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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/9/2005 7:05:22 AM | i know its hard to sit there and do nothing. makes you feel quite powerless. used. and still being used because you know that he now has control over your thoughts and moods due to the anger you have.
so what i once did that worked for me was : put it in writing
if i was going to sit there and dwell on it anyway, pretty normal, i might as well figure out ways to act on the revenge i desired. got pretty creative there for a while. roaches in his apartment, bleach in his cologne bottles, you get the idea. i kept a notebook for a short while and listed all the devious things i could do to him.
it one, gave me something to do. two, made me feel less powerless, because if i wanted to i could cause him all this chaos and pain in his life. three, kept my thoughts away from what he had done to me- instead of internalizing all that pain, keeping it inside of me, i was redirecting it to him - on paper.
this lasted a few weeks. made me feel alot better. i had a few dozen ways of hurting this man. and i did nothing. not one of them.
i eventually stopped writing in this notebook, had moved on with my life. came across it one day a few months later, read some of the brilliant ideas, laughed and threw it in the trash. i knew then that i was better.
i knew i had the power to hurt him and chose not to. that is the right thing to do.
years later i am very glad i didnt bother with carrying out my revenge. his life is quite miserable and i am doing well.
so sistergirl, give yourself some time and understand its ok to be angry. one day you wont care anymore. until then, get a notebook, and get creative.
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/9/2005 8:00:49 AM | | Here is my opinion and word of advice for you lovely_lori_23. Even though it may hurt so much do not obsese about taking revenge out on him. Even if you think of putting surgar in his gas tank I have to tell you not to. If you get caught you could end up in a legal bind. Even if you are tempted to give a 12year old kid $10 to slash his sidewall (waranty is voided if sidewall of a tire is slashed) and put surgar in his gas tank, I have to plead with you not too. If the kid gets caught they will probably sing like a canary and name you which leads you in more of a mess. Even if the kid gets off for being a minor you will not. The best thing for you if he defraud you out of money is talk with the police about fraud charges. Even if the police cannot do anything right away it will be reported. Try to forget what has happened, dust yourself off and begin again (note: easier said then done). Revenge is just self serving which in the end does not accomplish anything. Usually when revenge is achieved innocent people get hurt in the process. Therefore, since you are non-religious I sugest you practise some witch craft and buy a cute stuff animal which reminds you of him and then burn it. Stab it with a knife a few hundred times or even a fork. Take a hot poker and burn the eyes out. It will have no harm affect on him except to ease your own mind in getting your frustration out on the stuff animal. Most important thing to remember, if you actually take revenge out on him and word gets out, it may hinder you in finding another relationship with another man. Food for thought. | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/9/2005 8:40:22 AM | Lovely_lori:
It is very normal to have the feelings of revenge because of the hurt that his actions caused you. As long as you do not act out on them. My suggestions are:
1. Write. You can pretend you are writing to him or writing to someone wherein you describe whatever he did and how much hurt it caused you. Also write down about the good times as well.
2. Just be patient and outshine him with your patience and actions. Let your actions speak louder than his.
3.Talk to a trusted friend who will listen. Simply talking it out is very therapeutic.
You are young. You are going to bounce back from this in no time.
My ex attempted to take me to the cleaners. Ultimately, she was ordered to pay me child support and I won 50-50 custody across the board. Talk about a bruised ego on her part!!!
During the early days of my post-divorce period (3 years ago), I made a t-shirt with the following printed on the back:
Hotel room: $40.00
Facial: $30.00
Nails: $20.00
Hair: $60.00
Look on her face when her lying
and cheating is caught: PRICELESS
Boy, did that piss her off!!!!.. lol | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/9/2005 10:41:37 AM | | Lori..I know how ur feeling...I got dumped for reasons that were ridiculous right AFTER Christmas last year .,..after I had spent a ton of money on this woman...and although I could have went back there and took everything back and felt some sort of justice in my own right...I didn't because 1. I 'd rather have those things remind her of me and the one she lost and 2. It was a great learning experience...I know that sounds flaky..but I will never spend that kind of money on a woman again without knowing deep in my heart that the love is lasting... | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/9/2005 10:51:29 AM | I agree get it out of your system (this coming from someone who was dumped by phone on her bday). Talk to friends, even write it down - I wrote a lot of angry songs/poetry - it helped.
