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Tinkle
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Joined: 11/2/2005
Msg: 27 | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 4:26:25 PM | Unconditional love is just that unconditional. Its the kind of love were you would do things for the person that go beyond simple friendship, kinship, or partnership.
However, this does not mean you are in a relationship with the individual or have to stay in a relationship with the individual. No were in the definition of love does it mean you have to be compatable, or partners. You can seperate and still love someone unconditionally. Usually those are the bonds that take people beyond the simple understanding of love that most individuals have. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 4:31:01 PM | | It is unfortunate that unconditional love does not always exist on both sides. My love has become more conditional, I think, at least when it comes to the actions of the person on the other side. I have been through too much to allow myself to continue on in a situation where I am being taken advantage of. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 4:32:58 PM | There can never be unconditional love in a relationship. No matter how much you love that person, they must love you back. If not, there is no relationship.
Unconditional love is when you love somebody whether you have a relationship or not, whether they love you or not, such as with children, brother or sister. People you were born with. And even then it's hard.
But in a relationship, there is an understanding. "You love me. I love you." That's why we say it to our SO. I Love You. Because saying it reaffirms that we are holding up our side of that bargain. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 4:35:22 PM | Only recently did I understand what unconditional love is all about. Love is one of the most powerful forces in the universe. It is the fire that burns inside, the essence of being. Love is the source of all our comfort and contentment. It is a precious gift that defines our purpose in life. If we keep in mind that we can indeed preserve its true meaning, we can love to the fullest and be happy the rest of our lives. Accept that other people express love differently. If you can accept that then you will have a healthier perspective of your relationship.
Derive happiness from giving love. When you love, do it because you want to. There is an indescribable joy in loving. Just give it. And cherish satisfaction in having given someone something of yourself. It's like giving a gift. Whether it is appreciated or not, find joy in simply giving. Love without expecting anything in return. This is where pain comes in... when you demand something in return for the love you give.You are setting yourself up for disappointment because love cannot always be reciprocal. Love between two people can never be of the same intensity at the same time and place.
No matter how much your partner loves you, he/she will never be able to fill all your needs all the time. And you will be in the worst situation if you believe you should love only when you are sure to receive equal love in return.
Loving relationships are flexible, dynamic, and evolving. Leave room for change and interaction. Allow for new behavior and learning experiences. When we welcome these into our lives, we open ourselves to sharing more love and affection and less frustration and pain. Yes, you will say that unconditional love is easier said than done. I agree. Especially when we have always believed that love is give and take. But try believing that love is simply giving. And you will be surprised that a lot of it, even more, actually comes back to you.
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 4:47:50 PM |
Unconditional love is for family and pets.
took the words right out of my mouth. In romantic love it does not exist.
and even in family I wonder in those cases of child molestation or rape if the victims can still love unconditionally the family member that victimized them? | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 4:54:53 PM | | i agree with sexy adn the rest of the people that unconditional love does not exist in a romantic setting. Unconditional love...means no conditions the person can do what they want and u will stick by them...not so.....u finally have ot evaluate relationships that u are in romantically and decide if it is worth it to stay in it (the good and the bad). You do not do this with your children and hopefully not your family. No matter what your child does even though u may not agree with it ,,,,,u still love then non the less. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 7:07:26 PM | | My cat gives me unconditional love, no other human has ever come close to what a pet can give back to you. Sex and snuggling comes from humans but with a price. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 7:24:26 PM |
i agree with sexy adn the rest of the people that unconditional love does not exist in a romantic setting. Unconditional love...means no conditions the person can do what they want and u will stick by them...not so.....u finally have ot evaluate relationships that u are in romantically and decide if it is worth it to stay in it (the good and the bad). You do not do this with your children and hopefully not your family. No matter what your child does even though u may not agree with it ,,,,,u still love then non the less.
