| | What is unconditional love to you?Page 3 of 7 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7) | unconditional meaning without restrictions and conditions. I think the longer you love each other the closer you get to having unconditional love. To say if your partner cheated on you would you still love them,probably not being that it wasn't true love to begin with. Unconditonal is something that only a few couples can truly believe in because they have that ultimate love where trust,understanding,devotion control their behavior,we all have our faults,which sometimes become argumentative. To be able to sit down and talk,and to say I am sorry,I love you that is part of unconditional love. There is a lot of spirituality behind "unconditional love"to know and to love someone so deeply where anything can be forgiven other than infidelity which would never occur if your love was unconditional to begin with. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/13/2005 8:45:18 PM | Unconditional love is always loving someone despite their behavior.
I might hate the way you behave. You might scream at me, throw things,
curse me, push me into broken glass,
refuse me a glass of water to slake my burning fever;
I hate each of these behaviors.
I still love YOU.
It doesn't mean I will always stay with you.
It doesn't mean I can continue to live with you forever, no matter what.
It means if YOU get sick, I won't abandon YOU.
If You need my help I'll do whatever I can.
It means nothing you can do can make me not love you,
I might not stick around for more abuse...
but wherever I am, I won't not love you.
I might still have conditions if you want certain behaviors from me...
I might refuse to respond when you belittle me...
I might walk away when you scream at me...
I might demand respect if you want to engage in social intercourse...
...and you might or might not meet those conditions...
...so we might or might not interact because of them...
but the love I feel for you doesn't change like the weather...
It shines like the sun.
...and is always there behind the clouds that bring the rains of grief in our lives. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/15/2005 12:48:03 PM | being kind even when it rubs against your desire to say whatever you want.
being loyal when you don't want too,
many people talk about being unconditionally loving. in the end it's how you act that's the measure of how you are. it's quite another thing to live it. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/16/2005 10:21:57 AM |
Unconditional love: my relationship with a good, dark beer.
I'll drink to that! 
I like a good black ale, myself. Good for what ails you! | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/16/2005 10:27:24 AM | | unconditional love is more sublime in my opinion, it trancends material things and material gain and doesn't look at what has one to gain from the relationship but how you can make each other happy.....it is self sacrificing and selfless. Unconditional love is not bound by time nor space, very pure. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/16/2005 10:37:21 AM | | I believe you can have unconditional love for your family and your children. You know no matter what you will be loved and you will love back. I know no matter what my children do I will always love them. I might not be happy with their decision making but I will always love them. I don't feel a person can ever have unconditional love for a mate. Within minutes a personh can change all that. No matter how long you have been with them. Just my opinion | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/16/2005 1:15:50 PM | There is a very large component of wisdom in all of your post. But what is hard to grasp is the premise that perhaps the very fact of deeming certain actions unaceptable would be the motivation for a person not to act in a certain behavioral pattern. I think this begs the question because "unconditional love" could not or should not flourish in the first place wherein which there is a participant who can allow themselves to act in a way completely antithetical to love of any kind.
When unconditional love exists, I believe it exists naturally and without effort, because the very basis for this love evolves from a mutual commitment to the spiritual growth of both partners. It is not possible for anyone to contemplate behavior which disrespects or denigrates another while building a life predicated on mutual spritual growth. Love can be full of selfless expression in the cooperation between partners, but not unilateral in the enabling of one partner so as to perpetuate the lack of growth in another. This in and of itself is not unconditional love, simply dysfunctional behavior. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/16/2005 3:17:48 PM | SUMMER: I can relate with a pilsner.....mm, BEER!!!
Unconditional love is very hard to find these days though...I love my pets and others' pets that way, they are innocent, just like children in my life...but I love all my friends and family the same way. Most people these days seem to "need" something in order to love that way....I don't get it, when you love another, whatever the realtionship, there should be no strings! Unconditional means for "no matter what"...no one is perfect, just gotta be able to accept that...   | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/16/2005 9:23:00 PM | | unconditional love to me is standing beside your better half through good times and bad times.being their if they get sick or when they are sad to comfort them.being completely faithful and honest with your soulmate.being able to forgive and forget. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/16/2005 9:41:55 PM | Unconditional love has to be practical - and it has to include yourself. Saying that you unconditionally love someone and then trying to accept any negative behaviour, including cheating (when it's not an open relationship), lying and/or abuse is just not loving to yourself.
It's very important to differentiate unconditionally loving a person, and having some behaviours that are unacceptable. Loving a person means you welcome all parts of them, including the energies and emotions that COULD lead to cheating, lying, abuse, etc. We all have them, and they need loving just as much as the rest of us. However, some things just don't work as behviours, and we all in some measure need to feel safe. So it needs to be practical - and what works for different people are different, which is why communication is so important.
I find doing meditation together to work on welcoming someone's complete energy (as well as my own) is very helpful. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/16/2005 9:47:56 PM | Unconditional Love is a Paradox when it pertains to a relationship. Think about it.
Unconditional – without conditions or reservations; absolute
Conditional – containing, expressing or dependant on a condition; qualified; a word, clause, tense etc. expressing a condition
Condition – anything required for the performance, completion, or existence of something else; provision or prerequisite.
Love – strong affection or liking for something or someone; a passionate affection of one person for another; the object of such affection; a sweetheart or lover
You see with these definitions become the paradox of Unconditional Love as nothing comes without conditions.
Family, friends, and pets you love because it is our nature to love but in life there are always conditions. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/16/2005 10:56:28 PM | Erocdog is truly the winner of this thread. 
We do have conditions for the type of person we are romantically attracted to and willing to have a relationship with but once the attraction develops into love, it's possible for that love to be unconditional as Erocdog so eloquently described it.
We all want that chemisty when we first meet but once love grows...people who love unconditionally will still see the beauty in the other person long after the looks have faded.
We all have a deep desire to be loved unconditionally. When our love is not being reciprocated we can choose to remove ourselves yet still go on loving that person.
I married with the expectation that I would be married forever. That was a condition of my marriage contract and not of my love. I feel like I was forced to withdraw. It was the last thing I wanted to do; it was something I had to do. I never withdrew my love.
The romantic attraction may have left years ago when I began to realize that HIS love WAS conditional. In the best of all worlds he will overcome the turmoils that prevent him from loving unconditionally. Maybe then he can find happiness and inner peace. If that happens...I'll be happy for him. | |
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