| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 10/2/2009 12:12:24 AM | I think there is more to it than .... a broken heart.
self esteem
depression
biological chemistry
genetics
inability to comprehend more than ... now.
[I know there is a psychological term for it ... but can't remember its name ]
there as so many possibilities and variables
I just think it is a tragedy. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 10/2/2009 2:21:21 AM | | Suicide is an awful state to die in. You have no sense of hope for the future because you can't see how you are going to get out of the situation your in and all you can see for your future is more pain and you can't cope with it. To die in that pain on your own is truly something i wouldn't wish on anyone. I know that i can get into very negative moods and suffer from high anxiety sometimes where i can't see how im going to go forward or cope but i haven't entertained suicide but have wished i was dead because the pain was so great. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 10/2/2009 6:59:46 PM | | I think its putting the cart in front of the horse. Putting the others life as being more important than your own. I think giving up can be a emotional consequence of just that. Look at a person complementing your life not taking away from it. That way if that person ever vanishes, eventually someone else can compliment it again in time. Suicide is a way to end ones life due to usually unhappiness or cronic health issues. Therefore to experience life you have to find what makes you enjoy it besides just a person. That way other things can keep you going. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 10/2/2009 11:57:40 PM |
I think it's tragic, for everyone involved, that the person who committed suicide doesn't realise how many other people love him/her. Parents, friends, etc. who are going to be devastated by the loss of this person.
Common misconception. I think that people off themselves because they DON'T have anyone that loves them, and that's why they're hurting. When I wanted to kill myself, one of the things that appealed to me was all the money it was going to cost my family to deal with me, and how difficult it would be for those **stards. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 10/18/2009 4:15:27 PM | Thorb is right. A tragedy. So many reasons, some biological. I've dealt with a lot of suicide in my life. Some were seemingly happy well adjusted people with good families who loved them.
Sometimes the pain becomes so overwhelming people can't see any other solution. I feel for those who do this and the people they leave behind. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 10/19/2009 9:10:30 AM | The emotional pain blinds you to life. All you know and feel is sadness.
When that degree of unhappiness overtakes you it seems like
it would be just a relief to not be alive any more.
It can be a huge emotional switch to go from being with someone you love
to suddenly not having that source of joy in your life any more. Life can
seem unbearably empty. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 10/19/2009 10:50:17 AM | I have some moments alone at night, waking up from a dream, or coming home tired at the end of a day, when from nowhere in an instant I'll so keenly feel an old loss new again that it could surely make death welcome, not as an escape but as an apt conclusion, as if that love was my life and since it has ended these years have been empty of what matters, like being in the world is an empty stage after the play has ended. Why be here anymore? I belong laying down with the departed love, as ended as it is, and living on is out of place.
Now that I know this about love, how a woman will turn around, withdraw, move on, I cannot wish for love again or trust words expressing intentions beyond the moment in which they are said. This world is different now without a future to look forward to, to merely wander in, finding amusements, enjoying the scenery, and somehow it all seems false, thinking that for women love is an emotional pastime without depth and devotion. It's ultimately disillusionment and not grief.
I desire to love, yet it could not be returned or shared. I desire to belong with and matter to someone, yet I am unwanted. Years later and long past the intensity of breaking up, it is the haunting echo that for resounding through emptiness calls me home.
I have no doubt I will commit suicide someday as my preferred exit strategy, assuming I don't die first by accident, because an old age death of some disease is not for me; I would rather choose a time, place and method. I will not die from a broken heart or lose interest in life over sorrow, it's just that when the time comes, I think what will make it seem right is this feeling of having lived beyond a happiness without which life is never quite as good again. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 10/19/2009 1:08:17 PM | The only constant thing in life is change.
I go into relationships realizing that they may not last the rest of my life.
And yet, I hope to find one that does.
I know that time does heal all wounds in love no matter how bad they were.
I also know that without someone to share things with whom I love, life
has an empty quality. So I keep trying. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 10/19/2009 2:11:55 PM | | it is a very selfish act.my x-brother-in law did it with only saying he was going just once an hour before doing it .shotgun in mouth .i was about 200yrds away.it affects the persons family very badly.friends & co-workers,neighbors,past teachers,the 911 responders.also his family had to pay mortuary costs up front.4 figures.just to pick up from the county,then pay for processing .funeral is seperate.his family had to hold there own funeral because they had to pay cash up front to have him(what was left of him).(this happened in AZ} picked up from the county.all this over a bar fly trailer trash loser.it desrtoyed a once happy family within a year. the pain from a broken heart does go away.just takes some time. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 10/19/2009 3:00:29 PM |
I desire to belong with and matter to someone, yet I am unwanted
... by the person you want to be wanted by.
I desire to love, yet it could not be returned or shared
... by the person you desire to be loved by.
Takes a load of hubris to consider death preferable to the acceptance of love, or the intention of love, or the possibility of love we are offered but deem substandard. What a horrendous smack in the face to those whose proffered love -- the best thing anybody has to give -- is considered so paltry that it is passed over in favor of no love at all, or even in favor of self-induced death.
We all refuse love. It's there, it's all around us, available to most. But it's probably not the exact sort of love from the exact sort of person we had hoped to find. That is our fault, our fatal spiritual flaw.
If you die unloved, that is the choice you have made. There is no one else to blame. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 10/21/2009 6:56:21 PM | I remember the story of the old Zen master who lived alone all his life.
He suddenly is visited by a young woman with a baby. She tells him the
baby is his and hers and she can not raise it and gives it to him. He takes
care of the boy, loves him and spends every waking moment for the next
twelve years with the boy, constant companions, loving father and son.
