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Posted: 12/21/2005 4:33:14 PM | here is a BIG red flag for ya.........
the guy wears a Goalie Mask. wait, I resemble that remark.
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Posted: 12/23/2005 2:33:42 PM | my real life red flag...
got an IM from some guy just as i was hovering over "logout". politely told him i was about to disconnect and go home for the day. he responded with: here's my phone number (home #), call me when u get in. i'm looking at this like :what the... and he sends "and dont forget, i have voice mail too." so i asked him if he maybe had the wrong person as he was acting WAY too familiar. he said nope, just call me when u get the chance.
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Posted: 12/23/2005 2:44:19 PM | I hear ya there...but some just like to talk on the phone...but get this some guy in the states same scenario ..I didn't have time to chat yesterday says well here's my number call me and if my MOM answer's just ask for me!! The guy was 48!! hnmmm didn't write down the number am not calling some guy on my dime who lives with MOM ..unless for a good reason. I do find I feel alot more for someone if I talk on the phone...but after a few IM's!!   | |
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Posted: 12/23/2005 3:01:13 PM | I do find I feel alot more for someone if I talk on the phone...but after a few IM's!! i agree totally. cant get to know someone with ims or emails. but come on, give it a few exchanges before u ask me to call? i dont know, just my personal flavor i guess. id rather exchange messages first and see if there's any common links: interests, humor. especially since my humor is so off the wall.... i just gotta have a feel for a person first. this whole meeting ppl is stressful enough. do i wanna traumatize myself further by some creepy phone call?
i have to say something about the whole no kids being a red flag: i CHOOSE to have no kids. i'm currently petitioning MB gynos to get tied up so i never have kids. is that a red flag? why? the crack addicted hookers on the corner have kids, so are they better than me for having had kids? some ppl say its selfish to not have kids. i've been told its cuz we're not willing to sacrifice ourselves to bring life to the world. does this planet really need more humans? further more, my job demands i sacrifice myself for strangers. u get a house alarm, i go in. if there's a burglar, i get dead. but i'm, apparently, still a selfish person for not having kids. i say its selfish to have kids when u really dont want them or need them. so, whatever. im a red flag...... mind u, my red flag's out there for the whole world to see: "deranged".. mwa ha ha haaaaaaaaa.....................
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Posted: 12/23/2005 3:15:04 PM | Yaaaahooooo...I'm with ya on that one...I myself have CHOSEN not to have kids and have always made sure that decision was MY decision (READ: protection, protection, protection). Come next year I'll be pushing to get the big "V" done...seems that doctors don't want to do the procedure if you're under 40 and no kids...
As far as the phone number thing...yeah that would raise at least an orange flag. Is the person not patient enough to send an email? | |
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Posted: 12/23/2005 4:15:27 PM | My biggest red Flag" is if someone ACTUALLY wants to talk with me (or meet me)...
I mean... c'mon... "I" wouldn't want to talk with me let alone meet me!
Well... not without large amounts of....
Best thing to do is........
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Posted: 12/23/2005 6:20:40 PM | "Red Flags"
" looking at Your profile .You got kids want more ?"
" I lost tons of weight , You should be glad to be seen with Me "
"no marital status in profile "
" meet for drinks and He orders a triple downs it then orders another one"
" go for diner and he tells you what you want to eat" { had this one happen He tried ordering Me a steak , I am a vegetarian }
"I got new sheets want to see them " | |
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Posted: 12/25/2005 9:45:44 PM | | attacked behind every ones back....is it not terrible that one asked for advice and then complains behind every ones back to me instead of responding back on the forum.is that not why one is started? to help others and band together as friends to help one another? it terrible that some of this information is not taken more seriously. you have refused help in the passed so my question is why start a thread if you dont want to here the good and the bad?sure all of r not right but that is you that decides but if 5 or ten people say the same thing then you might just might listen, and where i get my info is my buisness but in your forum and what i know of you and the many others that have seen observed you as i have done , i seem quite willing to help you out , as a friend this is in no way made out to hurt you but to help and give you somthing to think about.sorry to stick my nose in but next time dont but anything in the forum if you dont want advice....I will up date on feeling and ideas on how you might change and help reflect what you have done and whatyou might do in the future coming year. | |
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Posted: 12/25/2005 10:36:46 PM | Bearsandbees....I wrote you privately because you posted some information that was given to you after I shared it with someone here. That is just wrong. Don't observe me and dont' tell me how to live. You have absolutely no rights to make these statements!
