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|oh i feel for u holly that would be real hard hope u can go back or him come up real real soon... my guy is out ur way n i know its gonna be 10 x harder after i meet him cause there wont be that "not knowing" we will already know how wonderful it is in person. it seems hard till ya meet then it only gets harder... does it ever get easier? lol|
Posted: 2/7/2005 6:26:24 PM
|so i thought i'd let you all know that i found success on this site. i met an awesome awesome man and we're absolutely and utterly in love. its awesome how fabulous love feels. im so happy and its all thanks to pof! thanks pof!|
Posted: 2/7/2005 7:02:50 PM
|Okay...mind if I jump into this quilting bee? LOL. Heres the story behind Cross and Holly. Its gonna be long, so if you arent partial to long threads, you may just want to skip this one. Granted, certain elements will be left out, simply because they are personal, incriminating, or otherwise none of anyone elses business. |
About 6 months ago, I came back onto the forums. I had taken a hiatus when the chat room was closed down, as well as decided to get some personal issues taken care of. When I decided to come back, it was on a "playing" level. I was not looking for something serious, soley because I wasnt sure it was ever going to happen. I had pretty much relegated myself to that guy that eventually ended up with a dozen cats and a van in the driveway. But that all changed when I got an email from Holly.
I had been bouncing around the forums, breaking all kinds of rules and having a blast, none of it really meaning anything... when I read her email. It was short, but still it blew me away.
"Crossfade, welcome back, its nice to have your witty banter and humor back. Hope your here to stay.... Holly." (not verbatim). But I was still blown away. We have both talked about it, but I dont really recall talking to her prior to that email. I know I never emailed her, nor her I. But that night, we started "Playing" in the forums, then of course the emails... then the eventual Yahoo exchanges.
We were playing in the forums, feeling each others heart/mind out... trying to find out what ticked. What we couldnt see on the forums, we spoke about on Yahoo. It was amazing, with every question, every reply, there was an instant click. Im certain that we were BOTH shaking our heads with every question, as well as every revelation. We met each other on every level. We even brought up some very tough situations... and yet still agreed. We were burning like a bonfire!!
I remember seeing her the first time on Cam.. I was amazed. I thought that someone was playing a trick on me... she was so beautiful. I was supposed to be cut a long time ago, yet she WANTED to talk to me. And talk we did. We still average at least 6 hours a day, IM and phone. Thats with jobs, life and football!!!
We have met with, and heard all the sceptics, but they dont really bother us. We have developed a very well rounded relationship with each other. There are things we may disagree on, but we both know that if that situation appears, that we just deal with it the very best way we can. If we have to agree that we disagree, then were okay with that. We dont waste time on this rock weaving hang-mans nooses, when we could be enjoying it spending quality time with each other, utilizing what is being cultivated inside of our hearts!
Hearts. Thats always the scarey part huh. Believe me when I tell you... the last thing that either one of us wanted to do, was to give our hearts away to someone that was 1300 miles away, via a flight, and close to 2500 via drive. That just isnt practical.
Ya well, forget practical. We found ourselves holding each others hearts. It happens. Over the phone and the internet. It happens. It happened.
Neither one of us were desperate, or lonely or needy... we just clicked, we found each other.
So we decided to meet.
This was riddled with problems. I was starting a new job, after having worked on the road for 7 years, she was in a job that was fairly new to her, and was overly demanding... we couldnt quite get the trigger set in order to pull it. But we never relented. We never gave up or got discouraged, we had that feeling burning inside us, that this was something different, something real. So we stored our time aside, and we planned.
It just so happened that it was more plausable (sp?) for her to come down here. Time, jobs as well as a few other factors showed us this. So when the time came, the ticket was bought, and the plans were made. We didnt ever feel weird about the encounter, or the first meeting, in fact... quite the opposite. I remember talking to her on the phone and saying, "You know, when we first meet...." then trailing off. It sounded foreign. Like calling her Howard or Lucy... it just didnt sound right. Truth is... we have always felt like we have known each other for a very long time. When in reality, we had only known each other about 5 or now 6 months.
So she flys in here. To my country!! LOL. I arrive at the airport, at terminal D. Thats where the signs told me to go. Yet there wasnt ANYONE there... save a few people, and a whack load of security agents. Not your typical welcoming committee. After asking around, I realized I was in the wrong terminal. I was, according to the guy behind a very dark counter, supposed to be in terminal C!!
So I haul a** down there, and arrive at a baggage claim area. It made more sense, she had bags, and she has to claim them. Yet her flight number wasnt on the display screens. ANYWHERE!!!
So I stumbeled around and finally found a gentleman that told me she was supposed to land in terminal B!!! And that she landed 40 minutes ago!!!
Long story short, I race across this d*mn airport, trying to find the love of my life. Im nervous, not wanting Holly to think that I bolted or that I was a screw up in my planning.
I was walking up the stairs, towards terminal B, when I looked up and saw her starring at me. She had the most beautiful smile on her face!!! That was the woman I had been talking to for the past half a year!!!
