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| Would you date someone with a mental illness?
Posted: 12/10/2008 5:03:53 PM |
See Hon! You're in trouble, this guy speaks the truth, for sure!
I think Ill take my chance with you - you big oak tree ..
Now grab the yahtzee and the half a cow we got some talking to do 
I rest my case...thank you for being so honest, however, I didn't need to be told this, it is obvious your not a good person...
GRRRR ... really you need to stop degrading him - now your just pissing me off.
It is so heartwarming to see a person who feels based on the most sarcastic post even written you can make a snap judgement on character of a person.
You know what - he knows his flaws while you are oblivious to your own - you are the judgemental one.
let me know when you find a match on here, I would like to write her and trash talk to her. You know because I am qualified as a stranger and all. After all I work with idiots all day therefore I am qualified to discuss them .. | |
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| Would you date someone with a mental illness?
Posted: 12/10/2008 5:31:14 PM | well, he totally degrades people that I care about, so allow me to be a bit ticked as well.
Part of what I do is, try and stop people "generalizing" and imposing 'stigmas"
on people with mental disorders. As for you terrible experience...It isn't the Bipolar disorder, it was him as a person, that put you threw hell...You stated he was a 'narcissist" it is that trait, that put you threw hell...
For the record.
Bipolar disorder, comes in three forms..
There is Bipolar 1, which is characterized from, feelings of severe elation that can lead into dissociation of reality, and then swings into major depression which is very debilitating...
There is Bipolar 2 which is characterized from, states of "hypo-mania" which isn't Mania, it is more like a very good mood, then the individuals graduate into "major" Depression.
There is also, soft Bipolar, which is often found in many people, which is characterized
from mood swings where the person is very energetic, positive, gets tons of things done, then they may shift into, moderate deppresion...unexplanibly...I think we all can relate to that to "some" degree..
Now, this is where the 'individual" comes in..These forms of Bipolar disorder can be totally "arrested" with medications and hard work from the "individual".. in other words, you must have the "character" to combat and overcome this, very serious "disease"...
I know people who have mental disorders and are the nicest, "strongest" individuals that I have ever met..They have brilliant careers, healthy relationships etc etc..
So, on that note, I will date someone with mental illness, providing, they are good people, who work on their medical condition..
My point is, stop putting stigmas on people with mental disorders..It is the "individual" not the illness, that makes them a living hell, to be with...
As for your "young" boyfriend...I am telling him, that his self declared ass.holeness will catch up with him...what comes around, goes around... | |
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| Would you date someone with a mental illness?
Posted: 12/10/2008 5:39:18 PM |
As for your "young" boyfriend...
And his age means what in basis of this discussion?
The basis of this thread is again would you date a person with a mental illness, you received a direct answer to a direct question. there were not stipulations and variables in the question -
YOU just stated that YOU would only date a person with a mental illness with a guideline"
providing, they are good people, who work on their medical condition..
YOU just stated that the answer to your question is depends - not much better then a direct No - your answer is more judgemental because now turning the tables you date someone with a mental illness that does control it with medication and they choose to stop - do you dump them?
Breaking down your words the way you did his - your quite the hypocrite arent you.
and FYI - not that you deserve a real answer .. but the correct phrase is What goes around comes around .. remember that next time you choose to try to make statements on character to a person you do not know | |
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| Would you date someone with a mental illness?
Posted: 12/10/2008 5:50:20 PM | And his age means what in basis of this discussion?
He is acting very immature...
Now you asked, if someone, would stop taking their meds, would I let them go?..
I would tell them, you stay on the program or I will leave you.
I just told a person that I am working with who has bipolar 1, who has stopped taking his meds a couple of times, that if he doesn't smartin' up, I will stop working with him..
It is the "tough" love thing...so, with this quote from you,
YOU just stated that YOU would only date a person with a mental illness with a guideline"
That's right, because if they don't stick to the necessary guidelines, then that shows me a person who isn't willing to take care of themselves and that, shows me poor character
As for this comment, from your immature "boy" friend "Do I look like I care?
Why do you feel the need to explain it in detail?
I know you are incapable of not understanding, it is for the benefit of others, who have more than a room temperature IQ...which you obviously possess...your woman refers to you as her big Oak tree and i couldn't put it better myself...Geeezus, you two are pretty nauseating... | |
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| Would you date someone with a mental illness?
Posted: 12/10/2008 6:04:34 PM | understood - but now understand you are flat out stating you would leave them due to no longer taking medication (which I agree and understand) He however never stated he would leave a person he is with if they develop an issue later.. the difference here is you stated it as fact and put an assumption on another.