I asked for information and warning signs I did not ask for you to share a very personal incident. I didn't attack you I just felt that it would be better to address it privately . but if you wish for me to say my piece in public I will. You have no rights to judge me or dispense opinions on my behavior. I have hurt no one . I am careful not to slander anyone. I don't gossip. I asked a question and have received valuable insight.
Please learn to leave the parties in question out of the situation! I have all kinds of things I follow when dating and for over 2 yrs...have not had really anything bad happen! You know nothing about me ...absolutely nothing!!
Your coming across like a stalker ...you've oberserved me and will reflect on what I have done and what I need to change"!!
I met you twice...Your not a friend to me!! I don't feel I can trust you !! I dont' know you!...that is how I feel these days...so take your false friendship and shove it!! You don't know me at all!!!...the person I know gave you the information..she was wrong to share it if it meant you would post it!
I did learn from the feed back..so butt out!!People have offered to help...and I think that is awesome but until I have the legal grounds to pursue it ...I can't!...it's called slander with out proof!
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Posted: 12/25/2005 10:37:44 PM |
where i get my info is my buisness
Talk about your RED FLAGS!!! I'm sorry to say but if you didn't get your 'info' about something or someone other than what was posted in a forum, then you have NO RIGHT to bring up information that was not meant for the forums.
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Posted: 12/26/2005 5:33:46 AM |
where i get my info is my buisness Talk about your RED FLAGS!!! I'm sorry to say but if you didn't get your 'info' about something or someone other than what was posted in a forum, then you have NO RIGHT to bring up information that was not meant for the forums. THAT kind of action is VERY RUDE and screams of assholish behavior!
i dont know what happened there. all i can say is.....
1) if someone gives you info in confidence, or simply in a private manner (aka: NOT in the forums) and u do not have permission to share said info in the forums, then it is basic manners to not share that info. if info was obtained from a second party, as seems to be the case, then sharing that info is merely a power trip... "ha! look what I know!" or perhaps just simply a 14-year-old mentality... "look! people are talking behind your back... with ME! they like ME better!"
2) i DO know that there are some ppl on these types of sites that DO NOT post their photo, or their true photo, so that they can go to site functions and observe other members in secret. they then post their personal interpretations of said observations on public forums. at times they may even skew certain incidents observed in order to slander a member they do not like for one reason or another. this type of behaviour screams of power trip, is very much like stalking - in fact, if one member in particular is continually targetted, i do believe the law deems it IS stalking - and is definitely a HUGE red flag.
but, like i said, i dont know what happened. i dont know both sides of the story. and, honestly, i dont think i want to know. scratch that last one.... i think i DO want to know... adding a personal red flag to a person, or persons, on this site could be VERY beneficial to me.....
the only advice i could give... anytime you interact with anyone from this site, treat it as if a webcam (and mic) was observing you the whole time... anything you WOULDNT want posted on the internet dont do, say or share. 'cuz unless u've known someone for months, you cant possibly know what they'd do with the info u give them. and at a function in a public place... well, enough said. when i email someone or talk to them on the phone, i treat it as if i was posting in a forum. 'cuz u basically are.... | |
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Posted: 12/26/2005 5:50:06 AM | DANO:
Come next year I'll be pushing to get the big "V" done...seems that doctors don't want to do the procedure if you're under 40 and no kids...
totally hear you. my doc was reluctant at first to refer me: Doc: there's always birth control. Me: u know i cant take the pill... or depo. D: u should be using condoms anyway. M: i do, but condoms DO fail... ur a doctor, u should know that. D: if an accident happens, u can get the morning after pill without a perscription now M: yep, sure can. but a failed condom doesn't always mean a broken condom... i guess i could always start using abortion as my method of birth control. D: ..... i know this really good doctor, she just might do it for you.
