. I keep all my options open. | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 1/19/2007 4:05:07 PM | Thank you for defending us divorcees.
would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 12/28/2004 5 40 PM
Well, let's start out by defining terms. "Trash" is defined as worthless waste matter; something one throws away/discards. Now... what is it, exactly, that makes you think that a woman is divorced because SHE was thrown away? Perhaps, my dear, SHE is the one who threw out the rubbish. That would make her, simply, smart.
Very well put darlingnada
For every divorced women, there is a divorced man.,,I don't consider my self trash, or any other women because we are usually the ones "who throw out the trash."
Maybe you should practice what you preach..SOMEDAY YOU MAY EAT YOUR WORDS.
I would be happy to marry a divorced man, some of them make for better husbands as they have been down that road before and have learnt what it takes to build a relationship as well as the divorced women,
As for men if they are not married by time they are in their 40's or so, one questions, Why.
I find some of them pretty set in their ways and too obsessive.,,
You may grow to be a lonely old man,,,,,what comes around goes around. | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 1/19/2007 4:07:45 PM | Well, MY first thought to this was if the women is divorced, so is the man. Soooo he also would be considered "trash". Considering over 50% of marriages fail, there is a lot of male and female "trash" according to your thinking. That doesn't leave a lot out the for anyone to choose from. There also, which has been covered, MANY reasons for divorce, and most of them don't make a person of either sex, "trash".
MY divorce was because my HUSBAND couldn't stop cheating!! So does that make ME trash??? Hell no, that would make HIM more trash-like than me! lol If I guy had that attitude, he can stay away from me, because who would want someone with a mind that would think in that manner? It's WAY to judgemental for me!
Treasures come in all shapes, sizes, colors, and marriage status. There are many single people who would be more "trash-like" than anyone you would consider trash JUST on the basis of being divorced!
Happy fishing all....
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 1/19/2007 4:34:18 PM | Ummm... I kind of know where this question is coming from... When my ex asked for a divorce, I didn't want one because I thought at that point I was trash. I didn't do anything wrong in our marriage, he was cheating and he wanted out. So I said okay, but not without a good fight.
I finally agreed, but when you tell people you are going through a divorce, they give you a look like you are trash, and at least for me, it was a common look and perception that I didn't appreciate. I always wondered if I would find someone because I was divorced, but I don't think I am going to have a problem with it.
But yes, this is a question that went through at least my mind, so I know where the question was atleast coming from. | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 1/19/2007 4:45:05 PM | I am not now, nor will I ever be someone's trash!
I was married twice and am still trying to get rid of the last one.
In my opinion he was the "trash" because he was the one who
didn't hold up his end of the vows "in sickness and in health" when
I got ill and he couldn't handle it. So you tell me who is the "trash"
here?
Also, unless you have a spotless life OP, "people who live in glass
houses, shouldn't throw stones". | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 1/19/2007 4:55:10 PM | | When you get up to being my age, you don't have much of a choice............I have found that the women whom I have met (who were close to my age) who have NEVER been married are generally even more screwed-up than the divorced ones......and if I met a woman my age (or older) who has never been married, it would be an immediate red flag. I would probably run as fast as I could the other way. I personally prefer older women anyway, so it is kind of a moot point, LOL......... | |
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