Is this not the same thing?
In my opinion for most people it comes down to one factor .. an illness such as that - that is treated is unknown unless willingly shared to another - untreated most including yourself would not date the person. so you may not wish to admit it - but you agree with the young one. He is actually very smart and sweet and funny - but maybe it is just reserved for me?
PS - the oak tree is an inside joke - I would not expect you to understand again do not assume | |
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| Would you date someone with a mental illness?
Posted: 12/10/2008 6:17:50 PM | I did stipulate way back that this wasn't a matter of disagreeing with him..It is his obvious lack of caring for others that i don't like and I fail to see his intelligence and sweetness, given the postings that he has left... He is doing the trolling thing and I can't take him seriously and will continue to communicate with you..and I saw that another person agreed with me that, you are in trouble and you are...It won't be long until you return, not into this forum but rather, the "broken hearts" forums...It is very obvious and it is funny, I do really feel bad for you...I am entitled to my opinions and you come across as the intelligent one who is "infatuated" and not seeing reality...
Would you please answer this question..What if you suffer from a trauma of some sort then develop a debilitating form of PTSD which, leads into major depression with a guy who carries on like he does, what would you do?..he would obviously leave you
in a period of your life when you would need him the most...why don't you ask him, if that happened, what would he do??? | |
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| Would you date someone with a mental illness?
Posted: 12/10/2008 7:34:11 PM | Lets start with the 'controlling" thing, that in Freudian terms is what one would refer to as being "anal retentive"...I couldn't help but notice that your long distance date is, substantially older than you, therefore I conclude that, you are suffering from a classic case of an oedipus complex, meaning that in actuality, you are dating your mother also, given the distance between the two of you, why don't you get out your web cams and jar of Vaseline and then, you might be able to get rid of those issues that you have...
set yourself up for that one baby... | |
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| Would you date someone with a mental illness?
Posted: 12/12/2008 7:03:26 PM | | The thing about mental illness in 2008 is that most conditions are treatable. There are many medications available. The RIGHT medication ALONG WITH therapy makes for a very functional life. Medications are complicated and need to be trialed in conjunction with the treating physician. The same goes for finding the appropriate therapist. Hope this helps! | |
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| Would you date someone with a mental illness?
Posted: 3/28/2009 5:36:28 PM | | Although I don't really like the label I suppose it could be said that I have a mental illness(although it could also be said that anyone who tries to pick a fight with someone for staring at him is also mentally ill but usually something like that isn't considered as such). I have something known as psycho social disorder. I think because of it it is almost impossible for me to meet people(either as friends or for romance). It's very frustrating. All I can say is that if I was a woman I wouldn't want to date me so I can kind of understand why nobody else would want to be bothered. I do try to keep my foot in the door however being that there is always that off chance that I might meet some extraordinary woman who want care about about what I am but instead focus on who I am which is underneath it all a good person. | |
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| Would you date someone with a mental illness?
Posted: 4/2/2009 7:57:56 AM | I know this thread is old but I'm in a rather sharing of my opinion mood.
Some people have had a pretty good life sure some stuff happened but what does not kill you makes you stronger right? Nothing too horrible just enough to give you some ups and downs.
Some people not so much ~ some have pasts that haunt them and have caused the mind to well be a royal ****. On top of that some of us got more than we bargined for with our genes. The short end of the stick, some lovely mental stuff that we did not ask for and would have brain surgery to correct in an instant if offered. There's baggage and then there's everything but the damn kitchen sink. Which is why I hate the term baggage it annoys me.
You have to ask yourself what are you willing to go though to be with a person. Is this person worth at least trying to make something work?
As long as the person is up front about said mental issues, those issues do not put you in harms way of having an axe put though your skull in the middle of the night, and if they need meds they are taking them and keeping up with therapy then I say at least give it a try.
We may be mental but we'll keep you on your toes :)
And to the person who posted above me do you mean agoraphobia, social anxiety, or something else? | |
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| Would you date someone with a mental illness?
Posted: 4/3/2009 6:31:18 PM | | But that doesn't mean that you should think that everyone with a mental illness stops taking their medication once they 'feel better', those types are just confused and don't really understand that medication is an ongoing process; you'll only 'feel better' if you continue to take the recommended dose your doctor prescribes. | |
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| Would you date someone with a mental illness?
Posted: 4/4/2009 4:23:57 AM | As my mother says .... everyone has a mental illness. And she's right. In fact, nearly everyone before they die will experience some type of mental illness, even if it's just situational due to a dramatic move or relocation, divorce, the death of a loved one, loss of a job and income, etc.