We spent this past weekend together, and we did it the right way. We didnt plan a fantasy weekend, we planned a REAL weekend. We watched movies, went to MY bar, met my friends, went shopping for grocerys, paid bills and saw the place where I worked. We bacame a couple in real life, just like the couple we were online. No expectations, no remorse. We were Eric and Holly. She never asked me to go and do and be... and I never tossed a schedule towards her. We changed plans on the fly, and we adjusted our plans according to our mood and what we wanted to do... just like a normal, every day couple.
We only had 4 days though.
Driving her to the airport was tough. Well, it was beyond tough. I didnt want to do it. Having her here in my life, in our apartment... was perfect. Things felt balanced. No hype, no false pretences... just a wholesome balance.
When we got there, we had our moment of telling each other, it wasnt "goodbye", but rather it was, "see you soon" and "lets get THIS and THAT taken care of, then lets make our next plan" kind of goodbye.
She checked in and did the security thing, while I watched her from behind the security line. We said our good byes and kept mouthing to each other..."I love you"... "call me"... and all of that. I finally told her, that because the line was moving so slow... we would be there for hours, lipping the same ole same ole. She laughed and said I was right, and that I should go. I didnt want to, but it made sense. So I pushed the down button on the elevator.
When the door opened, I blew her a kiss and told her that I loved her, and walked into the elevator. From floor 2, I selected floor 1.
The doors opened and I was heading towards the parking garage when it hit me... TO HELL WITH THIS... and I ran back up the escalators!
I knew that she had 2 MASSIVE reasons why she couldnt just blow off the flight and stay, but every part of me wanted to yell, "DONT GO... STAY HERE... JUST DONT GO..."
I watched her go through the medal detector twice, then put her belt and shoes back on (and forgetting her ticket) then getting all of her things, and walking into the cafateria area. I followed her through shop windows, hoping she would see me, but she didnt... but thats okay.
She may have seen me first, and I may have seen her last, but this isnt the last time Eric and Holly have seen each other.... bye a long shot!!!
Sorry its so long!!!
Posted: 2/7/2005 7:08:43 PM
|Eric you made me cry! You're fired.|
I am so happy for you both.
I hope my new relationship gains the strength that you two have found.
Congrats again hun, to you both!
Posted: 2/7/2005 7:12:00 PM
|Im sorry NYAK.... but for the first time in my life, I feel like I am actually content, and very happy.|
Thanks for the congrats babe!!! Love ya!!!
Posted: 2/7/2005 7:23:14 PM
|I know the feeling hun, I feel so comfy and at peace now, no stressing over what he thinks of me, or whether I am good enough.|
Figures, the second I stopped looking........
Love ya too!
Posted: 2/7/2005 7:24:22 PM
|OMG!!!!!! Cross hunny, that is just about the sweetest thing I have ever heard....I am sooo happy for you and Holly....i will pray for you two, that somehow things will move aside so that you two [and the kids] can have a LIFE TOGETHER....I really think, and feel that you two belong together....It looked just so right to see the photos of the two of you together, it was like you should always be at each others side...|
You give the others here that are awaiting the meeting of their "couple" partner some hope, that maybe LOVE is real, and there is a chance for happiness...
I am soooo HAPPY for you and Holly, and I know this time away from each other is harder NOW that you have met, now that you know EXACTLY what you are missing, but with LOVE there is always a way to work things out....
BLESSINGS to you....
Posted: 2/7/2005 7:33:15 PM
|Thanks both of you... but you know what? This site does work!! I know that sounds like some cheap advertisement gig... but holy hell, has anyone noticed that a guy like me found a Lady like HOLLY??????????|
That alone should be a banner post!!!! I wish both of you, as well as everyone else a banner year in the dept. of love and happiness! (Holy sh*t!! Did I just say that??)
Posted: 2/7/2005 7:53:41 PM
|Getting on that plane was the hardest thing I ever had to do..|
The entire flight home.. the wheels in my head were spinning.. when can i get back to texas, what do i need to do here to make that a permanent move..
I slept on one of Eric's shirts (soaked in his cologne) on the way home.. My flight was delayed, it was rainy and very turbulent, and although I'm a nervous flyer, it really didn't bother me. As soon as the plane touched down and they said cell phones could be used, i called Eric. We talked the entire time the plane taxied the runway.
For those who have lost hope..don't..
I always knew he was "the one"... this weekend sealed the deal...
When he told me he raced back up the escalators to see me, I got this lump in my throat and my eyes welled up as he told me "yup, saw you remove your belt, leave your ticket at the counter, take your shoes off, get on your cell phone", I didn't see him.... but it was probably good that i didn't, i would have jumped that turnstyle and missed my flight..
Posted: 2/7/2005 7:59:32 PM
|OH MY.....Holly, you and Cross are just the bestest....REALLY...I am sooo happy for you both....Reading your posts, and seeing the pictures of the HAPPY COUPLE well that brings tears to my eyes, I am so thrilled...I love happy endings, or rather HAPPY BEGINNINGS...|
Posted: 2/7/2005 8:05:57 PM
|that is so amazing how people on here find their true love, I haven't, but there are some amazing people on here and I'm glad to call u my friends. good luck Cross and Holly! luv ya both!|
Posted: 2/7/2005 8:08:37 PM
|Yup, I'll admit it. I cried. You two are amaizing people and I'm glad to call you my friends. I wish nothing but the best for you and only hope that you are together again soon.|
SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO FREAKIN HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!
