| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/28/2005 6:07:10 PM | by gently moving onward and learning that there are other fish in the sea and by not letting it turn me inward again.Someday this treasure will find someone who really is ready for 100% relationship. | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/28/2005 6:44:01 PM | lori =>
After reviewing all the responses to your request for revenge ideas I was a little disappointed because I was eagerly reading in the hopes of getting an idea for myself....the last woman (and in retrospect she may not even deserve that kind description) I was with just so happened to be an ex-cop (I've learned to NEVER date a cop ever again) who PUT ME IN JAIL for 109 days of a 180 day sentence because I sent her loaves of home-baked bread and sent her original love poems on the Internet...but I learned too late how totally un-loving and uncaring this woman really is. Having been out, but still on probation, for almost six months, I've been a good boy and played it cool and made it a point to avoid all contact....at least until my probation is up and I get my confiscated property back...THEN I'll feel free to do as I please, although anything illegal will come right back on me, so I'll just have to be satisfied with legal annoyances, which I won't divulge here......so you see, revenge may be sweet, and may be something you focus on night and day while in jail, but the reality is as everyone else says, do your best to make him/her sorry they did you wrong.....and perhaps take perverse joy in the thought that they will forever be looking over their shoulder because they know in their heart they did you wrong...and what comes around always goes around. Still, it's kind of a secondary satisfaction that despite being legal and safe does't give you the immediate satisfaction of a truly cruel response....so I suppose it's best not to stoop to the depravity of him/her and follow the dominant advise of everyone else....be cool, and trake heart in the knowledge they will get what's coming to them without your efforts to speed the inevitable. | |
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Rake
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Joined: 3/12/2005
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/28/2005 6:47:19 PM | | wow how can you still be so emotionally owned by this woman? 3 mo's is the longest that it's taken me to move on....maybe I'm just too self absorbed.... | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/28/2005 6:52:36 PM | How to get revenge? You don't.
Putting any more effort into something that's over is a waste of your time and lets that person know you're still messed up over it. Best revenge is to move on and not let the past interfere with the future.
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/28/2005 7:14:48 PM | Honey, listen....revenge does nothing for your spirit. It will not make you feel better. It will only keep the hurt and anger churning in your soul.
Really, the best revenge (if you want to call it that) is to live well, look good, and trust that that Lady Karma will pay him a visit. It might not be soon, but it will happen. It always does.
Take your hurt and anger and channel it into something that works for you. Whatever it is...work, reading, friends, keeping a journal, getting your nails and hair done, etc. Do something for yourself and keep your dignity at the same time.
You'll be glad you did. | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/29/2005 3:02:31 PM | | don't plan any revenge just geacefully and quickly swimming away in the great big fishing pool of life and hoping for the best. If you swim with fishies got to realize some sharks are out there. Beware little fishies... | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/29/2005 4:00:32 PM | Hire ninjas and have him offed. It works ! It's gotta be true because I saw in on American Ninja 5.
If the ninjas fail, then hire the jedis. They never fail. | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 12/29/2005 5:10:10 PM | Many say revenge is sweet...but I disagree. I'm a firm beleiver in that "What goes around..comes around". It may take months, years or even decades...but it'll catch up with him. Don't give him the satisfaction of wasting one more minute thinkin' of him...he's not worth even a nano-second.
Hold your head high and carry on gurl...start castin'!!  | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 1/2/2006 11:12:05 AM |
if you were frauded out for everything you had and them some
Fraud is a legal term and you should talk to a lawyer.
if it truely is fraud then the courts will get you more than revenge.
If not... just get your revenge by enjoying the rest of your life without the a-hole.
Bad things in your mind will only hurt you. Think of good things for yourself to do. | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 1/2/2006 11:19:22 AM |
who PUT ME IN JAIL for 109 days of a 180 day sentence because I sent her loaves of home-baked bread and sent her original love poems on the Internet
Ah .. Bando ,, I get the feeling you ain't tellin the whole story... nobody goes to jail for giving poems and bread.... you must have had a restraining order you broke.
I have no sympathy... you should stop your stupid revenge pride hurt thing and get onto some progressive growth with your life. Lean to bowl or something but forget about a woman that wants you out of her life. Stay out of her life or go to jail again.
take perverse joy in the thought that they will forever be looking over their shoulder
now this is the stuff of you being sent to jail for a long long time because something happened to that person and even if you weren't guilty .. you will get blamed.
get over it and move on. | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 1/8/2006 5:01:00 AM | Has it been said that the best revenge is living well?
Whether they ever feel it or not, you have your revenge when they no longer hold a place in your heart or your mind.
