| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/9/2005 8:35:52 PM | | i am thinking that if you ever really loved him, you wouldnt want to make him hurt and try to get revenge.. you would accept things and wish him the best. | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/9/2005 9:53:34 PM | | Um - even if lets say he beat her, put her through hell and took everything she owned? There are limits. A person like that isn't worthy of love. She is hurt, and rightfully so. Unless you have not been through it yourself - one cannot really understand. | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/9/2005 11:23:34 PM | | hes put me thru hell.iwas pregnant awhile ago and was having a tough time with it instead of compassion i got nothing but stress and no suport(durin pregnancy)and no suport when i went thru a misscarage. as i remember he sat there laghing as i went thru it.and didn't care. | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/9/2005 11:55:40 PM |
Boink his best friends
A 10 out of 10 on creativity,,,
hes put me thru hell.iwas pregnant awhile ago and was having a tough time with it instead of compassion i got nothing but stress and no suport(durin pregnancy)and no suport when i went thru a misscarage. as i remember he sat there laghing as i went thru it.and didn't care.
..Lori remember What comes around goes around...every Dog has His Day.....
regroup,,compose Yourself.......and take it to this idiot old school.. we are behind You.. | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/10/2005 1:00:46 AM | gotta agree with dreamsource.
you never loved someone who you want revenge upon, just doesn't fit with 'love'.
Accept that. You never loved him.
Now, plan on the fun!
Got any info on the bum? I'm talking personal id, you get the drift.
We'll set up some cc's and have a good ole time on his dime!!! You never loved him anyway, so why not give him a tab to pay for years to come!
 it wouldn't be identity theft if we just borrowed it for a while, right?
Aloha | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/10/2005 1:04:25 AM | | Unless you are Dr. Phil - How would any of you know for sure if she was or was not in love with him? I have been through practically the same thing (miscarriage - and he was really happy about it) - and it hurt so bad. Why does it hurt so bad? Because you trust, and love them so much. Its what you think is Love at the time, love to you. Not everyone feels love the same. | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/10/2005 1:08:23 AM | | okay, I've now decided to open my own clinic.. chemical castrations for guys who think miscarriages are funny and good............ and if I run out of chemicals... theres always my hacksaw.... | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/10/2005 3:43:45 AM | You said: "i know revenge wont be the anwer" . Listen to your heart and remember that Xmas is time of peace. Revenge is the primitive and easy answer, take the other way.
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/10/2005 3:50:50 AM | | Why did you allow yourself to get in a relationship where he obviously is not into you. There is no such thing as good and bad people. It is all about a balance of power. If one member has more power , then he will start to have contempt for you. It is almost always the guy who has more power because there is a shortage of young females and guys often take a girl they dont really respect. It s a case of any port in a storm. | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/10/2005 3:57:10 AM |
im so hurt by my last relationship he took everything of mine .i want him to hurt as much as i'm hurting.
Lori, I understand exactly how you feel, been there had it done to me. I was in a relationship for 8 months I gave 110% of myself to making it work, got back about 50% if that. He even lost his job, and I supported him for 3 months while he tried to find another one. Then I found something in the paper faxed his resume' in for him from work they called him about 15 minutes later he went for an interview and got the job. 1 month later he told me he didnt want to be in a relationship anymore but he would still stay there and help me with the bills but he wanted to be able to do whatever he wanted to do, come and go as he pleased and we could be friends with benefits. I told him to take a hike. I really loved this guy and it hurt like hell. I was so mad, all I kept thinking was I hope he falls madly in love one day with someone who dont love him back then he will know the hurt. In other words what goes around comes around. Guess what, it happened, he has been in the relationship from hell for the past year, lol. What he did to me hes getting back 10fold with this one. Hes madly in love with her and she does nothing but use him then kicks him out every time they argue.
So, I guess what I'm saying is try to forget, move on, find yourself a good man. And as far as your ex goes, paybacks are a b**ch, he will get his one day.
Good luck. | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/10/2005 4:53:27 AM | This might be a little off topic but I read a small part of a post which is probably one of the reasons I am non-religous for.
((someone hits you, will you not strike back? eye for an eye.. its in the bible.))
Not to sound overbearing or a bigot or ignorant but I hear things like this all the time. It seems people pull whatever out of the bible which suits their needs. They ignore the other teachings such as:
turn the other check
let the first man without any sin cast the first stone
revenge is mine says the lord
Judge not unless thee be judged
If the man steals your coat maybe he needed it more than you
The list goes on but out of all the other teachings people tend to pull up that old one an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth. They tend to ignore the rest of the teachings of the book. If not mistaken I believe the Arab countries run their countries based on that teaching eye for an eye tooth for a tooth. You know the one that Sadam was king of.  | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/10/2005 1:43:08 PM | What goes around comes around -- you might try looking at yourself too. Played with hearts lately?? Treated anyone like dirt in your past -- harsh, I know. But victim mentality sucks too. If you think you can save some total loser -- that's an ego trip. | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/10/2005 2:24:22 PM | Revenge never helps anyone actually feel better..........
