Ldygmr
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Joined: 12/19/2005
Msg: 126 | |
| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 2/8/2006 2:58:02 PM | Dying for someone is easy,
If its so easy, why dont you try it?
Excuse me? Did you just tell me to go DIE?
I am going to assume you made a simple typo. I mean, one couldn't possibly be that rude to someone with whom they have had absolutely no contact. Now if you KNEW me, I could see you wanting me to drop off the planet. I AM a tough act to follow. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 2/8/2006 3:07:02 PM | You don't have to be a doormat to give unconditional love. Its when you love someone no matter what they do and then let them go if they treat you badly. You can still love someone unconditionally, but still not be with them. Unconditional love can exist in relationships because it is true love. Love is patient, love is kind, love is never self serving ect. ect. Of course no one is really like that poem, but it is something that I strive to be like and hopefully I am like that someday when I find true love again and my love is reciprocated.  | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 2/8/2006 3:10:21 PM | Idygmr,Dont assume anything you are the one who was rude to begain with, I was just sharing my feelings and you dumped all over them.
So if you can handle the reaction dont open the can Missy! | |
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Ldygmr
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Joined: 12/19/2005
Msg: 129 | |
| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 2/8/2006 4:03:10 PM |
ldygmr,Dont assume anything you are the one who was rude to begain with, I was just sharing my feelings and you dumped all over them.
So if you can handle the reaction dont open the can Missy!~~encntedunicorn
Actually, Ma'am (I always respect my elders), I was not rude. I gave my opinion. I did it quite plainly and without direction to anyone else's posts. It is a shame you have reached your age without yet learning to allow others to think differently from you.
I will correct your typos because I am a nice person like that. My handle is Ldygmr not Idygmr. Again I am assuming but you SAID if I CAN handle the reaction...when what you must have meant was CAN'T handle.
And as you can see, I handle things just fine. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 2/8/2006 4:23:48 PM | | To me unconditional love is when the love is given freely, in response to who you are, and is not given in trade for what you do. It will outlast a relationship if need be. It comes from knowing who the person is as well as you know yourself. It backs off sometimes but abides hoping things get better. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 2/8/2006 4:26:21 PM | ldygmr,No one give's a sh*t about typos up n here, I have yet to see that forums and as to your commint about my age, if I looked like you do at 33 which I dont look that ate up yet I'd be bitter too! | |
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Ldygmr
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Joined: 12/19/2005
Msg: 132 | |
| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 2/8/2006 4:37:26 PM |
ldygmr,No one give's a sh*t about typos up n here, I have yet to see that forums and as to your commint about my age, if I looked like you do at 33 which I dont look that ate up yet I'd be bitter too
Well, again I must disagree with you. Though I do suppose that the people who DO care about spelling and grammar wouldn't be to your liking anyway. Not enough trailer park in their blood, I would imagine.
And yes, I'm a rough looking customer. I will admit that my dimensions, so much smaller than yours, cannot keep a man happy. It is my shame, my burden..one I carry with me always.
Though I do not understand from whence you divined your "bitter" comment. Are you projecting? | |
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Ldygmr
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Joined: 12/19/2005
Msg: 134 | |
| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 2/8/2006 4:41:39 PM | Nope...just dragging the thread down with a petty catfight.
I get the point though and will withdraw from the "discussion". Unless I have something to say ON TOPIC of course. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 2/8/2006 5:37:40 PM | I rest my case, dont hate me cause I beautiful, dont be hating up on me cause I dont have time or energy to hate up on you. peace out!  | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 2/8/2006 6:54:14 PM | [qote]All right, I'll refine it. You can still love someone and not be able to be with that person because you aren't getting anything out of the relationship whatsoever. That make sense now?
this come with age. two people will stay together regardless of what difference they have.
Look at this way (hypotheitcal): my wife just cheated on me. Ah well, I love her. So it's no bog deal. She's forgiven because my love is unconditional. Darn it all! She did it again. Well, I love her, and it's unconditional. Damn it, she just maxed out three different credit cards. Well, even though it can take me years to get my credit respectable, I still love her unconditional, so it's all good. Look at that--she got blazingly drunk again, wrecked her car for the 4th time, despite tons of therapy . . . blah, blah, blah.
if one believes in that they are living unconditional love forever and comes to your problem explained, he has the right to break that idea especially if the have dissued this relationship prior to entering the unconditional love forever. the rest of you story is really boring and not needed to explain your feeling.
Unconditional love is a myth in romantic relationships. It isn't practical. People will say that they believe in unconditional love in a relationship just because of ideological notions, and they will specifically say it on this forum to impress one another in hopes that a "special" someone will email him or her--because your ideas of love and romance are so wonderful. What a bunch of crap
well i can really say you are a bore with the above words.
Life isn't ideology. Life is pragmatic. Unconditional love is a recipe that will turn a lover into a ruler, not a partner. You must have boundaries, you must have conditions, otherwise you will be eaten alive in a relationship.
you have no concept of ideology. things like microsoft was built on ideology. the ipod was built on ideology. the rest of your words are simply boring.
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 2/9/2006 2:59:16 PM | [you have no concept of ideology. things like microsoft was built on ideology. the ipod was built on ideology. the rest of your words are simply boring.]
Like some posts on this thread.
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Ldygmr
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Joined: 12/19/2005
Msg: 138 | |
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| Brain on overload...must....shut....down..
Posted: 2/13/2006 6:28:38 AM | Mabey everybody is thinking about love a little too much...mabey if we all let go of the wheel we might learn something.
