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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 8/4/2009 6:40:59 AM | suicide... happens when death is easier than life....
it is not done to hurt someone...but to end a pain that is too hard to live with
i have witnessed the darkness that consumes them...felt the hatred in them. a hatred so deep it seemed to reach the marrow of their soul. the blackness in their eyes, filling into their heart....and yes this was a true attempt at finality. well planed,carefully thought out...
the only flaw...they had a need to say good-bye!
and for you righteous souls that spew out...they should get professional help.... what do they do when they have no money....and society has no time for them? the person i talk of was seeking help foe close to eight months! | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 8/8/2009 9:44:05 AM | ^^^^^what an ugly thing to say.
The light can go out of your life so totally, when you love someone deeply
and don't get love in return, that there is no hope or joy or happiness
in your world. Your existence becomes bleak. Each waking minute is
an endless torture. You sit and hold back the tears that are always on
the verge of spilling from your eyes. You see no point in taking care of
yourself because you just don't care about anything.
Life is pointless. The universe seems cruel and uncaring. There is no hope
of ever finding a crumb of happiness from anything. Each day is a dull
routine you have to drag yourself through. Just living from day to day takes
almost superhuman strength and bravery. The one bright spot in your life,
the one you love, has made it clear that you mean zero to them.
The only way to get through it is to know that it will someday get better.
Until then you are just hanging on by a thread.  | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 8/8/2009 3:50:30 PM | Suicide is for wimps. If your parents brought you in this world, they invested in you. If you are thinking are suicide, talk to your parents and have a drink. Life is one shot. Do not hit the 8th ball and kick yourself. That is a coward's way out. In Life there are success and defeats. I have had major successes and defeats. Such is life.
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 8/9/2009 1:57:31 PM | For the vast majority of my life I'd lived with mental illness (bipolar disorder/manic depression) and lived with thoughts of suicide for more years than I care to account for. I am mentally healthy now (thank g-d) and completely off meds. I've been mentally stable for over 2 years now and am finally able to do things like attend college (and get good grades) and am looking for employment for the really first time in my life.
My heart was recently "broken" I guess you could say. The relationship was fraught with pitfalls from the start and I should have listened to my gut. I didn't.
I guess for one millisecond I gave some thought to "how can I ever live with this kind of pain?" but it only lasted one millisecond. My life now, mentally stable, happy, and healthy is not worth any guy driving me to that brink.
No way. No how. Not going there.
Please. If you DO feel suicidal, GET HELP. It is out there.
Take care.
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 8/9/2009 2:27:24 PM | Thank you, my friend.
It's really nothing new. I've been trying to be up front and honest about what was wrong with me for most of my adult life.
P*ssed mom and siblings off a lot by being open and honest, but oh well. That's their problem.
I've worked long and very hard to get to the successful place I find myself now in life. I ain't about to give that up now for nobody.
Thanks again.
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 8/9/2009 2:39:14 PM | | well it is very painful..i am going through it now..my girlfriend of 5 months just took her life on july 28,2009..we knew each other for a year before we started to date... i am living with the blame of not doing enough to stop it...it is something i wish no one to go with.. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 8/9/2009 3:00:28 PM | Oh Gosh, William,
I am soooo sorry. Please, I know that telling you to try to not feel guilty isn't going to help so I won't even pretend to go there with you. So often, a person intent on truly following through with the suicide would never allowed themselves to be stopped.
You're going to need some counseling to get through this. Are you already pursuing that as an avenue? There are organizations that assist with free "grief" counseling. . .
Best of luck to you,
Joiey | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 8/11/2009 8:23:40 AM | i think its silly, im only sayin this because i nearly killed myself over a guy. i was with my ex for 2 yrs, we were engaged to be married but things broke down coz we continaully argued about money and he didnt like me going out etc. this weekend i spoke to him and we argued again because i am adament that him and my friend are sleeping together, ( dnt get me wrong me and him arent togther, but there is that unwritten rule for friends and exes) anyway he told me i was being a stupid pathetic girl, that even if they were i had no right asking or being upset by it, so after that i decided that i dint want to be here anymore, i wanted the pain to stop, and thats when i took an overdose....seriously regret doing it now coz iv probably caused my self long term damage.
