| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/9/2005 12:04:49 AM | | I would hope i am lucky enough to be that guy, but then girls act a bit strange, what do you think? | |
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Posted: 12/9/2005 12:15:38 AM | first off, what's your definiton of normal, and cute?
second, there are very few nice guys left, if that 's what you're looking for because they've all turned into bad asses because that's what they think women want. and as for the rest, they're either taken, or too damn scared or confused to know what to do!
but that's just my personal opinion, and opinions are like ***holes...everyone has one and they stink. | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/9/2005 1:17:31 AM | | I just don't buy it. There are plenty of decent guys on this site. Granted, they may be outnumbered by the jerks and the duds, but they still probably outnumber the entire female membership 2-to-1. I don't mean to be condescending, but when you read a profile or an email are you really just looking for a "decent" guy, or are you actually (maybe even subconsciously) hoping to be swept off your feet? | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/9/2005 1:43:50 AM | | Well i'm just a normal decent man ,and i'm not having the best of luck neither with women so far got burned three times and just called it quits sending invitations for coffee and something to eat doesn't seemed to get me nowhere to talk with someone who may interest me ,and yes i do have some baggage it's called kids two little girls that i love very much seems single dads doesn't seem to appetizing to some women ,but hey i love my girls and wouldn't give them up for nobody ,so i will resort to staying alone for now ,but if there's someone out there who wants a good friend and partner in life just let me know please ,because i'm lonely and want someone to love again ,u don't know what u miss until u lose it and i do miss it | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/9/2005 5:53:49 AM | I don't NEED. I wrote that as a title because the NEED comes from wanting to know where to find them. I don't NEED anyone. I am capable of living a full and happy life on my own. Finding someone who I WANT to share it with is what I'm getting on.
Some people are so quick to pull out the littlest negative thread out of any old statement.
Anyways, I am talking trying to stay positive and patient. Maintaining this while I don't slack on my standards. That's what I'm talking about. It's hard. I'm tired. Everyone tells me I'm a catch. I have baggage like everyone else. Only difference is I ADMIT it and I work on getting rid of as much of it as I am capable of. I lead an examined life. And that means I get to know who I am more and more every day. But with that self-knowledge comes a blessing/curse: I know what I DON'T want.
And maybe that is what I'm really complaining about: when I was in my twenties, I didn't have much dating experience. I dated a lot of different guys: some good and some bad. It took me a while to figure out the bad ones. Now, I have the bad ones figured out in a matter of hours if not minutes. And the loss of innocence is what I miss.
I also miss the loss of innocence and wonder in a thing called LOVE. I miss how younger guys are hopeful and haven't been burnt so many times because they've dated a string of jerky women and still believe that being a nice guy and romantic will get them a good and decent woman. I'm tired of meeting guys who I know at one point were good guys and have turned into hard and bitter cynics. I'm tired of meeting men who do nothing but complain.
Maybe I'm complaining myself, but I'm still hopeful. I wish people would lead a better examined life. There are some men who do that. That's who I'm looking for. I am THE ONE who decided to date who I did. I am RESPONSIBLE for who I picked to be with. All the whiners on here that say "Woe is me" don't even acknowledge that they have 100% control over who they let into their lives.
Like someone said, they do the same behaviors over and over and over and get the same results over and over and over. They make the same dumb mistakes and they come crying on here about how they can't find anyone or no one reckognized thier worthiness. I don't buy it. If for some reason, I am the common denominator and EVERYONE won't date me, then I have to look to the source: MYSELF!
If you are not getting any dates, instead of whining that people don't dig you, ever thought of looking in the friggin' mirror and doing a good accounting of your short comings? Being honest? Admit that you have some stuff to work on in and WORK ON IT?!
That's what I'd like to see. I'm done. | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/9/2005 5:58:02 AM | Chica .. Yes ppl are always tryin to pull the negative in...ignore those ones..they are going to be lonely a long time..and well said girl 
You'll find what you want...and obviously deserve you deserve it  | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/9/2005 6:03:25 AM | paulchino
I dig what you have to say. I think there are FEW men OR women who lead an examined life.
Maybe having that as a quality on my list of wants for a mate is really shrinking my pool of applicants, but when I went out to eat with a professor friend of mine, the owner of the restaurant sat down and said don't ever let go of your standards. He picked his wife because she was not acting ho-like. I'm assuming that somewhere out there, hopefully sooner than later, some decent guy who's being bad just for now will wake up and want to get to know me.