One day the woman visits him with her husband and tells him that the
boy is not his and she is taking him back to live with her and her husband.
They leave, taking the boy with them.
The old Zen master says to himself, "ah! so!" and goes on about his daily
routine as though nothing has happened. He gives the matter of the boy no
more thought.
This is a great lesson. The Zen master embraces and expects changes in life.
He lives in the present moment, neither past nor future exist for him.
Therefore his mind does not torture him.
This story gives me great peace and comfort when I start to miss
someone I recently lost. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 10/23/2009 3:18:40 AM | I have complete empathy for anyone who chooses this as an option ( not a good one~not agreeing). Its been long debated if people can die from a broken heart and its becoming well known that not only is our physical health at risk but this kind of fatalist behavior can occur all too frequently. Someone who commits the ultimate deed is out sourced, maxed out and plagued by shear anguish, their minds become torture chambers. The act of suicide is a manner by which to end pain. Indeed suicide leaves those left behind feeling like there heart have been ripped from their chest. Its almost a form of abuse in the most passive aggressive manner known to mankind for those left to survive.
Most certainly there are other options but a soul taxed and out sourced without support can get this far down and its to be understood and guarded from. There is nothing magical about death except permanent sleep and lacking future. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 10/27/2009 9:27:08 PM | | Anyone who thinks suicide is a cowards way out has no idea........Think of the balls it takes to actually pull the trigger or stick your head in a homemade noose or run your Dodge charger into a barricade knowing that failure could leave you worse than dead. Suicide is an act of great courage when your rage becomes so great that you fear you may harm others but do not want to so you do yourself first. Some of us are to strong to resort to drugs or alcohol to suppress our angst and pain and we struggle 24 hrs a day not sleeping or experiencing anything other than the torment in our heads . I am still here for only one reason and that is my boy who must not know the truth about me and my depression and a lifetime of rejection. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 10/27/2009 9:40:07 PM | Don't listen to this guy, he has bigger problems than you have. I was married for 30 years and I survived a divorce. The pain made me a man. Remember what don't kill you will only make you stronger. You are going through a break up not a break down.
Don't let her win by commiting suicide that's what I did, go out and find some one else that will want her to commit suicide, trust me. | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 10/28/2009 10:47:25 AM | | I wouldnt go and say dont listen to this guy, evryone has problems and everyone has a view on the subject discussed. My whole view on suicide is , there are people that can die from a broken heart and I think its not a selfish act. If you would think of it this way, If a terminally ill person with say cancer or one that is in constant physical pain would be ok , then why not emotional pain, which with some people and myself can actually cause physical pain . look at what samurai did hundreds of hears ago, when they were dishonored they would be redeemed by commiting seppeku or hara-kiri (same thing) . If a person feels they have failed their spouse,soulmate, family then by all means but as heavyiron said, is if you fail your "attempt" then there is a fate worse then death. I would HATE to call someone that does commit suicide to call them a coward, it takes "balls" to Kill oneself , its not like they want to hurt others or cause others pain, but cannot handle the pain themselves dont think that people that consider this option are mentally ill. but a lot do just need help. when you pour your entire being into a person or family are were willing to do anything including die for them then for things to go wrong and you have EVERYTHING gone, Honestly what is there a reason to go on for, for some people . a lot of people have their whole family gone, wife leaves with kids and takes all their shit with them I mean all of it, having to pay 25 % of your wages to keep your kids from you, losing your home , and everything else you built for your family , It is a soulution in some extreme case imho . dont call me crazy and no I dont want to kill my self either | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 10/29/2009 1:14:17 AM | Well first of all killing yourself hurts the one's that do care like familey in most cases. I thought about killing myself over a **** I used to love. Now I want to live so I can meet more ****es. If I did myself in they would probably get off on it . Ohh well life goes on right . We all will die eventually ,so when your time comes don't wast it on stupid worthless ****es like I have.  | |
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| What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 10/29/2009 7:47:01 PM | Sometimes a person has considered that they have given all they could to a relationship and when it ends they feel abandoned and often betrayed. The result of those feelings (and of course of being alone) is often overwhelming.
Some do not have the capacity or desire to even consider the possibility of another relationship. Whether it is fear or a sense of futility it is often the case that there does not seem to be much point in striving for whatever one feels one has lost.
If there are other considerations, such as children, then the 'inevitable solution' will be postponed but the idea remains viable. The date is the only thing to be calculated.
For some, the abandonment or betrayal may not be the 'first time' and so the sense of isolation over a long period of time is viewed as 'normal'. This would give rise to the 'inevitability' of suicide as a solution.
A word of advice though, for those contemplating it. If you take out a life insurance policy make sure suicide is covered. Also, most policies will not cover you if you put a bullet in your head within two years of taking out the policy. Therefore the date you calculate your end to be should be beyond that two year mark.
It is also important that you have your affairs in order and that you get rid of any excess baggage so your kids aren't stuck with a pile of old tools they can't use. A legal last will and testament, done properly by a lawyer, will make the transition easier for the ones you leave behind. Also a statement of intent, both in writing and a video tape of your intentions and making sure the ones you care about are aware that they do not have anything to feel guilty about might be a thoughtful consideration.
Make sure you have your car or truck tuned up and new filters and oil changed as well as any documentation regarding any recent work done on it.
If you are going to use a gun, wrap it in a plastic bag so your brains aren't splattered all over the metal barrel. You don't want it to rust.
Be careful that the date does not coincide with anyone's birthday or anniversary or any special holidays. You don't want to wreck future years for them.
Can't think of much else right now. | |
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