| How would you define High maintenance?
Posted: 8/26/2009 8:16:37 PM | | I prefer using the phrase of good maintenance. Good maintenance can mean that one lives a decent, confident, and healthy lifestyle, doesn't get overweighted, and has a good health without much pressure. | |
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| How would you define High maintenance?
Posted: 8/26/2009 11:59:32 PM | | Can be materialistic or someone whose mentally a challenge. Your pocket can't afford one and your mind can't afford the other. | |
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| How would you define High maintenance?
Posted: 8/27/2009 1:10:13 PM | Maintenance:
Noun
1. the act of maintaining.
2. the state of being maintained: the maintenance of friendly relations with friends.
3. care or upkeep, as of machinery or property: With proper maintenance the car will last for many years.
4. means of upkeep, support, or subsistence; livelihood: To provide a comfortable maintenance. Everyone needs to maintain him-/herself, I think.
5. alimony or child support.
Adjective
Pharmacology, Psychiatry. administered to sustain a desired physiological or mental condition: maintenance dose.
High is an adjective, which can means to make more efforts. | |
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| How would you define High maintenance?
Posted: 8/27/2009 10:47:34 PM |
How would you define High maintenance?
Someone who is never satisfied and always wants more, more, more! Narcissistic people tend to be VERY high maintenance! | |
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| How would you define High maintenance?
Posted: 8/30/2009 9:47:33 AM | High maintenance is that one takes good care of him-/herself. For example, if one takes good care of his/her car, the car will be used for a longer time. One who takes good care of him-/herself is in high maintenance; otherwise, he/she is in low maintenance, such as one doesn't care about gaining weight, has bad sleeps, or is under some big pressure but has no way to solve any problem or never cares how to slove the problem.
High maintenance doesn't mean that one has to spend too much money. When one likes to maintain a good friendship with someone else, it doesn't mean the one has to spend money. I don't know why people have to state high maintenance so negatively! | |
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| How would you define High maintenance?
Posted: 8/30/2009 10:28:09 AM | | In need of constant attention and very expensive. Neither of those qualities do I find attractive. I see independent and reasonable to be a much better find. | |
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| How would you define High maintenance?
Posted: 8/30/2009 10:44:04 AM |
High maintenance doesn't mean that one has to spend too much money. When one likes to maintain a good friendship with someone else, it doesn't mean the one has to spend money. I don't know why people have to state high maintenance so negatively!
If you're looking to attract a man, maybe you should understand what he will think when you tell him you are "high maintenance" instead of telling him what he should think it should mean. Telling people how they should think will always guarantee you loneliness when dating. | |
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| How would you define
Posted: 8/30/2009 11:05:42 AM |
When I think "high maintenance," nothing material comes to mind.. but emotional sure does. And yes, there are plenty of guys that are high maintenance. To me neediness equates with high maintenance. Needing constant reassurance that they're pretty/good looking or that you love them, texts/emails/phonecalls several times a day (and freaking out if, God forbid, you are busy and don't answer or reply right away), unable to make decisions on their own, needing to discuss every single problem they have ad nauseum, always have to have things their way or they pout .. yada yada yada.
If a relationship takes so much "maintenance" that it drains you emotionally and limits your ability to be an indvidiual? That's pretty "high maintenance" in my book.
Ditto. 100%.  | |
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| How would you define High maintenance?
Posted: 8/30/2009 11:20:14 AM | Telling people how they should think will always guarantee you loneliness when dating.
I agree with that. We are trying to define "high maintenance" that is the thread topic. You have your definition about the concept, which isn't my business. Using your negative way may be to "guarantee you loneliness". I positively define the concept. I don't need anybody to agree with me. I excellently maintain myself. I am energetic, sleep well, always keep having a good shape, and so on.
However, by using a negative way to define high maintenance, I am in the category of low maintenance. I enjoy taking full advantage of natural resources. By using a positive way to define high maintenance, I am in the category of high maintenance. Online dictionary presents 45 definitions of "High". Yes, fifth definition is expensive, costly, and dear. How about the first, fourth, sixth, or tenth definition? | |
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| How would you define
Posted: 8/30/2009 11:33:00 AM |
High maintenance is a woman that needs taken to a 50 dollar dinner instead of a 20 dollar dinner or she throws a tantrum. Now the real question is : Why are attractive women more likely to be high maintenance than just an average looking woman?
Not true. I find less attractive women to be more high maintenance in that respect. It's like they need it for some kind of validation. Attractive women are used to guys trying to spoil them and most won't respect you if you try flashing the cash on them. Look for value, quality, and originality in the places you take her and she will admire that. Best of all the check won't matter. | |
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| How would you define High maintenance?
Posted: 8/30/2009 12:18:25 PM |
I positively define the concept. I don't need anybody to agree with me.
All I am saying is that when you walk up to the average guy and start talking to him and you say " I'm a high maintenance girl" he will immediately think "Oh, oh money grubbing crybaby. RUN!!!!" and if he doesn't you had better put out. It is a MAN's definition of high maintenance. Good luck changing his mind on a date. There is nothing wrong with your personal definition of the term but it won’t fly with the guys. | |
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| How would you define High maintenance?
Posted: 8/30/2009 12:54:01 PM | some people think of high maintenance in terms of grooming or aesthetic or social tastes, but from my perspective it goes deeper than that. "high maintenance" encompasses a number of personality traits which manifest in how people relate to others. for example:
- dysfunctional codependence, people who have such a deflated sense of self-esteem that they NEED a relationship in order to define themselves -- clingy, joined at the hip 24/7, jealous and irrationally insecure.
- those who expect to be taken care of (emotionally and/or financially) because they never developed the strength to stand on their own two feet -- people looking for a mommy/daddy figure.
