| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 12/10/2005 7:22:33 PM | I lost the love I couldn't live without (so I thought) he called me at work to say he was filing for divorce. How manly was that????
My world crashed down around me, I was devastated. But I'm back on that horse and ready to meet someone who can love me as much as I can love. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 12/10/2005 7:28:52 PM | | Idahogal what makes u think that u can help this person with the following in your profile (If you are a "move-on.org" liberal, a loser, alcoholic, or a manic fiend of any sort...don't waste your ti*me or mine,)I read the rest also and cant see you having 50 years of experience in helping people | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 12/10/2005 7:29:08 PM | "..I've always wondered what they think about before they acually do kill themselves."
They think "enough is enough".
They can blame it on a broken heart, or a single event, but that is typically the last straw in a series of events that wear a person down and render the person to zero self esteem. Feeling worthless is the lousiest feeling in the world, and a black pit into which no light falls and from which no escape is apparent. But suicide is a permanent solution for a temporary problem. The difficulty lies in realizing the temporary nature of the problem. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 12/10/2005 8:18:02 PM | | Stush1 ,you are correct in what you said, people are not in their right frame of mind when the do commit that act, they aren't cowards or taking the easy way out ,they are just not themselves. after 911 there where many emergency workers who took there own lives,and I would never call them cowards or were taking the easy way out. Some people just have no idea, you don't know what you don't know. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 12/10/2005 8:26:48 PM |  I am very sorry to hear about your brother i know it must be real hard on you right now and if there was anything i could do to heal your pain i would. I feel so hopeless at times and yes the thought does cross my mind to end it but, i keep living for both of my daughters and i consider it as her loss not mine. The first time she left me i tried to do it and took 20,000mg of pills and was put in the hospital and had too look into my daughters eyes and explain why i tried to do it. She just gave me a huge hug and cried in my arms and told me she loved me and she always would. I cried with her and felt so ashamed of what i had done and for tearing her little heart out. I know a guy who is talking suicide and i don't know what to tell him except what i went thru. I am asking this forum for advice so i can get some tips to maybe help him in someway. And, there might be somebody else reading this forum that needs help to get passed what they are thinking of doing. But, i will keep your family in my prayers over the loss of your brother. My advice is foranyone that is thinking of doing thereself in is to surround yourself with friends and people that love you and don't spend to much time alone because that allows you to sit and think of things that will depress you even more... | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 12/10/2005 8:32:51 PM | | I was at a suicide not long ago a 14 yr old girl took her life over a broken heart,her 17 yr old boyfriend, what a beautiful life that was lost over a love that probably would not have worked out anyway at that young age. If people could just see the world keeps moving if they are here or not, and people get on with their lives. Every life is not worhtless, every one has a meaning. One word spoken and if that person could hear it, it can change someones life forever. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 12/10/2005 8:34:26 PM | Personally I think its very selfish of a person to commit suicide period.. but let me tell you a story.. I know that there are people out there who do commit suicide overr broken hearts.. etc..
my ex husband had the bad habbit of every time I would toss him out.. he would cry that he was going to kill himself.. over and over.. considering he wasn't all there.. I seriously though he would..he actually went so far as to slam his head against a wall because I wanted to leave him..
on our last interaction together as my brother was escorting him out.. he yelled at me.. I"M GOING TO KILL MYSELF>. YOU"LL SEE YOU"LL SEE!! he was in hysterics.. and I got so pissed that I went inside.. grabbed all the medication in my cabinet..a butcher knife and walked everything out.. I calmly walked over to him and handed him all of the stuff and told him if he wanted to kill himself.. to go ahead just to not do it on my parents property...
yes it was terrible of me to do.. but I was sooooo fed up.. I had just snapped...
its been over 3 years.. he's still alive and kicking.. no longer in my life.. but he didn't kill himself it was just his way of controling me..