I think you are combining an emotion and a social construct too conviently. You don't need to be with someone to love them unconditionally. Sometimes you realize that in order to be true to your love for them you have to let them go. This can be said for children as much as remantic interests. You can love your kid to death, but if he pulled a knife and killed your friend you are going to be loving him from the other side of a glass barrier on the phone. | |
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bahra
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Joined: 7/27/2004
Msg: 36 | |
| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 7:29:47 PM | | I agree w/ Summer Teeth. Often you can turn your back on a parent, child , family and love will continue. Romantic love needs you to at least grace him/her with your presence (phone call or something) once in a while(at least). That's a condition. Then there's love me back, that's a condition. If I "love" you and let you do whatever you want, even when it hurts me(continuing theme), I'm a not only a doorrmat, I've got real problems. And they are my problems not his. Aw shucks, I owe someone an apology. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 8:18:01 PM | Unconditional love from a definition standpoint would be, "love without conditions", however when put in conjunction with what it means to an individual, that definition can expand considerably based on personality, beliefs, and life experiences.
For myself, I believe that the model of unconditional love is that which is shown between God and His children (I'm Christian, and thus, where my beliefs stem from). I do believe that we are meant to show all of those around us unconditional love, our partner being no exception. Oddly enough, many people find it easier to extend unconditional love to someone that they do not know as opposed to someone who is extremely close to them. And, of course, we are human - not God, and thus, we are bound to make mistakes. Within a relationship I believe that unconditional love is the goal, at least from my perspective, but I also know that I will fall short of the goal many times as will my partner. Part of a healthy relationship is not only striving for unconditional love, but the honesty with which to admit mistakes, the communication to seek forgiveness and the acceptence based in our unconditional love to begin the circle again. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/13/2005 3:10:03 AM | | There is no such thing as unconditional love. All love is conditional upon the thing/person having come into existance to begin with. You can't love what never existed. Most love has other conditions, too. What passes for unconditional love is just emotional addiction. Letting a love go, for the sake of his/her happiness-at the cost of your own-is not unconditional love, it is true, selfless, love. When most people speak of unconditional love, they are explaining why they stay with a beater/cheater..." because I love him/her...unconditionally". They are emotionally addicted to being with the abuser. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/13/2005 3:18:30 AM | | Fail to feed, or pet, your cat enough, and notice how soon it slashes your wrist open the next time you get near it. No cat ever loved anyone but itself. Your cat gives you bored, or amused, tolerance. Dogs can be quite loyal, but not cats. Loyalty is the basis of love. Your cat would abandon you in a heartbeat if it found better food, more petting, comfier digs, etc, down the street. Those who can not be loyal can not love, let alone love unconditionally. | |
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Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 40 | |
| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/13/2005 3:27:09 AM | | I WOULD AGREE ACCEPT FOR WHO THEY ARE AND THROUGH GOOD AND BAD.LOVE AND RESPECT AND BE YOURSELVES THROUGH YOUR JOURNEY. | |
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| OKAY PEOPLE
Posted: 12/13/2005 4:50:35 AM | | The sun rising and setting each day. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/13/2005 5:02:14 AM | | The love I have for my children is unconditional. The love I have for my significant other unfortunately, is. Just because someone 'loves' me, doesn't mean they can treat me like utter crap and still expect me to be there for them. Leaving them would be hard to get over, but I'd survive. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/13/2005 5:49:00 AM | tenbears thats unselfish love.. and u knew it would not work sorta like *a butterfly* set it free.. if it comes back its meant to be.. sometimes love is that way..
But to me unconditional means loving a person no matter what.. thru the good the bad the indifferent.. that even tho people should show each other how much t hey care each and every day.. u know in ur heart t hat t hey love u and u love them.. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/13/2005 6:02:27 AM | The fact thats she didn't come back. Doesn't mean that I have stoped loving her all I ever want is for her to be happy. As long as she is its all good then.  | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/13/2005 6:08:16 PM | | unconditional love means you will love the person no matter what... they could commit mass murders be a serial rapist... they could do anything they wanted and you would still love them... it's supposed to be how a child feels about their parent or vice versa... but we all know there is limits... unconditional love doesn't exist and if did it just wouldn't be healthy | |
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mako28
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Joined: 11/25/2005
Msg: 47 | |
| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/13/2005 7:15:09 PM | | dogs. I jst watched the preview for a new Disney movie, "eight below", another one that will have me crying like a little girl. | |
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| OKAY PEOPLE
Posted: 12/13/2005 7:20:06 PM | | Don't you think unconditional love is an admirable qoal?? The world could sure use a little more... | |
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