a bloke is not worth someone killin themselves over, iv learnt the hard way by bein in hospital for days and havin to tlk to mental health doctors, its not a nice feeling.
if things get on top of u the best thing to do is tlk to soneone..thts where i went wrong, i wish id ask for help sooner | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 8/11/2009 11:21:12 AM |
IVE READ WHAT SOME IGNORENT PEOPLE HAD TO SAY ABOUT SUICIDE AND I USED TO BE JUST LIKE THEM....... SO UP MY OWN A** THAT I DIDDNT SEE WHAT WAS RIGHT INFRONT OF ME! I ALWAYS SAID THAT PEOPLE WHO COMMIT SUICIDE WERE FAILURES WHO TOOK THE EASY WAY OUT............ THEN I FOUND MY BROTHER HANGING 10 DAYS AGO AT 27 YEARS OLD. HE WAS NEVER SELFISH OR A COWARD LIKE SOME PEOPLE ARE MAKING THEM OUT TO BE HE WAS A BRAVE AND PROUD MAN, SO FOR THEM PEOPLE WHO HAVE THEIR NOSE TO HIGH IN THE AIR? PLEASE DONT JUDGE WHAT YOU HAVE NEVER FELT! AND FOR THEM THAT FEEL THAT HELPLESS? PLEASE! HOLD ON BECOUSE TOMOROW WILL BE A BRIGHTER DAY! DONT BE TOO PROUD TO ASK FOR HELP BECOUSE THERES ALOT MORE PEOPLE THAT CARE 4 AND LOVE YOU THEN YOU THINK!!
I agree with this. There are a lot of psychos out there who intentionally take others down with them when they commit suicide, then there are others who just live miserable lives and committing suicide is one of the few things things they can do to love and help themselves. There are options to helping oneself such as talking to someone or reading a good book but there are those who are genuinely hopeless and have genuinely lost interest in life. Maybe they even want to help others by removing one more sad and hopeless person in the world who may effect others with their depressing attitude and company. If you haven't noticed already, people in everyday life, who aren't knowledgeable professionals like therapists and hotline counselors, tend to be negative toward others who don't possess their level of thirst for life. In other words, depressed people aren't fun to be around. If someone's depression lasts long enough, they should be allowed to end their own suffering without being blamed for cowardice. I'm not saying that suicide is a good thing, but there are many different reasons for why a person will commit suicide.
Back to the topic, I don't think a broken heart is something to kill yourself over, but it can function as a trigger that leads to justified suicide after a long battle with sadness.
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 8/11/2009 2:47:07 PM | Although this person may have left a note stating you were the cause of the suicide, I doubt it had anything to do with you and you should not feel that it was your fault.
People who commit suicide have been contemplating the act for years, not just over the course of your relationship. Their reasons are their own and often stem from childhood experiences that they were never able to properly deal with. Some are in therapy, sadly most are not and need to be.
I'm sorry this is coming to you about 4 years too late and I hope that by now you've moved on from this. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 8/11/2009 8:34:19 PM | It's a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
I've known both family and friends who have committed suicide, and generally there are multiple layers of issues, and then that final straw breaks. Rarely it is one clear and concise event or a decision made quickly and acted upon. Most people who commit suicide have been planning it for weeks and months. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 8/11/2009 9:06:02 PM | I agree with this. There are a lot of psychos out there who intentionally take others down with them when they commit suicide, then there are others who just live miserable lives and committing suicide is one of the few things things they can do to love and help themselves. There are options to helping oneself such as talking to someone or reading a good book but there are those who are genuinely hopeless and have genuinely lost interest in life. Maybe they even want to help others by removing one more sad and hopeless person in the world who may effect others with their depressing attitude and company. If you haven't noticed already, people in everyday life, who aren't knowledgeable professionals like therapists and hotline counselors, tend to be negative toward others who don't possess their level of thirst for life. In other words, depressed people aren't fun to be around. If someone's depression lasts long enough, they should be allowed to end their own suffering without being blamed for cowardice. I'm not saying that suicide is a good thing, but there are many different reasons for why a person will commit suicide.
Back to the topic, I don't think a broken heart is something to kill yourself over, but it can function as a trigger that leads to justified suicide after a long battle with sadness.