Breaking it down like that...takes away its majic...what cant everybody just let it be what it is? | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 2/13/2006 7:08:16 AM | There is unconditional love in relationships. I still love my ex there are not conditions on that it is just how I feel. Will I let him sh*t all over me, hell no, thats why he's my ex. Would I let him come back No.
So my point is, just because you love someone, it does not mean they get to take advantage of you and your emotions.
I seem to be seeing this idea that "IF you really totallly unconditionaly love me" I can do or say anything I want and get away with it? No thats just wrong. It takes two to make a relationship. It takes both persons desire to be with the other. And, it takes Work.
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 2/13/2006 10:06:05 AM | Unconditional love only exists between a parent and a child.
The closest thing to unconditional love in a romantic relationship is the acceptance of who that person is. However if a person is not respectful of you in the truest of sense....faithful, nonabusive or comitted to your relationship you must leave.
That does not mean you do not love them only you can not be with someone who does not love you back for that would be abuse. Differences are where unconditional love are demonstrated in a romantic realtionship. If someone is messy, not as good with the money etc. or you just get bored. No one is going to be just like you. No one is perfect. That crazy kind of love does not last forever.
Abuse is where the limits are set and self love must take over. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 2/13/2006 10:06:13 AM | Unconditional love only exists between a parent and a child.
The closest thing to unconditional love in a romantic relationship is the acceptance of who that person is. However if a person is not respectful of you in the truest of sense....faithful, nonabusive or comitted to your relationship you must leave.
That does not mean you do not love them only you can not be with someone who does not love you back for that would be abuse. Differences are where unconditional love are demonstrated in a romantic realtionship. If someone is messy, not as good with the money etc. or you just get bored. No one is going to be just like you. No one is perfect. That crazy kind of love does not last forever.
Abuse is where the limits are set and self love must take over. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 9/1/2006 9:32:24 PM | Unconditional love: Webster's says the word {[“unconditional” is an adjective, a proposal contained or depending on nothing(noun: something that does not exist)] “love” the feeling that animates a person who is genuinely found of someone or something.]} Which leads us to the oxymorical statement, grin, such with that duality thing addressed. Most of the men and women I know are afraid of “Unconditional love.” Fearing what they do not understand. Never taking the time to face this fear. Female or male living in fear of love with out knowing what it is they do not KNOW. If we face our fear knowledge is gained.
Knowledge is the only tool to defeat fear. FEAR is not knowing; a lack of knowledge. Human nature is to fear the unknown. Six billion plus people maybe thirteen present who face their fears. Those female and male who are metacognizant; I am unsure of those how many would attempt an explanation of “Unconditional love.” Explaining any idea metaphysical(unconditional love) gives the idea perimeters where none should exist.
Change, the only constant; we all face or deal with. Believing we have the same issues, make many of the same blunders, become folly to the same knowledge or lessons, trust first impressions. Courage is the something, giving us that ability to love hard and deep, courage after a hard fall to regroup and still see there are many beautiful things yet to learn. Being old fashion in this modern world is very much a good thing. Having courage as a goal is a wonderful quest. If the quest was easy ...
keeping the faith is part of life (^;^)  | |
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Sentio
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Joined: 8/18/2006
Msg: 144 | |
| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 9/1/2006 9:39:56 PM | My daughter was 2-3 years old in her high chair eating baby food. I started to eat some type of meat that I knew she could not have. My daughter looked up at me with those baby brown eyes. It broke my heart I couldn't give her any. I had been warned about that look that other unsuspecting fathers have fallen victim to. The look a daughter gives her father and its impossible to say no to her.
She is 11 now and you know that look still evokes the same emotion and she can ask me for anything.
That's unconditional love to me. | |
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~MPL~
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Joined: 4/22/2006
Msg: 145 | |
| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 9/1/2006 9:41:04 PM | | It is total acceptance of another. It is taking them with every flaw and loving them because they are flawed. I have only known this a few times, and when you have it, you know it. For myself, there is no greater feeling in this world. Love without condition is rare, but when it hits you, all you can do is smile. There is someone for everyone, they say. I believe this to be true... | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 9/1/2006 9:48:18 PM | | I dont know that I could love any other way, it's total acceptance of someone,not wishing to change a single hair on their head even though you might like to sometimes. Its very rare. I am in my 50's and been with more women than I care to count...its just very rare. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 9/1/2006 9:51:43 PM | Unconditional love is the love your parents have for you. No one, and I do mean no one else in the world will love you unconditionally. If you are a parent you probably know that. I just don't think you are or you wouldn't be expecting to find that kind of love in a girl.
I don't care how much your significant other says he/she loves you. There are things you could do that would cause this individual to stop loving you. Your parents though, no matter who you are, what you have done, what you will do, they will never stop loving you. That is what unconditional love is.
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 9/1/2006 10:11:36 PM |
And yes, I'm a rough looking customer. I will admit that my dimensions, so much smaller than yours, cannot keep a man happy. It is my shame, my burden..one I carry with me always.
Girl, what are you talking about? You are beautiful; don't let anyone tell you differently!
Certainly not someone with such a poor taste that has to resort to insult physical appearances, just because they cannot think of anything smarter to say.
But that trailer park comment? Come on now, you are better than that...
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 9/2/2006 5:08:49 AM | | To me, all love is unconditional. This doesn't mean that it doesn't change or that the experiencing of love with a particular person doesn't end but that love itself is inherently unconditional. Perhaps this is why we can continue to love people who treat us badly. Love doesn't mean tolerating people that treat us badly and in fact, love demands that we protect ourselves from people who treat us badly but when there is love there are no conditions. I mean when you love,, don't you love the essence of the person, not the trappings? Otherwise, it is infatuation... | |
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