Best thing is get on with your life, and try to let go - I know its hard. With the ex I am talking about - as soon as I proved that I didn't need him in my life, that I had a better one without him - it hurt him, and bad things started happening to him. Karma can be a **** in a good way sometimes.
I know it doesn't seem like it now - but it does get better and the pain will heal - along with the anger and hurt. I look at the writing I did now = and I laugh at it, thinking how far I have come - and how lucky I was that he dumped me. | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/9/2005 11:24:09 AM | | so sorry to hear about being defrauded - happened to me too - guess we learned a lesson....but revenge as much as a great fantasy it is - it is never a good idea - it just keeps going around and around - as many have said here - living well is the best revenge and believing that what comes around, goes around...karma | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/9/2005 12:23:51 PM | How do you get revenge.. sleep with a couple of big guys, that will rough him up a bit.. lol
seriously he's not what you thought he was, he's a goof.. you should defend your self, if someone hits you, will you not strike back? eye for an eye.. its in the bible. If you need some idea's write me.. | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/9/2005 12:33:15 PM | Revenge?! Couldn't care less & waste my energy on.
My motto is - whatever the weather (or life circumstances) - "Keep head high up and smile."
With the right attitude - even fruitful period comes along 
buzz | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 63 | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/9/2005 12:43:56 PM | | Try and not waste the energy it is only negative and you won't be able to move ahead. Use that energy in a possitive manner and focus forward. This is just another life lesson, and now you are that much wiser. | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/9/2005 12:45:53 PM |
Boink his best friends
That's not your style arri, nor mine either.
Fresh start, fresh look, new image - pulse in the pace, radiance in face and confidence in eyes. Yes keep smiling
buzz | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/9/2005 12:50:28 PM | She is 21 .... Immediate gratification, exceptional brutality and the friends can serve as the interim guys for getting over the first guy.
Win Win and simple | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/9/2005 1:04:23 PM | Hey, Kubla;
What happens when the guy she advertises on a gay site turns out to be secretly BI...and enjoys the gay guys she got him dates with? How about when she gets caught vandalizing his car, and goes to jail, and is herself surrounded by butch gays who gang rape her in her cell? How about when she gets Hepatitis A from the dog shit, and dies a miserable death? Engage brain before putting mouth in gear, please. | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/9/2005 1:10:55 PM | | Since he has moved on without her, he won't care who she boinks. Doing his best friend will give him something to laugh at her about, when the friend tells him about it. The two guys will laugh themselves silly discussing her lousy technique, moral hangups, etc. Boinking an ex's best friend will hurt her more than the ex, and get her a rep as a slut once both guys start telling others how quickly/easily she moves between friends. | |
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drm169
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/9/2005 5:26:07 PM | My Philosophy, The best revenge is making a lot of money. I got dumped by my lover some 30 years ago, we had always stayed in touch as friends because we really loved each other(non-sexual, platonic afterwards). I was from the "Poorer side" of the tracks and she was a little starch being from the white middle class(I'm Purto Rican). After she dumped me, I finished college and Graduate school and she married a construction worker who hurt his back about 20 years ago and has lived on disability for the entire time. Their entire house could fit into a quarter of my basement living area. She asked to see pictures of my house the next time we met, what a deep down pleasure it was to see her jaw drop. It was absolutely priceless. Try it, you'll like it. | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/9/2005 5:54:17 PM | | Do well for yourself, be the best you that is possible, and be as kind and as gracious to them as you can stand..... NOW THAT MY DEAR IS REVENGE WITH CLASS, STYLE AND GRACE!! | |
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