Uh no. This is probably they worst advice in this thread apart from killing someone because they caused you heartache. Wow don't talk to anyone who is having a bad day, or kids who are crying. Life is not always great, but I'm not into this defeatest attitude you just described in your post. If I wasn't led by faith I would still feel the same. Why because it is a waste of a precious human life, lost before it's time.
But since I am led by my faith: "Though we may get depressed from time to time, we believe that the act of suicide never takes place apart from demonic influences driving one to take their own life. Suicide is directly counter to the power of life that God has put so strongly into His creation. Everywhere we look we see life growing, even in the most hostile environments. This "survival instinct" is a gift from God. In fact, if He didn't bestow this gift upon His creation there probably wouldn't be any life on this planet at all! Suicide, then, is directly contrary to the will of God, and originated in the realm of the demonic host, who come only to "steal, and to kill, and to destroy" (John 10:10). It is never the right choice to kill yourself. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 8/12/2009 7:49:36 AM | My friend (Bill) fought with his girl. She left for a walk. He hanged himself in the interim. She returned and promptly made a pot of coffee. When I asked her why she explained that she had been craving a good cup of coffee during her entire walk.
I don't think Bill achieved quite the drama he was seeking.
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 8/12/2009 8:20:03 AM | I think that suicide thinking starts with this:
I have a choice between two different states of being (pain or non-pain).
I am in a great deal of pain (emotional, psychological) and don't know if it will ever end.
If I commit suicide, I have a 50% chance to not be in pain (if I believe in some sort of afterlife) and a 100% chance of being pain free (if I don't believe in the afterlife).
It is skewered thinking, but to someone who is in great emotional/psychological pain, it sounds logical. I think when an individual is in that state, the amount of angst shadows the ability to see that it (the pain) will ever end.
It is very tragic.
My heartfelt sorrow to all on this post who have been touched by this event.
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 8/12/2009 12:05:59 PM | Broadly speaking, there are three types of suicidal responses to a breakup. Both are, obviously, pain filled.
One line of reasoning, reflecting a consumate narcissism, is the "You'll be sorry when I'm gone!" rationale. It says "They hurt me, so the one thing I can do to hurt them more than anything else is make sure they can never have me. They'll be sorry when I'm gone!" This is also know as cutting off your nose to spite your face. But there ARE people who process thoughts this way.
A second suicidal response to a breakup comes from a kind of a middle ground. Neither narcissistic nor self-denigrating. The person isn't saying they aren't worthy of love, or trying to hurt the person who hurt them, but they simply are hopeless. "I never wanted anybody/anything this much in my life. I will never want anybody/anything this much again. It's all just walking through the days dead the rest of my life, and what's the point in that?" Most people are prone to some thoughts like this when they experience great loss of any sort. It is the most common, the least often acted upon, and the most likely to be recovered from kind of thinking about a breakup.
The third broad type of suicidal response to a breakup is fueled by depressive ideation and feeling of a lack of self-worth. This is often also contributed to by abandonment issues. Children of divorce or the loss of parents early in life are more prone to this kind of thinking. The person doesn't believe they will ever experience joy or happiness again, they will always be lonely, they will always be alone. The people who say they love them always leave. They may find someone else, but it will just be more of the same. "I did everything I could, and it wasn't good enough. It'll never be good enough." "I wish I was dead, because I can't leave after saying '...until death do us part. And if I do break those vows, who else will ever believe me if I say them again?" "The person who says they love me and knows me better than anyone else in the world still doesn't care if I'm happy... why would anyone else?"
I strongly urge ANYONE who thinks suicide is the answer to seek help. No one can guarantee you will find joy or happiness in this world, with or without a partner. But it's guaranteed that if you aren't here, you can't find it. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 8/12/2009 12:13:10 PM | | By the way, in the first sentence above, that should be "All are, obviously, pain filled." Not "Both." But I can't edit. And I should say I have no clinical training in this field, and the above is solely my observations and opinion. It is not meant to sound like "the final word." | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 8/12/2009 2:41:26 PM | | I have problems over my love-life which have the times that caused me to cut myself twice. Although killing myself isn't the right way on this point or for others as well. I just find it sad on how fragile someone's heart gets broken which resorts to self-mutilation. It's pretty much depressing. :( | |
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