Posted: 2/7/2005 8:10:47 PM
|thank you Kewt.. |
Best part of this weekend, was just being "eric n holly".. never uncomfortable.. its hard to explain, but everything was just so d*mned natural.. like.. it felt like i'd been in his truck a billion times, or done grocery shopping with him lots before, never felt like this was the first time i had been there..
I have never, not ever been that content and at ease with someone. Even when meeting his friends, i was never nervous or worried about it.
Posted: 2/7/2005 8:23:58 PM
I have a feeling that more and more people will be checking in here with news of new happiness, if I can find it, anyone can...lol.
I know we're all so happy for you two....big virtual hug Holly...you guys are such an inspiration (even when you're over the top giggly in love all over the forums!)
to my new friends....cheers
Posted: 2/7/2005 8:32:20 PM
sooooo happy you havent given up, all the best to you and your new fella
Thanx Shannon, and all the best to you and italian, and i want all the details!! well.. most of em ;)
Posted: 2/7/2005 11:53:36 PM
|Both Paul and I (ok, I'm using his account) are just sitting here with tears in our eyes.|
You've got no need for LL Bean and Roots here (keep the La Sensa) and get your butt to Texas.
We are so very happy for you two. Congratulations.
Posted: 2/8/2005 1:00:21 AM
|Congrats to you two on your engagement! YAY! Another Success story.|
Posted: 2/8/2005 2:00:21 AM
|Cross what amazing story and so much from the heart. I am totally happy for the both of you and know you will meet again and again...What a great 4 days together, It doesnt matter your story is long, it has heart, depth and soul...Amazing|
Posted: 2/8/2005 8:24:25 AM
|congrats on your engagement you two!!! soooooo happy for you both!!!|
Yup, i can give up roots, la senza, hell, i'm about ready to say "Hi my name is holly and i am addicted to Timmies" and give up the only coffee i drink lol
Our story was never based on a fairytale or false pretenses or persona's.. he is exactly what he always has been with me (through phone/im's etc), well, cept he's cuter (and has a GREAT ASS!!!) omg who said that?? *grins*. There were no awkward silences, there were no weird vibes. The only thing that has felt weird, not right, was coming back to Canada
Posted: 2/8/2005 5:01:49 PM
|Congrats Holly and Cross.. I read your story and I can relate to yours coz mine is a long distance relationship too (although I didnt meet him in POF). Arriving to meet your loved ones is with the "On top of the world" feelings and departing is the worst, with a heavy heart.. It is so sweet and if you have true love for each other, it is like any normal relationship. I'm with my partner for 4 years now and we planned to marry in two years.. So who says long distance relationship doesnt work!|
My best wishes for both of you..
Posted: 2/10/2005 4:38:46 AM
|ty Hui, its nice to hear a positive "distance" story. All the best to you and your fella :)|
Posted: 2/10/2005 4:45:00 AM
|never met a lover on here but have made some amazing friendships so i think that counts|
Posted: 2/10/2005 6:01:59 AM
|nothing like timmies down here Holly, Krispy kreme doesn't cut it, and no dunkin' donuts either, but theres always dairy queen! |
We've got BBQ joints, drive thru beer barns and we're a conceal and carry state, thats got to count for somethin'!
We've got "great big-o" < (international souther southern unit of measurement) trucks, hats and dawgs and bugs, "texas hair", rockies jeans, Neiman-Marcus,
and more pretty sunsets than you can shake a stick at.
He's "a llittle ways" < (international Texas unit of measurement that means beween 20 minutes, or 3 days) away from one of premier vacation spots in the country, South Padre Island, and you'll love Texas winters. Roses bloom year round, and you'll be hard pressed to see Longhorn cattle in front of a corporate headquarters anywhere else in the world. Please note, I'm not saying a word about the long dry Texas summers where 30 degrees C is the norm. (March-Oct)
So, "git your purse and git in the truck, gurl"
How'm I doin' crossfade, convincing?
I (we've) got a boat on Texoma we'd love to have "y'all" c'mon up and "grab a cold one & sit a spell"
good luck to you both, eh?
Posted: 2/10/2005 2:42:05 PM
|(wipes a tear away )|
you guys im so dam happy for you..
i have known cross ( aka old fleric) for as long as i have been here...
i say to hell with ppl who dont beleive you can meet your soul mates like this.
God knows we didnt have luck outside our own front door..so we go inside and get help from here.
ppl may not beleive it works.. but first it was me and triker..then lvsurfer (kookmyer) and alarmed ( surferbaby )
now cross and holly..
i remeber being like that with a friend of mine..feeling as if they are tearing your heart out of your chest and taking it with them on the flight..
it was my best friend..and i may never see her again..its been 7 yrs since we said goodbye..
Posted: 2/10/2005 4:19:24 PM
|thanks alura, pretty d*mned happy myself.. :)|
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