If you were frauded... get the police involved.....
Do what you can to pull yourself up....... and work on yourself and let your anger go.....
Anger will only make you a bitter and hateful woman...... and that's NOT what you want!
He sounds like a loser.. and that you're much better off without him.....
He not only affected you when you were together... but look at the negative engergy he is sucking from you right now? He's continuing to steal your energy!
LET IT GO!!!!! DON'T play the victim... MOVE ON! :-) | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/10/2005 3:13:13 PM | I truly feel your pain and hurt Lori but trust in yourself,,,,If you allow these feelings to carry on , they will consume you and change who you are. He's an ass and you are a beautiful young woman and he doesn't deserve you. If he truly loved you, he wouldn't have done this to you. Hold your head up girl, be proud of who you are and strive to be different! He has taken material things from you but he has not taken your spirit and your soul. Let that shine through and focus on the fact that you still have your pride and dignity and your ability to love someone far better than he could ever hope to be. He is no doubt getting off on the fact that you still care so much,,, don't enable him,,, empower yourself!
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/10/2005 3:37:26 PM | I read everyones posts, and I think you already got your answer on your own...you said you were thinking about counselling...that's what I think you should do...instead of going for revenge, go for counselling. | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/10/2005 4:29:38 PM | Hi Lori..
I hope the holidays can at least be decent for you.. If the police will not take it seriously, small claims court may be an option.
Here is the best revenge I can think of..Use this bad experience to change your life..There are two books..and (Who names these books!??/) that are wonderful..
"he's just not that into you"..and "all men are jerks ..unless proven otherwise". Neither book is man bashing..Just how to spot really Good guys..and yes ,the jerks..And how to have a full, interesting life you are truly jazzed about..all along. Both mention how to spot a Jekyl n hyde or con man..
Here's hoping your revenge is using this event to enable you to find a wonderful man.. a best friend and more who will cherish you..as you do him..so you are both lifted higher...If you take this tack someday you may look back and think..that one was a *&^^%..but my whole life changed direction because of it....Best wishes.....J | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/10/2005 4:51:55 PM |
The best revenge in life is to be happy and to not let him break you... to dwell on this gives him more gratification....
I couldn't have said it better myself!! BRAVO!!
The only thing I can add is: learn from this mistake, so it won't happen again; put it behind you as fast as possible, because feeling like that will only cause you harm, and revenge will only make things worse! Also, if you just can't let it go, see what legal action you can take, like court, but give up for sure if you can't; just move on!! The guy is a classless, nothing jerk, and life will get him in the end!!!  | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/10/2005 4:56:48 PM | | I have seen this effect myself. They cannot stand the fact that you are not sitting at home weeping for them and having no life while they are out getting on with theirs. It drove my one ex up the wall when he found out I had moved on - got a better job, moved into a new place, and was hanging out with my friends again - especially when he found out I was dating - that drove him up the wall. Dont get me wrong, I wept almost every day - I even had thoughts that I couldn't go on with life - he had made me think I could never do better than him. But in time it got much better, with the help of my friends and family. He became bitter - while I became happy again. He was controlling and selfish - and when he found out he had no more control over me - (because he always thought he would - even broken up) - and had no substance in my life and never would again - he actually tried to get me back! But I became strong, and refused to get into that bs again. Its been 6 years, and he is still bitter! | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/10/2005 5:25:45 PM | | Good for you queenrhiannon!! All the power to you!! And to you Lori, like many other people have said - what goes around comes around. It really is true. I have experienced it, and having seen karma in action, nothing upsets me for too long anymore because I KNOW karma pays back in much more creative ways than I could ever think of. Besides, you need to use your energy to focus on yourself right now. That's not selfish...that's taking care of yourself. What would you do to support your very best friend in this situation? What would you tell her? Now give yourself the love you would give your friend. We are all behind you here...look how big your support network is!! | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/10/2005 6:20:28 PM | OP,
I've had a similar experience, but you know what? To support what many others have said revenge only serves to prolong the pain and hurt. You focus on trying to get your revenge and what are you doing? Just giving this guy the power to hurt you more because you're focusing on it. Don't let others live in your head.
At the risk of sounding trite I truely believe what goes around comes around I've seen it happen before. The guy who hurt me? Well he ended up marrying a gold digger who took him for everything he had, and to top it all off when he was diagnosed with MS she dropped him like a hot rock. The best part was that I didn't have to do a thing, and I got my revenge by moving on with my life. | |
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