so.. I tend to walk away now from people that use the I'm gonna kill myself words in anyway shape or form. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 12/10/2005 8:42:19 PM | | I suffer from chronic depression, on meds for it, but before I was on them I was suicidal and attempted, if someone wants to committe suicide there are deeper issues, no one does that over a broken heart, hearts heal, suicidal people just need a reason. I know I am one of them. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 12/10/2005 8:47:30 PM | Decainaru: I do understand what you are saying but. there is people out there that is calling out for help and will do it without a second thought and i wouldn't want to be the one that put the knife,or pills in there hands and told them to go ahead. I know that there is people out there that just wants pitty and wouldn't do anything but, like i said there is some that is really depressed and just don't know how to deal with the feelings that they are having. And, until you have a masters degree in phycology i wouldn't advice anyone to do what you did to the guy you was with. And, if you ask me he is better off being away from you. Your nuts.... | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 12/10/2005 8:47:55 PM | | Its very hard, we are emts also so its double jepoardy, and also being in the military it is a lot to deal with. after any incident we now have stress debriefers we can talk to ,it helps alot,,,its the children that are the hardest to see, those faces never go away. We just get envolved with the community and it helps seeing all those smiley faces. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 12/10/2005 8:53:46 PM | | Truelove you are so right,,,that person needs help also for thinking like that. the good part is if they can reach out thats the first step,,and then there are the ones that believe they are all alone, if they could only understand that there are so many poeple out there that would want to help them. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 12/10/2005 9:41:18 PM | | I attemptted suicide while in an alcoholic blackout a couple years back my gal got the cops to break in and they saved me..She says to me "I don't know how I would live my life without you in it.." I sobered up Eleven months later she died of a heart attack I've been lost ever since I cry every night I pray for her I loved her more than anything..anyone..My best friend of 23 years died four months later of cancer, I quit smoking..No drinky, no drugy, no smoky...I thought about suicide a couple times but I'll never do it. I got a broken heart, I'm depressed alot of the time I barely function, but I function...I pray alot read the bible don't mean to preach but I feel better doing that..I'm sad when anyone committs suicide the other day a guy that came home from the war killed his father then himself he couldn't cope life is sad...But it's worth living no matter what it's your journey and there's always hope up ahead there's always light at the end of the tunnel...God Bless You.. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 12/10/2005 9:57:05 PM | many people think of killing therselfs some do, some dont. its the method that is puzzling. i cant see leaving a mess for someone to clean.i do see why they do it and yes its alot more than broken hearts.it goes back over years, myself have been thinking of suicide not just a broken heart but treatment i took growing up. i was always {the lazy one} i work harder today than guys half my age just to prove that wrong. i was so lazy id marry a{ preg}]women id never amount to a thing and bingo they were right on with that im 51 years old and have nothing to show for all those years of work.thanks to 2 women that {loved} me yea right! im only going to say it once there is no woman on this planet worth dying for / and if you have to.[ DONT LEAVE A MESS!] | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 12/10/2005 10:19:09 PM |
I just wish you people would quit using the word selfish, no where does a psyhcologist ever use this terminology, you have no idea what the persons feeling are. All I can say is wake up tomorrow and go tickle a kid, listen and watch them laugh.
People who use the word "selfish" negatively are typically manipulators and moochers. Anything you do for yourself ^^^instead of for them, of course ^^^ makes you selfish.
Even if you kill yourself, gee, how dare you? You don't own yourself: your body and mind belong to the collective! How selfish of you to take yourself away. One less person to serve us.
*PUKE*
Go live in Cuba. Or Red China. F#cking collectivists. In the free word, the individual is celebrated as supreme. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 12/10/2005 10:35:39 PM | Oh truelove I wouldn't advice anyone to do what I did.. but after hearing him threaten suicide over and over again.. beside the fact that he was abusive in other way.. I snapped I had had enough and honestly at that point.. for me having him out of the picture would have been better.. it wasnt' the right thing to do.. which is why I said I snapped.. I'm not nuts.. but sometimes you just get pushed to far..
Now he's got someone else he's being abusive to and supposedly using the same "threat of suicide with her" saddly he's got issues.. but thankfully i'm not there anymore.. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 12/10/2005 10:36:15 PM | i think that someone who kills themselves over a broken heart probably has a lot of other shit going on too and that this was the last straw. or...they are wanting attention from the lost partner and hoping that person will save them at the last minute. or...there is always the they'll be sorry when i'm gone theory. regardless of a person's reasons for ending their life i do not believe that anyone really wants to die, they just want the pain to stop and sometimes killing themselves is the only way they think they can end that pain.
ps have battled depression for 20 years and know a bit of what i am talking about | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 12/10/2005 10:52:54 PM | | True love, here is a point for your friend. Suicide over a broken heart? Suicide over anything? It should never happen. Every life has a purpose and everyone a reason for being on this planet. Every thing we do affects the lives of others. If you take that away, the life you were meant to be beneficial to in this world may not survive if you take away the chance of your influence. It may be a family member, friend, or someone you may even have not met yet, but you are here for a reason, and never should take the place of God or fate and try to take control of your own destiny. Hope some of these tips do the trick- good luck with your friend, and I pray you are successful. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 12/10/2005 11:05:36 PM | Well I had a cousin do it and it literally tore apart his family apart his mother to this day has not gotten over it and it has been almost 10 years now. So in my oppinion i think it is WRONG no one is worth your life no matter( except a family member) how much you love them | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 12/10/2005 11:28:39 PM | | Ahhh December 4th was a dark day around this county as there was 3 suicides all women. Two were highly intoxed and another really depressed possibly intoxed. She was found by her children aged 9, 13 and 18 in the attached garage in the car. They called her brother (their uncle) before and not before he got there 911. By that time she was really gone,41 yrs old smart pretty and depressed. Such a shame and a total waste. She was divorced a few yrs ago and never got over it. It wasnt her first attempt so she didnt have custody of her kids but she decided when on a weekend when she had custody that she couldnt live anymore. How to understand, how to second guess, Its impossible. Those that nourn are the true victims so if those that are pre disposed to this kind of thinking, please.... think about everything and everyone before you think that all is lost and talk to someone, anyone before you break a lot of hearts which in a sense is why you would ever consider this final solution. | |
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