Dig your look, too. Cute goatee. Nice eyes. | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/9/2005 6:08:42 AM | countrysugar
Thanks! Well, seems we are on the same boat. But we are scattered all over the US and Canada. No wonder none of us decent folk are meeting anyone! ARGH. | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/9/2005 6:11:13 AM | I am a foot taller, a Capricorn too, 15 years older than you, on the left coast but other than that.....here I am
No viagra? where did that come from? No, I don't need Viagra but isn't that kind of an odd thing to throw in there?
As for your professor friend and your "look in the mirror" comment. Those are the same thing, you are chastising men for something yet you must have your standards too high at the same time. Will you still think your professor is right if you are 41 and alone? | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/9/2005 6:23:01 AM | jimb-
it was the OWNER who said it, not the professor. I was dining out with the professor.
My standards are not too high. I'm a good catch. I want a good catch.
Doesn't anyone read PROFILES anymore? | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/9/2005 6:44:41 AM |
At this point in life, I find just talking about doing something is lame: I want to go out and I do it. I would like to meet a cute and decent guy who is a go-getter. He'd be in decent shape, no-kids-yet with similar interests, lifestyle and attitude as me. I'm a little old-fashioned and believe things should progress in a natural order: date, and then get serious if it's the right person.
- from your profile
and that is what would scare alot of "decent guys" away... i can see one thing that as i have said before... 60% of these decent guys have which you dont want them to have.. before meeting you....
just coz they have this one thing you dont want them to have doesnt mean they arent decent guys...
so if you met the perfect decent guy for you.... you can see a life with him... but only one thing stopping you from having that happiness... is the fact that he has kids.... not good hun...
sorry hunny... you will have to face it... there are alot of guys out there from 20-45 that have kids if that is the age bracket you are after... maybe your expectations and standards are just that little too unrealistic? | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/9/2005 7:56:36 AM | No Duh.
I know what I put in my own profile.
And I don't give a flying leap if you have a problem with me stating I don't want a guy with kids. That is my own prerogative. How dare you say I don't have a right to want that as a prerequisite.
But I will agree with you that my dating pool is much smaller. I survived my twenties without kids or a divorce. I've made conscious decisions to be where I am now and want a guy on the same page. There are lots of professionals out there who have used their twenties to go to school and get a career started like me. If I don't want the drama of kids/ex-wife, I am 100% in my rights to say so. | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/9/2005 8:03:47 AM | | Its one thing to know what you want, and anouther to be too picky........ i think anyways | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/9/2005 8:18:34 AM | Wanting a guy with no kids is TOO picky?
Hmm. Well, I have dated a guy with kids. And I didn't like it.
I don't knock other people for their standards. If you only want to date black guys and you're asian or white, I don't have a right to tell you you're wrong. If you have kids and only want to date another single parent, isn't that discriminating? We all have the right to want what we want. And not infringe our own opinions on others. Seems to be happening here.
So I speak from experience. I know what I want. And I want to be the first to give my man his kids. So there, I'm evil. But if it has happened for others, it can happen for me.
:)
this Thread is getting old. I'm outties. Take care! Good luck! xoxo | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/9/2005 8:32:19 AM | o.k., a decent guy who can spell, uses proper grammer and who doesn't seem to think women are too picky, or difficult, or from another planet. I can't imagine when I read these bigoted remarks from so many men on dating sites, why they are still wondering why they are single. It's because you don't really like women and you send off all sorts of catty remarks to let us know! Why would we pick you!?! .
A man who is decent, likes women, can spell and speaks kindly.
Really, is it too much to ask? | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/9/2005 8:51:26 AM | catch a star
maybe we all need to get off line...and start our own dating community. Only allow prescreened and preselected men in. Men who spell. And use capitols.
There was this web site...datemyfriend.com or something where someone else had to recommend you. | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/9/2005 9:13:30 AM | That was a test! You passed! Wanna date?!
Hey cute chica, I'll recommend you, you recommend me. I think that's a great idea though. Maybe if it was a tad more difficult to get into, people would put more effort into the whole process. Now that's my idea of team spirit.
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/9/2005 11:30:58 AM | | Ohh hey....Just so you know cute chica..........All the normal cute guys live in Canada!!!! | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/9/2005 11:50:12 AM | par 580
You want to know what is wierd? I'm Quebecoise. And I live in the US. Maybe that explains why I'm not meeting the type of guy I want.
Maybe I should move to Canada. Sounds like a new thread...where are all the good catches living? Vancouver? Toronto? | |
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