yep. i had to threaten with abortion. Y? 'cuz i guess a 30 yr old woman isn't capable of making that decision herself. hey, dano... if the doc's using the excuse that the V is "a major decision, and its permanent." just tell him... having a kid is a major decision and ITS permanent as well and no one needs a doctors permission to make THAT decision. i've decided that if the gyno is reluctant, i'll just tell her that any "accidents" i have will get drowned in the kitchen sink.... not that i'd ever do it. i would NEVER hurt a child. but i figure if i make myself out to be a psycho child hater (which i'm NOT by the way... read the profile), then she'll prob'ly leap at the op to tie me and prob'ly rush me in..... do what you gotta do Dano, just do what u gotta do...... | |
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Posted: 12/26/2005 6:02:40 AM | Now For My Third Consecutive Post.... (red flag? red flag? red flag? red flag? red flag?)
...get drowned in the kitchen sink
guess that sounded kinda harsh. so let me say: i've got NINE nieces and nephews... any f*cker that touches them is gonna find themselves at a pig farm... and it wont be for a tour...
my ex-neighbour's five kids and their friends used to come over and play with my dog... i live in the core and i didnt want to see them on the streets getting hurt...
so any hate-mailers can take a leap... | |
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Posted: 12/26/2005 8:49:37 AM | | Thanks for your feedback Deranged. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2005 10:00:17 AM | | Wow, just woke up and read all that, I guess Christmas is now officially over! | |
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Posted: 12/26/2005 11:28:31 AM | I am with you on that one abovetheclouds
Guess not enough coffee in My system to figure this one out. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2005 3:37:39 PM |
Thanks for your feedback Deranged.
Smartie... ur always so polite.... i gotta stop flying deranged on you  ..... | |
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Posted: 12/26/2005 5:01:57 PM | | No worries Deranged..I'm a reasonably intelligent person!! I got the message...I'm getting them loud and clear...no worries...You look like an interesting soul by the way!! | |
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Posted: 12/28/2005 2:57:17 AM | thanks smartie! hmmm, dont the chinese have a curse.... live in interesting times??  kidding smartie. i know i gotta deranged humor... and way of relating things... comes from the crap i've seen on the job... used to hide it, but then grew up and decided "love me or hate me. but i'm gonna be me!" my dad tells me (yes, my "daddy") that if a person can see through all that to the real me, then THEY are the only ppl worth having in my life. and its true. my room-mate is awesome, my best friend is... well, my best friend! have a happy new year!
to the REAL THREAD!!!!
red flag on an actual date..... had one guy tell me, on the first date, i was the woman of his dreams and he should marry me before someone else snaps me up. i laughed, thinking he was kidding/throwing a compliment. but, when he responded with a nervous little laugh and proceeded to stare at the table-top.... i got the hint REAL quick and bolted FAST!!!
another guy. we had a blast the first few dates we went on. he seemed sane. until he started calling me 15+ a day... no exaggeration. ne never left a message, just called hoping he'd get me.... can we say smother! | |
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Posted: 1/1/2006 3:05:11 PM | hey all!! Lets bring out the red flags!
I was at the party last nite at Boogies and noticed a 'watcher' in the back of the bar. Now how do I know there was a 'watcher'? Because I have seen the person and have been contacted by them and told things that only someone who was there would know....
The person has been at gatherings and sat outside the group and just watches what everyone else is doing and then uses the information on the site or to contact others for whatever reasons.....I did mention it to a few people at the party and let them know who the 'watcher' was.
So this is a plea to all....
If you happen to see some one who you have talked to on line but isnt part of a gathering, and just sitting on the outside, let others know what you know of the person so they can be aware of this person so no harm comes to anyone....If we dont watch each others backs...what will happen to us????
Thanks to all and enjoy the hangovers and such.......LOL  | |
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Posted: 1/1/2006 3:26:02 PM | Hey was it the hot bald guy on the other side of the bar by any chnace?
If your lurking hot bald guy...I think ur hot | |
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Posted: 1/1/2006 6:42:50 PM | | Maybe I'll shave my head and try this lurking thing | |
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