- people who have a inflated sense of self-importance, who need to be put on a pedestal and admired/validated -- the divas (male and female), those for whom ego, personal gratification, and a continual source of validation is paramount.
all stem from insecurities, all are "me" based personalities (centered on the self, the other person's needs become irrelevant or inconsequential). they need to be maintained, catered to, and cared for. | |
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| How would you define High maintenance?
Posted: 8/30/2009 1:16:02 PM |
It is a MAN's definition of high maintenance. Good luck changing his mind on a date. There is nothing wrong with your personal definition of the term but it won’t fly with the guys
Thanks! I neither need my definition to fly with the guys do nor change anyone's mind. If anyone talk about high or low maintenance thing with his message, I'll block him. With your guys' definition of high maintenance, my culture totally presents strong values of low maintenance. Most people live good lives with low costs. For an example, I don't turn on my air conditioning on daytime although AZ is hot. I enjoy having the fresh air from out of my windows and feel comfortable. If one is overweighted, the one has to stay cool by using the air conditioning. However, I am not a cheap person; I own a big house here. I also enjoy having nice gifts for my friendly neighbors' kids when they celebrate their birthdays. | |
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| How would you define High maintenance?
Posted: 8/30/2009 2:28:02 PM | I would define high maintenance as someone who can't think for him/herself; can't plan for his/her future; can't cook for themselves; can't clean-up after themselves; etc.
I've been a mommy, don't want to do that again.
Met a guy on this site who fits the above to a 'T'. Next!
MF | |
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| How would you define High maintenance?
Posted: 8/30/2009 2:41:40 PM | if she has to drive her car to bring her stuff for a motorcycle ride
if you have to make 2 trips to the atm for dinner and a movie that your late for because getting ready takes an 1.5 hours
if being in there presence for half a day leaves you exhausted with no will to live | |
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| How would you define High maintenance?
Posted: 8/30/2009 6:34:45 PM | A high maintenance guy is:
impossible to please,
impossible to see your point of view even with humor,
secretive about everything but complains about everything,
hiding something (often cheating)
comes up with "buddy" excuses every time you call
takes offense at every joke
wont even clue you in on what WOULD make them happy
Has to have their music playing or none
Compulsive about having everything his way (can we say 2 year old??)
makes you go by THEIR timeline but wont tell you what it is. (oh yeah)
The OP just listed things of someone who has decent self respect and takes care of themself, nothing wrong with that. | |
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| How would you define High maintenance?
Posted: 8/30/2009 7:43:42 PM | So, what exactly does "high maintenance" mean? I'm trying to think of people I've met, but I don't think I know (by experience) what a "high maintenance" person is like.
Basically, it just means that they are sensitive and in order to be satisfied or have a sense of well being, things have to be to their liking. So, if they like to travel, you have to travel, and no dragging around through places they don't like; if they want to live in a cool place, in a nice house; you have to move, find, and maintain one. They are not easy going, easy going is the opposite of high maintenance.
Their clothes, the furniture, the atmosphere, the feng shui, the neighbors, all have to be right, or made right. The way you speak, eat, feel, and think... Then there are the kids. The kids might be easy going themselves, but a high maintenance person has expansive programs for them also. I exaggerate, but not much. With a high maintenance person you've got to be on your toes. It helps to be very wealthy.
Oh, and yes, they need lots of attention. Their agenda takes precedence. They suck the energy, the time, and the money. | |
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| How would you define High maintenance?
Posted: 8/31/2009 4:15:54 PM | High maintenance, is someon who is into, Me Me Me, I want I want Iwant, Ihave to have, PLease get it for me, I need that dress. We have to do this. My friends are more important than you. designer cloths. expensive beauty salons, nail appointments. i need that necklace, i have to have that ring. all or part of the above.
That is high maintenance. | |
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| How would you define High maintenance?
Posted: 9/1/2009 8:22:26 AM | | High maintenance...is a person that thinks they are better then everyone else and needs the high end goods to show off and get where they want to be in life. Snooty attitude usually comes along with it. | |
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| How would you define High maintenance?
Posted: 9/1/2009 2:24:15 PM | | High Maintenance for me was my ex husband. Even though he wasn't employed he had to have all the newest toys, I had to pay for them, and when they broke or when any of his family members got a new "better" one I got to buy that one too. Also if I did not tell him "I love you" every few seconds he would throw a hissy fit. Forget grocery shopping after work and /or going out with my friends. I had 30 minutes to get home before the next hissy fit. That shit gets old quick and in my case was very bad for my health. Before him I didn't believe in a high maintenance man, call me converted. | |
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| How would you define
Posted: 9/1/2009 6:33:30 PM |
When I think "high maintenance," nothing material comes to mind.. but emotional sure does. And yes, there are plenty of guys that are high maintenance. To me neediness equates with high maintenance. Needing constant reassurance that they're pretty/good looking or that you love them, texts/emails/phonecalls several times a day (and freaking out if, God forbid, you are busy and don't answer or reply right away), unable to make decisions on their own, needing to discuss every single problem they have ad nauseum, always have to have things their way or they pout .. yada yada yada.
If a relationship takes so much "maintenance" that it drains you emotionally and limits your ability to be an indvidiual? That's pretty "high maintenance" in my book.
I agree with this. | |
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| How would you define
Posted: 9/1/2009 10:55:42 PM | | Who cares if someone is needy, needy is easy to put up with if you're emotionally generous. Show them a little extra love and they'll shutup for a while. I'd rather put up with a needy woman than some spoiled brat woman with a princess complex that thinks she's entitled to things just because she's attractive. | |
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| How would you define High maintenance?
Posted: 9/2/2009 12:27:07 PM | | My interpretation of "High Maintenance" is someone who leads a lavish lifestyle where only the best is acceptable and who constantly craves attention from their partner. | |
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