That or a potato in their car tailpipe. | |
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nergal
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Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 138 | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 1/8/2006 5:28:30 AM | | Karma has a way of comming back and biting people in the assets. I've seen it happen time and time again. My last X got his dues when he got prostate cancer. I never wished anything on him nor sought revenge from his abuse. I only sought a court order to keep him away from my family and I. If you continue to let yourself seek revenge on someone, it will eat you alive. You'll always be stuck in that unhappy place you're in right now. Getting revenge will only make you more unhappy, not make you feel any better whatsoever. And the best revenge would be to get yourself back on track in life. Take care of you and do whatever needs to be done towards that goal. Whatever goes around/comes around. | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 1/8/2006 5:31:45 AM | | see now what nickie said is true my only problem is i dont want to get evil revenge i just want to get the kinda revene that in turn will come back and give me some of my own funny sweet revenge. | |
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jrr48
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Joined: 9/8/2005
Msg: 141 | |
| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 1/8/2006 5:41:22 AM | | Well Lori, I am somewhat older than you. been around the world a little more. But I think I can give you some advice. Don't give this Pr*** another thought. Learn from your experience and move on...Forget him. Living well is good revenge. DON"T let this get you down. There are a few good men out there.....Find one. | |
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ssmino
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Joined: 12/25/2005
Msg: 143 | |
| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 10/31/2006 6:43:46 PM | i totally agree now if it was that easy. I usually make a fool out of myself turn into some desperate ego offended freak for a while...Had a problem with rejection Im older and still hear the woman at work find themseves in that situation. Now i find myself trying to explain to the other person how what they are doing is hurting me after a few years i wear down,,,,,crazy i will never do that again revenge no such thing they never understood they wouldnt geti lolo u might as well kick the wall after all uve been talking to it for yesrd lol | |
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ssmino
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Joined: 12/25/2005
Msg: 144 | |
| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 10/31/2006 6:49:42 PM | learn from it the signs were ther e u didnt want to believe it ,,,,thats what my friend told me and its true..my other friend said stop making excuses for him,,,i realized i was making them for me i wanted to keep him and if i admitted that what i saw going on was real i couldnt keep him.....first rule never justify ur man you shouldnt have to if he is the one.....two read he just isnt that into you ,,,,it says when it comes to the exception to the rule go with the rule | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 10/31/2006 10:46:51 PM | Forget about what you lost and focus on what you learned. By your walking away with your dignity and morals not only will you still feel good about your actions tomorrow you will still respect your actions 10 years from now.
It isn't your job to correct other peoples actions, what goes around comes around! Your best revenge is to stand tall! | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 11/2/2006 7:13:13 AM | | Orders of protections are abused by too many women. It is well-known in the legal community that OP's are used as a tool in gaining custody and property. The courts and law enforcement has crept into the family life overboard. I have seen all too often as a paralegal that many women use the OP as some sort of "revenge" mechanism when they are unable to formulate an argument or lack the skills of oration. Every marriage or couple goes through difficult times, however, that does not give women a green light to wreck another person's life over an email, letter, or a baked loaf of bread. Is it really that bad when we have to lock people up for sending loaves of bread? My suggestion is that if you lack the skills to "COMMUNICATE", don't get married. Men and women are programmed differntly. And the law is written corresponding to the way a woman thinks. The statute provides no defense for false allegations or reconciliation. The reason divorce is over 50% is the no-fault divorce law. Maybe if they married for the right reasons instead of gaining control and possession of a man's property after a couple years of marriage, then divorce would be taboo again. But in today's market, too many women are materialistic. NOT ALL, BUT MANY. I call them the microwave generation. They want everything instant, but not willing to work for it. Reliance on a man with a high paying job is easier to do. Now let me hear those women lib folks!! | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 11/2/2006 7:27:33 AM |
im so hurt by my last relatoinship he took everything of mine .i want him to hurt as mch as i'm hurting. i know revenge wont be the anwer but if you were frauded out for everything you had and them some and left with nothing before xmas what would you do?i'm just really angry and hurt.
Lori:
Been there hun... its not a fun place, rather scarey and its take alot to get back to where you were. But know it will all come back to him in the long run, three fold.
Use your anger as a tool to better yourself and gain knowledge from what happened. Keep family and friends close to you as they will help you get through this. Don't let him see that he has hurt you so much... bet stronger and smarter, and bust your butt. Figure out what its going to take to get you to where you want to be... I did it in 8 months, you can too!!!
Remember revenge can only hurt you in the long run.... | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 11/2/2006 7:43:11 AM | PRESERVERANCE!! My ex drives by my house daily, he just doesn't get how I did it in the time frame that I did, without help. Well I didn't see my kids much :( and that was hard. But they knew why I was working so much. He was out of town working when he left me, for his partner. Cancelled my credit cards, left me with nothing, no money, no car, and no home. I had to walk away from it all, short term marriage, I was intitled to nothing. Inside of 8 months, I saved enough money to purchase a car, a home, appliances, and furniture, watching what I spent, pinching pennys, and had a little left over for rainy days.
It wasn't easy, and at times I was so tired I couldn't see straight, but it was worth it! | |
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| how do you get revenge on someone you loved
Posted: 11/2/2006 9:17:33 AM | Lori Girl, do whatever you please! The way you get ultimate revenge is this: You must find his most vulnerable spot. The thing he loves most in this life. And then, and only then, you go after that which he treasures. If you hurt something he loves and values, believe me you will have avenged your cause.
And believe me, you'll still be able to walk with your head up. | |
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