mizbex
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 1/20/2007 4:09:46 PM | WTF? You've been smoking some ScoobyDoobies haven't you?
A divorced person (male or female) is no different than you. You've broken up with someone before, right?
Of course you have...
Just add lots of paperwork and you've got a divorce. Should YOU have a stigma placed on you for breaking up with someone?
C'mon people....anyone that answers "No" to dating a divorcee....use your brains. | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 1/21/2007 4:48:47 AM | Would you date or marry a divorced man? Well since most people have been married and half end in divorce, you may be limiting yourself to a very small group of people to date.
This question sort of sounds like it may have been written in the fifties or forties... and almost seems out of place in this day and age.
It certainly does not have anything to do with trash or treasure, people and relationships change.. people stop trying when things get too easy or too tough. It is easy to get lost in the day to day of life and fall out of love. Relationships take hard work, effort on both peoples parts and still it may not last becaue people change, the dreams change, needs change and it is not meant to hurt anyone in most cases. It just changes..
Women started working to keep up with inflation, and it upset the family lifestyle or a million other reasons...
so I sure do suggest that you take each person on a case by case basis and not lable the group under one title... you will be much happier | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 1/21/2007 10:00:06 AM | A divorced woman isnt necessary someone's "trash". In my case, I was the one that was cheated on, abused in every way, and left to fend for myself and the kids with no child support paid. I hate to say it but in this case, he was the "trash" and the treasure got left behind which was me. He went to be with trash, someone of his own kind. Not just saying that because I am "angry" or anything but this lass has NO class, is unstable, and all the rest of it.
Fortunately that paved the way for me to find someone who TRULY feels for me.  | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 1/21/2007 10:08:05 AM | Man if that isn't a stupid question.
OP : You let yourself in for all of those response's.I'm just surprised that you haven't been tarred and feathered.
There is very few women who would even remotely desrve to be called trash and none till you get to know them.
If someone wants to throw away a jewel you can be sure that someone else will see the value. | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 1/22/2007 11:04:34 AM | Hmmm,
So if every woman who is divorced is another mans trash does that mean that every man that is divorced is another woman's trash? I am a firm believer that the door swings both ways. I don't believe that any one sex has the corner of the market in being jerks, a$$ holes or just plain Bi*ches or *icks. I believe there are good and bad in all areas. It is a concious choice as to whether or not you act mean and nasty to others. If you do then you will most likely get stuck with the jerks. However, I always try to be the one giving the benefit of the doubt and the truthful and honest always part and so far it has gotten me used quite a few times. But, you know what? I refuse to change who I am because of some bad apples. I am who I am and I will continue to be exactly this way. I will eventually find the right guy when the time is right and nothing will stop it from happening. I have decided to only be on here for friends at the moment because I am sick of all the bull crap. I have gottne offers for one night stands and sex on the first meeting type stuff but that isn't who I am either, whether it is when I am looking for someone or just looking for friends.
I believe that you are only trash if you make the choice to be.
I would like to think that I am someone's treasure, I just have yet to be found. (Maybe I shouldn't have hid the map so well.)
I am also divorced with three wonderful children. My ex was definately the trash and yes I am sad to admit I was with him. But you know what? I wouldn't change it, because to change being with him means I would change who I am and who my children are. I wouldn't do that I learned a lot of valuable lessons in that relationship and marriage. Ones that made me decide that I will not settle for just anyone this time, that it has to be the "right" one.
They say "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" maybe "trash or treasure" is also in the eye of the beholder. I know I am not the "right one" for some of you men but I know I am for a certain person. I am not giving up hope. I hope no one else does either. | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 1/25/2007 5:43:50 PM | Calling people trash is not merely considered bad form; it _is_ bad form. Oh, perhaps some deserve it, but it is better to act respectful to those who do not deserve it than to act otherwise to those who do.
Many a fine lady has been thrown out like trash. When a man reaches the age of 30 or so, he is too grown up (if he ever will be grown up) to bother with women who have never had someone else. We are all trying again, alas.
I pick good things out of trash heaps and debris boxes all the time. So far as ladies go, I think some of the very best ones have been scorned by the very worst of men.
The worst thing that might be said to some of these ladies is, "You did marry that jerk in the first place, you know." | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 5/20/2007 12:37:50 PM | | HEY LadyNCuffs I hope that was not to me but if it was i know of alot of guys on here and off here that would love to date me but if you read my profile i'm married I don't date anyone. and yes my husband know i'm on here and he really don't care he trust me he knows me.I just don't like someone braging about how they love to date married men and then say they have feelings lol NOT | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 5/20/2007 12:40:05 PM |
is another mans trash another mans treasure?
It's a good thing the OP is no longer around POF.....
TRASH?!?!
OK, it might have been a figure of speech, albiet a poorly phrased one... but still....
I would NEVER look at a divorced man as trash, used, wasted, thrown away....
This is one of the dumbest threads I've ever read.... and if I weren't dealing with the death of my dear bullie I wouldn't give it credence... but I'm just wasting time instead of dealing.....
So I should thank the idiot that started this thing... cause it gave me two minutes of relief.... | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 6/4/2007 5:45:58 AM | | i agree with you 100% when someone in the 50's or late 40's and is still is not married there is a reason why and you can't change them at all. You know for sure they are not going to settle down. they are set in there own ways but I wouldn't mind getting married again. I am divorced myself. that doesn't mean we are trash. My ex was physically abusive to me and that is not right at all. That is why i am divorced. I have a heart of gold. I would take the shirt of my back when needed. I know of someone that has beed divorced for 16 years now and he likes to be alone. Plus he can't even afford to take someone out to dinner because he is only a substitute teacher and plus he tried to conn me for money and i fell into his traps. he knocked me to the loop. he was dishonest with me. I was dam good to him also and now i have him exposed so he won't hurt other women. | |
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| would you date or marry a divorced woman?is another mans trash another mans treasure?
Posted: 6/25/2007 2:28:45 AM | | One man's trash?! Jesus, have I just woken up in the 19th century? Women aren't possessions of men to be disgarded as the man feels fit! Supposing the guys is unfaithful wife beater. After years of trying to make the marriage work she finally admits defeat and leaves. Does that still make her another man's trash? My mother divorced my father is 1978 as he was nasty, brutal man. You're going to tell me she was his trash?! I tell you something, guy, if that's how you view women you deserve to be on your own. | |
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