The point is, is the person past denial of their condition and active in the process of getting treatment and making a committment to their treatment. | |
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| Would you date someone with a mental illness?
Posted: 4/4/2009 4:28:43 AM | Oh, and for the record ... there ISN"T 3 types of Bipolar. There are only 2 types and under them, SUBTYPES, one in being Bipolar Disorder, NOS (not otherwise specified), which is typically a bread basket diagnosis.
/rolls eyes at all the supposed "experts" on this subject.
If anyone wants real specifics, pick up the DSM-IV Revised manual. You'll find every mental, developmental, cognitive, personality, and pervasive disorder in it. But be forewarned .... don't get too wrapped up in it, or you might self-diagnose yourself with 20 different things. | |
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| Would you date someone with a mental illness?
Posted: 4/4/2009 7:14:03 AM | Being someone who works with those with mental illness, I'd approach with caution. I've dated a man with bi polarism, not fun, he was on his meds but still moody and often depressed, I entered his life when he was on a 'high' (manic) phase, he didn't admit his illness to me til some wks later when the pendulum swung. Not fun, the relationship disintegrated and I felt I'd been duped...
On the other hand, I've known some people who had great relationships with guys with schizophrenia (really) whose meds worked great AND THEY TOOK THEM. Psychotropic drugs, unfortunately, come with a myriad of side effects, some not pleasant which leads to non compliance in taking them, some times. Each type of mental illness affects each person differently, i.e, there are many ranges in each disorder from mild to psychotic. If you are a very solid, confident person, you may be able to ride the storms out..maybe there won't be storms, if you are lucky...someone needing constant reassurance, suspicious by nature, proud or vain, generally insecure will not have success. I suggest getting to really know the person, proceed slowly, helps to hear what their past has been like. Someone who's been hospitalized frequently not a good bet. And think about it, aren't we ALL a little mentally ill, in some ways? | |
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| Would you date someone with a mental illness?
Posted: 4/4/2009 8:03:49 AM | Hello. The answer I would give to this is yes I would because I too suffer from a mental illness and am a productive woman in society. I work full time for the government in the VA Hospital and deal with these issues every day of my life at work and at home alone. Mental illness doesn't mean retarded in any way. Chemical imbalances can trigger these episodes and sometimes just need an understanding person that is patient an loving to get you through it. Unfortunately I am not having luck finding anyone on this site and plan to leave but wante to reply to this post. Give people a chance unless they are violent then stay away.
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| Would you date someone with a mental illness?
Posted: 4/4/2009 11:10:25 AM | I am sure I already have or am doing so. Pretty much every one is diagnosable according to the DSMIV-TR. Have you ever seen it? It can be fun to diagnose yourself sometimes.
Let's see....I have the following:
1. Spelling disorder which can be controlled by using the dictionary and thesaurus which are never far from my computer.
2. Picker disorder which means my male picker is broken. Still working on a treatment for this.
3. Attachment disorder as I am able to only go out on one date with a guy and be done.
4. Impulsivitiy disorder most call it spontaneity (yep, used my dictionary)
5. Narcissistic disorder as sometimes I strictly think of myself
Here are my top 5 but I'm sure that I have more disorders except I left my DSM at work.
OP...Bi-polar disorder, which is what your guy has, is manageable and he should be fine if he is managing it even on his down days. | |
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| Would you date someone with a mental illness?
Posted: 4/4/2009 11:29:51 AM | No I would not date someone with a mental illness. They do not have control of themselves, and I do not want to wake up in the night with a knife to my throat. Too much paranoia going on in their heads. Lots of times, even with lots of meds, there is no rhyme or reason to their actions. I work with patients with mental disorders everyday, and spend alot of time diffusing phantom grievances, paranoia, and confusion, fits of anger and violence. Why would anyone go into a relationship with someone they knew didnt have all their ducks in a row? Realtionships are hard enough with 2 sane people. Dealing with it at work is one thing, having it at home, waiting for me, no way.
sorry if this has offended some of the posters. JMO | |
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| Would you date someone with a mental illness?
Posted: 4/4/2009 7:26:50 PM | | Someone near and dear to me is bi-polar. They truly aren't a threat to anyone but themself. There are variations and sometimes it's extreme agitation or depression. There might be outbursts but not threatening... When medicated they can break bad habits and turn things around. To realize that yes the meds might take a certain amount of creativity away because this person is very creative at the same time w/o meds they are emotionally out of control and miserable. So they realize the importance of staying on them... I think one needs to take an individual perspective and see how you mesh... | |
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